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yogabunny
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny] 1
#19030392 - 10/25/13 10:29 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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i heard this quote the other day -
"A boy makes his girl jealous of other women. A gentleman makes other women jealous of his girl."
yeah, it's like that.
i love my man.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny]
#19038873 - 10/27/13 12:15 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I will put my 2cents in. I met my wife 18 years age and we got married 14 years ago. We both did some fucked up shit to eachother the last few months but we decided to get back together and stsrt over. She is everything to me and I love her more than anything, I feel lucky to have found my true love even though we almost grew apart. We are back together and we are better than wewas when we first met. The hard times just made us closer.
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I have been with my current girlfriend for nearly 3 years and she is the best thing in my life. She helped me discover myself and I love her to death. She is my best friend, my lover and my soul mate. We met through a school rockband and as soon as I saw a girl as beautiful and funny and sexy as she is rocking out a bass, I knew she was the one. I asked her out the next day and haven't looked back since
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: FunkyBuddha]
#19040050 - 10/27/13 10:14 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny]
#19040110 - 10/27/13 10:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I've been with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and we literally couldn't be happier. I've never had some much fun and so little stress as I have done the past 3 1/2 years. Until I met him I didn't think this kind of relationship was possible. We have so much in common. We both love music and spend half of our lives going to gigs and festivals. And luckily we both love psychs too! We spend a lot of time together, and during the summer we often go travelling around for a month or more and are quite happy in each other's pockets. But we can also have our own space and the freedom to do our own thing. We have never argued about anything serious, and only bicker about silly things rarely, and even though neither of us are very good at expressing our feelings we somehow manage to communicate quite well
What became really apparent to me in previous relationships is the way people try and control each other. They think because they are in a relationship they have the right to say what you can or can't do, or to subtly manipulate with disapproval etc. But one of the things I love so much about this relationship is that we can both do whatever we want without that fear. We have trust.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny]
#19076549 - 11/02/13 06:46 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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pika* said:
I've been with my guy for a little over a year. We met online & started out as long distance (about 5-6 months) and then moved in together last february. He. is. amazing. I never knew I could share so much with a partner, and connect on so many levels. We teach each other, challenge each other, read books together, love music together and laugh together SO much. Co-created love magic.
I wish relationship with my girlfriend was the same >(
I have broken up with her on many occasions, but she keeps coming back and is generally so good. Has done nothing wrong and I respect her. Se is basically the nicest person I have ever known.
But under that niceness I don't see much depth, sometimes we don't have anything to talk about. Whenever I propose something, she would agree.
Recently I had a life experience with her and made a deal with myself to try and work on this ups and downs. Of course, I am a bit stressed because of work, this is affecting relationship too.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: Simms] 3
#19077122 - 11/02/13 09:08 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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29 years for Mrs. MPD and me. We are perfect for each other and that is why our relationship works so well. I can't explain it, it just is one of those things.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: mpd]
#19077206 - 11/02/13 09:22 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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Great thread idea, Pika. 
I've been married 15 years very happily. My wife & I only dated for a month, then went and eloped in Las Vegas.
I think a huge amount of what makes people happy in relationships is respect for each other. Name calling and treating someone poorly isnt the way to go. Sometimes in relationship threads on this site I see guys calling women hoes or saying they're all evil and self absorbed. To those people I would say take a good look at yourself first.
Happiness is out there but it takes a bit of effort..
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yogabunny
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thanks! it's definitely making me smile to read all these posts.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny]
#19107300 - 11/08/13 07:30 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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hey happy shiny people!
curious what you all think about the terms commonly used to refer to your significant other - boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, "partner", etc.
my sweetie & i were just talking about how we feel boyfriend/girlfriend is too casual for what we are to each other, but we can't really figure out any alternate terms. i like "my beloved" but that's too....pretentious for conversation with a co-worker...ya know?
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny]
#19107482 - 11/08/13 08:03 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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pika* said: hey happy shiny people!
curious what you all think about the terms commonly used to refer to your significant other - boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, "partner", etc.
my sweetie & i were just talking about how we feel boyfriend/girlfriend is too casual for what we are to each other, but we can't really figure out any alternate terms. i like "my beloved" but that's too....pretentious for conversation with a co-worker...ya know?
I know what you mean about boyfriend/girlfriend sounding too casual - when talking to other people I usually say partner.
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44.5 years now. We can discuss anything. We are habitually philosophical. We both try to be the best we can be. We are not afraid to say I'm sorry. We are aware of the day to day workloads and share them. We have passion in hobbies(my music, her painting, our motorcycles) We loved our work (My home design, her bookstore) In the end, perhaps a large dose of good luck and gratitude.
