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How to be a happy single person
#18998025 - 10/18/13 11:47 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Going through a hard divorce and I cant stop feeling like I need a women in my life immediately.
For example I grew accustomed to the meals my wife cooked so now after my divorce I starve around like a zombie lol
Any advice on being happy single and being successful and getting through this? (besides learning to cook on a regular basis which might be a topic on its own lol)
Edited by bearlion (10/18/13 11:50 PM)
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998037 - 10/18/13 11:50 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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awh man, i'm sorry to hear about that. maybe take up cooking as a hobby.
hope things start to get better for ya.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998038 - 10/18/13 11:50 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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how about starting off by doing what ever the fuck you want to.
cook for your friends man... it will fill the gap.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: rackem]
#18998042 - 10/18/13 11:51 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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what do people eat on a regular basis? any one recommend a simple eating plan for a newly single guy?
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998045 - 10/18/13 11:53 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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oatmeal breakfast,
fruit for a snack.
salad for lunch,
almonds for a snack,
chicken for dinner.
and buy yourself a crock pot if you dont have one already.. mine is my best girlfriend that doesnt talk back.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998053 - 10/18/13 11:55 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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i don't know but make sure you include a salad every now and then. veggies, fruits, nuts, etc.. fish is also good.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: rackem]
#18998062 - 10/18/13 11:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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rackem said: oatmeal breakfast,
fruit for a snack.
salad for lunch,
almonds for a snack,
chicken for dinner.
and buy yourself a crock pot if you dont have one already.. mine is my best girlfriend that doesnt talk back.
Ok I am on a great track!
Today I made oatmeal for breakfast, rice for lunch and had bananas and cantalope for dinner (special note... I am still starving!)
Thats funny about your crockpot, ever since I got myself a rice cooker I no longer ruin my rice everytime and it sees alot of use per week, Im guessing a crockpot would aslo make some good soups.
Doesnt comper to a super burrito with carnitas lol but I was never a big meat eater anyhow
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: rackem]
#18998066 - 10/19/13 12:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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rackem said: how about starting off by doing what ever the fuck you want to.
hahaha hell yeeea thats what I needed to hear! I want to do cool shit now just thinking about that!
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998067 - 10/19/13 12:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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listen to your body and you will know exactly what to eat at the right times.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998068 - 10/19/13 12:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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not only the soups man..
you can make a killer baked potato in one, and have it ready by the time you get off work.
not to mention stuffed bell peppers, pasta dishes, short ribs... can go on for days..
and now that the weather is starting to cool down, its that time of season.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: rackem]
#18998083 - 10/19/13 12:08 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I always wanted to get into painting naked chicks top to bottom, since Im single now that might be a hobby I can get into
Any ladies want their body painted
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion] 1
#18998093 - 10/19/13 12:12 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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bearlion said: Going through a hard divorce and I cant stop feeling like I need a women in my life immediately.
For example I grew accustomed to the meals my wife cooked so now after my divorce I starve around like a zombie lol
Any advice on being happy single and being successful and getting through this? (besides learning to cook on a regular basis which might be a topic on its own lol)

The psychology of happiness suggests a few things you should work towards if you want happiness:
1. A pet - get one, they bring emotional joy  2. Good relations with other people - especially at your job. If you fight with colleagues or people you spend a lot of time with you'll hate your life/occupation. 3. Permanent change in your body image can have permanent effects on your happiness levels 4. Making others happy - brings a special kind of joy that money can't buy you.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998096 - 10/19/13 12:13 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mellowparty said:
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bearlion said: Going through a hard divorce and I cant stop feeling like I need a women in my life immediately.
