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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365]
    #19039083 - 10/27/13 01:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

that sounds like a very narrow point of view, and extremely judgmental.
so, all of your friends who aren't in a relationship are "eternally pathetic"


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365] * 2
    #19039088 - 10/27/13 01:42 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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"Im the shit, i don't need a girlfriend" said your eternally pathetic buddy.  Yeah, keep telling yourself that dude if it makes you feel better.



man could you project your own insecurity any louder :lol:


being secure in yourself without a significant other is essential to actually having one


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NWlight]
    #19039100 - 10/27/13 01:51 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Pathetic implies sympathy

usually those types of people are kind of self righteous smucks.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365]
    #19039115 - 10/27/13 01:57 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I didn't read any of the posts in between, but yes, op, I feel like being single is a failure.  Just like I think having no job/a shitty job is a failure.




Why is being with somebody considered better than being single? If you constantly strive and desire to be with somebody, it's because you lack independence and rely on somebody else for your fulfillment.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Konyap]
    #19039118 - 10/27/13 01:58 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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The emotion for love though is really just an instinct we evolved with so pregnant women and infants had someone to look after them.

The chemical only pumps out for so long and it isn't exclusive to one person.




probably, I believe in "real" love tho, a rare feeling so intense you feel it physically. and the "second-degree" love that is more like a very strong attachment to someone that you really appreciate.

personnaly I only felt real earth shatering love 2 times, once in elementary school and more recently in a dream, when I woke up and realized I would never see that girl ever I almost cried. it's pathetic but it reminded me what love was like. I also understood why all my relations to date ultimatly failed, they were doomed from the start. not making this mistake again unless she's The One I'm not getting emtionally involved.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Crystal G]
    #19039124 - 10/27/13 02:04 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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If you constantly strive and desire to be with somebody, it's because you lack independence and rely on somebody else for your fulfillment.




:thumbup:

Some people can't stand their own company; so they try to fill that void with other people.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: broken]
    #19039131 - 10/27/13 02:06 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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that sounds like a very narrow point of view, and extremely judgmental.
so, all of your friends who aren't in a relationship are "eternally pathetic"




You don't have a friend who thinks he's the shit but isn't?  That was my point.   

And when did I say all of my friends who aren't in relationships are eternally pathetic?  I guess i used more powerful words than I intended.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Synth Ethics]
    #19039135 - 10/27/13 02:08 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

in regards to the original poster. you might be seeing your situation as negative. that's fine being in a relationship has its perks, sex being a given and your getting it every day of the week if not that very often. also you have a girl to share you inner thoughts to. girls like a guy that has his emotions in order. but look do you really wanna be buying a girl things dealing with her shit "rules" like dont do this dont do that. being single is fucking topnotch dog shit. most guys in relationship are whipped. ive been in over 10 relationships and none of them i would go back with. honestly being single is how it should be. having one nights and having girls as friends is all i need. keep my job and priorities in order there is no need to bring a girl in to world. so to awser your question my man no its not a bad thing. and if your having a hard time getting a girl. fuck it dog eventually you'll get some girl thats down to earth. and dont look for a girl they come to you dog


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365]
    #19039142 - 10/27/13 02:12 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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You don't have a friend who thinks he's the shit but isn't?  That was my point.   





no.
i know people like that.
but they aren't my friends.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Crystal G]
    #19039148 - 10/27/13 02:16 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I didn't read any of the posts in between, but yes, op, I feel like being single is a failure.  Just like I think having no job/a shitty job is a failure.




Why is being with somebody considered better than being single? If you constantly strive and desire to be with somebody, it's because you lack independence and rely on somebody else for your fulfillment.




Its just a personal opinion.  Because that's what I want. 

I'm sorry that doesn't fit into your world view.  It's possible that people have different desires in life than you.  Different strokes for different folks, as someone always said...


