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should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily?
#18929789 - 10/04/13 05:42 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 6
#18929806 - 10/04/13 05:50 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No. Not at all. Guys beat off no matter how much sex they get. You can also EASILY safe yourself the feelings of shittyness by not snooping through his net history. Dont take him masterbating to porn personally. Its just how were wired.
Do you only think about him when hes banging you? If he insisted you only think of him and his dong when your masterbating or having sex how would you feel?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18929809 - 10/04/13 05:51 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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It's not that big of a deal. But if it means that much to you, why don't you tell him to stop jerkin' the gerkin' while interweb lurkin' and pay more attention to real life. Proceed to stick your fingers in his mouth and squat up and down on the spot.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Rewindicus]
#18929813 - 10/04/13 05:53 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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so im just supposed to take the blind approach and out of sight out of mind? he can watch all this porn but im not allowed to do any sort of nude cam modeling/ photos that would make me profit? but its ok for him to rub his dick to girls on the internet.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18929834 - 10/04/13 06:02 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You don't understand men. Go try to find one that doesn't do this. If you do, he probably has lots of way worse problems.
Now if he is creating a double standard, like it's okay for him but not for you, then he's an idiot and you should lose him.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Old Pokey] 1
#18929839 - 10/04/13 06:07 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Yah I didnt know the cam thing about you. THAT IS A DOUBLE STANDARD AND NOT COOL.
It sounds like you both need to have a talk. I think an out of sight out of mind agreement would work for you two bit it only works if both sides make an effort, as in you two dont get lazy and leave your evidence out in the open but also dont go looking for it.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Old Pokey]
#18929840 - 10/04/13 06:09 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No, its normal. Men NEED to release their nuts daily. If you're not a part of that process, and giving him grief for it.. reverse course and make his fantasies come true, on your own level. If you don't, kiss your bf goodbye.
Make him happy. Don't cheat on him, don't have random dudes he doesn't know at your home n shit when he comes home.
Live up to the level of being a decent human being.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: GOATOAD]
#18929841 - 10/04/13 06:10 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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If not, you're a fucking whore and you deserve to be left alone.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Rewindicus]
#18929850 - 10/04/13 06:15 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Rewindicus said: Yah I didnt know the cam thing about you. THAT IS A DOUBLE STANDARD AND NOT COOL.
It sounds like you both need to have a talk. I think an out of sight out of mind agreement would work for you two bit it only works if both sides make an effort, as in you two dont get lazy and leave your evidence out in the open but also dont go looking for it.
Agree with Rewindicus. Double standards are not cool.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18929863 - 10/04/13 06:21 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so im just supposed to take the blind approach and out of sight out of mind? he can watch all this porn but im not allowed to do any sort of nude cam modeling/ photos that would make me profit? but its ok for him to rub his dick to girls on the internet.
i think if he jacks off every morning thats a bit much. i mean a few times a week is cool but thats a bit much.
i dont know how the two situations are that relative when it comes to doing porn though. i mean i wouldnt want my woman doing porn of any kind. i wouldnt go out of my way to be controlling or stop her either though. more of a id appreciate it if didnt, if you really care about how i feel about our relationship type of respect thing. but yeah once again i dont think that those two scenarios have anything to do with eachother. theyre totally different. maybe if your bf was going to strip clubs and getting lap dances 24/7 theyd be a little closer.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#18929869 - 10/04/13 06:25 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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oh and i think you should be honest and say how you feel. and if he gets it cool if not f it and do what you want like your bf is.
lifes too short.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 3
#18929871 - 10/04/13 06:26 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Wouldn't you be more upset if he was putting on webcam shows for other girls?
Him watching porn does not justify you being a cam whore.
He's just jerking off, that's not the same as letting people watch.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#18929879 - 10/04/13 06:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Why do you phrase it as "cam whore"... What is wrong with nude modelling / photos? Would you be that insecure that you would feel threatened by that? Jealousy is never attractive..
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #2]
#18929882 - 10/04/13 06:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Wouldn't you be more upset if he was putting on webcam shows for other girls?
Him watching porn does not justify you being a cam whore.
He's just jerking off, that's not the same as letting people watch.
your point is unrealistic. only guys and dikes pay for that crap.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18929891 - 10/04/13 06:39 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No you should not care at all. It has absolutely nothing to do with you, and nothing to do with him wanting other chicks. Men are wired differently. We are mostly visual creatures. And pretty much have to bust a nut every day. If we don't it happens naturally in our sleep. The shit has to come out.
Even if you are having sex 30 times a week, he will still find time to beat off on his own time. Looking at porn is completely harmless (for the most part... unless it becomes a SERIOUS addiction)
Listen to Loveline. This topic comes up every day pretty much for the last 20+ years. Girlfriend calls in mad/jealous that the BF looks at porn. Consensus from all the experts is almost always that it's perfectly normal and as long as he's still paying attention to you and whatnot when you are together.. and you otherwise have a healthy relationship... then it's not really any of your fucking business.
Now were he fishing for REAL chicks on craigslist or adultfriendfinder or putting his pics up on some hookup website or something... THAT is a completely different story.
But just watching porn and jerking off is completely normal and EVERY GUY DOES IT even when in a completely committed relationship.
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Anonymous said: so im just supposed to take the blind approach and out of sight out of mind? he can watch all this porn but im not allowed to do any sort of nude cam modeling/ photos that would make me profit? but its ok for him to rub his dick to girls on the internet.
That's pretty fucked up thinking. Him jacking off to porn and you actually exposing your body to strangers and doing nude cam modeling for profit are not fucking equal. He's LOOKING at porn. And you want to "get even" with him by PARTICIPATING in porn, and BEING the porn that random guys beat off to? Grow up.
I am glad my girlfriend is not like this. We have a great sex life, great relationship. She knows I look at porn and beat off. She understands it's completely harmless. She never gives me shit for it. Even if we are having sex 2 times a day, I still find time for it. Shit, sometimes she will even look at the porn I was watching when I'm not around, just to see what I might be into to get ideas for things to turn me on.
Bottom line - Men are visual creatures when it comes to this. Women are emotional. Don't get jealous of him doing what is perfectly normal for virtually every guy out there. If it's not effecting your relationship in a negative way then it's not really your concern.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Cyclohexylamine] 6
#18929892 - 10/04/13 06:40 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I simply think that just because her boyfriend looks at porn, doesn't equate to her right to BE porn. I doubt she'd be happy were things the other way around.
Unless he doesn't care. Then who am I to judge.
But if you've ever been on one those sites, it's girls doing whatever's asked of them sexually for money via webcam. Hence, "cam whore".
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #3]
#18929933 - 10/04/13 07:04 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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i think if he jacks off every morning thats a bit much. i mean a few times a week is cool but thats a bit much.
Who are you to say what's too much jacking off for someone else? As if there is some predetermined limit. A few times a week is 'cool' but every day is a bit much? 
20 times a day is probably "too much". But I would venture to guess that the majority of men probably do it on a daily basis.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #4] 1
#18930023 - 10/04/13 07:53 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Sure, dudes have the natural inclination to watch porn at any time. We don't do it at the dinner table, or at work or many other places where it isn't appropriate. He has a girl he lives with, he probably should show a little restraint - even a well adjusted, enlightened partner is going to have feelings of inadequacy if their partner is jerking to porn when they are sexually available.
OP should stop looking for evidence, however.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: koods]
#18930135 - 10/04/13 08:35 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I hardly think him looking at porn when the GF is asleep or whatever as inappropriate. I live with my woman and that's when I look at porn. I don't do it when she's awake and in the other room. But it's not like I'm hiding it from her. It's just a private moment.
And it doesn't detract from our sex life at all. We still do it regularly.
Also sex is a time and energy investment. Sometimes you just want to whip it out, beat off and cum in 30 seconds then get back to whatever you were doing. Sex takes time, foreplay and a lot of energy. And cumming in 30 seconds is not acceptable. 10+ minutes at the least, or at least until the girl is satisfied. At least that's my rule. If I don't break a sweat then I didn't do my job. But you can't seriously expect a guy to have sex every single time he gets the urge. Sometimes you just gotta beat it for the release.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#18930249 - 10/04/13 09:08 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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tymoteusz3 said: Why do you phrase it as "cam whore"... What is wrong with nude modelling / photos? Would you be that insecure that you would feel threatened by that? Jealousy is never attractive..
exactly.
he faps it to random chicks on reddit, but she's not "allowed" to put images of herself out there.
to whoever said she is trying to get him back, unless im mistaken that's not the case. she would like to get into nude modeling and he won't let her, yet sits and faps it to porn and r/gonewild on the daily. that's fucked up if you ask me. it's the double standard that's the issue here.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: yogabunny] 1
#18930384 - 10/04/13 09:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: yogabunny] 2
#18930432 - 10/04/13 09:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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He doesn't get to tell you what you are and aren't "allowed" to do. Take as many nude pics as you want, post them all over the world.