For example I grew accustomed to the meals my wife cooked so now after my divorce I starve around like a zombie lol
Any advice on being happy single and being successful and getting through this? (besides learning to cook on a regular basis which might be a topic on its own lol)

The psychology of happiness suggests a few things you should work towards if you want happiness:
1. A pet - get one, they bring emotional joy  2. Good relations with other people - especially at your job. If you fight with colleagues or people you spend a lot of time with you'll hate your life/occupation. 3. Permanent change in your body image can have permanent effects on your happiness levels 4. Making others happy - brings a special kind of joy that money can't buy you.
Also get a hobby
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998102 - 10/19/13 12:15 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mellowparty said:
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bearlion said: Going through a hard divorce and I cant stop feeling like I need a women in my life immediately.
For example I grew accustomed to the meals my wife cooked so now after my divorce I starve around like a zombie lol
Any advice on being happy single and being successful and getting through this? (besides learning to cook on a regular basis which might be a topic on its own lol)

The psychology of happiness suggests a few things you should work towards if you want happiness:
1. A pet - get one, they bring emotional joy  2. Good relations with other people - especially at your job. If you fight with colleagues or people you spend a lot of time with you'll hate your life/occupation. 3. Permanent change in your body image can have permanent effects on your happiness levels 4. Making others happy - brings a special kind of joy that money can't buy you.
Thanks mellow these are ver deep words of wisdom, each one made me think instantly of something I could do, for instance I will contact some people I have been neglecting and show some love
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998156 - 10/19/13 12:40 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Happiness comes from within, cultivate a strong sense of self again and learn to appreciate your own company. Work on living your life in a fulfilling way and seek out new things that give you some kind of happiness. Go get laid, learn how to brew your own beer, make good food, live a full life, fall in love with yourself or the life you're leading.
Everything else will follow. / cheesymotivation
Oh yeah, get a slowcooker dude! Look up recipes for stews, soups, curries, etc etc etc. Throw a bunch of shit in the pot, leave for work, and you have super delicious slow cooked food when you get home and a house that smells heavenly.
I would recommend smoking copious amounts of marijuana and watching the food network for foodie centric shows on the travel channel to cultivate an interest in culinary pursuits
Edited by pirate-blues (10/19/13 12:41 AM)
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: pirate-blues]
#18998162 - 10/19/13 12:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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pirate-blues said: Happiness comes from within, cultivate a strong sense of self again and learn to appreciate your own company. Work on living your life in a fulfilling way and seek out new things that give you some kind of happiness. Go get laid, learn how to brew your own beer, make good food, live a full life, fall in love with yourself or the life you're leading.
Everything else will follow. / cheesymotivation
Oh yeah, get a slowcooker dude! Look up recipes for stews, soups, curries, etc etc etc. Throw a bunch of shit in the pot, leave for work, and you have super delicious slow cooked food when you get home and a house that smells heavenly.
I would recommend smoking copious amounts of marijuana and watching the food network for foodie centric shows on the travel channel to cultivate an interest in culinary pursuits 
thanks I swear you shroomery folks are geniuses, very well said
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998166 - 10/19/13 12:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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manson and the frogs danced along to american women you posted lol!
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998182 - 10/19/13 12:50 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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definitely reach out to some people, close family members, friends. I like to meet up with my friends every sunday and sometimes thursday for football, if youre into that. Its a good opportunity for us to see each other and socialize. totally important. I also really enjoy/ed taking bike rides by myself, hitting the gym, and just treating myself to cool shit that i like, such as going to the moves, bookstore, etc... Cooking is a must know!!! It will become a passion once you really get into the habit. Eventually youll be the pro that everyone knows cooks awesome food hehe.
heres a few meals that could jazz up your cooking repertoire. I usually make these depending on what im feeling every monday when I go shopping.
Breakfast: Bananas, apples, oats (that big cardboard can of it), peanut butter. In the morning boil half a cup of water, then add half a cup of oats. put on simmer and cook for 3-4 minutes, stirring here and there. Cut up apples or bananas depending on how youre feeling. Add a spoon of peanut butter to the oats, then dish it, add your fruit.
lunch I usually will buy a loaf of bread and alternate between:
1. egg salad sandwich: hardboil two eggs, chop up with one of these, mix a spoonful of mayo, salt/pepper to taste
2. tuna sammy: tuna, spoon of mayo, salt/pper
3. avocado sammy: cut up and skin an avocado into quarters, salt and pepper to taste. toast your bread.
