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Invisibleluvdemboomers
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: Enjoywho]
    #19010792 - 10/21/13 09:24 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Im in a similar situation as you...






except I'm perfectly happy beating my dick a few times a week...

so not really


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InvisibleMoonshoe
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: evenbreak]
    #19010818 - 10/21/13 09:29 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

A few suggestions -

1. Start working out, taking proteins and creatine. Getting ripped will make you more attractive, give you confidence and relieve your anxiety and depression

2. Try using alcohol or benzos to give you the courage to go to a bar and approach women

3. Contact a prostitute or escort for sex, if possible go on a vacation to somewhere where prostitution is legal and go wild

4. Offer your butthole to gay men for casual sex

5. Become a Buddhist and embrace celibacy in favor of a spiritual life of meditation . Join a monastery and become a monk .

6. Join a dungeons and dragons group and forget about sex in favour of imagination driven fantasy adventures in a world that never was

7. Take some MDMA and have a talking therapy session with a trusted friend or family member , or do it alone and use the medicine to learn to love yourself

8. Start doing crystal meth and join the party and play community , you will be having endless sex before you know if.

9. Take an ayahuasca ceremony and get some perspective

10. Get a flesh light , blow up sex doll or Japanese sex robot.


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Offlinemathieu
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: luvdemboomers]
    #19010867 - 10/21/13 09:37 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Someone said Meetup.com, I 2nd that: there's peeps all over the place. Take care of your social wellbeing before worrying about the nookie


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: evenbreak] * 1
    #19010912 - 10/21/13 09:50 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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evenbreak said:
Is this normal? I'm not even ugly or hideous, i'm kind of average looking but i just never put myself out there. I've been stuck in this social hole where I don't really meet any new people or go out that much so I don't really get laid that much.

But i'm extremely ashamed of that fact, to the point where if anyone ever makes any remark to me that I am lacking in my sex life, I instantly get extremely butthurt and can't ever be friends with that person again. I find it extremely depressing that i'm 25 years old and i'm kind of a social shut in who doesn't get laid :frown:.

I want to change really bad and I know the solution is to talk to more people but i don't know where to start.

So basically i'm asking how i'm supposed to establish a new social circle and meet new people so i can be a happier person and not be a horrible over-sensitive mess that i am right now.

because right now i'm hating life :frown: ...



You shouldn't be ashamed, since you're not really missing out on much. If you really want to change your life and be more sociable, then start today, or tomorrow or even right now. Can't get anywhere without taking that first step you know. If you've never put yourself out there then you haven't tried, and without making an attempt you can't exactly expect to succeed. Of course you're going to fail a bit too, but pick yourself up every time and move on and learn. That's life.

If you want to go out and talk to more people then do it. Obviously don't be a creeper. If you're wondering how, then you could ask around to find a party to go to. Or you could meet someone due to a common interest or hobby. Or go to a bar or club, or just talk to someone who looks like they're open to conversation. You have a lot of options!

But you shouldn't be ashamed or hating your life just because you're not having sex as much as you think that other people are. And you shouldn't have sex with just anyone. Or if you don't care about that then find a hooker or something. But I think you should save it for someone special. I haven't had more than two different partners in my life and I'm about your age.


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InvisibleUnifloo
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: evenbreak] * 1
    #19012064 - 10/22/13 03:05 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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evenbreak said:
Is this normal? I'm not even ugly or hideous, i'm kind of average looking but i just never put myself out there. I've been stuck in this social hole where I don't really meet any new people or go out that much so I don't really get laid that much.

But i'm extremely ashamed of that fact, to the point where if anyone ever makes any remark to me that I am lacking in my sex life, I instantly get extremely butthurt and can't ever be friends with that person again. I find it extremely depressing that i'm 25 years old and i'm kind of a social shut in who doesn't get laid :frown:.

I want to change really bad and I know the solution is to talk to more people but i don't know where to start.

So basically i'm asking how i'm supposed to establish a new social circle and meet new people so i can be a happier person and not be a horrible over-sensitive mess that i am right now.

because right now i'm hating life :frown: ...




1 - Stop beating yourself up about something that doesnt fucking matter

2 - The more you think about trying to get laid, the more you will get desperate - chicks can smell that shit a mile away

3 - Stop beating yourself up about something that doesnt fucking matter

realise - that there are always going to be chicks out there that are on the same level as you in terms of interests and compatibility,

4 - And this is possibly the most important point - your social circle can make or break your chances of getting laid, if you have a limited social circle or you find that youre not meeting new girls through friends or co-worker well then branch out. Check out the internet for online dating or pick an interest or hobby of yours and attend social gatherings in your city.

There are countless women out there that want to get fucked, and many are looking for a guy like you. Its all about exposure - you need to expose yourself to like minded women as much as possible and you WILL get laid. Make no excuses such and being shy or having anxiety - plenty of women are shy and have anxiety too, find a chick who you can talk to about whatever you have in common and everything else will fall into place


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: Unifloo]
    #19012069 - 10/22/13 03:07 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

confidence in yourself and knowing that you are the party regardless of whether there is anyone else around will get you far!

