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Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? 1
#18930254 - 10/04/13 09:11 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm 24. I've been on SSRI/SNRI antidepressants almost perpetually since age 15. I have a very low sex drive. I never do anything in an effort to try to have sex. I don't even look at porn. Not because I'm morally indignant. I just don't care.
Why do people make such a big deal out of losing their libido? It seems to me like it causes more problems than it solves
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930275 - 10/04/13 09:14 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's probably really freeing. I try to consciously do the same thing. The urge for sex is one of the biggest things that keeps us human beings in bondage. When you get down to it, how many of the things that people feel obligated to do in life really stem from the desire for sexual gratification?
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: nicechrisman]
#18930281 - 10/04/13 09:16 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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nicechrisman said: It's probably really freeing. I try to consciously do the same thing. The urge for sex is one of the biggest things that keeps us human beings in bondage. When you get down to it, how many of the things that people feel obligated to do in life really stem from the desire for sexual gratification?
for me, none.
when I pursue a female, it's for the companionship. if I can't have a good conversation with you, I'm not interested. sex is sex. it happens but like whatever
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930295 - 10/04/13 09:19 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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It doesn't seem like there was ever a time where you got to enjoy having a strong libido, it's unsurprising that you'd think that. Sex is fun. I'd prefer to have sex as the underlying motivation for humanities actions rather than say, war.
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930308 - 10/04/13 09:24 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I see where you're coming from.
However, I quit taking SSRI's a few years back because I got sick of that "neutered" feeling. I had this feeling that I was missing something and eventually got tired of it. I just don't feel like myself without a sex drive.
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Lynnch]
#18930319 - 10/04/13 09:27 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: It doesn't seem like there was ever a time where you got to enjoy having a strong libido, it's unsurprising that you'd think that. Sex is fun. I'd prefer to have sex as the underlying motivation for humanities actions rather than say, war.
war is obviously not an underlying motivation though, it's a means to an end
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930332 - 10/04/13 09:31 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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i had to look up the word libido. thought you were talking about a male dildo or some shit.
i was like 
then after looking it up i was like 
then after thinking about it for a sec i felt bad and was like 
that sucks man. is there anything you can take?
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930345 - 10/04/13 09:34 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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And sex is a means to pleasure or procreation  Say rage or domination then.
Since you aren't motivated by sex, what makes you get up and go to work in the morning?
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Set]
#18930349 - 10/04/13 09:34 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Set said: I see where you're coming from.
However, I quit taking SSRI's a few years back because I got sick of that "neutered" feeling. I had this feeling that I was missing something and eventually got tired of it. I just don't feel like myself without a sex drive.
I guess I have been emotionally numb for so long that I am just used to it. I smile a lot though; I can't help it, and it brings positive attention so I wouldn't stop it even if I could
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Lynnch]
#18930354 - 10/04/13 09:35 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: And sex is a means to pleasure or procreation  Say rage or domination then.
Since you aren't motivated by sex, what makes you get up and go to work in the morning?
yes sex is usually a means to pleasure. pleasure has been argued to the motivating force behind basically all human action. not sure if I agree but it seems plausible
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Not Responding]
#18930364 - 10/04/13 09:37 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Not Responding said: i had to look up the word libido. thought you were talking about a male dildo or some shit.
i was like 
then after looking it up i was like 
then after thinking about it for a sec i felt bad and was like 
that sucks man. is there anything you can take?
viagra I guess. point is, I don't care to
it's not like I'm a virgin. I've had sex with all but my first girlfriend and one other girl. I enjoy it when it happens. I just never pursue it
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930372 - 10/04/13 09:40 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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maybe youre not around the right girl or looking at the right porn. i dunno man. thats odd. theres days i dont feel like doin shit for shit, but the sec my chick comes out in a small shirt and some chonies and starts wigglin her ass., its over. even porn. i wont be in the mood for shit, but the second i see some shit im up and ready to go, with or with out my chick.