Same goes for you though. He gets to jerk it to as much filthy porn as his heart desires.
Since you two obviously don't seem comfortable with this, you can: A. Keep nagging each other into miserable, boring, resentful submission. B. Lose each other. C. Stop giving a shit.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
#18930451 - 10/04/13 09:57 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
I don't know if it's a double standard, but it is ironic.
In order for guys to jerk it to pictures of women on the internet, there has to be women posting pictures on the internet.
If every girl has some domineering asshole telling them what they can and can't do with their bodies, there would be no pictures of naked women on the internet.
By behaving that way en masse, men establish that as normalcy.
As a consequence there are less images of naked women on the internet.
He's fighting against his own interests.
Fortunately, there are enough cool babes that don't give a shit about what dudes like that think. The world could always use more though.
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Edited by TheWiz (10/04/13 10:01 AM)
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18930498 - 10/04/13 10:07 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18930523 - 10/04/13 10:15 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
I'm sorry, but your boyfriend sounds lame!
There is something wrong with a guy that would prefer masturbating to digital media, when he has the real thing right in front of him!
I don't care what anybody else says; if his chick is available to him, and he still chooses to masturbate to porn, there is something wrong.
YOU are supposed to be what turns him on.
YOU are supposed to be his pornography.
Don't be fooled; unless you're incredibly hideous, your boyfriend has a problem. Not you.
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Anonymous said: so im just supposed to take the blind approach and out of sight out of mind? he can watch all this porn but im not allowed to do any sort of nude cam modeling/ photos that would make me profit? but its ok for him to rub his dick to girls on the internet.
Goddamn! Guys like this piss me the fuck off!
Why doesn't he watch you make these videos?
Why isn't he behind the camera?
I mean he's into porn right?
Why... you know what? Nevermind.
This guy is lame. Chances are, he isn't fucking you right either.
You should just cheat on him OP.
Maybe one day he'll masturbate to one of your images on the internet and realize what he lost.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
#18930535 - 10/04/13 10:20 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
You ASSume.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18930539 - 10/04/13 10:22 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
How?
Unless he's secretly gay - what could she possibly find out that would betray his trust?
I mean if they're living together, who gives a shit if she's checking the browser history?
I mean for all we know, he could be living at her place - using her computer!
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18930558 - 10/04/13 10:27 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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i know that my man masturbates, and i don't care. but if he was masturbating to r/gonewild, i'd be kind of pissed.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: yogabunny]
#18930597 - 10/04/13 10:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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yogabunny said: i know that my man masturbates, and i don't care. but if he was masturbating to r/gonewild, i'd be kind of pissed.

Just looking at what r/gonewild is now - it's pretty much girls taking nude photos and posting them - if so then it definitely is a double standard that her BF won't let her take nude photos. Guys are going to masturbate and OP shouldn't have an issue with it - it's not the same as having sex and doesn't have the same emotional commitment. That said the double standard is kind of lame.
BTW hi YB! Long time no see..
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material] 1
#18930692 - 10/04/13 11:03 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
How?
Unless he's secretly gay - what could she possibly find out that would betray his trust?
I mean if they're living together, who gives a shit if she's checking the browser history?
I mean for all we know, he could be living at her place - using her computer! 
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EdibleStereos said: I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
How?
Unless he's secretly gay - what could she possibly find out that would betray his trust?
I mean if they're living together, who gives a shit if she's checking the browser history?
I mean for all we know, he could be living at her place - using her computer! 
The trust is broken by HER not trusting him and snooping.
Instead of her snooping and then coming here. She should have talked to him as soon as she first suspected.
You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#18931119 - 10/04/13 12:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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hai!

i agree with you.
OP I think you need to have a heart to heart with your man about this. Hopefully y'all can come up with a compromise that works for you both.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931216 - 10/04/13 01:23 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
No, I'm sorry but I don't.
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EdibleStereos said: You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
No, I'm sorry but I don't.
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EdibleStereos said: You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
No, I'm sorry but I don't.
I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18931269 - 10/04/13 01:37 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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put a gps and watch her every movement, what? you're just watching where she's been throughout the day, not creepy at all. (i shouldn't have to say this, but yes that is sarcasm)
how does letting other guys see you naked, and get off to it, compare to someone watching arousing photos to get off? i doubt he told her she can't watch porn, and i doubt she would let him post his pics on the net. that's the only double standard here.
OP is probably some controlling mess who flirts with other guys and goes on dates with them, then turns around and bitches at him for finding an actress attractive
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931284 - 10/04/13 01:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
To answer your question no.
I really wouldn't give a shit if she looked through my browser history.
I don't hide the fact I watch porn. In fact, I've watched porn with chicks I've dated before. I don't see what the big deal is.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18931309 - 10/04/13 01:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
To answer your question no.
I really wouldn't give a shit if she looked through my browser history.
I don't hide the fact I watch porn. In fact, I've watched porn with chicks I've dated before. I don't see what the big deal is. 
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EdibleStereos said: I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
To answer your question no.
I really wouldn't give a shit if she looked through my browser history.
I don't hide the fact I watch porn. In fact, I've watched porn with chicks I've dated before. I don't see what the big deal is. 
ugh. small minds.
It isnt just about porn, since that seems all you can focus on. It is the act of tracking someones internet history for whatever twisted little emotional gain the OP is finding in it.
You dont read emails, texts, diaries, web history, call logs, etc unless you are a mistrusting little shit.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931335 - 10/04/13 01:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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OP I think your best move here would be take those pictures & videos, and post them here.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931347 - 10/04/13 01:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I R Crankey said: put a gps and watch her every movement, what? you're just watching where she's been throughout the day, not creepy at all. (i shouldn't have to say this, but yes that is sarcasm)
how does letting other guys see you naked, and get off to it, compare to someone watching arousing photos to get off? i doubt he told her she can't watch porn, and i doubt she would let him post his pics on the net. that's the only double standard here.
OP is probably some controlling mess who flirts with other guys and goes on dates with them, then turns around and bitches at him for finding an actress attractive
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EdibleStereos said: ugh. small minds.
It isn't just about porn, since that seems all you can focus on. It is the act of tracking someones internet history for whatever twisted little emotional gain the OP is finding in it.
You dont read emails, texts, diaries, web history, call logs, etc unless you are a mistrusting little shit.
I think it's funny that these responses are mainly directed at the OP because she looked through the browser history.
What about her boyfriend? She's probably wondering why he has the energy to masturbate to r/gonewild, but can't seem to find the energy to fuck her right.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
#18931614 - 10/04/13 02:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
omg thank you.
How is this even a double standard? He is not filming himself wackin off, hes not putting pictures of himself.
What you are wanting to do is a totally different situation. How can you relate you putting yourself out there on camera and web chats vs him masturbating, NOT showing himself, remaining anonymous, etc.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18931628 - 10/04/13 03:00 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so im just supposed to take the blind approach and out of sight out of mind? he can watch all this porn but im not allowed to do any sort of nude cam modeling/ photos that would make me profit? but its ok for him to rub his dick to girls on the internet.
'Scuse me, there's no profit to beating your dick.
If you're going to be a camwhore, he should get free access; otherwise, your relationship will surely fail.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Sophistic Radiance]
#18931760 - 10/04/13 03:32 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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OP , Teach you boyfriend how to use the internet . For all Chrome users , PRESS CTRL SHIFT and N .You've gone Incognito . Problem solved , no history .Now on to the more important matter , What might your chaturbate user name be ?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: yogabunny]
#18931775 - 10/04/13 03:36 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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So dude doesn't want to be looking at porn and have the chance to find the object of his lust is his girlfriend? You really don't see a double standard here? She at least is getting paid, or that is the plan.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18931797 - 10/04/13 03:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mistermateriel said: I think it's funny that these responses are mainly directed at the OP because she looked through the browser history.
What about her boyfriend? She's probably wondering why he has the energy to masturbate to r/gonewild, but can't seem to find the energy to fuck her right.