Girls are backwards bro, don't ever trip on them.


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: Unifloo]
    #19012114 - 10/22/13 03:48 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Unifloo....top post :mushroom2::mushroom2::mushroom2::mushroom2::mushroom2: for you, I've been stuck in a shitty head space all day and that post cleared it up.


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InvisibleUnifloo
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: elborito]
    #19012174 - 10/22/13 04:46 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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elborito said:
Unifloo....top post :mushroom2::mushroom2::mushroom2::mushroom2::mushroom2: for you, I've been stuck in a shitty head space all day and that post cleared it up.




Stay positive dude :rockon:

Just noticed this

Amazon Shop for: Ayahuasca, Fleshlight

Wonder if amazon have a two for one deal at the moment


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Invisiblecez
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: evenbreak] * 1
    #19012210 - 10/22/13 05:13 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

I'm a 24 year old virgin who doesn't masturbate....


Don't talk about not getting laid :kingcrankey:


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: cez]
    #19012222 - 10/22/13 05:23 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

lol dude have a tug.


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Invisiblecez
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: elborito]
    #19012233 - 10/22/13 05:29 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

At this point I'd rather just keep the streak alive :shrug:
Been about 2 months.


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: thelanzii]
    #19012473 - 10/22/13 08:07 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Speaking of which, perhaps some testosterone boosting methods could help get your "man" on? Perhaps maybe look up some conversation starting tips? Sounds like about anything would make you feel better than you do right now. Good luck


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: shroommonkey]
    #19012648 - 10/22/13 09:00 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

By "testosterone" you mean "confidence", right?


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A soul that harbors doubt has no joy, not in this world or the next."
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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: cez]
    #19013186 - 10/22/13 11:29 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Quote:

cez said:
I'm a 24 year old virgin who doesn't masturbate....


Don't talk about not getting laid :kingcrankey:




Damn bro you must have some awesome vital force chi build up .

I envy you, I can't help but ejavulate every day but the taiists say once a week is best


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: Moonshoe] * 2
    #19013685 - 10/22/13 01:04 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

I'm gonna say this, most people who blabber about how much ass they get, are usually liars. Seriously OP dont sweat it. Just put yourself out there


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: evenbreak] * 2
    #19014566 - 10/22/13 04:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

I know exactly how you feel op. What you need to do is to find yourself and be comfortable with yourself first. Seriously, get the fuck off the computer and go for a long walk in nature. Think about where you are in life and where you wanna be. Get some new hobbies, start up some projects, brainstorm ideas etc. Once you find yourself, you must find what you want..then go get it op! Thats all it takes!

And about your anxiety and poor social skills...go buy some lemon balm, it really really helps with social anxiety and general anxiety.(also lay off the weed,caffiene,cigs etc) Eating healthy and getting exersize really helps too. Also remember that everybody you talk to is a human too! Everybody has been in your place and everybody has the same wants and needs. Heck op theres probably a girl out there that is thinking the exact same way you are.

The only thing that is stopping you is your own mind.


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: WoodsyMermaid]
    #19016552 - 10/22/13 09:56 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Ive never heard of lemon balm... just looked it up, is it more effective than kava kava?? Because so far, i took 5 times the suggested dose today and it still did not ease my anxiety.


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: LSDreams]
    #19017390 - 10/23/13 01:58 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

thank you for the replies everyone. i'm a bit surprised actually. Even skeptical, sorry i hate to doubt people who are trying to help me but i can't help feeling this way.

You guys are seriously saying that you won't think I'm a loser if we're friends or acquaintances in real life and you find out i can't get laid because i'm avoidant and don't have the necessary social skills and charm to sexually attract women?

I just feel this is a major flaw. I want to fix it, and I have the hope that someday I'll be good with girls, but in my current state I can't help but feel deficient.

I'm pretty good at surface conversations now I think, but I just suck at actually taking risks like being sexual or asking for her number or to hang out with me.


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: evenbreak] * 1
    #19017400 - 10/23/13 02:03 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Your friends suck if they judge you for such a misperceived and petty social flaw.

BTW I have a friend that sounded just like you...A year ago he couldn't get laid for the life of him..Now he's banging a plethora of girls and he still hasn't found what he's looking for.


Edited by cez (10/23/13 02:06 AM)


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Re: im not having sex and im ashamed [Re: evenbreak] * 1
    #19017417 - 10/23/13 02:12 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

I dont have sex, and im completely fine with it. And again... if your ashamed of this that much, than dont tell anyone. Thats like if you pee the bed and really ashamed/embarrassed about it, you dont let people know.

I suck with girls too, because I like to become friends with them first to see just who they actually are, and then they only want to be friends.
I start to get in a funk to sometimes if I stop and think about how different my life is from others. But you just have to enjoy the simplicities that you already know are really exciting to you.

If you want to help your social anxiety, get out and be in public the majority of the time instead at home. Goto restaurants and coffee shops etc. more often to get comfortable being around other people.


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