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Anonymous #1

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    #18982374 - 10/15/13 05:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

the concept of monogamy seems strange to me. neither person wants the other person to have sex with or form any sort of emotional connection with someone else, out of fear that said the partner would "leave" them.

it causes people to get jealous and fight, and often even claim ownership over other people. "That's my girl, dawg".

if you like multiple people deeply, why would you have to leave one for the other. why does society say we should only love one other person? why is it called "cheating", as if loving one another is some sort of game?

I think shutting off the flow of love to anybody is a bad idea. "Oh sorry, I only love _____. I'm not allowed to love or care about you too."

what do you think? I think that's the way it should be, everybody feeling embraced with open arms and being there for each other as one.

the other day our fellow shroomery member g00ru said something that I found potentially thought-provoking to the extent of saving it. tell me what you think
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g00ru said:
putting up walls around yourself is exactly the problem with modern society, creating an emotional ice age. it allows so many unfortunate things to go on unchecked :2cents:




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Re: monogamy [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18982402 - 10/15/13 05:51 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Been thinking about this a lot lately. Its not the natural order of things but what can you do?

I'm in a long-term exclusive relationship, but lately have found myself falling in love with another woman (love, not lust... well both actually but the love part is the important one) and I'm fairly sure its mutual. But with all the societal expectations of what a relationship should be, it feels like even talking honestly and openly with this other woman would be considered cheating by my partner.

sigh...


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Re: monogamy [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18982507 - 10/15/13 06:14 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I agree OP.


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Re: monogamy [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
    #18982903 - 10/15/13 07:31 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

My 2cents... Monogamy exists because it is the least complicated form of relationships. Polygamy is the most complicated and isnt my cup of tea.

I suggest you get a casual partner and try swinging. My perfect relationship would be polyamorous though with a primary relationship and a secondary relationship.

Check this out. poly


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Re: monogamy [Re: Yogi1]
    #18982958 - 10/15/13 07:40 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I like monogamy.


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Re: monogamy [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18982995 - 10/15/13 07:46 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

It's a contract.  If you don't like it don't sign on.  My contracts are none of your business and your contracts are none of my business.  I would be hard pressed to find a reason why I should give a shit about what anybody else thinks about my sexual agreements and especially not barely legal tyros.  I can assure you that I do not give one millionth of a shit about your relationship arrangements.  Mind your own fucking business.


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Re: monogamy [Re: zappaisgod] * 2
    #18983005 - 10/15/13 07:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

:tard:


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Re: monogamy [Re: Yogi1]
    #18983041 - 10/15/13 07:53 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

You can love and care for someone too. Just not fuck them. Its an easy rule to follow. Automatically whenever i hear a woman argue against monogomy 3 things pop up.

1. Slut
2. Parents were in a fucked relationship
3. Daddy never gave you enough attention.

Loving someone and fucking someone are 2 different things. I love and care for my brother. Last thing I want to do is fuck him.


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Re: monogamy [Re: Mescalean]
    #18983133 - 10/15/13 08:09 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Mescalean said:
You can love and care for someone too. Just not fuck them. Its an easy rule to follow. Automatically whenever i hear a woman argue against monogomy 3 things pop up.

1. Slut
2. Parents were in a fucked relationship
3. Daddy never gave you enough attention.

Loving someone and fucking someone are 2 different things. I love and care for my brother. Last thing I want to do is fuck him.





:facepalm: you can definitely love more than one person... if not dont have kids...


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Re: monogamy [Re: Mescalean] * 1
    #18983748 - 10/15/13 10:25 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Mescalean said:
You can love and care for someone too. Just not fuck them. Its an easy rule to follow. Automatically whenever i hear a woman argue against monogomy 3 things pop up.

1. Slut
2. Parents were in a fucked relationship
3. Daddy never gave you enough attention.

Loving someone and fucking someone are 2 different things. I love and care for my brother. Last thing I want to do is fuck him.



But it's different if you hear a man say it?  :facepalm:


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Re: monogamy [Re: Anonymous #2]
    #18984320 - 10/16/13 12:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Lol, it honestly just depends on how meaningful you want your relationship to be.

if you have two relationships your dividing the 'strength and effort' because your spending 10 minutes here, and ten minutes there, i dont see this lasting. you will choose one over the other, and it will probably be for sexual reasons. what happens at family functions? you bring all three?

also forget about having kids, i wouldn't my kids being traumatized either. a family and a home, 1 wife, 1 husband, OR  1 wife and 1 wife, OR 1 husband and 1 husband are the proper setting...


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Re: monogamy [Re: itchmynipple]
    #18984335 - 10/16/13 12:36 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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what happens at family functions? you bring all three?

also forget about having kids, i wouldn't my kids being traumatized either. a family and a home, 1 wife, 1 husband, OR  1 wife and 1 wife, OR 1 husband and 1 husband are the proper setting...




Can't really comment on the first part of your post, you might be right, but the above seems like you're just appealing to tradition. 
What would be traumatizing about your parents having multiple healthy relationships?