Quick tip, so you dont get your bread all mushy, Keep the bread and wet stuff separate in plastic ziplock bags until lunchtime. ill also buy like a 20 pack of sunchips every 3 weeks or so and take one with me to lunch every day, along with a piece of fruit.
Dinner:
ok what youll need for this are your basics: unsalted butter, salt, pepper, cayenne, tin foil, soy sauce, sirracha, tapatio, white rice
30 minute salmon + rice: preheat your oven to 3fiddy. put your salmon down on a large piece of foil that will be able to wrap it up. get a stick of cold butter and shave off very thin flakes. place them on top of the salmon, 3-5 thin flakes will do. sprinkle a bit of salt and cayenne on top ot it and wrap it up. place it on a baking pan to catch any butter that melts out. put it in the oven for 30 minutes and start your rice.
for good steamed white rice its always a basic 2:1 water/rice ratio. for a solo meal ill go one half cup of rice to one cup water, add a pinch of salt. bring it to a boil, then put on simmer and cover. I like to stir every 2 minutes for the first 10 minutes, covering after i stir. After 11 minutes turn off the heat and let it sit until the fish times out.
you can also add some veggies if you want, an easy one is corn. just rub some butter on it, salt, pepper, and wrap it in foil. throw it in the oven at 350 for an hour ideally but 30 will suffice if youre in a hurry.
the fish will taste awesome; if it came with skin on the bottom once you take it out of the oven you can scrape it off with a butter knife. It will come off very easily. If you like hotsauce pour some sirracha on the rice. there are studies showing that fish rich diets help fight against depression. Im not sure if Im getting placebo effects but on the weeks I eat fish, I usually do feel super happy haha.
pm me if you want more recipes. I have some killer carne asada recipes, as well as some chinese dishes, sushi, italian, homemade pizza, mexican dishes, etc...
-------------------- notapillow said: "you are going about this endeavor all wrong. clear your mind of useless fear and concern. buy the ticket, take the ride, and all that.... " ChrisWho said: "It's all about the journey, not the destination."
Edited by ManianFH (10/19/13 12:56 AM)
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: ManianFH]
#18998195 - 10/19/13 12:56 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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If you get a crock pot make sure you get the plastic crock pot liners.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Mush4Brains]
#18998202 - 10/19/13 01:01 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Another thing that is nice is a water boiler, you put in water and 3 minutes later its boiling, awesome.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: ManianFH]
#18998204 - 10/19/13 01:02 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mick said: definitely reach out to some people, close family members, friends. I like to meet up with my friends every sunday and sometimes thursday for football, if youre into that. Its a good opportunity for us to see each other and socialize. totally important. I also really enjoy/ed taking bike rides by myself, hitting the gym, and just treating myself to cool shit that i like, such as going to the moves, bookstore, etc... Cooking is a must know!!! It will become a passion once you really get into the habit. Eventually youll be the pro that everyone knows cooks awesome food hehe.
heres a few meals that could jazz up your cooking repertoire. I usually make these depending on what im feeling every monday when I go shopping.
Breakfast: Bananas, apples, oats (that big cardboard can of it), peanut butter. In the morning boil half a cup of water, then add half a cup of oats. put on simmer and cook for 3-4 minutes, stirring here and there. Cut up apples or bananas depending on how youre feeling. Add a spoon of peanut butter to the oats, then dish it, add your fruit.
lunch I usually will buy a loaf of bread and alternate between:
1. egg salad sandwich: hardboil two eggs, chop up with one of these, mix a spoonful of mayo, salt/pepper to taste
2. tuna sammy: tuna, spoon of mayo, salt/pper
3. avocado sammy: cut up and skin an avocado into quarters, salt and pepper to taste. toast your bread.
