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Re: told her i like her [Re: Mrdbrewer] * 2
    #18981928 - 10/15/13 03:54 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)



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Re: told her i like her [Re: Mrdbrewer]
    #18982004 - 10/15/13 04:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Mrdbrewer said:
im actually not sure about my sexuality either omfg im so fucked up i cant even wait and see how things go with her before telling her i like her omfg my dad doesnt believe i have depression omfg my life is just the worst you know i just feel like shit all the fucking time and i just really want to end myself because ill never find anyone and when ever i do get close to someone something inside me ruins it for me because i fuck my life up so much



Hey buddy, mellow out a little. :hug:


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Sheekle]
    #18982029 - 10/15/13 04:17 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

This is why rape should be legal. Then this problem wouldn't exist, unless you were physically impaired instead of mentally.

I kid I kid.


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Chowder963]
    #18982034 - 10/15/13 04:18 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Good for you! That's a hard thing to do. Wait until tomorrow and ask her what she thinks about what you told her yesterday. Its kinda cool she gets a day to think it over. Tell her you think shes beautiful...


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Re: told her i like her [Re: StonedAngel]
    #18982112 - 10/15/13 04:35 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Oh man, you can't just tell a chick you like her then walk off - there needs to be a follow up, like 'do wanna hang out sometime?' or something to that effect (think coffee, movies, lunch, study together etc)

Kinda funny hearing all you younger dudes stressing over meeting women - all you need to do is man up a few times and build your confidence. Once you've got a couple of awkward situations under your belt you'll be able to relax and be yourself. We've all gone through traumatic dates and romantic moments... its an essential part of the learning curve. lol


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Mrdbrewer]
    #18982264 - 10/15/13 05:14 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Mrdbrewer said:
im actually not sure about my sexuality either omfg im so fucked up i cant even wait and see how things go with her before telling her i like her omfg my dad doesnt believe i have depression omfg my life is just the worst you know i just feel like shit all the fucking time and i just really want to end myself because ill never find anyone and when ever i do get close to someone something inside me ruins it for me because i fuck my life up so much




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Re: told her i like her [Re: StonedAngel]
    #18982268 - 10/15/13 05:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Good for you! That's a hard thing to do. Wait until tomorrow and ask her what she thinks about what you told her yesterday. Its kinda cool she gets a day to think it over. Tell her you think shes beautiful...




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Re: told her i like her [Re: AWS]
    #18982542 - 10/15/13 06:24 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Hey guys, whats "the little man in the boat" idk what he is how do i find him


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Mrdbrewer]
    #18982658 - 10/15/13 06:52 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Should have followed my advice in your last thread

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mjmihalov said:
Don't go all creeper on her, just ask her on a date...





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luvdemshrooms said:
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Mrdbrewer said:
It was easy really dunno why i was dreading it so much. But when we finished chemistry today i just told her. Her face looked more confused than anything and well she didnt really say anything so ummm i dont know what to really do




Next time you see her say something along the lines of: "When I approached you the other day I intended to ask you out, but I choked. If you're willing I'd rather forget that happened and start over by actually asking you out this time".




Best advice you're probably going to get.

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Re: told her i like her [Re: Global_Roaming]
    #18982856 - 10/15/13 07:25 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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fapjack said:
Its good to have goals, eventually saying hi turns into having a conversation.  The more you do it the more comfortable you feel talking to females, and eventually you get to the point of showing it to them.




Yeah, goals are nicely structured tools that help you start on the right path. But the anticipation leading up to a goal like that is nerve racking... especially when you're getting closer to it and you start to reconsider actually doing it or not.
 
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Global_Roaming said:
Oh man, you can't just tell a chick you like her then walk off - there needs to be a follow up, like 'do wanna hang out sometime?' or something to that effect (think coffee, movies, lunch, study together etc)

Kinda funny hearing all you younger dudes stressing over meeting women - all you need to do is man up a few times and build your confidence. Once you've got a couple of awkward situations under your belt you'll be able to relax and be yourself. We've all gone through traumatic dates and romantic moments... its an essential part of the learning curve. lol




Though very straight-forward, it does make sense logically if you look at the big picture. Its just those individual moments where its just you and her seem like life or death. I guess you just always have to keep in mind "what do you really have to lose?".

But my question is, what do you build confidence off of?


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Re: told her i like her [Re: LSDreams]
    #18983445 - 10/15/13 09:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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LSDreams said:

Though very straight-forward, it does make sense logically if you look at the big picture. Its just those individual moments where its just you and her seem like life or death. I guess you just always have to keep in mind "what do you really have to lose?".

But my question is, what do you build confidence off of?




Exactly, nothing to lose by trying, in fact its those moments that you'll build on. Lessons learned + understanding that the world won't end if you screw up = confidence next time.

Try this: next time you see a woman/girl who seems interesting for whatever reason, say hi and strike up a conversation. Eg. some girl orders a soy latte at starbucks in front of you, so you casually ask her if soy really tastes the same as milk? don't push the conversation unless she does. Stupid stuff like that is good practice.

Or try this: practice giving women compliments in a non-sexual way. Eg. you're at the supermarket and you make eye contact with the checkout chick while paying - so you tell her in a non-threatening kind way that she has really striking eyes, then wish her a nice day and walk out of there. Again, it will build your confidence for later. Practice with less-attractive women if its easier.


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Chowder963]
    #18983505 - 10/15/13 09:28 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Chowder963 said:
I don't think he should talk to her anymore, unless this girl is a mad loser and ok with how awkward their last encounter was, I'd say she's categorized him I the "weirdo/socially awkward/be nice to out of sympathy" boat.




