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nicechrisman
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Almond Flour]
#19034673 - 10/26/13 09:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Shroomism said:Nothing is really good or bad, positive or negative until you assign a value to it, it simply is.
That's the kind of hippie shit that keeps me around. I'm sorry but I don't buy the "simply is" eastern propaganda. There is some shit in this world that is dead wrong. And none of your new age song and dance is changing that or helping anyone. 
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: nicechrisman]
#19034680 - 10/26/13 09:02 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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hey guis whats going on?
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watermelon mon
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: fapjack]
#19034686 - 10/26/13 09:03 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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think I will pass but I think its funny how things like that happen don't really care  am sure some of you know what I am saying
Edited by watermelon mon (10/26/13 09:04 AM)
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x Ju x
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: watermelon mon]
#19035003 - 10/26/13 10:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I've been single for years now.
I'm just waiting for the right person. Someone who I could be with, say for a week straight in a secluded area, and not wanting to get away from them.
I'm very open to making friends and meeting new people. I love it. but that spot is reserved for someone special.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: x Ju x]
#19035278 - 10/26/13 11:42 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Different reactions based on gender. I've got a lot of female friends that absolutely hate being single.
Recently getting out of a one year relationship--and a five year relationship before that--I think I'd like to be single my entire life. It will suck dealing with societal pressures, but that won't be anywhere near as stressful as dealing with severe attachments to a significant other (no matter how awesome they are).
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Uzziel
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: eira]
#19035299 - 10/26/13 11:47 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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eira said: I've got a lot of female friends that absolutely hate being single.
That is because they are insecure, haha.
I like being single but I also like being in a relationship. Both have their ups and downs.
I like the total freedom of being single though. Maybe if I meet the right girl who doesn't want to hold me back but most girls I've dated wanted me to do this or that and stop doing this or that. Gets old pretty quick.
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JesusIsLord
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Uzziel]
#19036032 - 10/26/13 02:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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eira said: I've got a lot of female friends that absolutely hate being single.
That is because they are insecure, haha.
I like being single but I also like being in a relationship. Both have their ups and downs.
I like the total freedom of being single though. Maybe if I meet the right girl who doesn't want to hold me back but most girls I've dated wanted me to do this or that and stop doing this or that. Gets old pretty quick.
Aside from insecurity, women have a relationship/sexual market value that plummets when they get over 30 (ESPECIALLY if they are single moms) so they have added pressure to lock down a man (a wallet) before their looks fade and they are invisible to men hunting for a young, fertile, curvy babe.
Whereas men are not as restricted by their biological clocks and actually increase in value as a potential partner as they age because of increased status in career/money/prestige/whatever.
Time is on the side of men
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Edited by JesusIsLord (10/26/13 02:53 PM)
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Set
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19036039 - 10/26/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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That's a pretty solid point.
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NWlight]
#19036063 - 10/26/13 02:55 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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NWlight said: just got out of a 4 year relationship
after the depression ended, the freedom was almost overwhelming.
I live alone too so I can literally do w/e the fuck I want, whenever I want, with whoever, wherever.
any time of day or night with nobody to answer to but myself.
Amen brother
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Beanhead
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19036210 - 10/26/13 03:33 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: I was listening to a radio show with a sexologist/psychotherapist as the host and the subject was celibacy and how people feel about it.
There was a part where people were happy to be with themselves alone to get to know themselves better, etc.
Then there was the segment of unhappy single people. She brought up social pressure from friends and family to get a lover and not be the third wheel. She was also talking about being ashamed of going to parties alone and being alone in general. Then she brought up that some people see being single as a social failure and that people might be judging them or telling them not to be too picky.
What do you guys think about it?
Does being single put pressure on you? Are your family and friends on your ass asking you if you met somebody everytime you see them? Are you ashamed of being single?
Discuss
I have the utmost respect for monks in celibacy that spend all their time to the last breath writing books. I want to become this dedicated aswell to a certain subject and i'm afraid a wo(man) isn't going to furfill that need so why would I bother and keep looking?
i'm only 20 though.
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broken
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BlindSophist said: Yeah, being single sucks, especially when your friends aren't. I don't think that's gonna change and I don't think I can magically make myself be happy about something that sucks. 
it doesn't suck for me, and i don't have many single friends. i actually have avoided getting into several relationships the last couple years.  your looking at all the down sides of being single.
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MarijuanaBoy
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: nicechrisman]
#19038841 - 10/27/13 12:04 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Definitely.
One of the most eye opening truths that psychedelics made me realize is that absolutely everything that exists is a mere symbol, nothing more. The car you drive, the way you style your hair, the jacket you wear, the food you eat, the brand of cigarettes you smoke, the way your room looks, and so forth all represent an integral aspect of the person's ego. Having an SO works the exact same way and often the lack of a SO can appear as a symbol of insecurity and shyness.
Edited by MarijuanaBoy (10/27/13 12:09 AM)
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akira_akuma
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: MarijuanaBoy]
#19038846 - 10/27/13 12:07 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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it can also be a symbol of many other things too, but good point, nonetheless.
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Crystal G



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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: akira_akuma] 1
#19038850 - 10/27/13 12:08 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Most people never marry their true love. They simply settle out of fear of being alone. What a victory.
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NWlight
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Crystal G] 1
#19038944 - 10/27/13 12:45 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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are you implying that there is such thing as your one true love out there somewhere?
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NWlight]
#19038957 - 10/27/13 12:50 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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nah
true love is possible with a plethora of people
the catch is finding and connecting with one of those people in a sea of others
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Synth Ethics
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19038981 - 10/27/13 01:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: I was listening to a radio show with a sexologist/psychotherapist as the host and the subject was celibacy and how people feel about it.
There was a part where people were happy to be with themselves alone to get to know themselves better, etc.
Then there was the segment of unhappy single people. She brought up social pressure from friends and family to get a lover and not be the third wheel. She was also talking about being ashamed of going to parties alone and being alone in general. Then she brought up that some people see being single as a social failure and that people might be judging them or telling them not to be too picky.
What do you guys think about it?
Does being single put pressure on you? Are your family and friends on your ass asking you if you met somebody everytime you see them? Are you ashamed of being single?
Discuss
didn't read any reply but here's what I think
it's only a failure if you are actively looking to be in a relationship, otherwise it's only a failure to the eye of the sheep brainwashed by the society.
how is it a failure to be single if you're not in love with anyone? it also has nothing to do with beign too picky or not, you can't choose to be in love yet that's exactly what many people do and I think it's one of the reason there is so many couple breaking up/divorcing.
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Konyap

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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Synth Ethics]
#19038998 - 10/27/13 01:09 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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The emotion for love though is really just an instinct we evolved with so pregnant women and infants had someone to look after them.
The chemical only pumps out for so long and it isn't exclusive to one person.
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Crystal G



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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: NWlight]
#19039021 - 10/27/13 01:16 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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NWlight said: are you implying that there is such thing as your one true love out there somewhere?
I implied that it exists, by saying that "most people never marry their true love."
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fbi365
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Re: Do you see being single as some kind of failure? [Re: Patlal]
#19039065 - 10/27/13 01:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I didn't read any of the posts in between, but yes, op, I feel like being single is a failure. Just like I think having no job/a shitty job is a failure. But i desire a relationship so i have set that as a goal. If I don't meet that goal I have failed.
Some people don't want relationships, but there are a lot of people who tell themselves that because they simply can't get a girl. "Im the shit, i don't need a girlfriend" said your eternally pathetic buddy. Yeah, keep telling yourself that dude if it makes you feel better.
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