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Cheezymold
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Sex with best friend
#18943338 - 10/07/13 03:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Last weekend, I decided to have sex with my closest female friend. It is kind of odd for me since we have an odd history together.
She was the first woman I became acquainted with after a 4000 mile move. The kind of woman I could of only dreamed about too. We instantly hit it off. I've honestly never connected with anybody so strongly. She even has the same birth date as me(she is 3 years older).
The problem between us was kind of both of us though. I had just gotten out of a long relationship with my ex-fiance when I met her, and she was still in love with her ex when we met. So I casually dated to see if I wasn't just feeling desperate, and she told me she gets together with her ex from time to time so she doesn't have to have sex with different guys. After about 6 months, I got tired of all the boring/crazy women I kept meeting so I decided that I was ready to actually date.
That week was kind of strange though because the woman I liked stopped seeing me that week. No personal or phone contact at all. She called me a week later.
When she first started talking, she was ok, then started crying very hard. Turns out the doctor told her she was pregnant with her ex's kid. I was supportive as I could be while I talked to her, but I really lost it when I got off the phone. I let the woman of my dreams go because I couldn't decide what I wanted.
We still talked from time to time while her and her ex were still dating. You know, as friends that get updates on each others lives. I felt like I wanted to distance myself from her, but something happened in my life shortly after that completely devastated me.
She was the person that was really there for me so I decided I wanted to keep her in my life. Over the years we stayed so close yet strictly platonic. She was really there for me for all of the really tough things these past five years. Even paid my medical bills when I was hospitalized for 3 weeks because she didn't want me to drop out of school.
Well about a year ago, she became single again but I was kind of seeing somebody so I never thought about trying again with her. I wasn't comfortable with the idea considering how much I love her but I already felt crushed with her before.
Well 2 weeks ago, she called me and told me she was moving out of the state in December. Since the move for her is 100% the thing she needs to do because of so many factors, I felt a huge depression because I knew that there no way she could stay.
So she came over to visit on Friday, and something felt like it took over me as I made a move on her. The best sex in my entire life. I felt like a fucking animal.
Afterword while we are taking a shower together, she tells me that I am her "unofficial" boyfriend until she leaves under the condition that I understand our romantic relationship ends when she leaves. I agreed, and she has been coming over frequently for the most amazing sex ever.
As much as I am enjoying the time I have left with her, I know in December, I will lose the most incredible person in my life. These mixed feelings are taking their toll but I cannot let this time be wasted.
Any advice on how I might be able to deal with this after? I have always had a no casual sex when there is feelings involved to avoid what I am going through right now.
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Re: Sex with best friend [Re: Cheezymold]
#18945297 - 10/07/13 03:10 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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sounds like you have unrealistic expectations, and need to dose yourself with reality.
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Lynnch
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...You deal with it. You can either chase her, or tell her you love her and cant let her go.. Or you let her go and feel thankful that you had a chance to experience something with her.
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Black_Sunset
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Be grateful you found such a wonderful person to share some of your life with. When she leaves, end it on good terms. Tell her how you feel. It will take time but you will be able to move past her if you plan on never being together again. Life has some beautiful things to show us, and everything in life has a beginning and end. Revel in the joy of your experience and the beauty of life.
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itchmynipple
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either way just expect to feel a little sad and then expect a full recovery...
tell her you will miss her
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Global_Roaming
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If she's the one, then join her wherever she's going. If she's not keen on the idea, you'll deal with the separation much better anyway.
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TheWiz
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Why can't you guys just stay in touch and bone if you're ever in the same place again?
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Cheezymold
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Re: Sex with best friend [Re: TheWiz]
#18947765 - 10/08/13 12:49 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think overall I should just enjoy the time I have left and brace myself for it happening. It is actually pretty unusual that this woman makes me act and thing so irrationally. I guess there is a person that does that for everybody lol
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The5thElement
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Re: Sex with best friend [Re: Cheezymold]
#18950305 - 10/08/13 04:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Everybody leaves sooner or later, one way or another. Just enjoy the time you spent with her and understand that all good things come to an end eventually. Try not to become overly emotionally attached to her, if you think you can't do that then try to distance yourself from her.
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itchmynipple
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some good things are continued later on
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