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FunkyBuddha
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Closure with first girlfriend
#18934765 - 10/05/13 04:56 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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So I don't know if it's silly or not but I really want to make things cool between my first girlfriend and myself. We broke up about 4 years ago and haven't spoken for about 2. I have a girlfriend now that I've been with for about 2 and a half years and we're extremely happy but I have this urge to want to tell my first girlfriend that I hope she's happy and that there are no hard feelings but she refuses to talk to me even though we ended on 'mostly' fine terms. Is this odd? I just have this thing against being on bad terms with people and I just feel ridiculous caring about it so much. Anyone understand/experienced this?
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koraks
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Re: Closure with first girlfriend [Re: FunkyBuddha] 2
#18934770 - 10/05/13 05:00 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I know what you mean, but it takes two to tango. If your ex doesn't feel like it, then there's no use in talking to here. You'll have to find peace in your own mind without her help.
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FunkyBuddha
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Re: Closure with first girlfriend [Re: koraks]
#18935000 - 10/05/13 07:24 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yeah true. It's not that she dislikes me or anything, basically I'm still friends with some of her friends and I asked them if they could pass on the message that I was interested in chatting and she said that she 'didn't see the point'. But I guess if she's happy not talking then I guess I can be happy anyway :P
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Lynnch
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Re: Closure with first girlfriend [Re: FunkyBuddha] 2
#18935603 - 10/05/13 10:51 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Just let it go man. No use reopening past wounds for 'closure', they're already closed.
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Forestdie
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Re: Closure with first girlfriend [Re: Lynnch] 2
#18935765 - 10/05/13 11:51 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Let it go. My ex is trying to contact me and sending me stupid ass messages saying "I hope you're doing good <3" and I'm not trying to have any contact with this bitch. Let it go and move on in life.
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Re: Closure with first girlfriend [Re: Forestdie]
#18935836 - 10/05/13 12:12 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I'm friendly with all my exes except the most recent. I don't hold grudges, but he simply dropped off the face of the earth. I'm not going to hunt him down just to let him know I don't hate him. I think you should just let it go for now. Be satisfied knowing you don't have hard feelings, and maybe at some point the opportunity will arise for you to say it out loud.
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Re: Closure with first girlfriend [Re: FunkyBuddha]
#18938774 - 10/06/13 02:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Quote:
FunkyBuddha said: So I don't know if it's silly or not but I really want to make things cool between my first girlfriend and myself. We broke up about 4 years ago and haven't spoken for about 2. I have a girlfriend now that I've been with for about 2 and a half years and we're extremely happy but I have this urge to want to tell my first girlfriend that I hope she's happy and that there are no hard feelings but she refuses to talk to me even though we ended on 'mostly' fine terms. Is this odd? I just have this thing against being on bad terms with people and I just feel ridiculous caring about it so much. Anyone understand/experienced this?
dude just do her and you a favor and fuck off.
if we lived inside of a movie script this could be possible.
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Edited by itchmynipple (10/06/13 02:30 AM)
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