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OfflineJesusIsLord
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: UberDeepName]
    #19010955 - 10/21/13 09:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

So you caught your wife lying to him? But she'd NEVER lie to you now, would she? I mean, it's ok to lie to certain people that trust you, for the right reasons, right?

Trust is what a relationship is built on.

Never date a liar, EVER. If she makes excuses for lying or attempts to justify it, then she supports lying and doesn't value trust. It doesn't matter who is being lied to, a liar is a liar is a liar.


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OfflineSynKyd
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: JesusIsLord]
    #19010996 - 10/21/13 10:08 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

If you love her let her know (frequently and in many ways!), but don't try to control her, it will only make things worse if you want it to work out.


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OfflineUberDeepName
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: SynKyd]
    #19011124 - 10/21/13 10:39 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I'm so over it at this point. I go through every single emotion a hundred times a day, even at work. It's annoying. I will never feel like a man if I stay with her. I'm gonna have to bolt. Of course I will remain a HUGE part of my children's lives. And I am willing to support her financially and establish some sort of productive parenting relationship. If she wants freedom, freedom we will have. But I can't live with someone that can lie so deeply with little regret. She knows/believe's I will put up with anything because I am very serious out loyalty and my kids... I will do everything I can to hold it together for my children, she has used this for many years. I just have to have faith that they will be okay and maybe happier if things change. The path will present itself, If I let go.


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InvisibleSalomon
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: UberDeepName]
    #19011185 - 10/21/13 10:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

this is something i wrote, and a quote.






Leave it all behind; face the light and fall into the unknown.






There's no good kind of festering.





i think it applies in your situation.


best of luck


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OfflineUberDeepName
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: Salomon]
    #19011297 - 10/21/13 11:10 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Salomon said:
this is something i wrote, and a quote.






Leave it all behind; face the light and fall into the unknown.






There's no good kind of festering.





i think it applies in your situation.


best of luck




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"Call on God, but row away from the rocks"- Hunter S. Thompson


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Offlineshimmeringtrance
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: UberDeepName]
    #19031042 - 10/25/13 01:11 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

There's only one person in this scenario who decided to 'emotionally' cheat - and that's your wife. The other guy didnt force himself upon her, she made the decision to get involved with him, at whatever level they're involved.
Funny how guys (and girls) always blame the other person when things like this happen. When it was their mate's decision entirely..

One other thought, I've often heard women complain that their BFs or husbands are boring. That after they became a couple the guy simply stopped showing interest like he used to. That he now does little  beyond working, going out with his friends, and watching TV.
I'm not saying this describes you OP, but it's something to think about. I think (actually know for a fact) that women often stray because they feel bored and unappreciated.

Also, sorry this has happened to you. This type of thing causes incredible stress, I hope things work out for you.


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Invisiblebadchad
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: UberDeepName]
    #19031210 - 10/25/13 01:40 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Amidst all the blaming, did you ask her "why?"  Why did she feel compelled to emotionally cheat, and what was she missing that caused her to do so?


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...the whole experience is (and is as) a profound piece of knowledge.  It is an indellible experience; it is forever known.  I have known myself in a way I doubt I would have ever occurred except as it did.

Smith, P.  Bull. Menninger Clinic (1959) 23:20-27; p. 27.

...most subjects find the experience valuable, some find it frightening, and many say that is it uniquely lovely.

Osmond, H.  Annals, NY Acad Science (1957) 66:418-434; p.436


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InvisibleDemonic_Chronic
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: UberDeepName]
    #19031275 - 10/25/13 02:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

UberDeepName said:
Been married almost 8 years... Ups and downs, strikes and gutters




Sorry about your troubles but your using my lines man...your peein on my fuckin rug.

DC


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The Real violence, the violence that I realized was unforgiveable
Is the violence that we do to ourselves
When we are too afraid to be, who we really are.


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OfflineUberDeepName
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: shimmeringtrance]
    #19032130 - 10/25/13 05:11 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

shimmeringtrance said:
There's only one person in this scenario who decided to 'emotionally' cheat - and that's your wife. The other guy didnt force himself upon her, she made the decision to get involved with him, at whatever level they're involved.
Funny how guys (and girls) always blame the other person when things like this happen. When it was their mate's decision entirely..

One other thought, I've often heard women complain that their BFs or husbands are boring. That after they became a couple the guy simply stopped showing interest like he used to. That he now does little  beyond working, going out with his friends, and watching TV.
I'm not saying this describes you OP, but it's something to think about. I think (actually know for a fact) that women often stray because they feel bored and unappreciated.

Also, sorry this has happened to you. This type of thing causes incredible stress, I hope things work out for you.




Say hello to my sneaky wife, everyone. Hi wife.


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OfflineSoulidarity
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: UberDeepName]
    #19032131 - 10/25/13 05:12 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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OfflineUberDeepName
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Re: I'm Hurting [Re: Demonic_Chronic]
    #19033191 - 10/25/13 09:09 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Quote:

Demonic_Chronic said:
Quote:

UberDeepName said:
Been married almost 8 years... Ups and downs, strikes and gutters




Sorry about your troubles but your using my lines man...your peein on my fuckin rug.

DC



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