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Re: monogamy [Re: itchmynipple]
    #18984366 - 10/16/13 12:44 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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itchmynipple said:
also forget about having kids, i wouldn't my kids being traumatized either. a family and a home, 1 wife, 1 husband, OR  1 wife and 1 wife, OR 1 husband and 1 husband are the proper setting...



The "proper setting"?  Who the fuck do you think you are to decide the "proper setting" for everyone on this planet?  It's fine to have an opinion, but this sure doesn't sound like one.


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Re: monogamy [Re: Sleepwalker]
    #18984400 - 10/16/13 12:54 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Sleepwalker said:
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itchmynipple said:
what happens at family functions? you bring all three?

also forget about having kids, i wouldn't my kids being traumatized either. a family and a home, 1 wife, 1 husband, OR  1 wife and 1 wife, OR 1 husband and 1 husband are the proper setting...




Can't really comment on the first part of your post, you might be right, but the above seems like you're just appealing to tradition. 
What would be traumatizing about your parents having multiple healthy relationships?




appealing to traditions because it works. its my personal comfort zone, from what ive seen with friends whose parents lasted.. why change it? this is me were talking about right now, maybe its different for you, (no attitude)

I dont think it would be cool for a kid to grow up confusing mommy and for lack of better term, daddys legal affair. he gets into a fight with his real mom and decides he likes daddys other lover better.. stuff like this can play with a kids mind... i would know, i grew up similiarly... even with step-moms step-dads, sometimes it messes with these kids heads, in my case it did, i had a shitty ass mother who left, i had a step mom who i accepted as a replacement but when that ended i had nothing again, its just a cycle. i think a good home is what a kid needs unless you manage to keep everything under wraps and his thoughts away from what you are doing behind closed doors.. just my opinion...


but i forgot to add with he family functions... if two guys are sharing the same woman, which function/event does she go to? and vice versa.. does she divide this too? in other words she will pick and choose which one she likes better, n maybe next time go with the other person next time, but when that time comes, she most likely will choose which or whoever she likes more at the time


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Re: monogamy [Re: pwnasaurus]
    #18984415 - 10/16/13 12:57 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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itchmynipple said:
also forget about having kids, i wouldn't my kids being traumatized either. a family and a home, 1 wife, 1 husband, OR  1 wife and 1 wife, OR 1 husband and 1 husband are the proper setting...



The "proper setting"?  Who the fuck do you think you are to decide the "proper setting" for everyone on this planet?  It's fine to have an opinion, but this sure doesn't sound like one.





also to pwnasaurus, please, just ignore my comments/views, its everytime with you 'who the fuck are you' or some shit, its like really dude? I just dont want to hear it anymore. maybe its because you like to play spellcheck police on minor shit, or maybe your a serial comment killer, either way, its whack dawg


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Re: monogamy [Re: Yogi1]
    #18984420 - 10/16/13 01:01 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Yogi1 said:
My 2cents... Monogamy exists because it is the least complicated form of relationships. Polygamy is the most complicated and isnt my cup of tea.

I suggest you get a casual partner and try swinging. My perfect relationship would be polyamorous though with a primary relationship and a secondary relationship.

Check this out. poly




for some reason its the people i dont care about much that i would enjoy a swinger relationship with... maybe im just conditioned or the jealous type, who knows..  i just would rather me and my female companion to focus on eachother and keep building.. its these ideals that i accept, even if they were here before me it doesn't mean i'm not aware and conscious of other paths, ill watch from afar ;]

ive seen good relationships and bad ones.. the bad ones make relationships seem fuckin horrendous and pointless... but the good ones being rare, seem all the more worth it...


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Re: monogamy [Re: itchmynipple]
    #18984454 - 10/16/13 01:11 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I feel simalar to OP. See different people bring different sides out of me you know, my sexuality is all over the place and it would be limiting to "contract" with one person but this is how most are and compromises are made.

Different people bring out different levels possessiveness also.


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Re: monogamy [Re: Beside the Garden]
    #18984463 - 10/16/13 01:13 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Beside the Garden said:
I feel simalar to OP. See different people bring different sides out of me you know, my sexuality is all over the place and it would be limiting to "contract" with one person but this is how most are and compromises are made.

Different people bring out different levels possessiveness also.




'it seems the less possessive i am, the more i am wanted and vice versa'


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Re: monogamy [Re: itchmynipple]
    #18984478 - 10/16/13 01:18 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

On a whole or with the person your with?


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Re: monogamy [Re: Beside the Garden]
    #18984556 - 10/16/13 01:53 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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On a whole or with the person your with?




i was regarding the person im with.

possessive to others in what aspect? like i wouldn't tell my friend he cant chill with that person, but if it was my friend trying to chill with my ex, i would just drop him instead of trying to pursuade him. with objects im not possessive, it distracts you from true purpose and happiness, in a way. i try to keep things like this seperate as much as possible, sometimes i slip. but on another area of being possessive ill smoke anyone up when the money is around nah mean?


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