Quick tip, so you dont get your bread all mushy, Keep the bread and wet stuff separate in plastic ziplock bags until lunchtime. ill also buy like a 20 pack of sunchips every 3 weeks or so and take one with me to lunch every day, along with a piece of fruit.
Dinner:
ok what youll need for this are your basics: unsalted butter, salt, pepper, cayenne, tin foil, soy sauce, sirracha, tapatio, white rice
30 minute salmon + rice: preheat your oven to 3fiddy. put your salmon down on a large piece of foil that will be able to wrap it up. get a stick of cold butter and shave off very thin flakes. place them on top of the salmon, 3-5 thin flakes will do. sprinkle a bit of salt and cayenne on top ot it and wrap it up. place it on a baking pan to catch any butter that melts out. put it in the oven for 30 minutes and start your rice.
for good steamed white rice its always a basic 2:1 water/rice ratio. for a solo meal ill go one half cup of rice to one cup water, add a pinch of salt. bring it to a boil, then put on simmer and cover. I like to stir every 2 minutes for the first 10 minutes, covering after i stir. After 11 minutes turn off the heat and let it sit until the fish times out.
you can also add some veggies if you want, an easy one is corn. just rub some butter on it, salt, pepper, and wrap it in foil. throw it in the oven at 350 for an hour ideally but 30 will suffice if youre in a hurry.
the fish will taste awesome; if it came with skin on the bottom once you take it out of the oven you can scrape it off with a butter knife. It will come off very easily. If you like hotsauce pour some sirracha on the rice. there are studies showing that fish rich diets help fight against depression. Im not sure if Im getting placebo effects but on the weeks I eat fish, I usually do feel super happy haha.
pm me if you want more recipes. I have some killer carne asada recipes, as well as some chinese dishes, sushi, italian, homemade pizza, mexican dishes, etc...
Thanks for this, I feel like I will have to look back at all your ideas when I get hungry again
Reading about the salmon and egg sandwich idea actually got me happy thinking how easy it could be for me to not starve and get my cookin on
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998252 - 10/19/13 01:17 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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oh dude totally! almost any delicious meal can be made in an hour or less. watch some good eats if you ever get a chance. Alton Brown got me into cooking with his kinda geeky scientific approach hehe
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: ManianFH]
#18998254 - 10/19/13 01:18 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Alton Brown taught me to mix blue cheese and chocolate. Shit is delish.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998261 - 10/19/13 01:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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bearlion said: what do people eat on a regular basis? any one recommend a simple eating plan for a newly single guy?
If I was single I would be eating fruit for breakfast, yogurt for lunch, a good sammich for dinner with vagina for dessert. You are single dude, what is stopping you from trying to fuck every piece of ass you talk to? Grow a pair of balls dude.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: fapjack]
#18998269 - 10/19/13 01:24 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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fapjack said:
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bearlion said: what do people eat on a regular basis? any one recommend a simple eating plan for a newly single guy?
If I was single I would be eating fruit for breakfast, yogurt for lunch, a good sammich for dinner with vagina for dessert. You are single dude, what is stopping you from trying to fuck every piece of ass you talk to? Grow a pair of balls dude.
haha well said
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998279 - 10/19/13 01:29 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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you just got rid of a vagina..i believe what you want is poosy
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: zZZz]
#18998281 - 10/19/13 01:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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zZZz said: you just got rid of a vagina..i believe what you want is poosy 
a sex change?