Maybe you should try reading the OP before making an ass of yourself over and over.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18931832 - 10/04/13 03:48 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I had an ex that would jerk it to porn, and then get pissed off whenever I would like hot, buff guys on Facebook that were models or random public figures, or whenever I liked pages like "Hot tattooed guys" on Facebook.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Crystal G] 2
#18932193 - 10/04/13 05:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Crystal G said: I had an ex that would jerk it to porn, and then get pissed off whenever I would like hot, buff guys on Facebook that were models or random public figures, or whenever I liked pages like "Hot tattooed guys" on Facebook. 
Now THAT is a double standard.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18932993 - 10/04/13 08:14 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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If OP's boyfriend is going to wank it to girls on r/gonewild, I don't think it is fair for him to try and tell her that she can't take nude photos and post them online. Because she would essentially be doing the same thing that those girls that he is wanking it to are doing, except she would be making a profit. A profit that he could even benefit from if the two of them share any kind of financial responsibilities. From my POV, it seems like it has the potential to be a good thing, but could just as easily backfire considering that he doesn't seem to like the idea in the first place.
I think OP should at least sit down with him and have a discussion about it though. I'm assuming that she hasn't done that already, since she said she found out that he does this by looking at his browser history.
I also want to point out that if her boyfriend is a member of reddit, then he absolutely has the ability to interact with the girls who are posting pictures in r/gonewild. OP didn't include any of that information though, so we don't know if he is just simply looking at the pictures, or if he has an account there and is interacting with them. If he is interacting though, it is most definitely a double standard. Because OP and her boyfriend would essentially be doing the same thing except that the roles would be reversed. Him interacting with girls posting their nude photos, and her posting her nude photos and interacting with the guys who comment on them. 
And even if she were to interact with the guys who comment on her pics, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is going to start having cyber sex with them or cheat on her boyfriend with them. Likewise, just because he may be interacting with the women in r/gonewild doesn't necessarily mean that HE is trying to initiate something with THEM. Take the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread for example. I know there are several of us in there who post photos of that nature who are married/have boyfriends. I've gotten PM's from guys before who liked my pictures and tried to initiate something with me, but I politely told them that I had a boyfriend. There are also plenty of guys in relationships who browse that thread and post nice comments about the photos, and that's as far as it ever goes. I think OP and her boyfriend are insecure and need to realize that looking at other people is going to happen. But that it doesn't automatically mean that one partner is cheating or dissatisfied with the other because they are looking.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18933011 - 10/04/13 08:18 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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but *she
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 2
#18933097 - 10/04/13 08:38 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You know what really grinds my gears...? Women when they get all sanctimonious about their guys masturbation rituals. It is a simple fact that most men are wired differently than woman. Men are visual and women are 'imaginative'. And because men are visual and like to view material to stoke the fire their activities can be observed and analysed by snoopy, insecure mates. Women, when they choose to flick the bean, retrieve any manner of material from their spank bank (imagination) and get the job done. But because we men can't actually look at the mental browsing history it makes it ok that you just rubbed one out thinking about the guy over in accounting... Puhlease!
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18933105 - 10/04/13 08:39 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: If OP's boyfriend is going to wank it to girls on r/gonewild, I don't think it is fair for him to try and tell her that she can't take nude photos and post them online. Because she would essentially be doing the same thing that those girls that he is wanking it to are doing, except she would be making a profit. A profit that he could even benefit from if the two of them share any kind of financial responsibilities. From my POV, it seems like it has the potential to be a good thing, but could just as easily backfire considering that he doesn't seem to like the idea in the first place.
I think OP should at least sit down with him and have a discussion about it though. I'm assuming that she hasn't done that already, since she said she found out that he does this by looking at his browser history.
I also want to point out that if her boyfriend is a member of reddit, then he absolutely has the ability to interact with the girls who are posting pictures in r/gonewild. OP didn't include any of that information though, so we don't know if he is just simply looking at the pictures, or if he has an account there and is interacting with them. If he is interacting though, it is most definitely a double standard. Because OP and her boyfriend would essentially be doing the same thing except that the roles would be reversed. Him interacting with girls posting their nude photos, and her posting her nude photos and interacting with the guys who comment on them. 
And even if she were to interact with the guys who comment on her pics, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is going to start having cyber sex with them or cheat on her boyfriend with them. Likewise, just because he may be interacting with the women in r/gonewild doesn't necessarily mean that HE is trying to initiate something with THEM. Take the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread for example. I know there are several of us in there who post photos of that nature who are married/have boyfriends. I've gotten PM's from guys before who liked my pictures and tried to initiate something with me, but I politely told them that I had a boyfriend. There are also plenty of guys in relationships who browse that thread and post nice comments about the photos, and that's as far as it ever goes. I think OP and her boyfriend are insecure and need to realize that looking at other people is going to happen. But that it doesn't automatically mean that one partner is cheating or dissatisfied with the other because they are looking.
So by this logic, if he was watching gangbang porn, she could be in a gangbang?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18933135 - 10/04/13 08:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No, and how is that even the same thing?
OP specified that her boyfriend also watches porn on other websites but I didn't say anything about any kind of porn (aside from her nude pictures) because that was not relevant to the point that I was trying to make.
And the point I was trying to make was in response to this post:
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
He is saying that she would hypothetically be chatting with the people that she is getting naked for, while at the same time saying that her boyfriend is having no interaction with the naked women that he is looking at. I was simply trying to point out that in the instance of reddit, since that is one of the websites that she mentioned he was looking at, he DOES have the ability to interact with them, therefore making it a double standard. Because hypothetically he can interact with those women, just as she could interact with the guys she posts pictures for.
I also want to point out that OP didn't specify what kind of nude modeling she wanted to do. We don't know if she meant that she wanted to do live video where you chat with your viewers. For all we know, she could have meant taking stillshot photographs and putting them up on a website to make profit from. Just because someone is a nude model doesn't mean that they have to chat with their customers or even do live videos at all for them. 
Edit: As I was thinking about this some more just now, I kind of came to another realization about how it wouldn't exactly be fair if she was doing live nude videos with live chatting for profit. Because then she WOULD be kind of required to chat the viewers up all sexy like, in order to get their business. But if she is simply taking stillshot photos and posting them on a website where she may not even have any kind of interaction at all with her customers, then I don't see how it is fair for her boyfriend to try and keep her from doing that if he is going to continue doing what he is doing.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18933154 - 10/04/13 08:55 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: No, and how is that even the same thing?
OP specified that her boyfriend also watches porn on other websites but I didn't say anything about any kind of porn (aside from her nude pictures) because that was not relevant to the point that I was trying to make.
And the point I was trying to make was in response to this post:
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
He is saying that she would hypothetically be chatting with the people that she is getting naked for, while at the same time saying that her boyfriend is having no interaction with the naked women that he is looking at. I was simply trying to point out that in the instance of reddit, since that is one of the websites that she mentioned he was looking at, he DOES have the ability to interact with them, therefore making it a double standard. Because hypothetically he can interact with those women, just as she could interact with the guys she posts pictures for.
I also want to point out that OP didn't specify what kind of nude modeling she wanted to do. We don't know if she meant that she wanted to do live video where you chat with your viewers. For all we know, she could have meant taking stillshot photographs and putting them up on a website to make profit from. Just because someone is a nude model doesn't mean that they have to chat with their customers or even do live videos at all for them. 
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Ballerium said: No, and how is that even the same thing?
OP specified that her boyfriend also watches porn on other websites but I didn't say anything about any kind of porn (aside from her nude pictures) because that was not relevant to the point that I was trying to make.
And the point I was trying to make was in response to this post:
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
He is saying that she would hypothetically be chatting with the people that she is getting naked for, while at the same time saying that her boyfriend is having no interaction with the naked women that he is looking at. I was simply trying to point out that in the instance of reddit, since that is one of the websites that she mentioned he was looking at, he DOES have the ability to interact with them, therefore making it a double standard. Because hypothetically he can interact with those women, just as she could interact with the guys she posts pictures for.
I also want to point out that OP didn't specify what kind of nude modeling she wanted to do. We don't know if she meant that she wanted to do live video where you chat with your viewers. For all we know, she could have meant taking stillshot photographs and putting them up on a website to make profit from. Just because someone is a nude model doesn't mean that they have to chat with their customers or even do live videos at all for them. 
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Ballerium said: No, and how is that even the same thing?
OP specified that her boyfriend also watches porn on other websites but I didn't say anything about any kind of porn (aside from her nude pictures) because that was not relevant to the point that I was trying to make.
