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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: fapjack] 1
#18968153 - 10/12/13 12:34 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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fapjack speaks wisdom
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: fapjack] 2
#18968158 - 10/12/13 12:35 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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She wanted for you to BE charming with her, in other words. Sounds like you were given the green light.
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: refried] 2
#18968186 - 10/12/13 12:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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More like the pink light
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: PsilliCoder]
#18968274 - 10/12/13 01:17 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: I've known this girl for a month. She's my classmate and i'm not attracted to her so I keep things platonic and friendly. I have a goofy personality sometimes and I show that side of me to her because i'm not trying to get her in bed. I just tease her and throw some sarcastic jokes at her.
She texts me a lot and invites me to hang out with her a lot so i have some suspicion that she likes me. Anyway, she really pissed me off when I would talk about other girls and joke about showing them my game or turning on my charm, and she would say that I don't strike her as a person with a lot of game, or she's never seen me be charming before. Wtf. That's basically calling me an unattractive guy. I decided to stop talking to her that much after that, I don't need that kind of friend who's putting me down. I already have confidence issues and i'm trying to work on it and I really don't want to be around someone who looks down on me like that.
Am I right or am i being overdefensive?
I don't feel like reading all the replies, so i'm sorry if this has already been brought up...
But your butthurt about her 'supposedly' saying your unattractive..
i'm not attracted to her so I keep things platonic and friendly.
It's okay for you to think that about her but not okay for her to think that about you?
And she's obviously just trying to get your reaction and flirting with you. dshsb or don't. Either way, get over it bro. If she throws off your groove that bad, quit hanging out with her. But don't act like she's being a bad friend and putting her down when you're doing the same to her. Your confidence issues aren't her fault or her problem. A friend isn't there to serve you or baby you.

i can't help that i'm not attracted to her. But i don't say it to her face or point out to her why i'm not attracted to her, because that's mean. So if she finds me unattractive that's fine, but i think it would be really mean to say to my face that i'm unattractive. If she was just flirting then that's another story, but we don't know what's going on in her head so we can only speculate on possible scenarios.
Edited by evenbreak (10/12/13 01:18 PM)
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Sheekle
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: evenbreak]
#18968423 - 10/12/13 01:57 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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zZZz said: it is kinda messed up how everyone ganged up on him tho..not very shroomery like.
lol this
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akira_akuma
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: koraks]
#18968627 - 10/12/13 02:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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zZZz said: it is kinda messed up how everyone ganged up on him tho..not very shroomery like.
Hippie jerk fest is over. The world is a tough place, get over it. If someone fucks up, tell them so they can learn from it.
                 
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: evenbreak] 1
#18968650 - 10/12/13 02:50 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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evenbreak said:
i can't help that i'm not attracted to her. But i don't say it to her face or point out to her why i'm not attracted to her, because that's mean. So if she finds me unattractive that's fine, but i think it would be really mean to say to my face that i'm unattractive. If she was just flirting then that's another story, but we don't know what's going on in her head so we can only speculate on possible scenarios.
God, you're such a pussy. You just don't get it.
It's OK for you to be sarcastic to her, but you can't take it back. You are convinced she finds you unattractive, when the opposite is actually true.
If a male buddy said the same thing to you I'm sure we wouldn't be reading this pathetic thread. You're just butthurt because it came from a girl.
Fact is, you're going to destroy the friendship you have with her because you are so batshit stupid. Here's how I see it playing out: You approach her and tell her how hurt you are, then probe further and further looking for an answer you like from her. She gets increasingly uncomfortable and says some GENUINE bad stuff, and you walk away believing that she felt this all along and you were right - ignoring the fact that you pushed her into a corner. Or, she may be cool with your feeble approach, and drift away because no girl like a guy who's a big wimp, not even as a friend.
You need to do some serious self-reflection, buddy. You might think youre looking at this reasonably, but as recently as your last thread, you are still insisting that it's her problem.
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akira_akuma
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: barong] 2
#18968667 - 10/12/13 02:53 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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when OP tries to re-organize this situation, he's gonna a get a big fat
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evenbreak
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: barong]
#18968687 - 10/12/13 02:58 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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if a male buddy says the same thing i'll still be hurt. Probably not as much, but it says a lot about how he sees me if he thinks i'm a person who has no charm. Actually, no, i'd be just as hurt, if not more. That's pretty fucked up if a guy friend says that to me. I'd be thinking "wtf i thought we were cool?"
I'm not going to confront her with this, i'm not stupid. And I think you're misunderstanding me.
If she was flirting with me, that's cool.
If she genuinely thought i had no charm and she that to me outright, i think that's pretty fucked up.
I don't actually know what she's thinking, so i guess i'll just assume she was trying to joke around with me and let it go.
