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OfflineNabuca
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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: psyconaught]
    #18926049 - 10/03/13 02:08 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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psyconaught said:

check out the sexy ladies thread. Ball is VERY hot :solidnod: that guy doesnt know what he's missing out on





QFT. I would keep one of my sets of bondage straps open for Ball any day. Her looks aren't the issue there.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Nabuca]
    #18926249 - 10/03/13 02:55 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

This is actually an interesting and mature discussion. I can't say I have anything to add, just wanted to give a thumbs up for a good thread :thumbup:


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: bloodsheen]
    #18926259 - 10/03/13 02:58 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Can someone link me to some photos of this lady? Lets see what the wasted sexual potential is.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Ballerium]
    #18926377 - 10/03/13 03:26 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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Ballerium said:
So, after 5+ years of being with my boyfriend, I'm slowly coming to the realization that we're more than likely just not sexually compatible.

I want to be totally and completely dominated and that just isn't who he is as a person. I can understand because likewise if someone wanted me to dominate them, I don't think I would be able to just conjure that up for them. It isn't who I am either.

It just really saddens me because I love him so much but lately my thoughts are just consumed with wondering if I'm going to go the rest of my life without having any of my desires fulfilled.

I love him and I don't want to leave him simply because of the sex. I mean we do have sex and it is enjoyable, but it has gotten somewhat repetitive and I feel like I could be so much more turned on and into it than I am right now, and likewise with him.

He has said that he thinks that maybe over time he could become more comfortable with being dominant, but I don't know. This is something I have been bringing up to him for several months now, and almost every time we have sex I end up having to tell him what to do, because its like he has just forgotten. I feel like he should have grasped the concept of what I am looking for by now and that if he hasn't already, it's pretty futile for me to keep trying.

One thing he has mentioned, is that every time we have sex, he feels like I am rattling off a list of chores for him to do, which is a turn off. I don't literally go down a list and say "I want you to do this and this and this"--no, it isn't like that at all IMO. I do mention several things during a session or whatever, but not all at one time. But if I don't verbally tell him what I want, I don't know how else to get him to do it. He asked me to maybe limit my requests to one thing at a time so that he doesn't feel like he has a list of chores to do. I feel like that's just fucking silly. For instance, if I want him to get on top of me and pin me down, that's cool, but if I also want my breasts to be grabbed and squeezed so hard that it almost hurts, but not quite, then oh, that's too much? Or if I want him to talk dirty to me while he's doing those things, nope, that's another demand, and has to wait until next time? What, I only get one wild card per sex session? I just don't fucking understand and it is frustrating me to the point of tears. Why can't he grasp what I want and just do it? Why should I have to show him one thing at a time and hope that maybe eventually he'll put it all together? Can a person really be that clueless? I've told him and shown him countless times but he just doesn't seem to get it. He's had months to put it all together now and he still doesn't do it.

He's also said that when he's on top of me/being rough with me/whatever, that he has to concentrate really hard on not cumming, which kind of takes the fun out of it for him. Maybe I'm the stupid one here and maybe there's something that I'm not getting, but I know just from reading this forum that there are plenty of guys who like to dominate their girls, and enjoy it. Are you guys constantly focusing on not cumming? I want him to actually relax and enjoy the sex, not be constantly worrying about whether or not he is going to cum. Is this a problem that all guys have but is just never talked about? How do some of you go at it for hours without cumming? Or do you cum multiple times? And if you do, how do you maintain the energy and desire to continue having sex after you've came? I feel like once my boyfriend cums, that's it. He's out like a light and he's not going to be exerting any energy to get it back up again, which is kind of a turn off for me because it makes me feel like I'm somehow inadequate at getting it up for him. There's only so long I can suck on a limp cock/stroke it/etc before I start thinking well, this just isn't going to happen again, and then at that point I just give up.

We're also each other's first and only sexual partners. Maybe I am looking at this all wrong and maybe I am the one that's the problem. I've also tried asking him what his turn ons are and such, and its like he just doesn't have any. The only thing that turns him on, according to him, is for direct attention to be given to his cock. I don't know, but it just blows my mind. Men are visual creatures, so shouldn't looking at me turn him on? If I dress up in some sexy outfit for him, which I love to do, shouldn't that do anything at all? I just thought that most people had some kind of fetish or something special that they liked that turned them on. I've never heard of someone saying that the only thing that really gets them going is to have their cock touched. I mean that's a no brainer, of course physical stimulation is going to turn someone on. I can't see how a guy wouldn't get hard by having his cock stroked, unless it was a hideously ugly woman, or some kind of rape situation or something, I don't know.

