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Another Performance Anxiety Thread
#18983340 - 10/15/13 08:45 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Long story short, Ive been single for quite a while, and my porn/masturbating habits increased. About a week ago I noticed I had trouble getting it up on a couple different occasions. So I stopped watching porn, cut back on masturbation (still trying to) and cutback on caffeine (somewhat). Im pretty young and although Im not in the best shape, I dont think my physical condition is having a negative impact. Regardless of cutting back on caffeine and porn, I still have this issue. I can usually get it close to 80% there, but then I just feel like im close to finishing and if I back off I loose my erection. Do you guys think its just a psychological wall I cant get past?
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18983496 - 10/15/13 09:25 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Whats your age? And when you say your not in the best shape how obese are you? As you probably know those are the 2 most important issues when determining ones ability to get it up and keep it up. If it just started happening recently like out of no where think of what you have now that has changed, stress level up? Frequent jerking off? Possibility of you gone gay the past couple of weeks? JK For real though, let us know all that shit
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18983497 - 10/15/13 09:26 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Long story short, Ive been single for quite a while, and my porn/masturbating habits increased. About a week ago I noticed I had trouble getting it up on a couple different occasions. So I stopped watching porn, cut back on masturbation (still trying to) and cutback on caffeine (somewhat). Im pretty young and although Im not in the best shape, I dont think my physical condition is having a negative impact. Regardless of cutting back on caffeine and porn, I still have this issue. I can usually get it close to 80% there, but then I just feel like im close to finishing and if I back off I loose my erection. Do you guys think its just a psychological wall I cant get past?
Sounds like its physiological
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Yogi1]
#18983527 - 10/15/13 09:33 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Too much porn will desensitize you to the real thing, and I'm sure that would really blow. Can't be worth it IMHO. Take a week or 2 off from masturbation and see what happens. Good luck
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Noble]
#18983560 - 10/15/13 09:40 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Exercise dude. It makes a huge difference. Your fapping stamina will improve too lol
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Anonymous #2]
#18984439 - 10/16/13 01:07 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I never had performance anxiety until recently. Picked up a smokin' hot girlfriend, occasionally I just cannot seem to get it up. Either that, or it will just die out of no where during intercourse. Sometimes it won't happen at all but I just can't seem to bust at all (1+ hour in)
At least it is happening with you only when fapping and not when it comes to the real thing.
It's mainly just psychological and anxiety has a lot to do with it, it is only temporary which I have found out over experience (thank god)
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Noble]
#18984452 - 10/16/13 01:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Long story short, Ive been single for quite a while, and my porn/masturbating habits increased. About a week ago I noticed I had trouble getting it up on a couple different occasions. So I stopped watching porn, cut back on masturbation (still trying to) and cutback on caffeine (somewhat). Im pretty young and although Im not in the best shape, I dont think my physical condition is having a negative impact. Regardless of cutting back on caffeine and porn, I still have this issue. I can usually get it close to 80% there, but then I just feel like im close to finishing and if I back off I loose my erection. Do you guys think its just a psychological wall I cant get past?
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Noble said: Too much porn will desensitize you to the real thing, and I'm sure that would really blow. Can't be worth it IMHO. Take a week or 2 off from masturbation and see what happens. Good luck
apparantly it takes somewhere around 3-5 months to rewire your brain entirely to the real deal instead of fantasy..
according to the great porn experiment :
and 'your brain on porn .com'
just saying
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: itchmynipple]
#18984977 - 10/16/13 06:25 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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itchmynipple said:
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Anonymous said: Long story short, Ive been single for quite a while, and my porn/masturbating habits increased. About a week ago I noticed I had trouble getting it up on a couple different occasions. So I stopped watching porn, cut back on masturbation (still trying to) and cutback on caffeine (somewhat). Im pretty young and although Im not in the best shape, I dont think my physical condition is having a negative impact. Regardless of cutting back on caffeine and porn, I still have this issue. I can usually get it close to 80% there, but then I just feel like im close to finishing and if I back off I loose my erection. Do you guys think its just a psychological wall I cant get past?