And the point I was trying to make was in response to this post:
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
He is saying that she would hypothetically be chatting with the people that she is getting naked for, while at the same time saying that her boyfriend is having no interaction with the naked women that he is looking at. I was simply trying to point out that in the instance of reddit, since that is one of the websites that she mentioned he was looking at, he DOES have the ability to interact with them, therefore making it a double standard. Because hypothetically he can interact with those women, just as she could interact with the guys she posts pictures for.
I also want to point out that OP didn't specify what kind of nude modeling she wanted to do. We don't know if she meant that she wanted to do live video where you chat with your viewers. For all we know, she could have meant taking stillshot photographs and putting them up on a website to make profit from. Just because someone is a nude model doesn't mean that they have to chat with their customers or even do live videos at all for them. 
You have horrible reasoning.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18933166 - 10/04/13 08:56 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Would you care to elaborate a little more? I provided you with a well thought out response that makes a lot of sense IMO. How do you not see where I am coming from?
Also, you may want to go back and read my other post. I added another comment to it while you were in the midst of writing a response, so you may have missed it.
I also want to know, why are you guys all in an uproar about her supposedly being a camwhore in the first place? She hasn't even specified what she meant by nude modeling and nowhere did she say that she was going to be chatting with the people looking at her photos. You CAN run a nude photo website without chatting with the people who pay to look at your photos, you know.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18933498 - 10/04/13 10:12 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: Would you care to elaborate a little more? I provided you with a well thought out response that makes a lot of sense IMO. How do you not see where I am coming from?
Also, you may want to go back and read my other post. I added another comment to it while you were in the midst of writing a response, so you may have missed it.
I also want to know, why are you guys all in an uproar about her supposedly being a camwhore in the first place? She hasn't even specified what she meant by nude modeling and nowhere did she say that she was going to be chatting with the people looking at her photos. You CAN run a nude photo website without chatting with the people who pay to look at your photos, you know. 
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Ballerium said: Would you care to elaborate a little more? I provided you with a well thought out response that makes a lot of sense IMO. How do you not see where I am coming from?
Also, you may want to go back and read my other post. I added another comment to it while you were in the midst of writing a response, so you may have missed it.
I also want to know, why are you guys all in an uproar about her supposedly being a camwhore in the first place? She hasn't even specified what she meant by nude modeling and nowhere did she say that she was going to be chatting with the people looking at her photos. You CAN run a nude photo website without chatting with the people who pay to look at your photos, you know. 
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Ballerium said: Would you care to elaborate a little more? I provided you with a well thought out response that makes a lot of sense IMO. How do you not see where I am coming from?
Also, you may want to go back and read my other post. I added another comment to it while you were in the midst of writing a response, so you may have missed it.
I also want to know, why are you guys all in an uproar about her supposedly being a camwhore in the first place? She hasn't even specified what she meant by nude modeling and nowhere did she say that she was going to be chatting with the people looking at her photos. You CAN run a nude photo website without chatting with the people who pay to look at your photos, you know. 
Your justification for her was that he looks at it, and those girls do it, so he should be fine with it.
Now apply that same reasoning to gangbang/etc/w.e porn.
Understand? I even bolded the main part for you.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18933504 - 10/04/13 10:13 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: If OP's boyfriend is going to wank it to girls on r/gonewild, I don't think it is fair for him to try and tell her that she can't take nude photos and post them online. Because she would essentially be doing the same thing that those girls that he is wanking it to are doing, except she would be making a profit. A profit that he could even benefit from if the two of them share any kind of financial responsibilities. From my POV, it seems like it has the potential to be a good thing, but could just as easily backfire considering that he doesn't seem to like the idea in the first place.
I think OP should at least sit down with him and have a discussion about it though. I'm assuming that she hasn't done that already, since she said she found out that he does this by looking at his browser history.
I also want to point out that if her boyfriend is a member of reddit, then he absolutely has the ability to interact with the girls who are posting pictures in r/gonewild. OP didn't include any of that information though, so we don't know if he is just simply looking at the pictures, or if he has an account there and is interacting with them. If he is interacting though, it is most definitely a double standard. Because OP and her boyfriend would essentially be doing the same thing except that the roles would be reversed. Him interacting with girls posting their nude photos, and her posting her nude photos and interacting with the guys who comment on them. 
And even if she were to interact with the guys who comment on her pics, it doesn't necessarily mean that she is going to start having cyber sex with them or cheat on her boyfriend with them. Likewise, just because he may be interacting with the women in r/gonewild doesn't necessarily mean that HE is trying to initiate something with THEM. Take the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread for example. I know there are several of us in there who post photos of that nature who are married/have boyfriends. I've gotten PM's from guys before who liked my pictures and tried to initiate something with me, but I politely told them that I had a boyfriend. There are also plenty of guys in relationships who browse that thread and post nice comments about the photos, and that's as far as it ever goes. I think OP and her boyfriend are insecure and need to realize that looking at other people is going to happen. But that it doesn't automatically mean that one partner is cheating or dissatisfied with the other because they are looking.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18933758 - 10/04/13 11:06 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Alright so I don't watch porn and masturbate seldom so I come from another perspective altogether. I knew a girl in college who was open about using her iPad to watch porn every night. She had her own dorm and let me use it one time and I found something that was like the Google suggested searches she had watched, whooo she was into porn pretty deep. Funny cus she was just so innocent lol anyways, I see where that guy up there sees it as NO double standard. Where's the comparison even?! If these girls already have uploaded pictures of themselves then it would be the equivalent of some girl finding the pictures I put up a few days ago. If op wanted to watch all the porn she wanted, that would be the exact same topic. To say that playing GTA v is ok and it's a double standard not to steal cars all the time, I think this argument is stupid. This girl can look at all the porn she damn well pleases. As soon as your boyfriend starts actively trying to get girls lustful over him, which I'm assuming is damn well hard over the internet, then you have a case. For now, get out of my court.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium] 1
#18933812 - 10/04/13 11:15 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I also want to know, why are you guys all in an uproar about her supposedly being a camwhore in the first place?
The Browser History.

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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18933883 - 10/04/13 11:28 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Okay, I see what you are saying now. I can understand that he may not necessarily want her doing it just because some other girls are doing it. His girlfriend is not equal to them in terms of how he regards them. One is his girlfriend, the others are not. I get that. But what makes him getting off to other women any different from other guys getting off to his girlfriend?
For me personally, if I were to choose between my boyfriend looking at and possibly getting off to other women, versus him taking pictures of his dick and posting it online for people to see, I would choose the latter. Maybe I see it differently because I am a female, but if he is lusting after someone else and looking at and jacking off to their pictures, that raises more concern to me than if there were a bunch of women masturbating to naked pictures of him.
And then as I thought about that for a second, I realized that there aren't going to be as many women masturbating to pics of guys as there are going to be men masturbating to pics of women. Because men are more visual creatures, and women don't necessarily need a picture of a guy to get off, like someone else said. So I guess in that regard, they aren't equal at all. If you looked at it in terms of which situation would be better conditions for each partner to cheat, it would be more likely for his girlfriend to cheat if she were to post her own pictures because she would likely have a lot of men responding and trying to interact with her. But it would be more likely for her boyfriend to cheat if he interacted with another girl who posts her photos, but even then he would probably be competing with all the other guys who also tried to interact with her, and even then it would all depend on whether or not she was single or if she didn't cheat.
So I guess I just dug myself into a hole.
My other point still remains though, that a person can post their nude or semi-nude pictures online and still remain faithful to their partner. I have a feeling that maybe that is where OP's boyfriends' insecurities lie as far as her posting her own nude photos are concerned, but I could be wrong since she hasn't specified. Maybe he feels like her body is something that should be reserved for him only to see? I don't know, but I wish OP would provide more information.
I am also high right now, and this probably isn't even going to make sense to anybody anwyay.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18933885 - 10/04/13 11:28 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I am just gonna say this, fuck him as much and as often as you like. But sometimes rubbing one out is much more time effective. Or you could wait for him to get online one morning and just come out drop to your knees and take care of him while he watches his porn. Or, you could watch porn yourself and see if it bothers him. All in all, I don't remember who said it, but even though you may have initially stumbled on his history accidentally, snooping thereafter or "checking up" on it, usually you will find answers you don't want.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18933893 - 10/04/13 11:29 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18933958 - 10/04/13 11:45 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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also,
www.yourbrainonporn.com
double  
porn and masturbation is probably in the top 3 biggest addiction men face in this world, its also the most unnoticed since its truly personal.. thats just my 2 cents. most likely your boyfriend jacks off everyday, alot more then you know, and even the same days you two have sex or give orgasm's to eachother. i haven't read your whole post, but usually the story leads to the outcome/later discussion of 'Masturbation and porn addiction'
help your boyfriend, and realize its not him, its the culture we grow up in that Misinforms many people, it truly is forced into young minds who aren't able to think for themselves and then they find themselves in Your situation when there older..
people buy into things, like how its good to do that frequently, that' masturbating is superhealthy.. Its the exact opposite when your a chronic masturbater who cannot control himself.
