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OfflineOZA
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Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around
    #18950469 - 10/08/13 04:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I'll call her friend P and my girlfriend S.

Anyway, it's really starting to bug me. P tries to be with S every second of the day. She sleeps in S's dorm room every night, I'll ask S to smoke and P, who of course is always there, invites herself over. I planned a day out with S last weekend and P goes "I'll come!" It's an effort to get S alone unless I say "don't bring P" which at this point only 10 days into this relationship I don't want to do. Although would it be good to say something more nicely put to the same effect?


It's not that I want alone time with S every minute of the day, but it seems like P is with her every waking minute and 90% of the time it's a 2-person package if I want to chill with S. It doesn't help that P loves getting blackout way too much and has gotten S to over drink and end up spending hours on my toilet the past 2 Saturdays

Can I get some advice?


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: OZA]
    #18950525 - 10/08/13 05:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

tell your girlfriend you want hang out only the both of you. dont mention her friend.


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18950546 - 10/08/13 05:11 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Yeah good call


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: OZA]
    #18950564 - 10/08/13 05:14 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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OZA said:
Yeah good call



Tell her that you didn't sign up for the 2 person package :shrug:. Specify that you don't mind P very much except that you would prefer to have more of a personal relationship with your girlfriend, which entails one-on-one communication without the third wheel. I'm sure that she will understand that you don't want to date the both of them.


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: OZA]
    #18950568 - 10/08/13 05:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Set it up like "i really like you and your friend is great but id really like to het to know you better 1on1 can you and I have some alone time to give you all my attention?"

Unless shes crazy she will most assuredly be down an tell her friend to kick rocks at least more often.


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: OZA]
    #18950588 - 10/08/13 05:18 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Menage A Trois? No just say what you feel, you wasn't to spend more alone time with her, not every minute, but just some more.


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18950596 - 10/08/13 05:19 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

Be real and mention her friend is always there and what is up with that?
Not to mention a three way relationship would be pretty sweet! You lucki


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: Rewindicus]
    #18950738 - 10/08/13 05:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Rewindicus said:
Set it up like "i really like you and your friend is great but id really like to het to know you better 1on1 can you and I have some alone time to give you all my attention?"

Unless shes crazy she will most assuredly be down an tell her friend to kick rocks at least more often.



Yeah problem is our relationship is already established sort of. We've chilled almost every day since school started, 6 weeks ago, as friends - it's just that the relationship began 10 days ago. Her friend has been around just as much the whole time and I obviously didn't really mind too much then, but now..


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Re: Girlfriend's friend is ALWAYS around [Re: OZA]
    #18950923 - 10/08/13 06:22 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

It's really not an issue, you're making it into one.  Relationships first and foremost are about open and honest communication.  That is all that's required here.


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