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Anonymous #1
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Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before...
#19005470 - 10/20/13 07:24 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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So it's not a massive issue to most people..
I've been seeing this man for about three months. The first month was great - just chilling, meeting his friends.
In the past two months I've been let down by him a few times, he's shown insensitivity and I've reacted to it causing shitty bitter jibes. He smokes a LOT of weed - he's 32, I'm 28. He's a lovely man. so chilled and positive, but our mental health seems to clash. My negativity over little things stress him out and his lack of awareness flips me off.
It's like we've known each other forever we both agree, but he's had enough and just wants to be friends. I've never had this happen before and I don't know how I'm taking it? I contact him all the time, probably unhealthily, he seems ok with it, but he probably isnt. He admits he is selfish that he can't meet my needs. I'm finding it hard to cut him or myself off. I really like him and he likes me, but just dosent want to be in a relationship.
I dunno man, what do I do? He says he might reconsider sometime, but it's just driving me fucking insane like.
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19005683 - 10/20/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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what really is the difference between being friends and otherwise and stuff
if u like being around the dude then be around him if he doesn't care like it's all cool
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: Sheekle]
#19005714 - 10/20/13 08:14 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You two seem to have 2 different personality types. Sometimes opposites work a lot of the time not because people get to into their hang ups about the relationship and try not to work on it.
Im going to assume your high strung (no offense) and he just doesn't give a fuck.
Thats how my first love and I were. It ended with us at each others throats constantly.
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: Mescalean]
#19006221 - 10/20/13 10:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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What do you want out of the relationship?
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: ch1ck3n.s0up]
#19006670 - 10/21/13 12:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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3 months and a guy is turning you down...enough said That much drama so soon is not worth your time just saying.
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: LadySativa]
#19006766 - 10/21/13 12:47 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Weed ain't no thing homie, like the other two have said, it's all about the personality and vibes. Just cuz the dude likes to get baked ain't no reason to judge.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: Anonymous #2]
#19007043 - 10/21/13 03:25 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Nah, I'm sweet with the weed! Obv it just makes him forgetful and that grinds my gears when he says he'll be somewhere to meet me and not show up! I'm no judger 
I guess we're just two different personalities and I'm probably expecting a knight in shining armour compared to past relationships, which is stupid. I'd like it to go back to the first month nice n chilled, but I spose I'm going to have to work on myself.
I've told him I'm going off the radar for a bit cos my emotions have fucked my self respect up. Shroom time.
Thanks for the mature responses guys xx
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19007072 - 10/21/13 03:48 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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you have to relax.
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Re: Bler. Just wanting to be friends. Never dealt with this before... [Re: Anonymous #3]
#19013739 - 10/22/13 01:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Keep on chilling with him while you look for someone more into relationships. Try to make the mental switch that he's not your boyfriend, he's your fuck buddy. You'll grow way more tolerant and less needy / controlling. Maybe something develops from there, maybe not, but in any case don't try to force things into what they're not right now.
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