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Re: told her i like her [Re: Mrdbrewer]
    #18983515 - 10/15/13 09:31 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Mrdbrewer said:
It was easy really dunno why i was dreading it so much. But when we finished chemistry today i just told her. Her face looked more confused than anything and well she didnt really say anything so ummm i dont know what to really do




didnt read the thread, but, with the situation your in now based off of this post, i think you have to leave it for a while to stew over in her brain.

she heard what you said, she knows, now you gotta pull back a bit and see how she reacts. and i think you just have to go with whatever she does or acts next time you see her. pay attention and dont push things in the opposite direction to what she is


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Chowder963]
    #18983598 - 10/15/13 09:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Chowder963 said:
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Chowder963 said:
I don't think he should talk to her anymore, unless this girl is a mad loser and ok with how awkward their last encounter was, I'd say she's categorized him I the "weirdo/socially awkward/be nice to out of sympathy" boat.






that's not very nice chowder


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Sheekle]
    #18983631 - 10/15/13 09:55 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

she now has power over you.  she now does not have to work for your affection.  she probably got bored and is fucking another dude


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Re: told her i like her [Re: NWlight]
    #18983643 - 10/15/13 09:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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NWlight said:
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luvdemshrooms said:
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Mrdbrewer said:
It was easy really dunno why i was dreading it so much. But when we finished chemistry today i just told her. Her face looked more confused than anything and well she didnt really say anything so ummm i dont know what to really do




Next time you see her say something along the lines of: "When I approached you the other day I intended to ask you out, but I choked.




Next day OP says to girl:

Hi, do you want to choke? wait... I meant to ask if I could choke you.

wait, FUCK! can we fuck?  wait... DAMN IT!!! :uhoh:




I lol'd.

OP you deserve some credit for braving it and telling her how you feel. But as has been pointed out, probably wasn't the best route to take the way you approached it.

Oh well. See what happens. If she tried to avoid you then you know you struck out and you may as well wave the white flag at that point. Any persistence after that would start going into creepy territory. If she still wants to talk with ya, then that's probably a good sign. Or at least not a bad one.


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Global_Roaming]
    #18983659 - 10/15/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Global_Roaming said:
Quote:

LSDreams said:

Though very straight-forward, it does make sense logically if you look at the big picture. Its just those individual moments where its just you and her seem like life or death. I guess you just always have to keep in mind "what do you really have to lose?".

But my question is, what do you build confidence off of?




Exactly, nothing to lose by trying, in fact its those moments that you'll build on. Lessons learned + understanding that the world won't end if you screw up = confidence next time.

Try this: next time you see a woman/girl who seems interesting for whatever reason, say hi and strike up a conversation. Eg. some girl orders a soy latte at starbucks in front of you, so you casually ask her if soy really tastes the same as milk? don't push the conversation unless she does. Stupid stuff like that is good practice.

Or try this: practice giving women compliments in a non-sexual way. Eg. you're at the supermarket and you make eye contact with the checkout chick while paying - so you tell her in a non-threatening kind way that she has really striking eyes, then wish her a nice day and walk out of there. Again, it will build your confidence for later. Practice with less-attractive women if its easier.




Thanks for the advice man! All of those suggestions are definitely plausible. I always thought it was only right to concentrate completely on one girl, but i guess that leaves very little room for confidence building.

Youre a good man providing excellent information! :peace: :themoreyouknow:


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Re: told her i like her [Re: LSDreams]
    #18983888 - 10/15/13 10:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Seinfeld has one of my favorite quotes regarding asking out a girl you are friends with.

Jerry's dad asked him why he wasn't dating Elaine. He responds "I don't want to ruin our friendship."

His dad says "What do you need more friends for?"

And the more I thought about it the wiser that seemed. I mean, what is a date other than seeing if a dude wants to hang out, except its understood you want to fuck said dude at some point. I asked a girl out I work with recently and got shot down. Shit ruined my whole day, then I was like w/e. Theres always the next one :shrug:

And I promise that is not coming from somebody who asks girls out all the time. It actually comes from someone who fell in love with a really good friend, then had an awkward like fucking three years of trying to pretend like I didnt love her, then actually not loving her, then not giving a fuck about her, then having feelings rekindled, etc.

What I'm trying to say is, you probably blew it. You for sure came off as a moronic little kid, there is seriously no response to that. Theres not even a place for her to say "I'm not dating right now" or "You just aren't my type," etc. You made a weird statement and her shock and confusion was really the only response.

However, as others have said it was ballsy to tell her that. When I asked that girl out at work it took me like fucking two or three weeks to work up the balls to ask her. Shit is unnerving. But the next time (unless this works out which would be awesome) you will know not to say that and will have a big embarrassment out of the way. Keep on pluggin bro  :headbang:


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Re: told her i like her [Re: bloodsheen]
    #18983953 - 10/15/13 11:11 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

(1) Give her space
(2) Hit her up and become active friends again
(3) Use this girl as your wing woman
(4) ??????
(5) Profit

Girls seriously make the BEST wingwomen.  Girls trust other girls.  It's a fact of life and has gotten me laid countless times.


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Re: told her i like her [Re: Sheekle]
    #18984438 - 10/16/13 01:07 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Sheekle said:
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Chowder963 said:
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Chowder963 said:
I don't think he should talk to her anymore, unless this girl is a mad loser and ok with how awkward their last encounter was, I'd say she's categorized him I the "weirdo/socially awkward/be nice to out of sympathy" boat.






that's not very nice chowder




Its not even true.  A lot of girls like socially awkward guys, it depends the person.  1 misstep with anyone isn't as big of a deal as people often make it out to be in their heads, people are pretty forgiving and it wasn't a big deal to begin with.  Maybe if you are like 20 or under and the chick is a bitch it matters.


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