Another example, many/we get told this will help us/you lose 15 pounds and we instantly look into 'what to do with this diet', rather then checking to see if the diet is even healthy for us to begin with... usually people also gain the weight back and even more, so again the exact opposite of losing weight becomes the outcome (possibly) regardless its just terribly unhealthy.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
#18934038 - 10/05/13 12:05 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Please...
Masturbation is normal and healthy. Did OP say her BF was a "chronic masturbator" masturbating 15 times a day? No? Ok then.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18934254 - 10/05/13 01:19 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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15 times really? way to just throw in there a bulshit number to 'live by' Moving on, lets just look at this from a different angle, on a small but seemingly 'grand scale of masturbating' in two weeks
Does masturbating 14 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (1timeaday) Does masturbating 28 times in 2 weeks sound right to you? (2times) Does masturbating 42 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (3timesaday) Does masturbating 70 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (5timesaday) OR does masturbating 4 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you (2timesaweek)
Moving on again, He watches Porn everyday. Sounds like its part of the schedule, sounds like a habit, sounds like addiction, sounds like its effecting his interpersonal relationships.. am I right or wrong? who the fuck watches porn everyday? is that normal to you?
jacking off and porn are so in-tact with eachother you will rarely find someone watching porn without masturbating... Like i said previously Masturbating is a deeply personal thing, can be super embarrassing for many, and is most likely kept very hidden from his girlfriend.
when they regard masturbating is healthy, They should clarify twice a week is already more then enough. Therefore should only apply to people who are NOT addicted and those who will not feel different without masturbating/porn. also your body will release your semen naturally. im assuming you know this.
Regardless, he's watching porn and not jacking off, it happens sure, but in general its not Really often nor realistic that many can do this, when was the last time you chose to look at porn without wanking it? moving on he's formed a habbit of looking at porn - i posted two informative links on the topic.
she's posting about it - sounds like its a problem.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18934318 - 10/05/13 01:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Does masturbating 14 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (1timeaday) Does masturbating 28 times in 2 weeks sound right to you? (2times) Does masturbating 42 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (3timesaday) Does masturbating 70 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (5timesaday) OR does masturbating 4 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you (2timesaweek)
What the fuck does it matter either way?
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Moving on again, He watches Porn everyday. Sounds like its part of the schedule, sounds like a habit, sounds like addiction, sounds like its effecting his interpersonal relationships.. am I right or wrong?
You are wrong.
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when they regard masturbating is healthy, They should clarify twice a week is already more then enough. Therefore should only apply to people who are NOT addicted and those who will not feel different without masturbating/porn. also your body will release your semen naturally. im assuming you know this.
Yes I know this. Your body releases it because YOU aren't. It builds up so much that it happens in your sleep.
Also who the hell says 2 times a week is more than enough and any more than that is too much? Where do you pull these completely arbitrary numbers from?
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she's posting about it - sounds like its a problem.
Sounds to me like she's creating the problem in her own head.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18934443 - 10/05/13 02:23 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I barely read what she said if I had, I did jump to conclusions, but I'm still correct with what I preach. I just posted informative links and my experience,.
Arbitrary? I'm looking for balance, moderation. You pulled that 15 out of your ass though, I'm not sure if you get the point of the scale- its suppose to give you an idea of how ridiculous you sound when you say lower sounding numbers like once or twice a day can't cause changes in your brain over extended periods. You will go from a male seeking a real life partner to a male conditioned to his hand with limited drive for real life experiences, limited drive for real human touch.
If you think everyday is a balance then I disagree. Some people.can handle it, I'm willing to bet that too much self stimulation, which to me n others is once a day, leaves you vulnerable to twice a day. Twice a day already turns jacking off in two weeks to 28 times. Most likely you will be more tired then someone who abstains entirely.
If your living alone on a space ship, I understand jacking off two times a day sounds logical. But if your not save your efforts for real encounters. And don't listen to Mr shroomery over her
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
#18934454 - 10/05/13 02:25 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Actually I jerk it pretty much every day and have vigorous sex with my woman every day as well, and we have a great healthy relationship. Not that it's any of your concern. But thanks for caring.
I only pulled an arbitrary number out of my ass because you said this:
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In no area of her post was it stated or implied that he was a chronic masturbator who cannot control himself. And who is to decide what is too much? You? She said herself their relationship and sex life is great other than her snooping on his browsing history.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18934612 - 10/05/13 03:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
yah you try having a low libido in a partner and see how that works and get back with us
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: CosmicJoke]
#18934701 - 10/05/13 04:18 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Honestly seems like your just insecure about yourself regardless whether it has to do with him beating off to porn! If you weren't you wouldn't care he has his own sexual fantasys as well as you do because clearly you have fantasies of getting off infront of a webcam and a bunch of guys!! I think your the one setting double standards but your trying to put him to be the bad guy in the situation, just because he likes to beat off and have something to help doesn't make him a bad guy.. it makes him man enough not to cheat on you!! If your so insecure about yourself that you have to show millions of guys your body and moaning face then you need to change something! I think your using the ole " to make a little profit" line just so you can try justifying your fantasies and not feel bad for doing it!! Imho atleast he isn't justifying his sexual fantasies anf you both would get more on the same page if you told him how you feel instead of snooping around and even talking to others before him.. if you guys had that great of a relationship you would talk to HIM first!! Also seems like some sort of trust issue in there!! I believe if you can do the webcam thing an also go behind his back to kinda be little him for doin somethin natural then you would probably be little him to another guy about more serious things to justify the other guy caving your hips in!! Just imho
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18934762 - 10/05/13 04:54 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Shroomism said: Actually I jerk it pretty much every day and have vigorous sex with my woman every day as well, and we have a great healthy relationship. Not that it's any of your concern. But thanks for caring.
I only pulled an arbitrary number out of my ass because you said this:
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itchmynipple said: Its the exact opposite when your a chronic masturbater who cannot control himself.
In no area of her post was it stated or implied that he was a chronic masturbator who cannot control himself. And who is to decide what is too much? You? She said herself their relationship and sex life is great other than her snooping on his browsing history.
yes, you responded by literally pulling a number out of your butcheeks and making it the rule of thumb. i mention numbers that are common in porn/masturbation addiction as i have talked to many. moderation isn't a number pulled out your ass, or mine, but its a concept many of us seem to understand but you. everyday - is habit forming. i bet going 3 days without masturbating for you would probably be a struggle. i already assumed you jacked off everyday, you think you are literally the rule of thumb.
 i dont think a habit or in this case your habit is necessarily terrible, but its certainly not 'good' if thats what your getting at. You just know though for sure your addicted when your continuing to do repetitive behaviors against your will, and its affecting those around you/yourself. also, i don't see why you feel the need to masturbate everyday if your having sex everyday it's rather pointless, you must really need that alone-sexy time everyday im goingto assume the average GF doesnt know if her bf masturbates everyday , im goingto also assume they wouldn't be very happy.
 why do you keep implying that i keep implying things after i have now repeatedly said i have not applied any of what the OP says to what i have said, n i came to my conclusion and im backing up my conclusion so take the OP out of the story, and were talking about habits. you clearly have a habit if your doing it everyday, everyday is a habit you do not agree?
go ahead, say you eat cereal every fucking day i dare you. im raady
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: mrbossman24]
#18934805 - 10/05/13 05:20 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mrbossman24 said: Honestly seems like your just insecure about yourself regardless whether it has to do with him beating off to porn! If you weren't you wouldn't care he has his own sexual fantasys as well as you do because clearly you have fantasies of getting off infront of a webcam and a bunch of guys!! I think your the one setting double standards but your trying to put him to be the bad guy in the situation, just because he likes to beat off and have something to help doesn't make him a bad guy.. it makes him man enough not to cheat on you!! If your so insecure about yourself that you have to show millions of guys your body and moaning face then you need to change something! I think your using the ole " to make a little profit" line just so you can try justifying your fantasies and not feel bad for doing it!! Imho atleast he isn't justifying his sexual fantasies anf you both would get more on the same page if you told him how you feel instead of snooping around and even talking to others before him.. if you guys had that great of a relationship you would talk to HIM first!! Also seems like some sort of trust issue in there!! I believe if you can do the webcam thing an also go behind his back to kinda be little him for doin somethin natural then you would probably be little him to another guy about more serious things to justify the other guy caving your hips in!! Just imho
OP has not specified anywhere in the thread that she wants to do live webcam shows. All she said was "nude modeling/nude photos". That is not the same thing as getting up in front of a bunch of guys and moaning for them.