From what I have already mentioned, is there anything that I can do differently? Am I being insensitive? Too demanding? Too impatient?

Have any of you ever been in a similar situation and if you were, what did you do that worked for you?

I'm feeling pretty hopeless about this whole thing. :sad:




unfortunately sounds like you two aren't compatible at the moment. fortunately if you play the right cards you can get him to be more dominating. most likely he has a insecurity that preventing him from being comfortable in dominating or he's just not into it. in my experience, i want to dominate and at times i want to be dominated. sometimes more being dominated, sometimes more dominating to her. but overall, i think if you love him you will make it work! personally, sex isn't the deciding factor in a relationship for me. im a guy though, and as a guy i like being on both ends, dominating and being dominated.

maybe he likes kinky things like licking ass...  i know alot of guys do and are afraid to admit it, but its one of the most dominating experiences when you man handle a girls ass and body n lick away, given she is clean out the shower/bathroom.

its also amazing when your girl dominates you with her ass and puts her ass/vag on your mouth while your laying on your back, n then sometimes pulls away n teases you,, yummy , sorry i just got carried away


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: itchmynipple]
    #18927502 - 10/03/13 07:18 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Yes, this is a common problem. Out of my past three sex partners, I found that I only enjoyed sex with one of them. The other two were just boring sexually. The first one didn't do ANYTHING right except give me awesome BJs and she was just a chore to fuck. The second was just alright but not adventurous enough and she never lasted long enough or wanted to continue aftter she came.The third was awesome! I also like to be dominant and I last for hours upon hours. From reading on this site though, I am one of the very few lucky guys who don't cum soon. I'm not trying to blow my own horn. But I've talked to many women and MOST are just not satisfied in bed with any men that they've slept with, it's really kinda sad. It's hard to find a good match in and out of bed. Even harder findin one that fits both categories.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: itchmynipple]
    #18927505 - 10/03/13 07:18 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Hmm I disagree - sexual compatibility is very important in a relationship. Judging from Ballerium's past posts on the matter things are not going to magically get better. If you want change you have to make it and imo that involves breaking it off. If it was just this I might give other advice but from past posts it is all part of recurring theme. He doesn't really sound that mature, especially given that he doesn't seem to put any effort into pleasing his partner.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: GreySatyr]
    #18927648 - 10/03/13 07:39 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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GreyMorph said:
Yes, this is a common problem. Out of my past three sex partners, I found that I only enjoyed sex with one of them. The other two were just boring sexually. The first one didn't do ANYTHING right except give me awesome BJs and she was just a chore to fuck. The second was just alright but not adventurous enough and she never lasted long enough or wanted to continue aftter she came.The third was awesome! I also like to be dominant and I last for hours upon hours. From reading on this site though, I am one of the very few lucky guys who don't cum soon. I'm not trying to blow my own horn. But I've talked to many women and MOST are just not satisfied in bed with any men that they've slept with, it's really kinda sad. It's hard to find a good match in and out of bed. Even harder findin one that fits both categories.




most of it has to do with false expectations, n bad communication..

realistically there are some things people dont like to do. realistically, im fine with doing it for the girl i love and want to be with, i can't control and she can't control what she likes. but i love her, so im choosing to partake and be open in what she likes, n in a cute way its all good as long as later on we get a cuddling session :grin:

regardless, i think different' moods call for different sex... different situations and such, if im stressed out... expect me to dominate you and to smack that ass so fuckin hard


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Nabuca]
    #18928189 - 10/03/13 09:24 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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Most guys are not pornstars.  The average length of penetrative sex is around 5 minutes.  Being on top is by far the most difficult  position for me as well because as you are thrusting it is much harder to relax the pelvic floor muscles which is what you need to do to avoid cumming.  He could practice kegels / reverse kegels and towel raises.  That will certainly help, as will practice (more sex).  Don't expect him to become a pornstar who can go for hours without cumming though.  That is just not realistic for the vast majority of men.