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: SiElDiablo] 1
#18998288 - 10/19/13 01:32 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Op invest in a fleshlight if pussy is not an option for you right now
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Legend]
#18998300 - 10/19/13 01:36 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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haha as a pimp once said, theze hoz love throwin pussy at me
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998304 - 10/19/13 01:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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then enjoy rubbing your member on the inside of those vaginal walls.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998375 - 10/19/13 02:22 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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bearlion said: Any advice on being happy single and being successful and getting through this? (besides learning to cook on a regular basis which might be a topic on its own lol)

Watch every single episode of "Who the (Bleep) Did I Marry?" They are based on real stories of people who got married. It will make you happy about being single lol.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Crystal G]
#18998386 - 10/19/13 02:31 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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marriage isn't all that bad. it is a beautiful ceremony between two mature individuals who found true love. at least that's what it should be about... those who end up divorcing in such a short period of time just weren't ready, or jumped on the wagon too soon. peeps be giving the rest of the peeps a bad name.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: zZZz]
#18998390 - 10/19/13 02:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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It has been scientifically demonstrated that marriage deteriorates relationships.
This is because married people feel a lot more secure thus becoming more relaxed about their relationship which often leads to neglect, cheating, abuse etc.
So yeah fuck marriage and all its associated bullshit.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998397 - 10/19/13 02:36 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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marriage is but a peace of paper now adays, but i wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life with the same chick.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Legend]
#18998401 - 10/19/13 02:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yes but you don't have to marry her.
As I said marriage is the cancer in a good relationship. Avoid at all cost.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Legend]
#18998409 - 10/19/13 02:40 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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well, if you think about it it's more than just a piece of paper. it is also a vow that we make. not just to ourselves, but also to everyone who is there to witness. this includes to
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: zZZz]
#18998416 - 10/19/13 02:45 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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What a crock of shit
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998422 - 10/19/13 02:51 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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not at all.
example:
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I, ____, take you, ____, to be my (husband/wife). I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: zZZz]
#18998427 - 10/19/13 02:53 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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And you truly think this is not stupid?
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998430 - 10/19/13 02:56 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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only if you can't keep a promise. i am not one to call it stupid. what couples decide to do with themselves is none of my business.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#18998433 - 10/19/13 02:59 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Just found out how old you are.
OP, you're a young guy. No offense to women on this board, but when you're in your 20s, they just get in the way. Especially these days with the high divorce rates, unexpected pregnancies, and all the wasted money you spent years trying to save, as I'm sure you are experiencing.
My advice is this:
Give yourself 5-7 years to build yourself a career, learn what you can, save what you can, become what you've always wanted to become, and travel. After you have completed this, I guarantee two things:
1) More sense of self, more independence, more confidence 2) women, but more so, finding a woman that is right for you.
Please don't tell me you have kids.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998445 - 10/19/13 03:10 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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1. A pet - get one, they bring emotional joy  2. Good relations with other people - especially at your job. If you fight with colleagues or people you spend a lot of time with you'll hate your life/occupation. 3. Permanent change in your body image can have permanent effects on your happiness levels
I love this. OP, this is some good advice, as well.
Except for the 4th. You can't make everyone happy, and if you spend too much time caring about other people's happiness, you'll be disappointed frequently and that's something you don't need right now. Before you can help other people, you need to help yourself.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Konichiwaffle]
#18998467 - 10/19/13 03:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Konichiwaffle said: Except for the 4th. You can't make everyone happy, and if you spend too much time caring about other people's happiness, you'll be disappointed frequently and that's something you don't need right now. Before you can help other people, you need to help yourself.
I get what you're saying, trying to make everyone happy is a lost cause. Its not as simple as going out on the street and giving some stranger a bunch of money. Its the little things that make others happy, not even necessary to be of materialistic nature. Sometimes a smile can change someones mood for the better.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998471 - 10/19/13 03:36 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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One of the biggest factors contributing to good mood and happiness is exercise. Them happy molecules get to work when you exercise, unfortunately I don't do enough of that.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: mellowparty]
#18998479 - 10/19/13 03:45 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well, sure.
I guess we can simplify the 4th and just tell OP to not be an asshole. I don't think he is anyway.
