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how do you deal with this?
#19002155 - 10/19/13 11:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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how do you deal with other people that are creeping and hitting on your significant other? inappropriate comments and half naked pictures being posted on your significant others facebook etc. my first instincts are violent. i will try not to act on them because i know its wrong but thats just how it makes me feel.
as much as i dont want to admit it i sort of get mad at my significant other over this as well for even chosing to remain friends with creepers like that knowing how it makes me feel. im not the mad jealous type at all, respect is just very important to me and when i feel as though somebody disrespects me and crosses an obvious boundary it really pisses me off. whatever ill get over it.
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#19002228 - 10/20/13 12:12 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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That's on your lady, she would get rid of those fools if she didn't want the attention. People that feed on other people wanting them don't make good long term partners. Enjoy the relationship, have fun, but don't be surprised when the inevitable happens. Just don't take anything personal.
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: Dudits]
#19002398 - 10/20/13 01:30 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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as much as i dont like it, its true. i thank you for your honesty
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#19002641 - 10/20/13 03:54 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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if i knew the person personally i would confront them. not only because she's MY bitch , but for the fact that he's being a creeper. i also agree though that it is mostly on your girl.
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Anonymous said: im not the mad jealous type at all
Of course you're jealous to some extent. Nearly everybody is. Might as well acknowledge it; it makes it a little easier to deal with.
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how do you deal with other people that are creeping and hitting on your significant other?
They're primarily your significant other's to deal with. Why do you feel the need to deal with them, or to even pay attention to them at all? Do you trust your SO? Do you believe (s)he's with you because you're the one (s)he wants? If yes, then let him/her deal with it.
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You've just gotten some excellent advice in the above posts.
-------------------- "Don't believe everything you think". -Anom. " All that lives was born to die"-Anom. With much wisdom comes much sorrow, The more knowledge, the more grief. Ecclesiastes circa 350 BC
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: koraks]
#19003356 - 10/20/13 10:55 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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koraks said:
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Anonymous said: im not the mad jealous type at all
Of course you're jealous to some extent. Nearly everybody is. Might as well acknowledge it; it makes it a little easier to deal with.
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how do you deal with other people that are creeping and hitting on your significant other?
They're primarily your significant other's to deal with. Why do you feel the need to deal with them, or to even pay attention to them at all? Do you trust your SO? Do you believe (s)he's with you because you're the one (s)he wants? If yes, then let him/her deal with it.
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Me and my girlfriend have a mutual agreement, first offense she handles it, second offense I handle it.
Some guys can't take no for an answer. Some only learn what no means through physical resolution.
I'm not telling you to resort to violence. As much as I hate verbal resolution aim for it first. However if that doesn't work and they're still doing it. Handle it how you deem appropriate. Just remember this isn't the good ol' days where people only pressed assault charges for serious shit. Now adays if you fight, the loser usually ends up bitching out even if they're at fault.
Im all for privacy but have you checked your girls messages to see what shes sending them
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: Mescalean]
#19004243 - 10/20/13 02:40 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Mescalean said: Some guys can't take no for an answer. Some only learn what no means through physical resolution.

Unless someone takes a swing at your or your partner violence is never the answer.
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19004288 - 10/20/13 02:53 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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you have to be creative with retaliation. you can find his facebook or whatever and send the half naked photos to all his friends and family. or you can take half naked pictures and send the cock pics to all his friends and family.
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#19004293 - 10/20/13 02:54 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Violence is sometimes the only thing that gets across to someone. Especially if someone has the "fuck this dude im gonna fuck his girl" mentality.
We live in a violent world. Humans by nature are violent. Denying this is denying some of the very emotions that make us human. Never really bought into the whole world peace thing or violence doesn't solve anything jargon because I rarely see pacifism work. Just my views.
Obviously the op should opt out for non violence before, but be realistic, sometimes violence does speak the loudest especially to individuals who already do not respect boundaries.
I actually like the above post idea for fb lol
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Anonymous said: you have to be creative with retaliation. you can find his facebook or whatever and send the half naked photos to all his friends and family. or you can take half naked pictures and send the cock pics to all his friends and family.
Hahaha,funny but that's not the right thing to do. Unless you want to start dating some fucking dogs you gunna have to put up with dudes wanting to fuck your lady, there is nothing you can do to prevent that, and if you try your just gunna waste your time. So either date an ugly bitch or find a cute one you can trust. Don't resort to that high school crap.
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: pwnasaurus] 1
#19004573 - 10/20/13 04:04 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Mescalean said: Im all for privacy but have you checked your girls messages to see what shes sending them
"I'm all for privacy but you should really break your partners privacy and check her phone messages"... 
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Mescalean said: Some guys can't take no for an answer. Some only learn what no means through physical resolution.

