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Anonymous #1
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mentally dealing w/jail
#18958027 - 10/10/13 05:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Im heading to jail pretty soon. For 30-70 days depending..I'm trying not to agonize over it but I think about it constantly. The jail is totally full. I'll be in a large pod with 12-15 other inmates. Any tips on passing time, should i interact or keep to myself? Have attitude or be submissive? How can I make this as easy as possible and stay positive?
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Anonymous #2
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:ihavenothingtoadd:
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Anonymous #3
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I wouldn't go in with any pre-conceived plan. Just take it as it comes, day by day. Situation by situation.
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Anonymous #4
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I just read this book: What every BODY is saying. http://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294/
Was interesting, it's all about body language, he mentioned prison in a couple of parts:
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As one prison inmate once told me, “In here, it’s all about posture, how we stand, how we look. We can’t look weak, not for one moment.”
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Eyebrow squints can have several different meanings. In order to differentiate among these, you need to assess the degree of the eyebrow movement and the context in which it takes place. For instance, we sometimes lower our eyebrows and squint when being aggressive or confrontational. Likewise, we lower the eyebrows in the face of real or imagined danger or threats. We also do this when we are annoyed, feel displeasure, or are angry. If, however, we drop the eyebrows too low, as may be seen in a very defeated child, it is a universal sign of weakness and insecurity. It is a behavior of obsequiousness, fawning, or submissiveness—consistent with kowtowing or cowering—and may be capitalized upon by social predators, such as psychopaths. In studies, prisoners have reported that when new inmates arrive at jail, they look for this troubled, lowered-eyebrow behavior in the newcomers to reveal which ones are weak and insecure. In your social and business interactions, you can watch for these eyebrow movements to probe for weakness or strength in others.
Good luck bro
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Anonymous #5
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Jail isn't that bad... I wouldn't worry too much about the other inmates, just be yourself. You will find that everybody in there is just like you... Trying too pass the time. Things will go by super slow at first, like unbelievably slow, but after you build a routine the days will go by much faster.
First thing that I would do would be to ask around for what programs you can attend, some may even knock a few days off your sentence depending what state you live in.
Next would be too figure out who people are in your cell, like who doesn't give a fuck and wants too be mister tuff guy, and stay away from those people because when a bunch of dudes are locked in a room together for a long time Shit happens, and you don't want too catch another case or get more time because you got into it with someone who is fucking retarded.
This isn't prison people have Shit too lose, they aren't going too be shanking you for your socks. Plus you won't be in maximum unless you fight and I don't know you case status but you may be put in minimum.
Best of luck
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Anonymous #6
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The nail that sticks out, gets hammered.
Just keep mostly to yourself. Don't go in running your mouth acting like billy bad ass and no one is likely to mess with you. A little respect goes a long way, so be respectful to everyone.
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Anonymous #1
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Anonymous #4 said: I just read this book: What every BODY is saying. http://www.amazon.com/What-Every-BODY-Saying-Speed-Reading/dp/0061438294/
Was interesting, it's all about body language, he mentioned prison in a couple of parts:
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As one prison inmate once told me, “In here, it’s all about posture, how we stand, how we look. We can’t look weak, not for one moment.”
and this
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Eyebrow squints can have several different meanings. In order to differentiate among these, you need to assess the degree of the eyebrow movement and the context in which it takes place. For instance, we sometimes lower our eyebrows and squint when being aggressive or confrontational. Likewise, we lower the eyebrows in the face of real or imagined danger or threats. We also do this when we are annoyed, feel displeasure, or are angry. If, however, we drop the eyebrows too low, as may be seen in a very defeated child, it is a universal sign of weakness and insecurity. It is a behavior of obsequiousness, fawning, or submissiveness—consistent with kowtowing or cowering—and may be capitalized upon by social predators, such as psychopaths. In studies, prisoners have reported that when new inmates arrive at jail, they look for this troubled, lowered-eyebrow behavior in the newcomers to reveal which ones are weak and insecure. In your social and business interactions, you can watch for these eyebrow movements to probe for weakness or strength in others.
Good luck bro 
hmmm... thats really interesting. i'll keep that in mind definitely
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Anonymous #7
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Just be chill & don't act like your a tough guy because there will be that one guy who will call you out on it to see how tough you really are. Jail isn't that bad - like was said above people have things to lose there. Most are awaiting sentencing so they don't wanna cop another charge and do more time. Look after your things because they will get stolen if you don't. The jail I was in was one pod with over 100 guys in it. I didn't talk to very many people and just kept to myself. I was a skinny 120 pound 19 year old who'd never been into a fight and I did fine. just pass the time the best way you know how. also wear your shoes in the shower because that's where people masturbate.