Although, when you're depressed or angry, the best thing to do is spread your emotions...such powerful...dark...energy to feast on.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Konichiwaffle]
#18998657 - 10/19/13 06:59 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Shop for: Fleshlight, Hot Sauce, Pressure Cooker
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: fapjack]
#18998786 - 10/19/13 08:37 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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sounds like my friday night
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: fapjack]
#19001845 - 10/19/13 10:19 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Shop for: Fleshlight, Hot Sauce, Pressure Cooker

Recipe for a happy single life
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#19001894 - 10/19/13 10:32 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Sometimes it helps to think about the things that really got on your nerves about a mate to help get over the feelings of what you miss. Time heals as well. I find meditation helps with pretty much everything too including this.
Stay strong dude. Learn to be a happy independent individual. You don't need anyone else to complete you. You are complete.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Dawks]
#19001895 - 10/19/13 10:32 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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My advice is aim for the stars. Work hard and accomplish as much as you can, as fast as you can. Go back to school. Be successful and happy. Research free energy and build space ships.
Another woman will come along to ruin your life in no time at all
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: bearlion]
#19001900 - 10/19/13 10:33 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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bearlion said: Going through a hard divorce and I cant stop feeling like I need a women in my life immediately.
For example I grew accustomed to the meals my wife cooked so now after my divorce I starve around like a zombie lol
Any advice on being happy single and being successful and getting through this? (besides learning to cook on a regular basis which might be a topic on its own lol)

Welcome to hell, I've been single most of my life and I fucking hate it. All I can recommend is that you go out on the prowl for some strange. And buy some microwave dinners.
Sorry to be a downer, but it sucks. I envy people who are able to get comfortable with being single.
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dont cook food. eat fruits and veggies n your all set
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why don't you stop being single then?
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: thelanzii]
#19001981 - 10/19/13 10:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Daily meditation is soo effective IME
'Specially in the morning
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: thelanzii]
#19001991 - 10/19/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Nemmies said: dont cook food. eat fruits and veggies n your all set
No. Fuck that. Eat lots of fruits and veggies, make yourself yogurt smoothies, learn to cook with vegetables, and look into different ethnic cuisines that stray from the meat and potatoes thing.
Cook some motherfucking delicious food. I've done the bare cabinets thing in the past when I was living mainly off of amphetamines and eating out at restaurants a lot, and it sucks and is expensive.
Just equip yourself with some basic cooking skills or a crock pot and you will be set.
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being single aint so bad. you still got friends and family and shit. sex?, who needs it...right BS dildos and fleshlights ftw!
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Dawks]
#19001999 - 10/19/13 10:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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BlindSophist said: Welcome to hell, I've been single most of my life and I fucking hate it.
why don't you stop being single then?
I have standards.
Unfortunately, my standards are at least somewhat, or occasionally, completely irrational and self-defeating.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: pirate-blues]
#19002005 - 10/19/13 11:00 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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anyone try a high ph diet
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: pirate-blues]
#19002007 - 10/19/13 11:00 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Nemmies said: dont cook food. eat fruits and veggies n your all set
No. Fuck that. Eat lots of fruits and veggies, make yourself yogurt smoothies, learn to cook with vegetables, and look into different ethnic cuisines that stray from the meat and potatoes thing.
Cook some motherfucking delicious food. I've done the bare cabinets thing in the past when I was living mainly off of amphetamines and eating out at restaurants a lot, and it sucks and is expensive.
Just equip yourself with some basic cooking skills or a crock pot and you will be set.
simple carbs will give you by far the best energy and will lean you out. not to mention that it is fast food and not the kind that will leave you weighing over three hundred pounds
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what you need is a MAN to take control, an alpha male, such as myself
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BlindSophist said: Welcome to hell, I've been single most of my life and I fucking hate it.
why don't you stop being single then?
I have standards.
