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This is not an uncommon complaint for young women. Don't worry too much about it and hope that your next sexual encounter is with someone who knows how to massage the G-spot while performing oral sex. Sounds to me like your partner(s) have to pick up the game a bit.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: mpd]
#18985939 - 10/16/13 12:35 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I agree with those who say that it largely comes down to mindset I also think physical health can make a huge difference too. If you're in poor physical shape (for example, if you're not eating properly or if you have an underlying medical condition or if you sit around too much) that can lower your sex drive and/or sensitivity. Not always, but sometimes.
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I think it has a lot to do with mindset too, but I also agree with others who said you just need to find what works for you.
I'm kind of like OP in that if I or my partner tries to stimulate me with fingers, its like eh, this feels kinda good, but gets boring after a few minutes.
The only way I can orgasm from clitoral stimulation is by grinding against something like a pillow, towel, etc. I don't know if it is the pressure that does it, or that maybe my clit is just too sensitive for direct stimulation and maybe stimulating the whole area is what does the trick. But that is also the way that I started out masturbating, when I was 7 years old, and that is the way that I have always done it. So I feel like I am conditioned to orgasm that way, and maybe if I had tried other methods when I was younger and not stuck solely to my grinding method, I might be able to orgasm easier from other methods today.
So that's something to think about.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Ballerium] 1
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Ew Ballerium, thanx for bring down the house by describing a 7 year old masturbating
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: bloodsheen]
#18988922 - 10/16/13 11:03 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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nice 2.5 year old thread bump.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: bloodsheen]
#18988971 - 10/16/13 11:16 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You're the one who imagined it.
I was just using my experience to try and help OP and add to the thread. I didn't mean for it to be thought of in that way.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Ballerium]
#18989738 - 10/17/13 07:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
The inner 1/3 of the vagina has lots of nerves but not like the clitoris, the most nerve filled and innate erogenous zone on a woman.
It is recommended that clitoral stimulation and vaginal stimulation occur at the same time for a woman to reach orgasm. You might try that.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: XUL]
#18989781 - 10/17/13 07:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Dawks]
#18989811 - 10/17/13 07:56 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
I believe it was American women and any issues can be accounted for by the Victorian age and all the nonsense rumors spread by quacks. As well as strict and unequal gender roles. I read this from a text book, but it would still be good to gather up many studies on the matter and look into the results.
Freud believed that clitoral stimulation was inappropriate and that vaginal stimulation was "lady like".
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: XUL]
#18993708 - 10/17/13 11:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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in my own experience, my girlfriend came easier when i had better foreplay. for example, licking her nipples n kissing... n then she would tell me when she was ready usually, communication is key.
Alot of people aren't 100 percent compatible at first, that why we are grateful to have mouths to communicate and by speaking up we are able to learn what eachother likes and dislikes on a nonjudgemental level. its not life or death, its certainly not the end of the relationship unless you or him really don't want to work on it and want it to just be 'perfect' that sounds imaginary imo. given, experience helps but not always, as in, i had recieved the best head from a girl who was not great at all. nowadays although we brokeup she was a pro - and i went from 20 minutes to come, to what seems 2-3 minutes. i actually have to tell her to 'do something else' to prolong it because it would end so fast:[
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: Dawks]
#18993924 - 10/18/13 01:47 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
(girls only)
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ive made every girl ive been with orgasm.
question, is it because they phsyically cannot, or is it because of unsatisfactory partners?
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FishOilTheKid said: What about suction on the clitoris and the 'come hither' g-spot stimulation...??
I was thinking the same thing.
OP, have your boyfriend suck on your clit, and swirl his tongue around it at the same time.
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FishOilTheKid said: What about suction on the clitoris and the 'come hither' g-spot stimulation...??
I was thinking the same thing.
OP, have your boyfriend suck on your clit, and swirl his tongue around it at the same time.
yea that usually does it, try to limit the amount of saliva on it, i would even switch with my hands, mix it up, sometimes all hands so it doesn't get overly wet if you feel like it is, it will numb her/you whoever we are talking about., sometimes all mouth or both... then again that was how my lady was. in general i think foreplay is MEGA important, do you like nipple stimulation or getting your earlobe lightly nibbled on/neck licked/sucked? do you like other stimulation like getting rimjob'd? for some reason my last girl loved it. she would sit on me and switch between her vagina and ass:]
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It's all a matter of technique. If OP is still wondering what to do, my advice would be to stop masturbating. That should bring matters to a head one way or another!
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: mpd]
#18995725 - 10/18/13 01:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mpd said: It's all a matter of technique. If OP is still wondering what to do, my advice would be to stop masturbating. That should bring matters to a head one way or another!
oh, i didn't knew she masturbated.. that can certainly be a problem imo.
i cum alot quicker and it all feels better when i just dont play with myself.. come to think of it, in general i feel better.. masturbating for me would be an occasion type of deal, for example, im alone in a different state... or in a hotel room... something, if your at home masturbating all the time.. thats a no - no.
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XUL said: In a Human Sexuality course we are taking we learned that only around 1/3 of women experience orgasm.
I find it hard to believe it's so few.
(girls only)
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Re: Problem orgasming... [Re: XUL]
#18998519 - 10/19/13 04:35 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I am a man and i cannot have a orgasam and cum...with evry girl i have sex with...i can fuck her for long long time but it dosen't happend evry time...I am on yes...that it depends on who's you'r sex partnior...OP
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