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Quote:
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pika* said: hey happy shiny people!
curious what you all think about the terms commonly used to refer to your significant other - boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, "partner", etc.
my sweetie & i were just talking about how we feel boyfriend/girlfriend is too casual for what we are to each other, but we can't really figure out any alternate terms. i like "my beloved" but that's too....pretentious for conversation with a co-worker...ya know?
I know what you mean about boyfriend/girlfriend sounding too casual - when talking to other people I usually say partner.
I also like partner.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19164139 - 11/20/13 09:31 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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was talking in another thread with tymoteusz about fighting in relationships.
where do you all stand on this. do you fight with your partners? if you don't fight do you consider that a reason why your relationship lasts?
this was my response to him in the other thread -
@tymoteusz3 - I just want to point out that NOT fighting is not an ultimate sign of a great relationship. I think the way a couple fights and what about is more the indicating factor of a healthy relationship or not. I also think it's good to be able to express a full range of emotions with your partner. I know GREAT couples that fight pretty regularly and others not so much. I guess it also depends on the individuals.....
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny]
#19164420 - 11/20/13 10:38 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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This hits the nail on the head pika*. Arguing is a part of a relationship, you're bound to not agree on something. Compromise is usually part of the solution. My wife and I don't argue too much, partly because if it isn't that big of a deal she will just bite her tongue, which I would rather she bring it up, because I always speak my mind to her, whether it is going to be received well of not. That's how a relationship grows, you get to know each other much more.
I'm going to post a quote that may not be on this "fighting" topic, but I always thought it was a great excerpt.
“Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two.” ― Louis de Bernières, Corelli's Mandolin
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: K1ngSp4de] 1
#19164482 - 11/20/13 10:51 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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My lady and I haven't fought yet, nor really had any stark disagreements. We're both pretty easy going.. I know it'll happen eventually, but I am enjoying the honeymoon while it lasts, for sure.
Truth be told, I'm sorta looking forward to our 1st argument to see how we handle it...
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: yogabunny]
#19164692 - 11/20/13 11:27 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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I wouldn't say I fight with my partner, but we certainly bicker from time to time, but always allow each other to express our feelings. We disagree, but there is never the notion that either one of us doesn't care or is mean to the other person and says nasty things. Often there is quite a jovial atmosphere to our arguments.
I've been in relationships previously where full on fighting was a regular thing, where I would often be reduced to tears and feel so hurt (or even say hurtful things myself to get my own back). We would scream at each other, and that definitely wasn't healthy.
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: PocketLady]
#19170453 - 11/21/13 02:51 PM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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It took me years to get to the point where I am now. I think that I had to grow up myself...younger years I was very selfish/ self-centered....today I am very comfortable with who I am, and that is the most important thing in any relationship. I also have ceased trying to change anyone...that dooms things from the get-go. Tried the online dating thing and thought I found someone, but after 5 years, they revealed their true self and failed to address ongoing addiction probs...that is still a mess in my rear view mirror (having bought a house together)....Anyway, I thought that I was just destined to be single the rest of my life, which I was ok with,by the way.
Then, while visiting my sick mother in the town I grew up in (not where I currently reside) I met an old friend from high school....she looked absolutely amazing!....she glowed! Anyway, I asked her to dinner to catch up the following week and basically unloaded my messed up life story on her...she didn't flinch....told me some of her own stuff (we hadn't seen each other for 32 years!)LOL...there was alot to tell. Long story short....I felt then and still feel 1-1/2 yrs later an amazing feeling...that we were destined to be together....like it was arranged in some sort of spiritual way. This is something I have never before experienced....We are a amazing love.
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me and my boy have been off and on for over a year, mainly because when i had birth control in my body giving me constant hormones made me batshit crazy, but now that ive had that removed, things have been perfect again. he's always by my side. we get into our bickers but in the end we just love being with each other.. im positive i can see myself marrying him in 8 9 years. its crazy when you start dating your best friend. but
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Re: Happy in a relationship? [Re: LuuuCid]
#19185333 - 11/25/13 02:10 AM (10 years, 2 months ago) |
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LuuuCid said:
anyone else feel the same with their partner?
that you look into each others eyes and see deep down, the soul of the other?
YES! from the very first minute we met, it just hit me.. and he felt the exact same way. he told our mutual friend after i left, that i was his dream girl. ive never felt so comfortable and content with anyone in my life before.. i love it <3
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