Unfortunately, my standards are at least somewhat, or occasionally, completely irrational and self-defeating. 
sounds like a good excuse for one who cant get a girl
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Unfortunately, my standards are at least somewhat, or occasionally, completely irrational and self-defeating. 
Do tell us more. I wanna hear how eccentric your tastes really are
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: zZZz]
#19002028 - 10/19/13 11:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Dawks]
#19002065 - 10/19/13 11:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Dawks said:
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BlindSophist said: I have standards.
Unfortunately, my standards are at least somewhat, or occasionally, completely irrational and self-defeating. 
Do tell us more. I wanna hear how eccentric your tastes really are 
I like fat girls who are intelligent and fit. This only mildly eccentric on its own, but it's further complicated by my gender. The one time in my entire goddamned life I met such a woman who was understanding and appreciative, I was completely unfamiliar with the stakes involved; I behaved aloof, and I took her completely for granted. Then she married some neckbearded nerd and moved to New Hampshire. Then I cried. A lot.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Hobozen]
#19002083 - 10/19/13 11:21 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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The ph's on that scale are bullshit
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: NotTheDevil]
#19002108 - 10/19/13 11:29 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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yeah i figured stress and overwork didn't have ph levels
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: thelanzii]
#19002125 - 10/19/13 11:34 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Nemmies said: dont cook food. eat fruits and veggies n your all set
No. Fuck that. Eat lots of fruits and veggies, make yourself yogurt smoothies, learn to cook with vegetables, and look into different ethnic cuisines that stray from the meat and potatoes thing.
Cook some motherfucking delicious food. I've done the bare cabinets thing in the past when I was living mainly off of amphetamines and eating out at restaurants a lot, and it sucks and is expensive.
Just equip yourself with some basic cooking skills or a crock pot and you will be set.
simple carbs will give you by far the best energy and will lean you out. not to mention that it is fast food and not the kind that will leave you weighing over three hundred pounds
Yah, I know, I eat very healthfully. I also believe in cooking my own food and take pleasure in good food, wine, beer, dark chocolate, carbs. I just believe in moderation, not exceeding the amount of calories required to maintain my weight and following a basic exercise routine. It's working for me so far, and still appeals to the fattie inside . Maybe when I get a little older I'll have to watch it a bit, but so far I'm pretty happy with just exercising moderation.
I do cook with only whole and unrefined ingredients and lot of vegetables and think I eat healthier than the average person, but overall I would say I aim for deliciousness first.
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I've also lived on many a juice fast and still occasionally dive back into it. I say cook good food, drink good beer, and exercise
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: NotTheDevil]
#19002147 - 10/19/13 11:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Distilled water has a pH of 4?
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: pirate-blues]
#19002148 - 10/19/13 11:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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thanks for everyones responses I read them all and meditated on alot, good looking shroomerites!
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: pirate-blues]
#19002157 - 10/19/13 11:44 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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do you. juice fasts will make you gain weight. to each their own though
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: Hobozen]
#19002167 - 10/19/13 11:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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blankk said: anyone try a high ph diet

I'be played with it some. I must say that when I stick to a diet richer in alkalizing foods I tend to notice a tangible improvement in my mood. I also find when I get in a rut of ingesting the more acidifying foods, I will often find myself feeling much more negative and dwelling on silly things and stuff. I'm sold that there's something to it. I can't say anything about the accuracy of the chart though except that it seems mostly correct as far as the types of foods having said effect.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: thelanzii]
#19002170 - 10/19/13 11:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Juice fasts only made me lose weight.
At the end of them I would gain a bit when I started eating again, but then would go back to restricting and fasting. I would say when I wasn't juice fasting I was cycling through days where I'd restrict from 200-600 calories of solid food. I would describe it as total and complete hell.
Actually, I guess it was mainly just an eating disorder .
But yah, I still do juice fast usually for only 24-36 hour periods these days, not for weightloss, obviously though.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: nicechrisman]
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The chart itself doesn't really make any sense. Oranges are not alkaline. I've seen other charts that list lemons as alkaline.