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Not Responding]
#18930388 - 10/04/13 09:44 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Not Responding said: maybe youre not around the right girl or looking at the right porn. i dunno man. thats odd. theres days i dont feel like doin shit for shit, but the sec my chick comes out in a small shirt and some chonies and starts wigglin her ass., its over. even porn. i wont be in the mood for shit, but the second i see some shit im up and ready to go, with or with out my chick.
that's because you're a normal human. Look, if a girl starts getting naked in front of me or making obvious sexual advances with no apparent ulterior motive, it's not like I decline. All I'm saying is that it never occurs to me to actively seek out sex. Like I would never go to a bar to try to get laid, or flirt with a girl just because I thought she was sexy and there might be a chance I could fuck her (at some point... this behavior really blows my mind, shows me how strong the sex drive is in others). Even many girls I get to know obviously have a bigger sex drive than me. girls are just better at concealing it
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930393 - 10/04/13 09:44 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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morrowasted said:
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Not Responding said: i had to look up the word libido. thought you were talking about a male dildo or some shit.
i was like 
then after looking it up i was like 
then after thinking about it for a sec i felt bad and was like 
that sucks man. is there anything you can take?
viagra I guess. point is, I don't care to
it's not like I'm a virgin. I've had sex with all but my first girlfriend and one other girl. I enjoy it when it happens. I just never pursue it
thats not a good thing. sex is a healthy natural act. its fun, its exciting, its a great work out, its great enjoying a female or twos body on yours. i mean, its not the only thing you can enjoy about life, but sex is and can be a wonderful thing. whats even better is when you find that one person you can explore sex with. try new things. see what you like and dont like. its a great exp!
fuck it, let me know when youre in texas. you can swing by and my chick and i will help you get out of this chode of a situation.
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Not Responding]
#18930398 - 10/04/13 09:45 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I live in Houston
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930414 - 10/04/13 09:47 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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when i was single i never went out and looked for sex, it just happened. i think youre fine man, just a little set back. are you active in any other aspects of your life? are you to a point to where you dont need medications anymore?
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Lynnch]
#18930419 - 10/04/13 09:49 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: It doesn't seem like there was ever a time where you got to enjoy having a strong libido, it's unsurprising that you'd think that. Sex is fun. I'd prefer to have sex as the underlying motivation for humanities actions rather than say, war.
I have a strong libido and I hate it because I am terrible with women
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: morrowasted]
#18930425 - 10/04/13 09:50 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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morrowasted said: I live in Houston
MY NIGGA!
next time youre in san antonio let me know. we can take you out, get a few drinks, come back to my place and my chick will bang you stupid. we can get down on some DP! you can watch us while you jerk it in the corner. we can even bring back a few people and make a party of it. theres hope for you yet.
have you tried using mdma as a tool? not for a temp bandaid, but to help get your dick going again...
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Not Responding]
#18930430 - 10/04/13 09:51 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Not Responding said: when i was single i never went out and looked for sex, it just happened. i think youre fine man, just a little set back. are you active in any other aspects of your life? are you to a point to where you dont need medications anymore?
I am not as active as I should be. I work at the university that I study at, but otherwise I spend most of my time alone. There are only 3 males in the entire graduate program I'm in, and honestly I have my pick of the single ones. Latina women seem to be magnetized to me (and all the women in the program are latina except one).
Part of my problem is that I'm super poor. I make $1000 a month working part time and that doesnt even really cover all my expenses, much less the expense of dating/going out to bars.
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Re: Loss of libido- is it necessarily a bad thing? [Re: Not Responding]
#18930435 - 10/04/13 09:53 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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morrowasted said: I live in Houston
MY NIGGA!
next time youre in san antonio let me know. we can take you out, get a few drinks, come back to my place and my chick will bang you stupid. we can get down on some DP! you can watch us while you jerk it in the corner. we can even bring back a few people and make a party of it. theres hope for you yet.
have you tried using mdma as a tool? not for a temp bandaid, but to help get your dick going again...
lol damn bro it's like that huh?
I haven't taken MDMA in a few years. because of the SSRIs, I have to take a much higher dose than most people in order to get the same effect. It definitely did make me want to touch every person in my vicinity
I used to love fucking on acid. I really do miss that.
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