What I want to know is does OP's boyfriend's issue lie with the idea of her talking and interacting with a bunch if guys, or does he have a problem with her simply showing her body to other guys period? Because he does not own her body, and simply showing it to others does not constitute cheating, so why does he have such a problem with it? Anybody else who feels the same as OP's boyfriend, please feel free to chime in. Maybe I'm just not seeing what the big deal is because I'm not a guy.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
#18934885 - 10/05/13 06:11 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You sure do assume a lot of bullshit. Here let me clear that up for you:
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itchmynipple said: i bet going 3 days without masturbating for you would probably be a struggle.
And you would be wrong. Just because I usually do, does not mean I have to. I can and do go for 3+ days or even a week or two between.
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i don't see why you feel the need to masturbate everyday if your having sex everyday it's rather pointless, you must really need that alone-sexy time everyday
And who the fuck are you exactly, to define what is pointless or needed, in MY life? I'm a grown ass man, I can make my own decisions thank you very much.
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im goingto assume the average GF doesnt know if her bf masturbates everyday , im goingto also assume they wouldn't be very happy.
My GF knows. I can't speak for others. And it doesn't make her sad or happy. She's neutral on it. Because I still have plenty of sexy time with her and she is a mature adult and knows that it is totally natural for men. We've lived together for about 4 years now.
You know what they say about ASSumptions.. it makes an ass out of you.
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you clearly have a habit if your doing it everyday, everyday is a habit you do not agree?
I also brush my teeth, shit, eat, sleep, smoke weed, go to work, exercise and play video games every day. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a habit if it is not negatively affecting your life. What about masturbation in moderation is unhealthy? Please fucking explain that shit to me.
Your excessive use of graemlins does not make your points any more valid or mind-blowing. Also, please learn proper grammar.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18935061 - 10/05/13 08:07 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Shroomism makes some great points. Let me add a few others. The whole "your brain on porn" is pseudo-science bullshit. People can get addicted to porn like any other dopamine releasing activity but it's not the propaganda pseudo-science bs that website shits out.
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OP has not specified anywhere in the thread that she wants to do live webcam shows. All she said was "nude modeling/nude photos". That is not the same thing as getting up in front of a bunch of guys and moaning for them.
What I want to know is does OP's boyfriend's issue lie with the idea of her talking and interacting with a bunch if guys, or does he have a problem with her simply showing her body to other guys period? Because he does not own her body, and simply showing it to others does not constitute cheating, so why does he have such a problem with it? Anybody else who feels the same as OP's boyfriend, please feel free to chime in. Maybe I'm just not seeing what the big deal is because I'm not a guy.
A lot of guys have insecurities and double standards. They usually disappear as they grow older but sometimes not. It's stupid that these double standards exists. I am posting this anonymously for the following reason. My girlfriend does nude pictures. I think it's sexy and hot and most importantly she should be able to do what she wants in our relationship without feeling cornered and trapped. Why would I be insecure about it? She is with me - not them. Gah jealousy is so unattractive.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#18935414 - 10/05/13 09:49 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Since when is everything that someone days daily considered an addiction?
I used to jerk one off every morning. even when I had a gf. it just seemed to put me in a clear head state. Not thinking about women all day at work.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18935649 - 10/05/13 11:05 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Here's a summary that would have ended this thread with the first reply:
"If you don't like your guy jerking off, then don't date a guy"
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18935862 - 10/05/13 12:21 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: Okay, I see what you are saying now. I can understand that he may not necessarily want her doing it just because some other girls are doing it. His girlfriend is not equal to them in terms of how he regards them. One is his girlfriend, the others are not. I get that. But what makes him getting off to other women any different from other guys getting off to his girlfriend?
For me personally, if I were to choose between my boyfriend looking at and possibly getting off to other women, versus him taking pictures of his dick and posting it online for people to see, I would choose the latter. Maybe I see it differently because I am a female, but if he is lusting after someone else and looking at and jacking off to their pictures, that raises more concern to me than if there were a bunch of women masturbating to naked pictures of him.
And then as I thought about that for a second, I realized that there aren't going to be as many women masturbating to pics of guys as there are going to be men masturbating to pics of women. Because men are more visual creatures, and women don't necessarily need a picture of a guy to get off, like someone else said. So I guess in that regard, they aren't equal at all. If you looked at it in terms of which situation would be better conditions for each partner to cheat, it would be more likely for his girlfriend to cheat if she were to post her own pictures because she would likely have a lot of men responding and trying to interact with her. But it would be more likely for her boyfriend to cheat if he interacted with another girl who posts her photos, but even then he would probably be competing with all the other guys who also tried to interact with her, and even then it would all depend on whether or not she was single or if she didn't cheat.
So I guess I just dug myself into a hole.
My other point still remains though, that a person can post their nude or semi-nude pictures online and still remain faithful to their partner. I have a feeling that maybe that is where OP's boyfriends' insecurities lie as far as her posting her own nude photos are concerned, but I could be wrong since she hasn't specified. Maybe he feels like her body is something that should be reserved for him only to see? I don't know, but I wish OP would provide more information.
I am also high right now, and this probably isn't even going to make sense to anybody anwyay. 
Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Patlal] 2
#18936149 - 10/05/13 01:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Patlal said: Here's a summary that would have ended this thread with the first reply:
"If you don't like your guy jerking off, then don't date a guy"
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Atrium]
#18936364 - 10/05/13 02:33 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jamesdnh said: Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
Got it. 
Is the idea of your (and I mean you in general, anyone who wants to reply) girlfriend getting turned on at the thought of a bunch of guys lusting over her somehow worse than the idea of her getting off to pictures of another guy? Why is one of these scenarios okay yet the other one is not okay? To me its all fantasizing. He's fantasizing about someone else and she's fantasizing about someone else being turned on by her, so they're both getting off to the idea of someone else, so what makes the two situations so different in the end?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18936375 - 10/05/13 02:36 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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@itchmynipple
you seem to not understand the concept of other people having differing levels of sex drive. You asked why Shroomerism would want to masturbate every day while still getting sex everyday. Uh... maybe because, you know... HE'S FUCKING HORNY. You must not have a high sex drive. Me for instance, currently i'm in a long distance relationship so i'm not getting sex. i'll masturbate on average twice a day because i have a very high libido. Regardless of whether or not i watch porn. And when i am getting sex with my girlfriend, i'm dont ever masturbate because she makes me cum 2-3 times a day through sex and other activities. Now if i only came once when we were together then i'd have to masturbate as well. But i bet now your going to say i'm excessive because apparently your the standard for every male on earth
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18936388 - 10/05/13 02:39 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jamesdnh said: Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
Got it. 
Is the idea of your (and I mean you in general, anyone who wants to reply) girlfriend getting turned on at the thought of a bunch of guys lusting over her somehow worse than the idea of her getting off to pictures of another guy? Why is one of these scenarios okay yet the other one is not okay? To me its all fantasizing. He's fantasizing about someone else and she's fantasizing about someone else being turned on by her, so they're both getting off to the idea of someone else, so what makes the two situations so different in the end?
Because in your scenario everything is just fantasy. I could care less what my girlfriend fantasizes about, but acting out fantasy is a different story. Its like saying well she's into rape fantasy porn, so whats wrong with him going out and raping a girl if that turns him on? Now obviously this is a very extreme example. But i think it proves my point that just imagining something is VERY different than following through. She can get turned on at the thought of posting nudes all day. But actually exposing herself to other people is completely different.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18936410 - 10/05/13 02:47 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jamesdnh said: Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
Got it. 
Is the idea of your (and I mean you in general, anyone who wants to reply) girlfriend getting turned on at the thought of a bunch of guys lusting over her somehow worse than the idea of her getting off to pictures of another guy? Why is one of these scenarios okay yet the other one is not okay? To me its all fantasizing. He's fantasizing about someone else and she's fantasizing about someone else being turned on by her, so they're both getting off to the idea of someone else, so what makes the two situations so different in the end?
