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Is loneliness just for boring people?
#18970806 - 10/13/13 01:12 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I only have family and a small group of friends who are a bit outside of my demographic but we chill nonetheless. Most of my time is in solitude. Lately, I've found the more interests I have, the more alive I am, ... the loneliness abates, life is profound and my creation.
Eventually I will get more friends, but can it be said loneliness is just for boring people?
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: circastes]
#18970852 - 10/13/13 01:37 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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A person can be lonely and be surrounded by people who find that person interesting at the same time. A break up is a perfect example. People often experience loneliness after a breakup with a significant other, regardless of how interesting they are.
In most situations however, I would say loneliness stems from laziness and insecurity.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Ram Dass] 2
#18970885 - 10/13/13 02:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I love solitude but I'd hate to be alone ALL the time. I did that for a few years and looking back, I was lonely but never really realized it. It's healthy to socialize, more so face to face, this texting and shit has caused people to be boring as fuck...
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: circastes]
#18971317 - 10/13/13 07:46 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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no loneliness is for cool people like me
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: circastes] 1
#18975063 - 10/14/13 02:31 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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circastes said:
Lately, I've found the more interests I have, the more alive I am, ... the loneliness abates, life is profound and my creation.
That'll fade in time and you'll be lonely again, that's the human condition. There's a balance between personal interests and social interests, in the end though no amount of balancing will cure the innate bitterness of life.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18975165 - 10/14/13 03:46 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18975427 - 10/14/13 06:19 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lately, I've found the more interests I have, the more alive I am, ... the loneliness abates, life is profound and my creation.
That'll fade in time and you'll be lonely again, that's the human condition. There's a balance between personal interests and social interests, in the end though no amount of balancing will cure the innate bitterness of life.

Except certain drugs.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Icelander]
#18975584 - 10/14/13 07:41 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18975594 - 10/14/13 07:46 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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The general drama
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: circastes] 1
#18975600 - 10/14/13 07:48 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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but can it be said loneliness is just for boring people?
Those that are lonely perhaps due to strained relationships and mental hardships could be some of the most interesting people that you might meet. They could be far from boring due to what they've been experiencing and reflecting on and coming to terms with. And of course it depends on who's eyes you're looking through when you use a word like boring... Boring how? Boring to whom? Boring...??
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Icelander]
#18975606 - 10/14/13 07:50 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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The general drama
Was going to go with Mozart but figured Son House could get the idea across better, can still remember the first time I saw that performance
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: FishOilTheKid]
#18975676 - 10/14/13 08:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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but can it be said loneliness is just for boring people?
Those that are lonely perhaps due to strained relationships and mental hardships could be some of the most interesting people that you might meet. They could be far from boring due to what they've been experiencing and reflecting on and coming to terms with. And of course it depends on who's eyes you're looking through when you use a word like boring... Boring how? Boring to whom? Boring...??

Most people don't want interesting in my experience. It's way too challenging. They leave many interesting people to go it alone.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Icelander]
#18975723 - 10/14/13 08:41 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Very true, as Hunter S Thompson said if you're going to be crazy you'd better make a living out of it. Otherwise its pure ostracism
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: circastes]
#18975825 - 10/14/13 09:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Loneliness is for all people I think...Probably most animals in general. There's a difference between loneliness and aloneness though.
Edited by cez (10/14/13 09:42 AM)
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: circastes]
#18976748 - 10/14/13 01:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ram Dass said:
In most situations however, I would say loneliness stems from laziness and insecurity.
I think this is a big part of it, mainly the insecurity and all its tag along emotions. That is when you start to question your own motive's and analyzing yourself to the point of distraction in which you may find your self longing for something either in the past or future (whats not there) by this point you have tipped the scales from being alone to lonely.
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Lately, I've found the more interests I have, the more alive I am, ... the loneliness abates, life is profound and my creation.
That'll fade in time and you'll be lonely again, that's the human condition. There's a balance between personal interests and social interests, in the end though no amount of balancing will cure the innate bitterness of life.

IMO balance is the key and can cure innate bitterness. This being said i am drawing a distinction between being balanced and practicing balancing. What I'm saying is one does not simply become balanced over night , it's a process a long one fueled by trial and error. With the right discipline , knowledge and practices I think it is possible for a balanced individual to exist just not probable.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Withinity]
#18976787 - 10/14/13 02:05 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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IMO balance is the key and can cure innate bitterness. This being said i am drawing a distinction between being balanced and practicing balancing. What I'm saying is one does not simply become balanced over night , it's a process a long one at that which most of us never see the likes of but not an impossibility. With the right discipline , knowledge and practices I think it is possible for a balanced individual to exist just not probable.
Its all distraction in my opinion, from meditation to conversation. We need various stimuli to keep ourselves distracted as we get used to each new habit, so in time we begin rotating and balancing various distractions. At some point or another if someone actually wants to be distracted all the time, they'll make mistakes or mistakes will be made for them and they'll have to face the bitterness of life.
Personally I've found over time that I prefer to face the bitterness at some point, it gets put off but at some points it feels good in a way to acknowledge it. Maybe that was one of the goals of meditation, I got so tired of trying to control my mind I gave up and found that I didn't need the control just living in the moment has become much more satisfying than mentally reinterpreting my perception of the moment.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? *DELETED* [Re: Repertoire89]
#18976915 - 10/14/13 02:39 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18976920 - 10/14/13 02:40 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I agree most of the shit we do merely serves as a distraction though I think something else can be found amongst those distractions in moments particularly where the whole aspect of 'Flow' is concerned. Distracted from a distraction?
We all have to face the bitterness at some point I don't contest that, but IMO the effect it has on us can is the variable and we can grow accustomed to it when faced on the frequent to the point that we no longer even know what we taste. We may label something as bitter or sweet but in reality it is what it is.
What you don't know wont hurt you but i think that also applies to accepting what you know.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Withinity]
#18976939 - 10/14/13 02:44 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Withinity said: I agree most of the shit we do merely serves as a distraction though I think something else can be found amongst those distractions in moments particularly where the whole aspect of 'Flow' is concerned. Distracted from a distraction?
We all have to face the bitterness at some point I don't contest that, but IMO the effect it has on us can is the variable and we can grow accustomed to it when faced on the frequent to the point that we no longer even know what we taste. We may label something as bitter or sweet but in reality it is what it is.
Yeah distraction isn't everything, or at least I don't think it is. But I think its the trigger behind our actions and what really keeps it going, I've spent enough time blissfully enthralled in various activities to pursue those moments for more than mere distraction. Distracted from distraction indeed
There's always a breaking point somewhere, learning to appreciate the ugly is well worth the experience though. At least it has been for me
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18976961 - 10/14/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Hmmmm some great posts
But
I was sort of being tongue in cheek with my emoticon.
It is my observation and experience that if you can establish well-being you should be able to express unexplored energies and project (at least) these energies into the seeming bitterness of life and cause it to be quite alive itself.
That is, life is pretty good, if you give it a chance. There's lots and lots of happy people out there, really enjoying themselves.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: circastes] 1
#18976993 - 10/14/13 02:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Personally I can only be so happy without people around, given enough time of perpetual solitude I'd likely kill myself.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18976997 - 10/14/13 02:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Right on brother, it was nice getting distracted with you. I must now go pick up my new Guitar.
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Re: Is loneliness just for boring people? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18977010 - 10/14/13 03:03 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Repertoire89 said: Personally I can only be so happy without people around, given enough time of perpetual solitude I'd likely kill myself.
I think very few could endure complete solitude although I think there are a few.
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