I realize that most guys are not porn stars, and I don't expect him to be one either. I guess "going for hours" was not the best example to use, though I have heard and read on here even of some guys going for that amount of time, but I realize that isn't the norm. Most of our sex sessions probably last around 30 minutes total. I'm fine with that some of the time, but other times I want the foreplay and the teasing and I would like for both of us to finish more than once even, which is something else neither of us have ever done.

Also thanks for that explanation about being on top being difficult--I did not know that. I will also mention to him about the kegels. :thumbup:

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Sounds like you guys need to spice it up outside of the bed room. Go on a hot date and do something fun and exciting and maybe even a little bit naughty. Sounds like he is bored and doesn't care




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Kegels are awesome, you can bust a load so far.

Also, if a guy is worried about coming too earlier, get her off first, much it or get the clit and gspot going with youur hands. That way she is happy, and you are less nervous about busting quick. And if you do bust quick still. She's already gotten off, youve gotten off, scores tied, and gives you a few minutes to get her off again until youre ready for your round 2.




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If you have the patience for it, you might find that you can train up his tolerance a little by teasing him for an extended time. It was one of the biggest things me and my ex did to help me get to where we finally were happy.

We pretty much went about 3 and a half weeks without me actually getting off. About a dozen times a day she would rub it, or suck it, until I was about to blow, then we would stop cold. I would get her off with me fingers or tongue, then she would repeat but stop before I finished.

It seems counter intuitive at first, because the teasing will make him eager to get off...but after the first couple weeks, it instead started to push my tolerance way up. I could get hard longer, no matter what was going on, probably because I was used to not finishing. It also had the added effect of me going wild when we finally decided to finish, and tearing her up all night. I was getting hard longer, but also getting that animalistic lust built up. Towards the end she was cuffing me down to keep me from just taking her when she teased. Mission accomplished.




Thanks, these are all good ideas that I will bring up to him. We have already been discussing this off and on all day today, and he is aware that I made this thread. I have been telling him the things that you all have said and the suggestions you have made and he seems willing to be more open and try some of these things. He seemed kind of reluctant to do the whole 3 and a half weeks without getting off, but I can't say I blame him, that's kinda steep lol.

You guys have all given me a lot of good advice though which I appreciate. I wasn't expecting so many replies and I plan to reply more once I have finished reading through everything. Just wanted to give an update that I had tried discussing this with him again this afternoon and that at least I got a positive response from him--that being, he is willing to try some of you guys' suggestions. I was also pleasantly surprised that he wasn't mad at me for making this thread, which I assumed he would be, so that's another good start.

I think some of the problems may be our communication--the way in which I went about telling him what I wanted may have been making him feel inadequate and emasculated. I also think maybe I am not giving enough positive reinforcement when he does something that I like. I thought I was, by being louder and more vocal when he would do the things that I like, but from what he tells me, that alone isn't making it clear enough for him. So there are definitely things that I could do better too, and I am definitely willing to try them if he is.

And those of you who are saying I need to break it off with him, I am sure are probably getting tired of seeing me mention this stuff. I know I've brought it up in several other threads before, but I am stubborn, and I don't wish to give up so easily. I do feel like he loves me--he has stuck around for this long and over the past month or so I feel like we have been making improvements with our relationship in general. I know me making this thread probably doesn't make it look that way, but I feel like we have. We were able to discuss all the stuff I've talked about in this thread today without getting frustrated with one another, and I did feel like he genuinely cared when we were talking about it. If anyone has paid attention to the things I have said in the past, this is already a big step for us, as most of the time when we try to discuss anything, it explodes into a huge argument. So I appreciate the advice and I know breaking it off is what a lot of people would do, but I love him and I have invested a lot of time with him, so I'm going to continue to try as long as things seem to be gradually improving like they are now. :sun:


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Ballerium]
    #18928213 - 10/03/13 09:27 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

well if you love him don't second guess him. with that said, goodluck

i would marry a girl if she was in a wheelchair - she has to be a beautiful person though to me. maybe im just more open to things like that


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Anonymous #3]
    #18928755 - 10/03/13 11:01 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

my opinion is that you dont sound very happy. and it seems like your bf might have some barriers intimately towards you. whats causing that could be a number of things. all of em arent very positive. it could be anything from selfishness or personal to mutual as maybe the relationship has grown stagnite.


i will say after 5 years your bf should know how to make you orgasm by instinct, thats not good. im surprised he hasnt lost you already actually.

in my honest opinion, if the sex isnt really good the 1st couple times you hook up with someone then its most likely not gonna be that awesome and it probably isnt true love. thats just how i see it when it comes to great sex in a relationship.

basically it all comes down to if youre not happy then its time for a change. seems like youre young and growing still so im sure you have have plenty of time to find happiness. another thing, good love is just really hard to find and patience and wisdom is the key to unlocking it. IMO


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Anonymous #4]
    #18929056 - 10/04/13 12:09 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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We're also each other's first and only sexual partners.