Yes and no. If I have a girlfriend besides Palmela Handerson who is lusted for than that means she is attractive. It'd also mean she has many opportunities to cheat. If it's pure attraction and stated tastefully and no action is made toward my girlfriend, I wouldn't feel pain. In fact, it'd be awesome to me. Psychologically we're all different so remember that. But if I ever found out she was actively showing herself off for guys to ogle at her then that would be the end of the relationship right there. But again I also come from the perspective of no porn and my only release should be my girlfriend or wife (which would be damn-near 2 times a day) so I find it weird that this guy is looking at porn constantly when he has a willing woman in front of him.
So to end the discussion, I think this particular question should be answered as,"if it bothers you and he won't change then leave" because everything else is personal opinions on what they would do.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: psyconaught]
#18936520 - 10/05/13 03:23 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18936693 - 10/05/13 04:11 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.
i cant speak for jamesdnh. But for me i honestly don't care what my girlfriend does as long as she's not cheating on me or baiting other guys. I think what alot of people are saying is just that its not a double standard. Not necessarily that its wrong of her to do that
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: psyconaught]
#18936754 - 10/05/13 04:25 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: Shroomism makes some great points. Let me add a few others. The whole "your brain on porn" is pseudo-science bullshit. People can get addicted to porn like any other dopamine releasing activity but it's not the propaganda pseudo-science bs that website shits out.
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mrbossman24 said: Honestly seems like your just insecure about yourself regardless whether it has to do with him beating off to porn! If you weren't you wouldn't care he has his own sexual fantasys as well as you do because clearly you have fantasies of getting off infront of a webcam and a bunch of guys!! I think your the one setting double standards but your trying to put him to be the bad guy in the situation, just because he likes to beat off and have something to help doesn't make him a bad guy.. it makes him man enough not to cheat on you!! If your so insecure about yourself that you have to show millions of guys your body and moaning face then you need to change something! I think your using the ole " to make a little profit" line just so you can try justifying your fantasies and not feel bad for doing it!! Imho atleast he isn't justifying his sexual fantasies anf you both would get more on the same page if you told him how you feel instead of snooping around and even talking to others before him.. if you guys had that great of a relationship you would talk to HIM first!! Also seems like some sort of trust issue in there!! I believe if you can do the webcam thing an also go behind his back to kinda be little him for doin somethin natural then you would probably be little him to another guy about more serious things to justify the other guy caving your hips in!! Just imho
OP has not specified anywhere in the thread that she wants to do live webcam shows. All she said was "nude modeling/nude photos". That is not the same thing as getting up in front of a bunch of guys and moaning for them.
What I want to know is does OP's boyfriend's issue lie with the idea of her talking and interacting with a bunch if guys, or does he have a problem with her simply showing her body to other guys period? Because he does not own her body, and simply showing it to others does not constitute cheating, so why does he have such a problem with it? Anybody else who feels the same as OP's boyfriend, please feel free to chime in. Maybe I'm just not seeing what the big deal is because I'm not a guy.
A lot of guys have insecurities and double standards. They usually disappear as they grow older but sometimes not. It's stupid that these double standards exists. I am posting this anonymously for the following reason. My girlfriend does nude pictures. I think it's sexy and hot and most importantly she should be able to do what she wants in our relationship without feeling cornered and trapped. Why would I be insecure about it? She is with me - not them. Gah jealousy is so unattractive.
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you seem to not understand the concept of other people having differing levels of sex drive. You asked why Shroomerism would want to masturbate every day while still getting sex everyday. Uh... maybe because, you know... HE'S FUCKING HORNY. You must not have a high sex drive. Me for instance, currently i'm in a long distance relationship so i'm not getting sex. i'll masturbate on average twice a day because i have a very high libido. Regardless of whether or not i watch porn. And when i am getting sex with my girlfriend, i'm dont ever masturbate because she makes me cum 2-3 times a day through sex and other activities. Now if i only came once when we were together then i'd have to masturbate as well. But i bet now your going to say i'm excessive because apparently your the standard for every male on earth
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
#18937208 - 10/05/13 06:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.
i cant speak for jamesdnh. But for me i honestly don't care what my girlfriend does as long as she's not cheating on me or baiting other guys. I think what alot of people are saying is just that its not a double standard. Not necessarily that its wrong of her to do that
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Anonymous said: A lot of guys have insecurities and double standards. They usually disappear as they grow older but sometimes not. It's stupid that these double standards exists. I am posting this anonymously for the following reason. My girlfriend does nude pictures. I think it's sexy and hot and most importantly she should be able to do what she wants in our relationship without feeling cornered and trapped. Why would I be insecure about it? She is with me - not them. Gah jealousy is so unattractive.
Exactly, and that was the whole point I was trying to make all along by asking all of these questions. I can't speak for everyone, but me posting my pictures has done nothing detrimental to my relationship as far as I know. My boyfriend knows that I post pictures here, and he is okay with it as long as I send the pictures to him too. I take the pictures because one I enjoy photography, two, because it makes me feel sexy to dress up and take those kinds of pictures, and three because I like the attention I get when I post them. 
I don't sit around fantasizing about every guy that posts a comment about my pictures though. It just feels good to know that someone else out there in the world finds me attractive, because for most of my life I never felt that I was. So it is a nice confidence boost. Anyway I get why a guy would feel insecure or bothered by his girlfriend posting nude/scantily clad photos, but it isn't always because the girl is out looking for an excuse to cheat or out to hurt him or get even because he faps or whatever. Not to mention if it makes the girl feel sexy, then that seems to me like it would be a positive thing, because that would translate over into the bedroom. Girlfriend feeling good about her body and sexy = better sexy time for both people involved IMO. Plus as a guy, wouldn't it feel good knowing other guys find your girlfriend desirable, but that at the end of the day, you are the only one who gets to enjoy all the perks of being with her?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium] 3
#18937226 - 10/05/13 06:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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The bigger concern in your relationship appears to be that you have trust issues - snooping around through his browser history, are you his girl or his mother?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18937479 - 10/05/13 07:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I think you're still confusing the issue by equating the two acts, when in fact they are direct opposites. Looking at porn and fantasizing is one thing. She is free to fantasize about guys thinking she's attractive all she wants. But when she starts posting pics, that is a different thing entirely; that is not fantasy, that is bringing it to reality. This deserves two separate conversations.
It has been noted that, pretty much all guys do this. I think it ought to be said too though that when a guy is looking at porn, there really isn't that much investment on his part. I can say personally that I'm really just lookin at pussy and tits and imaging sex- not fantasizing about having sex with THAT particular girl. Just sex in general. I'm saying that when a girl gets angry that her guy is 'lusting over other women' when he looks at porn, that isn't entirely accurate. It's more like lusting after lust, in a place where a guy can be selfish, and just enjoy the pleasure for what it is. It's a sexual act, but it doesn't replace sex, it's really rather different.
I had a gf who posted pics online, nothing sexual, but skimpy enough. No big deal. If she had, say, gotten a suicide girls shoot, I might have felt weird for a moment, but she is free to do as she pleases, and I might just take the ego boost of thinking 'yea, I'm dating a pornstar.' If that had launched a porn career, well, that's where the line gets fuzzy right? How would you feel telling your grandparents the girl your brought home makes her living doing adult films? I really want to say 'yay sexual freedom' but to be perfectly honest, I would think less of my partner if she paid the rent by stripping. I would have a problem believing the intimacy of someone who sold their intimacy over the internet. So it's not entirely clear. I think if my girl had a voyieristic streak and wants to post some pics, fuck it, have some fun. When it starts turning to monetary gain, tread carefully. When some other dude is telling her 'Yea, now lick the dildo's balls' ...that gives me the creeps.
I leave you with this: OPs friends are pretty unlikely to say 'Hey, I saw your bf looking at porn last night, he's into some weird stuff'; But how do you think OPs boyfriend is gonna feel when one of his friends or better yet his dad says 'Hey, I saw your girl on redtube last night, she fiiine.' See the difference now?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
#18937773 - 10/05/13 08:25 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: I think you're still confusing the issue by equating the two acts, when in fact they are direct opposites. Looking at porn and fantasizing is one thing. She is free to fantasize about guys thinking she's attractive all she wants. But when she starts posting pics, that is a different thing entirely; that is not fantasy, that is bringing it to reality. This deserves two separate conversations.
Yeah, and I'm still having a hard time not equating them. I get that they are literally not the same thing. One person is posting pictures of their body and the other one is not. But at the same time, one is doing something TO their body while looking at the pictures and getting physical pleasure from it, and the other person is simply basking in all the nice comments that they are receiving about their pictures, while not necessarily getting any kind of physical release from it. But I'm not going to press the issue anymore because at this point I feel like I'm just beating a dead horse. 
