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Anonymous #1
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heart was broken. now im having issues trusting. what to do?
#19000537 - 10/19/13 04:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Short story,
Parents were compulsive liars and manipulators.
In a relationship the ONLY thing I ask for is honesty. Thats it.
Been dating someone for a few years now. She occasionally lies about minor dumb things because she hates disappointing people. Stuff like lying about doing graduate school projects, studying, hanging with her girlfriends, ect.
Little things.
Now its happened too many times. And its getting harder to forgive an move on. (The last time was supposed to be the last time) but here I am trying to make things work because theres a lot of invested time in the relationship and other than little white lies this is the best relationship ive ever had.
Problem is my logic is if she will lie about little things....what about big stuff like getting railed by a basketball team or something?
Anyways boys an girls you been in the same boat? What did you do?
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Anonymous #2
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Re: heart was broken. now im having issues trusting. what to do? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19000543 - 10/19/13 04:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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If you want others to be truthful, then you have to be truthful yourself. Lay it all out to her, and go from there.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: heart was broken. now im having issues trusting. what to do? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#19000591 - 10/19/13 05:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Problem is ive done that. A few times. She knows its my only deal breaker with a relationship. She swears she doesnt want or mean to hurt me and cant stop the lying. And the thing is I fear it may be beyond the point of repair. Now im self conscious and paranoid about normal things because I feel like its just another lie in the making even if its not in actuality. 
I have never done anything to hurt her and for her to hurt me in such a trivial way Im not sure if im overreacting or not. I mean a lie is a lie to me.
Am I overthinking things? Or am I just a chump?
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Re: heart was broken. now im having issues trusting. what to do? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19000746 - 10/19/13 05:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I don't see why people lie in general. You're not a "chump" for having issues trusting somebody who's consistently lied to you
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Anonymous #1
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Re: heart was broken. now im having issues trusting. what to do? [Re: Sheekle]
#19000818 - 10/19/13 06:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I mean am I a chump for sticking around? I think if the lies were big things like cheating or a crazy heroin an meth addiction I woulda been out a long time ago but because its little things and how good every single other aspect is im still tryin.
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Re: heart was broken. now im having issues trusting. what to do? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19003295 - 10/20/13 10:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes, you are. Thats a huge redflag and your fears about her lieing about bigger stuff juat as easy as she lies about the small things are well placed. I wouldnt jump ship, but I wouldnt take anything she says seriously, ever.
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Re: heart was broken. now im having issues trusting. what to do? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19003986 - 10/20/13 01:26 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Problem is ive done that. A few times. She knows its my only deal breaker with a relationship. She swears she doesnt want or mean to hurt me and cant stop the lying. And the thing is I fear it may be beyond the point of repair. Now im self conscious and paranoid about normal things because I feel like its just another lie in the making even if its not in actuality. 
I have never done anything to hurt her and for her to hurt me in such a trivial way Im not sure if im overreacting or not. I mean a lie is a lie to me.
Am I overthinking things? Or am I just a chump?
yeah it sounds like your not worthy of the truth haha
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