This could be a problem, but I'm a romantic so I believe in true love and all that shit:tongue2:

I think, one night you should dominate the FUCK out of him. Just take TOTAL and complete control and show him what you would like done to you sometimes. Spice that shit up girl! You got it, flaunt it. I'm sure that foo will LOVE it!

I'll read rest of the thread when I be more sober:tongue2:


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Ballerium]
    #18929336 - 10/04/13 02:00 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

i know it hurts but your relationship with him is "done". you will never feel content and at peace until you follow your heart's truest desires. sorry bal. i really hope you find a solution.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Ballerium] * 3
    #18930063 - 10/04/13 08:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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One thing he has mentioned, is that every time we have sex, he feels like I am rattling off a list of chores for him to do, which is a turn off. I don't literally go down a list and say "I want you to do this and this and this"--no, it isn't like that at all IMO. I do mention several things during a session or whatever, but not all at one time. But if I don't verbally tell him what I want, I don't know how else to get him to do it. He asked me to maybe limit my requests to one thing at a time so that he doesn't feel like he has a list of chores to do. I feel like that's just fucking silly. For instance, if I want him to get on top of me and pin me down, that's cool, but if I also want my breasts to be grabbed and squeezed so hard that it almost hurts, but not quite, then oh, that's too much? Or if I want him to talk dirty to me while he's doing those things, nope, that's another demand, and has to wait until next time? What, I only get one wild card per sex session? I just don't fucking understand and it is frustrating me to the point of tears. Why can't he grasp what I want and just do it? Why should I have to show him one thing at a time and hope that maybe eventually he'll put it all together? Can a person really be that clueless? I've told him and shown him countless times but he just doesn't seem to get it. He's had months to put it all together now and he still doesn't do it.

From what I have already mentioned, is there anything that I can do differently? Am I being insensitive? Too demanding? Too impatient?

Have any of you ever been in a similar situation and if you were, what did you do that worked for you?





Well, I can't speak for him, but perhaps I can share an anecdotal story.

I was sexually abused when I was a very young child, by multiple people. A pastor, and a babysitter.
I also witnessed my mom being abused by my dad a lot when I was younger.

I never realized how much this effected me until much later. 

My first really serious girlfriend, always wanted to "spice up" our sex life, although it was great and I made her cum every time.. she wanted more. That made me feel terrible... like what? Our sex isn't already amazing? I'm not already good enough for you?
She demanded to be dominated hard, she demanded I talk dirty to her while having sex. That was an INSTANT turn off, like from raging hard on to limp status.

I couldn't even bring myself to talk dirty to her. It felt wrong. It felt like abuse.
It was like I was reliving those traumatic experiences. I tried it a couple times to appease her, and I felt like a dirty piece of shit.
She wanted me to say things like call her a whore, like in the heat of the moment kind of things. That felt completely wrong to me. That's not love? And that's not the type of person I am, she was asking me to be someone I am not. But she made me feel obligated to do it, and whenever I did it to make HER happy, it would totally KILL the mood for me.

Being dominated was the other thing she wanted. Now I can be aggressive. I liked to get on top and kind of hold her down a little and pound the shit out of her. But she wanted me to do more extreme shit, like tie her up, and choke her. But I refused. That's not something you do to someone you love, I thought. Then she wanted to try those things on me.

I let her tie me up once, and I instantly went from ultra hard to completely limp. It just brought back memories of being tied up by the babysitter as a child and being sexually abused.
All this shit that she thought was just 'super kinky'... was like a MAJOR TURN OFF for me.


Now I'm not saying that's the case with your BF. But there could definitely be unknown mental/emotional factors involved.

