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Anonymous #1
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I finally get relationships
#18938343 - 10/05/13 11:03 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I've never really understood relationships (I'm 21). Why people were in them, what people got out of them, etc. A few things made them make sense to me.
First, I met a girl in one of my classes awhile back and we've smoked a few times. Last time things made sense. She came over, brought some weed and we smoked out back. We went inside, and she asked if she could cook something (for both of us). I showed her what I had and she started cooking. She was cooking food and I was messing around doing things. We were talking and just having a good time. Idk, something about the experience made things make sense. I mean, she's not particularly physically attractive (average looks). She's got her issues. She's got a boyfriend and hasn't really shown interest in me. I'm not really interested in her either.
But like, I get it. Something I know feminists won't like, but her just being feminine stirred something up. She was kind, supportive, fun to be around, and just I don't know how to put it...a woman? I know it sounds sexist, but something about her cooking for me. I mean she was still a person. We still had good conversation and she's intelligent, independent, all that stuff. I still treated her with respect and listened to everything she had to say and was genuinely interested. But her being a woman, cooking for me, being supportive, almost taking care of me was really pleasant.
It made relationships make sense. Straight men are attracted to women, not people with vaginas. There's absolutely a certain energy that comes with being male/female. Being feminine doesn't have to mean weak, or unintelligent, or not a person, or that you can't have opinions or careers or interests. It just means feminine. Women are people too.
Also, a friend of mine I've hung out with a few times made families make sense. He's married and has a son. Him and his wife (another friend of mine) are exceptionally good parents. I've hung out with them and their son (2 years old now). It just makes sense. Everything being so insular. They are honestly some of the best parents I've ever seen. It's odd because they used to be extremely into drugs (dad still smokes a lot) and they married young. I knew her in high school and she had a reputation for being kinda a fuck up. But she is an amazing mother. Amazing. Just seeing how the family works. How much love there is between the parents and towards the kid. How safe and almost...secluded? things are. It's odd, but they're off in their own little world, making a life for themselves and I find that appealing. Ignoring life's bullshit to hang out with people that you truly care about. Nothing matters in the world. I know it's hard. The dad works really hard and the mom spends a lot of time chasing after the kid. But there's just a lot of love and trust and respect. I like being around them.
I just get it now. I'm attracted to women, not people with vaginas. Family lets you ignore life's bullshit and be around people you love. I don't know if I want a relationship or family or whatever, I just get why people would. I can actually make the decision.
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18938372 - 10/05/13 11:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Even if they cook the best damn chicken and dumplings you've ever had, and are super sweet(seemingly), they can fake it for a long time all the while sucking your energy, preventing you from gaining emotional maturity, holding you back in life and trapping you. DON'T GET TRAPPED! They'll try to get your babies! Seen it happen so many times. Just follow the rabbit hole and don't worry about women right now
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Atrium
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18938376 - 10/05/13 11:14 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah I'd say you're right. Femininity is so gratifying and especially in this age when every woman wants to be a feminist yet doesn't want to pay for dinner or be the first one to ask the guy out. But feminism somewhat is destroying that heart felt feeli g of even a nice woman friend. I haven't had that feeling in so point, so vaginas are what I'm after, but really it's the love. You got it man. No worries when you have the person who fully gets you and are devoted to (both ways) and share a common interest, your kid. I can only imagine that feeling.
-------------------- The only thing about Chemistry I like is all the psychedelics that come from it. The only reason I study Psychology is to have a legitimate excuse to enjoy Chemistry.
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Atrium]
#18938399 - 10/05/13 11:23 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jamesdnh said: Yeah I'd say you're right. Femininity is so gratifying and especially in this age when every woman wants to be a feminist yet doesn't want to pay for dinner or be the first one to ask the guy out. But feminism somewhat is destroying that heart felt feeli g of even a nice woman friend. I haven't had that feeling in so point, so vaginas are what I'm after, but really it's the love. You got it man. No worries when you have the person who fully gets you and are devoted to (both ways) and share a common interest, your kid. I can only imagine that feeling.
I don't want to turn this into bashing feminism. Because there are a lot of issues facing women today and I do consider myself a feminist. But I do hate that some people that associate with feminism have turned femininity into a bad thing. You can be a woman AND a person. You can be both feminine and a human being that's respected. Hell, you should be free to be as feminine or not feminine as you want to, too!
It's just that I'm attracted to it, and that that's okay.
