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Beside the Garden


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Yeah man i hear ya. I meant possessive about let say amber she can and be with whoever cuz we are cool like that and i know who and how she is. Tiff I could share with my boys or another female but if she ran off with them, id be upset. I have never judged a women for promiscuity in fact i find a lot of sluts honest like that. Megan is like me we have an understanding and respect, so i trust her choice in other men and don't ask and i know that she wouldn't ditch me for them without giving me an awareness of her intentions first. Sam can kick rocks and get lost if she looks at another man. Brittney is someone i could have multiple GF with that is also her GF. And so on
These are just fictitious names but kinda what im saying.
really it would be nice to find someone to build a strong bond with that understands me that could be monogamous but we would probably bring others in as sexual food to feed on.
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Re: monogamy [Re: Yogi1]
#18986401 - 10/16/13 02:16 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Mescalean said: You can love and care for someone too. Just not fuck them. Its an easy rule to follow. Automatically whenever i hear a woman argue against monogomy 3 things pop up.
1. Slut 2. Parents were in a fucked relationship 3. Daddy never gave you enough attention.
Loving someone and fucking someone are 2 different things. I love and care for my brother. Last thing I want to do is fuck him.
you can definitely love more than one person... if not dont have kids...
Love does not equal fucking
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psyconaught
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i dont see how people can argue that its impossible to romantically love more than one person at a time. I see no reason why you couldn't. In fact it makes sense biologically
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Yogi1
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zappaisgod said:
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Yogi1 said:
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Mescalean said: You can love and care for someone too. Just not fuck them. Its an easy rule to follow. Automatically whenever i hear a woman argue against monogomy 3 things pop up.
1. Slut 2. Parents were in a fucked relationship 3. Daddy never gave you enough attention.
Loving someone and fucking someone are 2 different things. I love and care for my brother. Last thing I want to do is fuck him.
you can definitely love more than one person... if not dont have kids...
Love does not equal fucking
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Beside the Garden


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psyconaught said: i dont see how people can argue that its impossible to romantically love more than one person at a time. I see no reason why you couldn't. In fact it makes sense biologically
Yup
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Mescalean
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No it doesnt differ for men.
Also you can see plain as day I said fucking and love are different.
If you can't be with one person don't do relationships.
This whole "free love" 70's bs reminds me of an ex of mine. Into yoga and all that bs, thinks shes enlighted, has multiple partners and doesn't believe in monogomy. "Like omggg everyone should just share their love with everyone" thats why youve had the clap 3 times....
In reality shes nothing more than an ex junkie whore who can't keep her legs closed.
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Mescalean said: No it doesnt differ for men.
Also you can see plain as day I said fucking and love are different.
If you can't be with one person don't do relationships.
This whole "free love" 70's bs reminds me of an ex of mine. Into yoga and all that bs, thinks shes enlighted, has multiple partners and doesn't believe in monogomy. "Like omggg everyone should just share their love with everyone" thats why youve had the clap 3 times....
In reality shes nothing more than an ex junkie whore who can't keep her legs closed.
So you're basing your opinion on monogamy/polygamy on a single relationship that went sour
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Re: monogamy [Re: Sheekle]
#18986711 - 10/16/13 03:36 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No based off of the behavior I've seen from people who preach polygamy.
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Re: monogamy [Re: Sheekle] 1
#18986718 - 10/16/13 03:37 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think everyones answers should be followed with "at this time in my life" I pride myself in being a open minded person and my opinions have changed , sometimes radically, because of this. In my 20's and even 30's, I would have agreed with the OP....Now, after finding a woman that I love in every imaginable way, I simply could not fall in love with anyone else because there is no way that I could duplicate what I already have. lol (at this time)  M
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Yogi1
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Mescalean said: If you can't be with one person don't do relationships.
Just because you dated a hoe that didnt love you back you want to tell us there's only one type of relationship... Thats retarded...
I'm going to give you your logic right back,
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baltimark said: I think everyones answers should be followed with "at this time in my life" I pride myself in being a open minded person and my opinions have changed , sometimes radically, because of this. In my 20's and even 30's, I would have agreed with the OP....Now, after finding a woman that I love in every imaginable way, I simply could not fall in love with anyone else because there is no way that I could duplicate what I already have. lol (at this time);) M
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I will never, ever, ever, for as long as I live, agree to be monogamous. I can't imagine a worse curse than to be expected to fuck one person for the rest of my life. I've met quite a few really cool girls that respect that, one of whom I've known for the past 2 years and live with. I think most people would feel a lot better off if they weren't trying to adhere to it, honestly.
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Re: monogamy [Re: TheWiz]
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TheWiz said: I will never, ever, ever, for as long as I live, agree to be monogamous. I can't imagine a worse curse than to be expected to fuck one person for the rest of my life. I've met quite a few really cool girls that respect that, one of whom I've known for the past 2 years and live with. I think most people would feel a lot better off if they weren't trying to adhere to it, honestly.
Sometimes you just want to fuck someone else 
It always made sex with my partner better and more appreciated too.
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Re: monogamy [Re: Yogi1]
#18995224 - 10/18/13 11:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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There are many instances of monogamy in nature, sillies. One particular sexual preference is not more valid than another, so shut that shit down. Our species evolved as a monogamous relationship forming one and that's how it be son. It also doesn't cause people to become jealous and fight, I'd say being jealous and immature causes people to fight. Your monogamy -> fighting is non-sequitor.
"It's not the natural order of things" 
You can change it up if you want, but that doesn't mean anybody else gives a fuck. As miserable as zappa is he's usually right, if you don't want to sign then don't. 
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psyconaught said: i dont see how people can argue that its impossible to romantically love more than one person at a time. I see no reason why you couldn't. In fact it makes sense biologically
Wrong, don't go throwing that shit in there.
