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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Repertoire89]
#18982348 - 10/15/13 05:36 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was talking to OP but that is open to anyone. I usually don't show apathy towards people unless I am in a bad mood or already know the b.s. they are about to spiel. I understand though. There are plenty of days where I just want everyone in my way to step aside or disappear forever. I know people really well. Especially my acquaintances. People talk to me and I listen. I know more about some of my acquaintances then they do about themselves so a lot of the time I know every word that is about to come out of their mouth and it can be hard to not be apathetic that situation because it's so predictable. With most people, I have already had this conversation, I know what they are gonna say next, I know their opinion. I can see through a lot of people like rice paper and that can cause major apathy in me when it comes to conversing with them. Its that or I have to put on an act, which I really don't like doing. I generally like hearing what people have to say although it's usually useless bullshit but I'll generally give anyone an intent full chance to hear them out on whatever it is they got.
I completely understand apathetic people. But hate ? maybe op was just throwing the term "hate" around. It's just a strong word and I'm curious if op is being serious and actually thinks he "hates" people. I have heard many people say "I hate people" and usually the people who say this are people who like to do all the talking, very selfish, wont listen to anyone, think they are important etc and claim they "hate people" because it sounds edgy and it's sorta like a shocker ya know ? I remember in high school this was like a fad of some sort. I swear everyone was saying this. Dunno why. I have met a couple people in my day that truly do hate other people. You know them when you come across them lol. Now I'm rambling. Sorry.
Why do you suppose you show much apathy, Repertoire ?
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Repertoire89
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Well I'm not 100% detached but the furthest I really feel for anyone is comradery and the general melancholy.
To make a long story short after traveling a lot and meeting numberless people, I've come to find people to be expendable.
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Repertoire89]
#18982938 - 10/15/13 07:37 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have an impossible time keeping connected with people, even awesome people, but I love cool people. Life just sucks like that.
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Kalypto
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Yogi1]
#18983568 - 10/15/13 09:42 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I literally hate people I cant explain why
I now have like 3-4 people I can stand and who are ok friends
It sucks , As a result I spend almost all my life inside
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Kalypto] 1
#18984336 - 10/16/13 12:36 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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If I may ask OP, in all honesty, do you love yourself? Do you even particularly like yourself?
In my own experience there seems to be a fairly direct correlation between how a person views their own self and how they perceive the world around them.
It isn't about finding friends who have no flaws, those don't exist. It's about finding the ones whose flaws are the least troublesome. Every friend I've ever had possessed some negative quality or another, but they also usually had some really redeeming virtues about them as well.
Take the good with the bad. People are the way they are because that's the way they are. Derp. Seriously though, the more you try and accept people for who they are, the better off YOU will be.
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Kalypto]
#18984349 - 10/16/13 12:40 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Kalypto said: I literally hate people I cant explain why
I now have like 3-4 people I can stand and who are ok friends
It sucks , As a result I spend almost all my life inside
its okay man im the same way, im changing it though, with a little help from well, me.
this world is partially about perception though.. its the game we must play..
as i see my body fat lowering, my addictions kicked though, my motivation raising its hand to get called on, i see people noticing, smiling, being nicer, wanting to be around me, i can't help but feel comfort and replicate. i see my lifes positioning naturally evolving by not thinking and being in the moment of nothingness. one day ill look back and think of what a journey it was, and where i went right instead of wrong.
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Soularize]
#18985336 - 10/16/13 09:23 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Soularize said: If I may ask OP, in all honesty, do you love yourself? Do you even particularly like yourself?
In my own experience there seems to be a fairly direct correlation between how a person views their own self and how they perceive the world around them.
It isn't about finding friends who have no flaws, those don't exist. It's about finding the ones whose flaws are the least troublesome. Every friend I've ever had possessed some negative quality or another, but they also usually had some really redeeming virtues about them as well.
Take the good with the bad. People are the way they are because that's the way they are. Derp. Seriously though, the more you try and accept people for who they are, the better off YOU will be.
Love myself , no not really , I feel society has warped my mind , specifically my sense of self value
Ive always been pretty much the smartest youngest smallest person
Which has got me no where
So Personally I dont love myself cause I always found the better looking older bigger guys were always happier , with more friends and gfs and a group , but thats off topic
As for like myself , Eh sure I guess I dont now that you point it out...
I dont expect perfect friends at all thats completely unreasonable when i myself am so imperfect
I guess I just hope they are chill and intelligent
Im sure that just raised more questions ha
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Kalypto]
#18985871 - 10/16/13 12:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't hate people. In fact I like poeple. But I get really tired from social situations, they exhaust me. While I get lonely I don't tend to miss people much and can easily lose touch with someone even if I know them very well.
The most exhausting social situations are the ones with the catty, bitchy and insulting people. I don't go near them any more and have much more fun on my own.
I like kind, emotional poeple who make an effort to treat others as they would like to be treated and have plenty of time for them. They can be irritating too but who can say about themselves that they are never ever annoying? I'd rather be in their company than be completely lonely, but I need frequent long breaks from them too or I get worn out.
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Eukaryote11]
#18996731 - 10/18/13 06:08 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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When I got back from Afghanistan I had a really hard time feeling attached to anyone or anything. I felt real different and could only see the evil in humanity.
It took alot of soul searching to be okay with myself
Buddha said " No one in the universe deserves your love more than yourself"
So as long as I was okay, my social life got better. I hope this helped, that's my two cents if it ment anything
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Re: I hate people yet hate being alone [Re: Rzhoz]
#18996767 - 10/18/13 06:18 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I prefer being a loner but I do have maybe on one hand the amount of people I really care about.
I've been hurt a lot by people or I was used a lot for who I chilled with. That pissed me off because in my mind it's like if you want these people have them. I care too much so I think I'm a loner more for protection than nature.
Yet, I do love my alone time. As a female this can be difficult enjoying being alone and in a relationship at least my sig other and i have common interests. I don't trust many because to me it's a 2 way street in relationships/friendships.
If a person can reciprocate my friendship awesome, if not I'll survive.
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