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #2]
#18938414 - 10/05/13 11:26 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Even if they cook the best damn chicken and dumplings you've ever had, and are super sweet(seemingly), they can fake it for a long time all the while sucking your energy, preventing you from gaining emotional maturity, holding you back in life and trapping you. DON'T GET TRAPPED! They'll try to get your babies! Seen it happen so many times. Just follow the rabbit hole and don't worry about women right now 
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #2]
#18939077 - 10/06/13 06:57 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Wow, from that description I wouldn't want to be with a woman either. 
It sure is a good thing that all of us aren't like that. Its such a shame that some people think that we are.
-------------------- Beats and waves will take me to my grave and when I go there I know that I won't be alone 'cause I've been spotted, blotted, many many times before.
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Ballerium]
#18939254 - 10/06/13 08:31 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: Wow, from that description I wouldn't want to be with a woman either. 
It sure is a good thing that all of us aren't like that. Its such a shame that some people think that we are.
Mine or anon 2s?
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Ballerium
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18939280 - 10/06/13 08:42 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anon 2, not you. Sorry, was too lazy to quote so I just used the reply to feature.
-------------------- Beats and waves will take me to my grave and when I go there I know that I won't be alone 'cause I've been spotted, blotted, many many times before.
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Atrium
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18939403 - 10/06/13 09:36 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said:
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Jamesdnh said: Yeah I'd say you're right. Femininity is so gratifying and especially in this age when every woman wants to be a feminist yet doesn't want to pay for dinner or be the first one to ask the guy out. But feminism somewhat is destroying that heart felt feeli g of even a nice woman friend. I haven't had that feeling in so point, so vaginas are what I'm after, but really it's the love. You got it man. No worries when you have the person who fully gets you and are devoted to (both ways) and share a common interest, your kid. I can only imagine that feeling.
I don't want to turn this into bashing feminism. Because there are a lot of issues facing women today and I do consider myself a feminist. But I do hate that some people that associate with feminism have turned femininity into a bad thing. You can be a woman AND a person. You can be both feminine and a human being that's respected. Hell, you should be free to be as feminine or not feminine as you want to, too!
It's just that I'm attracted to it, and that that's okay.
What's the opposite of feminist by the way? Masculinism? Anyways, I personally don't use labels to speak about political or social aspects, usually because people have a bad taste in their mouth from all the people they've met in their life of that label. What's a republican for example??
I say I'm centrist or libertarian because what every damn american doesn't understand is that although there is red and blue on the flag ( reps, and dems) there's still the majority that is white. Choosing outright to be feminist, to me, ignores the advantages that women have over men today (and yes, I realize american women are as oppressed as middle eastern women) and so I hate feminists. Idk just always seems like when someone outright lablea themself the popular minority that they just read like half a book on it or a teacher indoctrijned it into their heads and haven't really loomed around much.
-------------------- The only thing about Chemistry I like is all the psychedelics that come from it. The only reason I study Psychology is to have a legitimate excuse to enjoy Chemistry.
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18942728 - 10/06/13 10:53 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous#1 said:
But like, I get it. Something I know feminists won't like, but her just being feminine stirred something up. She was kind, supportive, fun to be around, and just I don't know how to put it...a woman?
I think what was stirred up, were your primal instincts.
I'm sure she enjoyed herself as much as you did.
In my opinion, it's that synergy that makes relationships magical.
I think that women can only be women, if men are men.
Does that make sense?
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Mr. Material]
#18942959 - 10/07/13 12:02 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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and yes, I realize american women are as oppressed as middle eastern women
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Atrium
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Anonymous #3]
#18943000 - 10/07/13 12:25 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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That one gotcha huh? I always try to go for subtle humor.
-------------------- The only thing about Chemistry I like is all the psychedelics that come from it. The only reason I study Psychology is to have a legitimate excuse to enjoy Chemistry.
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Atrium]
#18945985 - 10/07/13 05:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You put the "b" in subtle.
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Re: I finally get relationships [Re: Mr. Material]
#18947604 - 10/07/13 11:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mistermateriel said:
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Anonymous#1 said:
But like, I get it. Something I know feminists won't like, but her just being feminine stirred something up. She was kind, supportive, fun to be around, and just I don't know how to put it...a woman?
I think what was stirred up, were your primal instincts.
I'm sure she enjoyed herself as much as you did.
In my opinion, it's that synergy that makes relationships magical.
I think that women can only be women, if men are men.
Does that make sense?
Definitely.
I don't know what it was, but I never really developed much relationship wise. I didn't get it for the longest time, but I'm starting to. It felt good being around her. I like that feeling. Maybe not with her, but I'd like to experience that again.
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