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Anonymous #8
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I spent almost a year in a county jail. It sucked but after I got used to the idea that I couldn't leave I settled in. I was 19 at the time. I ran into a few people I knew so that helped. You know when you will get out so that's good. Be cordial with people but don't get involved in any bullshit. It's just not worth it. If people give you money for commissary don't flaunt it and share with people once in a while. If anybody tries to fight you for whatever reason, you have to fight.
Good luck.
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Anonymous #9
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You're going to jail, not prison. They are two totally different things.
Very few people in jail are actually violent. Except for the odd domestic case. Even then they're violent towards their SO not you. Violent people are usually in prison.
People in jail aren't out to make your life hard. They still have a life.
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Anonymous #8
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That's a generalization and it really depends where you are. There's a lot of gangbangers and crackheads in jail that are institutionalized and just waiting to back to the penitentiary and they don't give a shit. Just saying, there's a lot of shit to deal with, but then I was facing real time and only spent a small amount of time in a dorm setting. Mostly I think it was because I was so young at the time and there's more drama at that age.
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Anonymous #10
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can you bring in any of your own books? if you can i'd bring a book on lucid dreaming. jail would be the perfect time to really get into dream work, ie, dream journal, and have some sweet lucid dreams. and being locked up it would feel so free to lucid dream. and bangin' chicks when lucid is awesome too! just my suggestion.
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Anonymous #11
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Anonymous #1 said: Im heading to jail pretty soon. For 30-70 days depending..I'm trying not to agonize over it but I think about it constantly. The jail is totally full. I'll be in a large pod with 12-15 other inmates. Any tips on passing time, should i interact or keep to myself? Have attitude or be submissive? How can I make this as easy as possible and stay positive?
Think of yourself lucky 
You would be surprise at how many people wished they lived in a "gated community"
YOu don't have to work and all you get to do all days is watch tv and play cards
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Anonymous #7
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Anonymous #9 said: You're going to jail, not prison. They are two totally different things.
Very few people in jail are actually violent. Except for the odd domestic case. Even then they're violent towards their SO not you. Violent people are usually in prison.
People in jail aren't out to make your life hard. They still have a life.
You do realize that jail is where everyone goes BEFORE they are sent to prison, right? They can be in there for anything. The county jail I was in has highest amount of felony arrests in my state, there were definitely some violent people in there.
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Anonymous #12
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Anonymous #11 said:
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Anonymous #1 said: Im heading to jail pretty soon. For 30-70 days depending..I'm trying not to agonize over it but I think about it constantly. The jail is totally full. I'll be in a large pod with 12-15 other inmates. Any tips on passing time, should i interact or keep to myself? Have attitude or be submissive? How can I make this as easy as possible and stay positive?
Think of yourself lucky 
You would be surprise at how many people wished they lived in a "gated community"
YOu don't have to work and all you get to do all days is watch tv and play cards


Bunch of welfare queens, those prisoners are.
I second the guy who quoted his body language book. Keep your chin up OP, don't be afraid to look anybody in the eyes but don't hold contact for too long either, don't slouch your shoulders, and keep your hands out of your pockets (if they have those where you're at).
Don't look weak, don't look aggressive, and you will be fine. Enjoy those shitty bologna sandwiches, and learn texas holdem poker before you go in.
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Anonymous #13
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youll be fine
cant be worst than normal "society", where all land is private, water has a tag price and growing your own food/tobacco without a license is a crime
who is really in jail?
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Anonymous #12
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Anonymous #13 said: youll be fine
cant be worst than normal "society", where all land is private, water has a tag price and growing your own food/tobacco without a license is a crime
who is really in jail?
That's the most retarded thing I've read on here today.
The people who are really in jail are the ones who don't get to pick what food they eat, much less have the option of applying for a license and growing their own, and who get woken up every morning on someone else's schedule. Don't like the concept of private land? Well you would love jail, no land is private at all there! Everyone shares it, and guess what? It. Fucking. Sucks. Water isn't free in jail either, I pay for it with my taxes. I'd say so do you, but your hippie idealism has probably landed you at home with mom and dad, unemployed.
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Anonymous #14
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Anonymous #10 said: can you bring in any of your own books? if you can i'd bring a book on lucid dreaming. jail would be the perfect time to really get into dream work, ie, dream journal, and have some sweet lucid dreams. and being locked up it would feel so free to lucid dream. and bangin' chicks when lucid is awesome too! just my suggestion.
Depends on the jail. Most will not let you bring ANYTHING in with you because of smuggling reasons. However, you might be able to get family members to buy you books and get them mailed to you DIRECTLY from Amazon. Like I said, check the jail's policy before you go.
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Anonymous #13
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As for something to read, you could get an e-eader for books perhaps? or a kindle?
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Anonymous #13
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An ipod or mp3 player with audiobooks is another option too.
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