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highc
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starting to worry i might not have kids
#18975523 - 10/14/13 07:12 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Turned 26 in august and planned on having my first kid by the time I was 30. Current have no girlfriend or anyone I'm even interested in. Everything happens for a reason but if my mushies are the only babies I ever have that's gonna be super gay. I can't just knock up some chick I haven't known too long. Not my style. I will not adopt. A minor pre mid life crisis. Its hard for me to even meet a suitable girl. I'm what a lot of people refer to as "pretty boy". Its not difficult for me to find someone. But someone who shares common interests is another story. It seems if I don't pick up a girl from a rave or festival then I'm shit out of luck. I've only met 1 girl out and about who liked to trip. I def won't change for anyone either. I am who I am and I know there are girls out there that like the same stuff. So why settle. But I guess in the same sentence if I'm planning on a child I really don't think I should be indulging in my fancies as much as I do now or at all. Man life sure is a trip.
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: highc]
#18975531 - 10/14/13 07:15 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Right now in my life I hope I never have kids, and I'm a year younger than you.
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Patlal
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: highc]
#18975533 - 10/14/13 07:16 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Man, you gotta stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Your a guy, you have no biological clock. It's never too late for you to have kids.
It's cool to have a life plan, but you gotta accept that life will never be how you planned it. Just give time, you still have 4 years until you are 30 you never know what can happen.
It'll happen when it happens.
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: highc]
#18975538 - 10/14/13 07:17 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Why do you want a kid? Why before 30 specifically? Why wouldn't you adopt?
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: Patlal]
#18975543 - 10/14/13 07:19 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: Man, you gotta stop putting so much pressure on yourself. Your a guy, you have no biological clock. It's never too late for you to have kids.
Yeah it's women who have the strict biological clock for this, and even they are fine well into their 30s.
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Stromrider
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: highc]
#18975545 - 10/14/13 07:19 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You certainly can't force things like this. You just have to let it happen. I can tell you that you'll probably never find a suitable girl to spend your life with and have children with in a bar or at a music festival.
Don't give up. You're still very young. You got plenty of time to find a nice girl and start a family. my friend
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: highc]
#18975552 - 10/14/13 07:25 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I was 35 when my first was born
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: Prisoner#1]
#18975553 - 10/14/13 07:26 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Well one advantage of having kids early in life is that you get to be young with your kids and can relate to them a little better. Also you're not too old and give out to have some fun with them
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: KremrBigSikter]
#18975563 - 10/14/13 07:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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33 sounds like a decent age. Idaho would be a great place to raise kids too. Its quite, conservative, and next to washington state
Im 32, and I could have had kids in my mid 20's. I'm not responsible enough, selfish, and didn't feel I could provide a quality life for em'. Not to mention passing on my genetics of addiction. Thats the major factor for me, I dont want to pass this defective brain chemistry onto anyone. When my folks pass (their lifestyle is very unhealthy, chronic alcoholics, cancer, etc). I will be all alone. No one else to disappoint.
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highc
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: Stromrider]
#18975578 - 10/14/13 07:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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KremrBigSikter said: Why do you want a kid? Why before 30 specifically? Why wouldn't you adopt?
I want one just for that experience. To pass my seed on. I'd prefer before 30 or around then because I don't want to be too old when y kid grew up. Like I'd hate to be going on 60 when he or she was able to drink. And no adoption because I def want one of my own blood. Maybe later on I'd consider it.
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Stromrider said: You certainly can't force things like this. You just have to let it happen. I can tell you that you'll probably never find a suitable girl to spend your life with and have children with in a bar or at a music festival.
Don't give up. You're still very young. You got plenty of time to find a nice girl and start a family. my friend
Thanks for the luck. I kind of have to disagree about not finding a suitable female at a festival. I actually never been to a bar in my life. Lol. But from my perspective if I were to agree with that I must assume that myself wouldn't be a suitable find for a female at a place like that. You just don't happen to run into too many people at your local wak mart who are down to smoke and discuss DMT trips and things of that nature.
But Yea you guys r right. No need to rush. Maybe I'll bump this thread in 5 years. Lol
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: Stromrider] 1
#18975588 - 10/14/13 07:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Stromrider said: Well one advantage of having kids early in life is that you get to be young with your kids and can relate to them a little better. Also you're not too old and give out to have some fun with them
lol... I'm the guy that plays on the playground with my kids while the 20 something dads are busy with their smart phones, my kids and I went camping and caving last month and we'll be doing it again when I get a few extra days off this month
being 45 doesnt make me some old guy, giving up on living would, seems a lot of the 20 somethings have given up on living now that they're fathers
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: Prisoner#1]
#18975593 - 10/14/13 07:46 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Prisoner#1 said:
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Stromrider said: Well one advantage of having kids early in life is that you get to be young with your kids and can relate to them a little better. Also you're not too old and give out to have some fun with them
lol... I'm the guy that plays on the playground with my kids while the 20 something dads are busy with their smart phones, my kids and I went camping and caving last month and we'll be doing it again when I get a few extra days off this month
being 45 doesnt make me some old guy, giving up on living would, seems a lot of the 20 somethings have given up on living now that they're fathers
Very true
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Re: starting to worry i might not have kids [Re: highc] 1
#18975602 - 10/14/13 07:49 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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highc said: Turned 26 in august and planned on having my first kid by the time I was 30...
Shit dude, I would have sold you one of mine, but they're all older than you...
Grand kids are where it's at. Ya just give 'em back when you're done playing with them... . . .
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