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: broken]
    #19039149 - 10/27/13 02:17 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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You don't have a friend who thinks he's the shit but isn't?  That was my point.   





no.
i know people like that.
but they aren't my friends.




okay. lol  but you get my point


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Megatrondon]
    #19039159 - 10/27/13 02:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I'd like to chime in on this. I have no problems what so ever. I think maybe I could be picky because I know what love feels like. I very rarely share that experience with someone it doesn't happen often. So I've mostly decided. That if I'm not trying.. which I'm not than I better be completely happy with myself and who I am. Then be constantly asking myself why I'm single. Theres a lot of ways to justify your actions. Many are false.

One tough issue is when your this far along in you emotional security people will always be surprised that your single. I notice when this happens its girls asking. Then all of a sudden they avoid me or don't talk to me. Or If I display any confidence what so ever they act scared. I don't even think I'm hot or anything despite what they say. They'll admit it and walk off. Yeah I'm just not going to deal with that. Then theres the ones who come on so strongly they'll just be asking for my cock. Great.. but does anyone else think of anything else?

It leaves me feeling as though I'm to much. Then when the surprise happens. They'll be like why? why? It feels way too superficial to me. I default to not over thinking it. Thoughts can be toxic.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Enthrall]
    #19039169 - 10/27/13 02:27 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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One tough issue is when your this far along in you emotional security people will always be surprised that your single.




I get that all the time. Whenever I move to a new place and meet neighbors, or whenever I meet random people at the gym or wherever else I'm at, people are always like, "Wow, I can't believe you're actually single!"

Yup, I'm too sexy... :lol:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365]
    #19039170 - 10/27/13 02:28 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

yes.
but here is my point: i have chosen to stay single for the last two years.
and i will admit having regrets about that from time to time, but not often.

so, if i want to be single, and i am single, then i'm not failing at anything.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: broken]
    #19039174 - 10/27/13 02:32 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

okay, but why can't you assumedly openminded people wrap your heads around anything different?  It's a larger question than what's cooler; single or married...

oh and PS "so, if i want to be single, and i am single, then i'm not failing at anything." that's a fallacy


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365]
    #19039180 - 10/27/13 02:35 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

it's not about what is "cool"
it's about keeping my life as simple, low drama and stress free as possible.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: broken]
    #19039194 - 10/27/13 02:40 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

you are moving the point. THE point, for me, is that there are people who find happiness in life in different ways. not about the fact that I used the word "cool" 

Which is still cool to do dude.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365]
    #19039200 - 10/27/13 02:49 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

i'm not moving the point, i'm making mine, which has to deal with the OP.
i know different people find happiness in different ways in life, i'm stoned not fucking retarded.

and you are right, i fail at plenty of things.
but i'm very successful at staying single.  :awegrow:


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fbi365] * 1
    #19039210 - 10/27/13 02:55 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I didn't read any of the posts in between, but yes, op, I feel like being single is a failure.  Just like I think having no job/a shitty job is a failure.  But i desire a relationship so i have set that as a goal.  If I don't meet that goal I have failed. 





you have it all wrong. a relationship and a job is nothing by itself and setting your goal as that will make you miss the real target. a job is only a way to get money, even money is not an end in itself it'S just the way we chosed to use to get what is really important wich is having food and a place to stay. if every human on earth was to posses lifetime suplly of food and supply money would be useless and working would be pointless.

it's the same thing with a relationship, it's just what happen when you find your soulmate. let's go further, why do you aim to find your soulmate? because it unlock a "special level of happines" trhough the synergy otherwise impossible to experience without the soulmate.

you want a job, I want food and a roof. you want a relationship, I want to live happy and I'm way more happier alone than with someone who's not made for me.

I hope you understand what I mean.


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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: broken]
    #19039212 - 10/27/13 02:55 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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i'm not moving the point, i'm making mine, which has to deal with the OP.
i know different people find happiness in different ways in life, i'm stoned not fucking retarded.

and you are right, i fail at plenty of things.
but i'm very successful at staying single.  :awegrow:





:ohyou: lol.  I hope you fail and love it


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