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ClockCode said: There are many instances of monogamy in nature, sillies. One particular sexual preference is not more valid than another, so shut that shit down. Our species evolved as a monogamous relationship forming one and that's how it be son. It also doesn't cause people to become jealous and fight, I'd say being jealous and immature causes people to fight. Your monogamy -> fighting is non-sequitor.
"It's not the natural order of things" 
You can change it up if you want, but that doesn't mean anybody else gives a fuck. As miserable as zappa is he's usually right, if you don't want to sign then don't. 
QFT.
If you want to be polyamorous go for it. Personally I don't .
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Yogi1
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ClockCode said: There are many instances of monogamy in nature, sillies. One particular sexual preference is not more valid than another, so shut that shit down. Our species evolved as a monogamous relationship forming one and that's how it be son. It also doesn't cause people to become jealous and fight, I'd say being jealous and immature causes people to fight. Your monogamy -> fighting is non-sequitor.
"It's not the natural order of things" 
You can change it up if you want, but that doesn't mean anybody else gives a fuck. As miserable as zappa is he's usually right, if you don't want to sign then don't. 
QFT.
If you want to be polyamorous go for it. Personally I don't .
Looks like we're in agreement.
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Re: monogamy [Re: Yogi1]
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Wrong, don't go throwing that shit in there.
but it does make sense from a biological standpoint. Not sure why you got butt hurt over my statement, the simple fact is that from a biological and evolutionary standpoint it makes sense to spread your seed as much as possible. i'm not advocating for polygamous relationships because personally it doesnt appeal to me, i just want one girl. the point i was making is pretty much to each his own. You cant knock anyone else having a polygamous relationship because thats what works for them. And if you really want to deny that biologically it makes sense to spread your seed as much as possible then theres no point in having a conversation with someone who blatantly ignores facts and science.
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ClockCode
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Wrong, don't go throwing that shit in there.
but it does make sense from a biological standpoint. Not sure why you got butt hurt over my statement, the simple fact is that from a biological and evolutionary standpoint it makes sense to spread your seed as much as possible. i'm not advocating for polygamous relationships because personally it doesnt appeal to me, i just want one girl. the point i was making is pretty much to each his own. You cant knock anyone else having a polygamous relationship because thats what works for them. And if you really want to deny that biologically it makes sense to spread your seed as much as possible then theres no point in having a conversation with someone who blatantly ignores facts and science.
“The good thing about science is that it's true whether or not you believe in it.” ― Neil deGrasse Tyson
I'm not denying anything biologically, it just seems you're unaware that different organisms have different reproductive strategies. And let's not get all scientifically high and mighty here, you know nothing about me sir.
Strictly limiting the discussion to the animal kingdom, some organisms lay many offspring and give little care to their young. Other organisms have relatively few and give more care to their young. Clearly
Fish and reptiles are on the former side of the spectrum (the r selected species if you go for that, though I think r/K selection is outdated now). Whales, elephants, and shockingly humans belong on the latter end of the spectrum (K). Our young require a LOT of parental care, and simply "spreading your seed" isn't good enough. That's why humans have monogamous relationships, because it tutors their young to be adapted for the social life humans live (and other such).
I'm not saying there haven't been kids raised by polyamorous or polygamous parents, surely there's many well adjusted children with such parents. But a father spreading his seed to many women logically won't have enough time to be good parent and will subsequently have a higher chance of polluting society with poorly adjusted citizens. A lot of parents can't handle even one child.
Humans need parental care is why monogamy works. We're top dog and so we have a stable enough environment to NOT need to spread our seed. In fact at this point spreading our seed would probably lead to an even more dangerous population load.
Or maybe I'm just high.
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Wrong, don't go throwing that shit in there.
but it does make sense from a biological standpoint. Not sure why you got butt hurt over my statement, the simple fact is that from a biological and evolutionary standpoint it makes sense to spread your seed as much as possible. i'm not advocating for polygamous relationships because personally it doesnt appeal to me, i just want one girl. the point i was making is pretty much to each his own. You cant knock anyone else having a polygamous relationship because thats what works for them. And if you really want to deny that biologically it makes sense to spread your seed as much as possible then theres no point in having a conversation with someone who blatantly ignores facts and science.
“The good thing about science is that it's true whether or not you believe in it.” ― Neil deGrasse Tyson
I'm not denying anything biologically, it just seems you're unaware that different organisms have different reproductive strategies. And let's not get all scientifically high and mighty here, you know nothing about me sir.
Strictly limiting the discussion to the animal kingdom, some organisms lay many offspring and give little care to their young. Other organisms have relatively few and give more care to their young. Clearly
Fish and reptiles are on the former side of the spectrum (the r selected species if you go for that, though I think r/K selection is outdated now). Whales, elephants, and shockingly humans belong on the latter end of the spectrum (K). Our young require a LOT of parental care, and simply "spreading your seed" isn't good enough. That's why humans have monogamous relationships, because it tutors their young to be adapted for the social life humans live (and other such).
I'm not saying there haven't been kids raised by polyamorous or polygamous parents, surely there's many well adjusted children with such parents. But a father spreading his seed to many women logically won't have enough time to be good parent and will subsequently have a higher chance of polluting society with poorly adjusted citizens. A lot of parents can't handle even one child.
Humans need parental care is why monogamy works. We're top dog and so we have a stable enough environment to NOT need to spread our seed. In fact at this point spreading our seed would probably lead to an even more dangerous population load.
Or maybe I'm just high.
also we have the ability to have self control and there is this magical thing called your willpower, trust. have fun without fucking eachother. I like to use them/these ideals, it helps me fall asleep at night. nuff said'
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What helps you sleep at night is not rousing your insecure jealousy
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