Unless someone takes a swing at your or your partner violence is never the answer.
and it's a good way to end up in trouble.
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Pretty sure I said there could be legal action. Especially in this day and age where everyone seems to be lawsuite trigger happy. Op doesn't have to take my advice. The fact she talks to these guys would have me asking alot of questions questions myself. The advice I have given is based off of my life experience and the people I have dealt with in those experiences. Maybe my age has to do with my views. I am 22 and have only experienced a fraction of what I will in life.
Here, let me change what I said to better fit the peaceful hippyesque vibe of everyone else advices.
Trust her indefinetly op. Don't do shit either. Show these other men a passive attitude and let them know there are zero consequences for their actions of showing your gf their dicks. Let them know they will continue to get away with the sending of dick pics. Peace.
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[Mod edit: No misogyny allowed here. A statement such as "women like to emotionally cheat which is 95% of cheating as it leaves them plausible deniability " is not going to be allowed in S&R.
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And I will bring you out from the people, and will gather you out of the countries wherein ye are scattered, with a mighty hand, and with a stretched out arm, and with fury poured out.
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: Mescalean]
#19004670 - 10/20/13 04:25 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Trust her indefinetly op. Don't do shit either. Show these other men a passive attitude and let them know there are zero consequences for their actions of showing your gf their dicks. Let them know they will continue to get away with the sending of dick pics. Peace.
Trust is paramount for a healthy relationship. If you don't trust your partner the relationship is over imo. If the girlfriend didn't want dick pics then she can take care of it by saying stop sending them to me, and if it persists blocking them. But in the end it's up to her and hers to deal with, unless she asks for help.
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: Mescalean]
#19004674 - 10/20/13 04:27 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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[Mod edit: Treat people with respect.]
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And I will bring you out from the people, and will gather you out of the countries wherein ye are scattered, with a mighty hand, and with a stretched out arm, and with fury poured out.
Edited by tymoteusz3 (10/20/13 04:31 PM)
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Re: how do you deal with this? [Re: JesusIsLord]
#19004689 - 10/20/13 04:29 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sarcasm man... Read the above posts.
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Trust her indefinetly op. Don't do shit either. Show these other men a passive attitude and let them know there are zero consequences for their actions of showing your gf their dicks. Let them know they will continue to get away with the sending of dick pics. Peace.
Trust is paramount for a healthy relationship. If you don't trust your partner the relationship is over imo. If the girlfriend didn't want dick pics then she can take care of it by saying stop sending them to me, and if it persists blocking them. But in the end it's up to her and hers to deal with, unless she asks for help.

It has nothing to do with your age. I had the same view when I was 18 as I do now at 24.
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this is not the first time it has happen, and the same people for that matter over time. the first few times i let it go. but when the same people keep doing it and it happens 3 times in 1 day its hard to ignore. it sort have stacked up and thats when i got pissed off. i dont plan to do anything violent. let me state for the record my approach:
im going to let it go for now but if this happens once more from any of them. im going to tell her that she has to block these people and judge her reaction afterwards. i know she doesnt like to be told what to do so i never try to, but if this person loves me like they say they do, then they will do it with out an issue. but if they get really pissed off and it becomes a big issue, i will be suspicious.
because last night i was mad at the creepers. now i keep thinking
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Anonymous said: i sort of get mad at my significant other over this as well for even chosing to remain friends with creepers like that knowing how it makes me feel.
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