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akira_akuma
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: evenbreak] 1
#18968697 - 10/12/13 03:01 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: akira_akuma] 1
#18968701 - 10/12/13 03:02 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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OP, I think you're gay dude.
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barong
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: evenbreak]
#18968704 - 10/12/13 03:02 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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evenbreak said: so i guess i'll just assume she was trying to joke around with me and let it go.
Will you, though? Sounds to me like you're not even close to moving on from this great big NON-ISSUE that you have created in your own head.
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Acidic_Sloth
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: Samuel L Jackson]
#18969004 - 10/12/13 04:31 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Samuel L Jackson said:
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Acidic_Sloth said: it's true. what can i say?
I take a small portion of what I said back.
You didn't ban me this time.
Congratulations.
why should i ban you for stating an opinion that happens to be true?
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: Acidic_Sloth]
#18969010 - 10/12/13 04:34 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So you are a full mod now? I thought you were a jr mod without the ability to anything except delete and move threads.
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: fapjack]
#18969024 - 10/12/13 04:38 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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i've been a full mod for almost 7 years.
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: evenbreak]
#18969113 - 10/12/13 05:07 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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No such thing as a platonic relationship. One or the other wants a fuck.
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Sheekle
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: barong]
#18969123 - 10/12/13 05:11 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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barong said:
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evenbreak said:
i can't help that i'm not attracted to her. But i don't say it to her face or point out to her why i'm not attracted to her, because that's mean. So if she finds me unattractive that's fine, but i think it would be really mean to say to my face that i'm unattractive. If she was just flirting then that's another story, but we don't know what's going on in her head so we can only speculate on possible scenarios.
God, you're such a pussy. You just don't get it.
It's OK for you to be sarcastic to her, but you can't take it back. You are convinced she finds you unattractive, when the opposite is actually true.
If a male buddy said the same thing to you I'm sure we wouldn't be reading this pathetic thread. You're just butthurt because it came from a girl.
Fact is, you're going to destroy the friendship you have with her because you are so batshit stupid. Here's how I see it playing out: You approach her and tell her how hurt you are, then probe further and further looking for an answer you like from her. She gets increasingly uncomfortable and says some GENUINE bad stuff, and you walk away believing that she felt this all along and you were right - ignoring the fact that you pushed her into a corner. Or, she may be cool with your feeble approach, and drift away because no girl like a guy who's a big wimp, not even as a friend.
You need to do some serious self-reflection, buddy. You might think youre looking at this reasonably, but as recently as your last thread, you are still insisting that it's her problem.
Somebody woke up on the wrong side of the bed 
What a thread, op makes a post about how his feelings are hurt and the responses he gets are "goddamn you're such a loser" "god, you're such a pussy" "this pathetic thread" "like a guy who's a big wimp" "you're just butthurt"
Maybe when OP makes sarcastic remarks to this girl it's obvious he's being sarcastic and never goes to the extent of deliberatly doing anything that could be hurtful and this girl told him he was unatractive in a matter-of-fact tone without hinting she was just joking around
The point is you don't know the specifics of the situation and the fact that you all feel the need to jump over him for this thread might even suggest that you're the ones being stupid
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: Sheekle]
#18969134 - 10/12/13 05:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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after re-reading the OP it does seem pretty dumb actually lol
i dunno bye
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: Sheekle]
#18969161 - 10/12/13 05:22 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sheekle said: after re-reading the OP it does seem pretty dumb actually lol
Exactly ~! Maybe you should read threads before offering your insightful opinion. The OP is without a doubt, a precious little darling
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Re: Should i be friends with this girl anymore? Need another perspective on this.. [Re: barong]
#18969747 - 10/12/13 08:17 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Jeez OP got ripped apart. Ouch.
Everyone here is 100% right, though. You need to man up and pay more attention to body language and getting the hint. Analyze what they tell you, when you talk to them, it's important to keep a dialogue flowing, and have it be legitimate.
Women are more intuitive creatures than men, by nature. They can usually tell if you're talking to them just to get in their pants....and depending on how you present and carry yourself, they either won't care, go with the flow, and have fun, or they'll be totally in on it, and turned-off. Don't be that dude. What you really need to do, is learn how to communicate with people. Ask yourself if you are the kind of guy you would want to go out with if you were a chick.
if not, improve yourself anyway you can. Look at women as actual people with unique interests, passions, and desires. Hang out with a person that you actually think is super cool, and not just a hot piece of ass. If you're a man that has actual game (and lets face it, you do not), whoever you're hanging out with will see that you're actually cool guy, and chances are, if they wanted to hang out with you in the first place, they're attracted to you and are giving you an opportunity to prove themselves right.
Step one to being an attractive person, learn how to attract your desired audience.
What do you bring to the table as a potential mate? Something you may not want to bullshit yourself with.
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