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Lynnch said: It has been noted that, pretty much all guys do this. I think it ought to be said too though that when a guy is looking at porn, there really isn't that much investment on his part. I can say personally that I'm really just lookin at pussy and tits and imaging sex- not fantasizing about having sex with THAT particular girl. Just sex in general. I'm saying that when a girl gets angry that her guy is 'lusting over other women' when he looks at porn, that isn't entirely accurate. It's more like lusting after lust, in a place where a guy can be selfish, and just enjoy the pleasure for what it is. It's a sexual act, but it doesn't replace sex, it's really rather different.
As long as it doesn't replace sex then I don't think that it is detrimental to the relationship. But at the same time, if I see or discover that my boyfriend is masturbating to other women or porn, I can't help but wonder what is wrong with me? Why can't he just come to me and have sex with me if he is in the mood? If I'm not in the mood then I can understand if he still needs to get off anyway, but even then why can't he look at MY pictures and get off, if he just needs a pair of tits and a pussy to look at? Why does it have to be some other woman? And if the answer is because a guy needs variety, then well, is he really just fantasizing about sex in general then? Because why else would he need a different body to masturbate to if its just a body and is about sex in general?
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Lynnch said: I had a gf who posted pics online, nothing sexual, but skimpy enough. No big deal. If she had, say, gotten a suicide girls shoot, I might have felt weird for a moment, but she is free to do as she pleases, and I might just take the ego boost of thinking 'yea, I'm dating a pornstar.' If that had launched a porn career, well, that's where the line gets fuzzy right? How would you feel telling your grandparents the girl your brought home makes her living doing adult films? I really want to say 'yay sexual freedom' but to be perfectly honest, I would think less of my partner if she paid the rent by stripping. I would have a problem believing the intimacy of someone who sold their intimacy over the internet. So it's not entirely clear. I think if my girl had a voyieristic streak and wants to post some pics, fuck it, have some fun. When it starts turning to monetary gain, tread carefully. When some other dude is telling her 'Yea, now lick the dildo's balls' ...that gives me the creeps.
I can see how it doesn't exactly present a wholesome image to your grandparents or whoever you are trying to give a good impression of about your girlfriend. But at the end of the day, what business of theirs is it anyway? People do plenty of things all the time that would make grandparents would roll over in their grave if they knew about, and porn is just one of them. But I do realize that people care about what their family thinks so I can understand not wanting to create any awkwardness or bad feelings by telling them that your girlfriend makes a living by being a pornstar.
And I can understand how some guy telling your girl to do weird stuff over a live nude webcam session would be creepy, but that is only one option for making money. There have been times where I thought, "Hey, I'm already posting practically nude photos of myself on the internet, for free, for people to see. Maybe I should try to get some kind of monetary benefit from it, since I am already doing it anyway and I enjoy it." But I don't think that highly of myself and I honestly would like to be in way better shape before I even considered doing something like that. But even if I ever did, live webcam or any kind of video would not be the way that I would go about it. I like nude/scantily clad/pinup type modeling which is what I already do to a degree, and it is a way for me to express myself. And just like any other modeling, it DOES take some skill to be able pose attractively and to conjure up facial expressions that portray the look/idea that you are trying to achieve. So for me personally, even though it is all pornography, nude modeling is not in the same category as say, gangbang porn. One is modeling and one is being fucked on camera. And if one were to take nude photos and post them to their own website, or another website that hosted them or whatever, then they don't even necessarily have to interact with any customers at all, so that removes a large chunk of creep factor right there IMO.
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Lynnch said: I leave you with this: OPs friends are pretty unlikely to say 'Hey, I saw your bf looking at porn last night, he's into some weird stuff'; But how do you think OPs boyfriend is gonna feel when one of his friends or better yet his dad says 'Hey, I saw your girl on redtube last night, she fiiine.' See the difference now?
You're right, it is different, especially when you put it like that.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18939349 - 10/06/13 09:16 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.
I can tell you what I think would happen but tonsay she's not "worthy" is kind of strange. I think the difference here is that we're here on the shroomery as more of an open crowd anyways. R/girlsgonewild (fuck reddit BTW) is the equivalent of a drunk girl flashing everything on spring break and letting everyone take pictures. So again they are separate but equal. I've never had this type of problem though. When I'm in a relationship, without being clingy, I let the girl know that she is and always will be my main focus and I chose her because she is sexy to me. But yeah I'm 19.
If I found out that before we officially dated, not even before we met, there is no problem with her having been a damn escort for all I care. If the "problem" (pictures or escorting) continued then a few tralks would take place then, if something didn't change then she wouldn't be worthy of dating. But I've found like 99% of women won't date me because of my psychedelic use so there's always other problems not implicitly sexual that we keep from each other to not hurt one another. If she asked me to never trip again, I'd easily quit.
I still say this guy shouldn't be slapping his dick silly every chance he gets. I'm just saying, me personally, I enjoy a more chaste girlfriend who seldom if ever dresses to turn heads and is modest. I know, doesn't exist. But because they are usually the strange version of extroverted or just very introverted, i reach a compromise of a girl who will let me be their gratification while we are together.
And that's just me. I don't look down upon a woman of the streets any more than a virgin in high school. We've all been on our own paths and I like having my stories interconnect with there's as friends or shines of light either on their behalf or mine. I'm saying cé la vi.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Atrium]
#18941270 - 10/06/13 05:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I would sometimes knock one out when my girlfriend was asleep or away just to make the damn boner go away. Often, one of those reasons were the only reason to masturbate in my relationships. Porn was just the visual trigger for making it faster to finish so I could get back to doing other things. That thing throbs after half an hour or so. Sometimes it's just annoying to sit/walk/be out in public with.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18943418 - 10/07/13 04:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
Coming to a forum where the main demographic is 18-25 yr old guys and asking this question is kind of laughable. You had to have known the answer you would receive here.
If it's causing problems in your relationship then you need to discuss it. If the relationship is worth continuing for both of you then there should be some understanding and compromises on both parts.
And stop looking at his history. It's not healthy for YOU, let alone the relationship. Just let it go...just walk away and do something else when you feel the urge to look.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: SillyMe]
#18944087 - 10/07/13 10:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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If this guy is having sex once a day and still masturbating every day too, He must have a sex drive from hell. Or he's in his early twenties.
I'd say that he's just really horny and needs to be left to his devices. If his girlfriend got him to stop looking daily, he might start cheating immediately.
Telling a girl not to look at porn when you do would be a double standard.
Telling a girl not to post pictures of herself or run a pornographic cam show while you look at porn is not a double standard.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #8]
#18944330 - 10/07/13 11:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jamesdnh said: I can tell you what I think would happen but tonsay she's not "worthy" is kind of strange. I think the difference here is that we're here on the shroomery as more of an open crowd anyways. R/girlsgonewild (fuck reddit BTW) is the equivalent of a drunk girl flashing everything on spring break and letting everyone take pictures. So again they are separate but equal. I've never had this type of problem though. When I'm in a relationship, without being clingy, I let the girl know that she is and always will be my main focus and I chose her because she is sexy to me. But yeah I'm 19.
Yeah, I feel like more open-minded people congregate here too. And like you said, they are separate but equal, but I don't know, the way you worded it makes me wonder if you feel like reddit is somehow worse than here? Are the pictures here more tasteful than the ones there, in your opinion? Or is it something else that makes it worse? Or maybe I'm just reading too much into what you said.
Admittedly I had never went to r/gonewild before until just now. I decided to go look and see for myself what it was like, since I had only heard from other people and from reading about it here. I haven't looked at too many threads/pictures yet but the ones I've been clicking on for the past couple minutes don't seem that different to me than what is posted here, but maybe I just haven't gotten far enough.
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Atrium
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Registered: 08/18/13
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18945211 - 10/07/13 02:52 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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No haha cus I used to go on 4chan /b or /soc all the time. That's why I say fuck reddit.
BTW I just checked out the /gonewild subreddit too. It really is quite a sight I'll tell you that! Saw a girl spread her pussy pretty wide from behind and created a pants tent pretty quick. I'm dedicated to the no faption life style though!
-------------------- The only thing about Chemistry I like is all the psychedelics that come from it. The only reason I study Psychology is to have a legitimate excuse to enjoy Chemistry.
Edited by Atrium (10/07/13 04:01 PM)
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