I'm open to the possibility that an acidic or basic food might have paradoxically basic or acidic influences on homeostasis somewhere in the body; however, these charts never have any citations so you have no way of knowing WTF they're talking about. I'm perfectly open to the possibility that it's a farmer's market advertising conspiracy. 
EDIT: scratch that, this chart does corroborate the fact that lemons and limes are the most alkaline thing you can eat.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: nicechrisman]
#19002193 - 10/19/13 11:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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alkaline bodies like alkaline foods
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: pirate-blues]
#19002198 - 10/19/13 11:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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pirate-blues said: Juice fasts only made me lose weight.
At the end of them I would gain a bit when I started eating again, but then would go back to restricting and fasting. I would say when I wasn't juice fasting I was cycling through days where I'd restrict from 200-600 calories of solid food. I would describe it as total and complete hell.
Actually, I guess it was mainly just an eating disorder .
But yah, I still do juice fast usually for only 24-36 hour periods these days, not for weightloss, obviously though.
eating disorders are fucked. look up 801010 if ya feel like it. this is how I feel about fasting. It only makes sense for our bodies to act this way.
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: thelanzii]
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Thanks. I agree with what she said on it being somewhat addictive. I never recommend other people fast, nor do I really try to give advice on weightloss in general aside from moderation because my views are so skewed on it and I know that, and I would never wish what I went through on my worst enemy.
Yeah..the scary thing is sometimes I look back on that period of my life with eerie nostalgia, a part of me almost got a high out of starvation, at one point I was super euphoric and sometimes I only remember that part. I forgot about how I almost didn't graduate highschool because I was too weak to go to school, or even walk down the hallway, get into the shower, and manage to sit down to shower so I didn't pass out. It's literally just like trying to avoid relapsing with drugs.
It's also part of the reason why I only learned to cook in the last year, myself. My whole relationship with food has changed for the better, and it is a constant struggle still trying to maintain fitness without starting to slip slowly back into excessive restriction and eventual starvation - but it's part of the reason why I preach healthy indulgence and training yourself to moderate the indulgence.
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BlindSophist said: The chart itself doesn't really make any sense. Oranges are not alkaline. I've seen other charts that list lemons as alkaline.
I'm open to the possibility that an acidic or basic food might have paradoxically basic or acidic influences on homeostasis somewhere in the body; however, these charts never have any citations so you have no way of knowing WTF they're talking about. I'm perfectly open to the possibility that it's a farmer's market advertising conspiracy. 
EDIT: scratch that, this chart does corroborate the fact that lemons and limes are the most alkaline thing you can eat. 
The part that really shows it is that they list fruit as alkaline and fruit juice as acidic
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what is this thread about again? [Re: NotTheDevil]
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Re: How to be a happy single person [Re: NotTheDevil]
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BlindSophist said: The chart itself doesn't really make any sense. Oranges are not alkaline. I've seen other charts that list lemons as alkaline.
I'm open to the possibility that an acidic or basic food might have paradoxically basic or acidic influences on homeostasis somewhere in the body; however, these charts never have any citations so you have no way of knowing WTF they're talking about. I'm perfectly open to the possibility that it's a farmer's market advertising conspiracy. 
EDIT: scratch that, this chart does corroborate the fact that lemons and limes are the most alkaline thing you can eat. 
The part that really shows it is that they list fruit as alkaline and fruit juice as acidic
Again: can you show or tell me in what way oranges or lemons make the body more alkaline? I said before I'm open to the possibility that they do this, in fact I'm fascinated by the notion. I just want to see the basis for it. Citrus fruits are acidic prior to juicing because they're full of citric acid. I acknowledge the possibility that the metabolism of citrus fruits might alkalize parts of the body, and I would love to see scientific evidence for it-- the kind that would justify the claims made by these charts.
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