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Patlal
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Do you see being single as some kind of failure?
#19025900 - 10/24/13 02:02 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was listening to a radio show with a sexologist/psychotherapist as the host and the subject was celibacy and how people feel about it.
There was a part where people were happy to be with themselves alone to get to know themselves better, etc.
Then there was the segment of unhappy single people. She brought up social pressure from friends and family to get a lover and not be the third wheel. She was also talking about being ashamed of going to parties alone and being alone in general. Then she brought up that some people see being single as a social failure and that people might be judging them or telling them not to be too picky.
What do you guys think about it?
Does being single put pressure on you? Are your family and friends on your ass asking you if you met somebody everytime you see them? Are you ashamed of being single?
Discuss
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NWlight
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal] 7
#19025917 - 10/24/13 02:05 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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just got out of a 4 year relationship
after the depression ended, the freedom was almost overwhelming.
I live alone too so I can literally do w/e the fuck I want, whenever I want, with whoever, wherever.
any time of day or night with nobody to answer to but myself.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19025927 - 10/24/13 02:07 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I love being single. Goin 6yrs and strong.
Sometimes i feel like it would be nice to be in a relationship again, then i hang out with a couple and change my mind. Maybe in a few years i'll date again but i don't think i'm ready yet.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19025928 - 10/24/13 02:07 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I see it as holding out for someone I fully want to be with.
When I meet the right girl, I know.
I'm having fun being single at the moment. When you put pressure on yourself to get into a relationship you're missing the point, I think. It's healthy to be able to be content with your own company.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19025940 - 10/24/13 02:10 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I find it's about 1000 times better than forcing oneself to stay in an unhappy relationship. I think many people force themselves to stay in relationships where they are unhappy because they are afraid of being alone.
There is some social pressure though. It's kinda weird hanging with a couple just by yourself sometimes. The 3rd wheel syndrome, but I just try to not concern myself with such things.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: nicechrisman]
#19025956 - 10/24/13 02:13 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's not a failure.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19025962 - 10/24/13 02:14 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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i aint judging.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: zZZz] 1
#19025995 - 10/24/13 02:20 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Being single is only a failure if your trying not to be single and failed
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Sheekle
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NotTheDevil] 6
#19026010 - 10/24/13 02:23 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Sheekle]
#19026035 - 10/24/13 02:25 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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you need more acid sheek
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NWlight] 11
#19026170 - 10/24/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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being single kinda rocks..
i went to a wedding alone.. i was the best man.. his new found wife got all bitchy and said, why the fuck would you come to my wedding alone?
i told her because im going to bang your best friend tonight.
she got quiet.
i banged her friend.
thats my single story for the afternoon.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
#19026218 - 10/24/13 02:58 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
rackem said: being single kinda rocks..
i went to a wedding alone.. i was the best man.. his new found wife got all bitchy and said, why the fuck would you come to my wedding alone?
i told her because im going to bang your best friend tonight.
she got quiet.
i banged her friend.
thats my single story for the afternoon.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
#19026235 - 10/24/13 03:01 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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that's pretty awesome
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Sheekle
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
#19026249 - 10/24/13 03:03 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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rackem said: i went to a wedding alone.. i was the best man.. his new found wife got all bitchy and said, why the fuck would you come to my wedding alone?
What a bitch. Why would she say that? What difference would it make to her whether or not you went to her wedding alone? No need to pester you over that.
It's good that you fucked her friend, it proves you're like hardcore and manly and stuff
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Sheekle]
#19026260 - 10/24/13 03:05 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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well shes still young.. 22
shes still salty over that though. my friend thought it was awesome though. hes 30
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Sheekle
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
#19026273 - 10/24/13 03:07 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Why would you going to her wedding alone make anybody pissed off though? I just don't get what the problem in that would be
You're there at the wedding, there's other people at the wedding. You're all there together. What difference would it make if you drove there with another person or not?
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Sheekle]
#19026281 - 10/24/13 03:08 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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its a social standard type thing i guess.
i had just broke up with a really chill chiky and didnt feel like i needed to bring some other chick with me.
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Sheekle
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
#19026288 - 10/24/13 03:09 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've never heard of that before, that's really interesting to me for some reason.
I can understand it being a sort of unspoken thing that goes on I guess, but why anybody would ever get annoyed because of that flies miles above my head.
-------------------- "Ur cat died because he hated u" - Koods "I hope JSB kicks your ass one day." - Vandago "you are the biggest 'internet guy' I have ever come across"- Jokeshopbeard "The more I see you post the more I realize you're just this fuckin tie dye loser who trolls the Shroomery 24/7." - Herbologist "Sheekle you cannot vile the dice of bullshit you have posted on this forum over the years, I like databases" - thelastoneleft "or maybe i just come from a blood line of superior intelligence" - trees R.I.P Kelsy, ?/?/?? - 6/11/16
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rackem



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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Sheekle]
#19026348 - 10/24/13 03:21 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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yeah i dunno dude..
lots of hocus pocus traditions and shit round weddings.. i dont understand it man.
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pwnasaurus
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: rackem]
#19026384 - 10/24/13 03:28 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
rackem said: being single kinda rocks..
i went to a wedding alone.. i was the best man.. his new found wife got all bitchy and said, why the fuck would you come to my wedding alone?
i told her because im going to bang your best friend tonight.
she got quiet.
i banged her friend.
thats my single story for the afternoon.

I literally laughed out loud at that one. Made my day.
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