As for the rest of it, I'm not really sure. Maybe he's selfish. Maybe he's just not very experienced. Maybe you are too demanding.
Instead of always telling him what to do (essentially telling him he's not good enough), try SHOWING him.
Guide his hand where you want it to be. Play with yourself how you want him to play with you. SHOW him what you like.
But don't force it. Be playful about it. And if he's not super into it, don't try and force him to be.

Not everyone is sexually compatible. But open and honest, non-judgemental communication and experimentation can go a long way towards making people more compatible sexually.
If you truly love him, then you can work with him and you both can find a middle ground that makes you both happy.
It may take time. Or it may not work at all. But you do have to work at it.
I'm certain if you keep trying to work with him, explain what turns you on, show him, that he will try new things and find something he's comfortable with. But don't try and force him to be someone he is not. You also need to find out what turns him on. Best of luck.

Also if its any consolation, I hate foreplay too. I mean I can do a little bit, I'll always make sure my girl is nice and wet before slipping it in.
But prolonged foreplay sessions are like torture for me too. I don't even really like blowjobs that much.

Although another part of me thinks, if you aren't sexually compatible after 5 years.. you won't ever be.
I mean the girl I was talking about above who wanted to be dominated and whatnot.. we had that figured out within 6 months. We ended up finding what works for both us and made both of us satisfied, and ended up being together for 5 years, but eventually broke apart due to unrelated differences. The sex was great. But hopefully you and your BF can work it out.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: Anonymous #5]
    #18930386 - 10/04/13 09:43 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

bal please don't even bother reading that shitty wall of text.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
    #18930547 - 10/04/13 10:24 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Fuck other people.

Seriously.

The terseness of my response might suggest I haven't read the thread thoroughly, or that I don't really give a shit, but I swear that's not the case.  Sometimes the solution is just that simple.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: JesusGoneRogue]
    #18930551 - 10/04/13 10:25 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

Wow JGR, that was a rather insensitive comment.

Anon #5 took the time to write all that up, some of it which I am sure is probably some sensitive stuff to talk about,  and you go and say that?

Did you ever consider that "shitty wall of text" might actually be relevant to my situation?

I just found out a month or so ago that my boyfriend was mentally and physically abused.  To what extent I am not sure as he hasn't went into much detail about it, but he has told me a few things. Although it wasn't sexual abuse (as far as I know), some of the things that Anon #5 said may very well apply. 

So thank you Anon #5 for posting that--you brought up many good points that I had not really considered.


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Re: Sexual Incompatibility [Re: JesusGoneRogue] * 2
    #18930707 - 10/04/13 11:08 AM (10 years, 4 months ago)

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bal please don't even bother reading that shitty wall of text.



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JesusGoneRogue said:
bal please don't even bother reading that shitty wall of text.





Normally I like your posts. This isn't one of your better ones.

anon #5 actually gave a possible explanation to whats going on.


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    #18930955 - 10/04/13 12:14 PM (10 years, 4 months ago)

My experience with kinksters, bdsm and the whole issue of sexual deviancy has taught me two things:
1. If you're into something sexually, then you get really unhappy in general (not only sexually) if you don't get it.
2. If someone is vanilla and has shown no interest into kink by their mid-twenties, they won't turn into a red hot chili. If they have, then (1) applies.
Sure, there will be exceptions. But for most of us, the above will apply.

If you're a kinkster living with a vanilla person and they don't pick up on the whole kink thing, especially after confronting them with it repeatedly for some time, then it's really clear that they are vanilla. You might get some deviant behavior out of them, but they're never going to be really into it. Personally, I find that to be a big mutual frustration and I prefer to walk away from it.

Ballerium, particularly if this is your first sexual partner so far, then you really don't know what's out there - what kind of people, and how some of these people will do exactly the stuff that you like - and they do it because they like it, too. If you're unwilling to pick up on that adventure, then you're going to fall in the number 1 category above. It might be a deliberate choice (due to loyalty or romantic considerations), but any rationalization is not going to take away the frustration - at least not in my experience. And I've been there, trust me. For several years.

I think you really have one option left: fuck other people. If you'll leave your bf to do that and/or if you're going to tell him about it, that's the big issue. Given your age, the former seems more likely - but that's an observation, not my advice.

My advice, though, is to explore your sexuality. Because it's too goddamn awesome to let it go to waste.


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Quality post koraks - I agree.


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My advice, though, is to explore your sexuality. Because it's too goddamn awesome to let it go to waste.




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