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Noble said: Too much porn will desensitize you to the real thing, and I'm sure that would really blow. Can't be worth it IMHO. Take a week or 2 off from masturbation and see what happens. Good luck
apparantly it takes somewhere around 3-5 months to rewire your brain entirely to the real deal instead of fantasy..
according to the great porn experiment :
and 'your brain on porn .com'
just saying
That is a bunch of pseudoscience B.S.
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Try sex with a couple beers in ya. Or...they have lots of pills available at the local gas stations. "man-up" is one that my habib friend tells me is popular.
I've had issues like you describe with super hot girls especially. it's simply nervousness getting the best of you.
I found out what worked for me was playing with and licking her downtown lady parts which apparently is a huge turn-on for me. To put it in contrast, if the lady heads "downtown" on me trying to jumpstart things, it doesnt help my nervousness or the issue. Option 3 is ...well, bend her over snd stuff it in limp hahaha No realy though, that's an option that can work...
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itchmynipple said:
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Anonymous said: Long story short, Ive been single for quite a while, and my porn/masturbating habits increased. About a week ago I noticed I had trouble getting it up on a couple different occasions. So I stopped watching porn, cut back on masturbation (still trying to) and cutback on caffeine (somewhat). Im pretty young and although Im not in the best shape, I dont think my physical condition is having a negative impact. Regardless of cutting back on caffeine and porn, I still have this issue. I can usually get it close to 80% there, but then I just feel like im close to finishing and if I back off I loose my erection. Do you guys think its just a psychological wall I cant get past?
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Noble said: Too much porn will desensitize you to the real thing, and I'm sure that would really blow. Can't be worth it IMHO. Take a week or 2 off from masturbation and see what happens. Good luck
apparantly it takes somewhere around 3-5 months to rewire your brain entirely to the real deal instead of fantasy..
according to the great porn experiment :
and 'your brain on porn .com'
just saying
That is a bunch of pseudoscience B.S.
people with agendas like yourself tend to say that...i didnt start to believe it till i saw tons of other studies, some on pyschology today, although thats far from the sole reason i believe in this. its a good thing its workin for me though... i am gay full on and i love it, but my attraction to woman is coming back and its certainly there and building every week consistantly, i swear its like i 'view them literally different!, girls notice it seems and now i have 5 chicks who are constantly flirting with me- and one is sleepin over soon. the way i view them is changing also, they used to give me anxiety and intimidate me all of a sudden in 12th grade, but now i feel confident talkin to people/girls and making eye contact and i see less in a 'observing mode' and im more in a 'in the moment'-'talkative mode'
im also quitting a chronic weed habbit at the same time.
so call it whatever you want man i really dont give a f***, its worked for me and tons of other people. so go ahead, tell me im lying to myself
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: itchmynipple]
#18985674 - 10/16/13 11:17 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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What, exactly, is my agenda 
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i am gay full on and i love it, but my attraction to woman is coming back and its certainly there and building every week consistantly
You do realize that being a gay male means not being sexually attracted to females right? Otherwise it means you are bi, which is entirely possible.
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.i didnt start to believe it till i saw tons of other studies, some on pyschology today, although thats far from the sole reason i believe in this
Would love it if you linked to some peer reviewed studies... Also, while psychology today is a cool site, keep in mind not all of the opinion posts are based on sound science.
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: itchmynipple]
#18985720 - 10/16/13 11:28 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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People with agendas? Ok man  Just because it worked for you doesn't mean it's not pseudoscience bullshit.
....There was a similar affect on my life when I stopped smoking so much weed.
OP: Diet, exercise, blah blah, you know. One thing you should keep in mind is that sometimes your body can just act weird, sometimes it's just not your day. Don't be so quick to label yourself with an issue, especially one that can affect you psychologically. Whiskey dick happens you know. Be good to your body and it'll bounce back. If it's a continuing problem, you probably ought to ask a real medical doctor, not the armchair psychologists of the shroomery. If you're under 30, you should really be able to get off once a day no problem. That said, give it a real rest man. Don't cut back, fucking stop completely for a week- til you wake up in the middle of the night with a rager and can't help but jerk it.
