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Anonymous #1
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How much of a loser am I?
#19007266 - 10/21/13 06:36 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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So I have this friend who also is an ex. It's a whole long story but lately we've become friends. We hang out from time to time and whatnot. Well Friday I'm at her house chilling she had to get up early so she jumps into shower than heads to her bedroom. So she calls out to me to pour her some wine and bring into her room (which I do). So for the rest night she's laying next to me in a t-shirt and panties while I'm laying her bed fully clothed like a bump on a log. It's like I'm krypotnite to female arousal. She should about as much interest in me as a piece of cement. Sadly this is probably the only time I've even been in a bed with a woman in a very long time. I'm not so much horny as I am just lonely and miss intimacy. Don't geg me wrong I love sex too but I really want a girlfriend.
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Anonymous #2
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I know the feeling.
All I can say is let life come to you. Take it easy.
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Black_Sunset
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Be nice to yourself. She was an ex anyway...you don't want that! Been there, done that, right? You're just comfortable friends!
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Anonymous said: So I have this friend who also is an ex. It's a whole long story but lately we've become friends. We hang out from time to time and whatnot. Well Friday I'm at her house chilling she had to get up early so she jumps into shower than heads to her bedroom. So she calls out to me to pour her some wine and bring into her room (which I do). So for the rest night she's laying next to me in a t-shirt and panties while I'm laying her bed fully clothed like a bump on a log. It's like I'm krypotnite to female arousal. She should about as much interest in me as a piece of cement. Sadly this is probably the only time I've even been in a bed with a woman in a very long time. I'm not so much horny as I am just lonely and miss intimacy. Don't geg me wrong I love sex too but I really want a girlfriend.
On the one hand you are smart for not making shit weird with an ex, because that's typically a big mistake. However, if you ever had intentions of having a friends with benefits situation with this girl, you pretty much just smashed that to hell I'd say. The only way this wouldn't be the case is if she had been in bed coming on to you and you slyly and seductively denied her advances, teasing her. But it doesn't sound at all like that's what happened. If she's in only a t-shirt and panties, with a glass of wine in hand, and you're beside her, and nothing whatsoever happens, you are basically the equivalent of a eunuch in her eyes from now on.
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Re: How much of a loser am I? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#19009666 - 10/21/13 05:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: So she calls out to me to pour her some wine and bring into her room (which I do). So for the rest night she's laying next to me in a t-shirt and panties
This part to me just screams out that she was trying to get you to make some sort of move on her, but you know her best so maybe that's just how she always is?
I know if I had a guy friend over, I wouldn't be dressed like that, laying next to him, with a glass of wine, if I didn't have intentions of fucking him.
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You should talk to her... If you want her.
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Anonymous #1
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We've had many discussions and she was very upfront about not wanting any type of intimate relationship with me. I know that I should not continue to stay in her life because I really do want to be with her so eventually I will get hurt AGAIN. But the other part of me is kind of lonely and just likes having her around in any capacity.
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Sounds unhealthy OP. I mean unhealthy to your chances of landing other girls, if you just stay in this limbo. Start aiming for her nice female friends if you guys are not hitting it off, and btw if she's a real friend she should be on your team and help you out. Or go out and try your luck with other females altogether.
If you're not attracted to her at all, as in you wouldn't really fuck her anyway no matter what t-shirt and panties she has on, then it's ok, you can spend time and not do much, just chill.
If however you'd like to fuck her but can't, then you should not fucking spend time with her, period. That constant wanting to do something and failing, will only put you in submissive mode, basically being pussy-whipped without even getting the pussy, and other girls will definitely feel that.
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For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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