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Lynnch]
#18986130 - 10/16/13 01:18 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Noble said: Whats your age? And when you say your not in the best shape how obese are you? JK For real though, let us know all that shit
Tooo young to be worrying about this haha. And not obese at all.
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Noble said: Too much porn will desensitize you to the real thing, and I'm sure that would really blow. Can't be worth it IMHO. Take a week or 2 off from masturbation and see what happens. Good luck
Thanks. I went cold turkey on porn, so that will no longer be an issue.
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MushyMatt said: At least it is happening with you only when fapping and not when it comes to the real thing.
It's mainly just psychological and anxiety has a lot to do with it, it is only temporary which I have found out over experience (thank god)
Don't sweat it.
Thats because im single hahah. But thanks. Ill just cut back on fapping and see what happens. Id much rather it my a psychological problem. Id rather sort through one of those on my own then have to take pills or some shit.
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OP: Diet, exercise, blah blah, you know. One thing you should keep in mind is that sometimes your body can just act weird, sometimes it's just not your day. Don't be so quick to label yourself with an issue, especially one that can affect you psychologically. If it's a continuing problem, you probably ought to ask a real medical doctor, not the armchair psychologists of the shroomery
Armchair psychologists, I like that haha. You guys are alot cheaper than a real psychologist though, so I come here first
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tymoteusz3 said: What, exactly, is my agenda 
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i am gay full on and i love it, but my attraction to woman is coming back and its certainly there and building every week consistantly
You do realize that being a gay male means not being sexually attracted to females right? Otherwise it means you are bi, which is entirely possible.
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.i didnt start to believe it till i saw tons of other studies, some on pyschology today, although thats far from the sole reason i believe in this
Would love it if you linked to some peer reviewed studies... Also, while psychology today is a cool site, keep in mind not all of the opinion posts are based on sound science.
no you clearly do have a problem of some sort with other peoples truthful and goodwilled conclusions with acceptable experiments. regardless, the outcome of no porn sounds like a good great outcome to me.
if it works for other people, it can work for other people, period. its not a solve all cases by no means, and usually its multiple things tearing down a persons psyche. but by disregarding it as bulshit your just being closeminded. something tells me its because you cannot relate to this at all, just like you cannot relate to a opiate addiction, trauma of a soldier, someone being raped unless you have single handedly experienced these.
in a nutshell, people evolved for physical sex, not to fantasize with a computer screen in one click over and over again on a unrealistic level for even real life sex, no real emotion no human connection, all novelty, over and over again, typical addiction. not all people are addicted though, and not all people are affected the same, just like with every other habbit forming drug/concept you can think of.
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: itchmynipple]
#18986963 - 10/16/13 04:28 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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/thread killed
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Bodhi of Ankou said: /thread killed
RIP Honest Thread, searching for simple answers/input 2013-2013
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19014339 - 10/22/13 03:51 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Update: woke up at like 5am the other morning with wood. Im only saying this because ive read that if you get erections during the night then physically you're pretty much in the clear. Yet, I still can only get it to 80% hard and even that drops to like 60% pretty quickly if I dont do something with it. Must just be some psychological thing that I cant pinpoint. Just gonna cut back on mb'ing and I think ill be alright.
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19016521 - 10/22/13 09:53 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Cut back alltogether for a little while. Youll be rock hard in no time bro, no homo.
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Cut back alltogether for a little while. Youll be rock hard in no time bro, no homo.
Thats the plan, easier said than done though. Well, /end thread I suppose
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Re: Another Performance Anxiety Thread [Re: Anonymous #1]
#19019695 - 10/23/13 02:35 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well, I can definitely confirm that it is only temporary. I have no problems now at all.
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