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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: psyconaught]
    #18936520 - 10/05/13 03:23 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
    #18936693 - 10/05/13 04:11 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.



i cant speak for jamesdnh. But for me i honestly don't care what my girlfriend does as long as she's not cheating on me or baiting other guys. I think what alot of people are saying is just that its not a double standard. Not necessarily that its wrong of her to do that


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: psyconaught]
    #18936754 - 10/05/13 04:25 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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Shroomism makes some great points. Let me add a few others.
The whole "your brain on porn" is pseudo-science bullshit. People can get addicted to porn like any other dopamine releasing activity but it's not the propaganda pseudo-science bs that website shits out.

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Honestly seems like your just insecure about yourself regardless whether it has to do with him beating off to porn! If you weren't you wouldn't care he has his own sexual fantasys as well as you do because clearly you have fantasies of getting off infront of a webcam and a bunch of guys!! I think your the one setting double standards but your trying to put him to be the bad guy in the situation, just because he likes to beat off and have something to help doesn't make him a bad guy.. it makes him man enough not to cheat on you!! If your so insecure about yourself that you have to show millions of guys your body and moaning face then you need to change something! I think your using the ole " to make a little profit" line just so you can try justifying your fantasies and not feel bad for doing it!! Imho atleast he isn't justifying his sexual fantasies anf you both would get more on the same page if you told him how you feel instead of snooping around and even talking to others before him.. if you guys had that great of a relationship you would talk to HIM first!! Also seems like some sort of trust issue in there!! I believe if you can do the webcam thing an also go behind his back to kinda be little him for doin somethin natural then you would probably be little him to another guy about more serious things to justify the other guy caving your hips in!! Just imho




OP has not specified anywhere in the thread that she wants to do live webcam shows. All she said was "nude modeling/nude photos". That is not the same thing as getting up in front of a bunch of guys and moaning for them.

What I want to know is does OP's boyfriend's issue lie with the idea of her talking and interacting with a bunch if guys, or does he have a problem with her simply showing her body to other guys period? Because he does not own her body, and simply showing it to others does not constitute cheating, so why does he have such a problem with it? Anybody else who feels the same as OP's boyfriend, please feel free to chime in. Maybe I'm just not seeing what the big deal is because I'm not a guy.




A lot of guys have insecurities and double standards. They usually disappear as they grow older but sometimes not.
It's stupid that these double standards exists.
I am posting this anonymously for the following reason. My girlfriend does nude pictures. I think it's sexy and hot and most importantly she should be able to do what she wants in our relationship without feeling cornered and trapped. Why would I be insecure about it? She is with me - not them. Gah jealousy is so unattractive.



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you seem to not understand the concept of other people having differing levels of sex drive. You asked why Shroomerism would want to masturbate every day while still getting sex everyday. Uh... maybe because, you know... HE'S FUCKING HORNY. You must not have a high sex drive. Me for instance, currently i'm in a long distance relationship so i'm not getting sex. i'll masturbate on average twice a day because i have a very high libido. Regardless of whether or not i watch porn. And when i am getting sex with my girlfriend, i'm dont ever masturbate because she makes me cum 2-3 times a day through sex and other activities. Now if i only came once when we were together then i'd have to masturbate as well. But i bet now your going to say i'm excessive because apparently your the standard for every male on earth




Lol, ok you win, keep jackin off everyday:thumbup: :wink:


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
    #18937208 - 10/05/13 06:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.




i cant speak for jamesdnh. But for me i honestly don't care what my girlfriend does as long as she's not cheating on me or baiting other guys. I think what alot of people are saying is just that its not a double standard. Not necessarily that its wrong of her to do that




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A lot of guys have insecurities and double standards. They usually disappear as they grow older but sometimes not.
It's stupid that these double standards exists.
I am posting this anonymously for the following reason. My girlfriend does nude pictures. I think it's sexy and hot and most importantly she should be able to do what she wants in our relationship without feeling cornered and trapped. Why would I be insecure about it? She is with me - not them. Gah jealousy is so unattractive.




Exactly, and that was the whole point I was trying to make all along by asking all of these questions. I can't speak for everyone, but me posting my pictures has done nothing detrimental to my relationship as far as I know. My boyfriend knows that I post pictures here, and he is okay with it as long as I send the pictures to him too. I take the pictures because one I enjoy photography, two, because it makes me feel sexy to dress up and take those kinds of pictures, and three because I like the attention I get when I post them. :shrug:

I don't sit around fantasizing about every guy that posts a comment about my pictures though. It just feels good to know that someone else out there in the world finds me attractive, because for most of my life I never felt that I was. So it is a nice confidence boost. Anyway I get why a guy would feel insecure or bothered by his girlfriend posting nude/scantily clad photos, but it isn't always because the girl is out looking for an excuse to cheat or out to hurt him or get even because he faps or whatever. Not to mention if it makes the girl feel sexy, then that seems to me like it would be a positive thing, because that would translate over into the bedroom. Girlfriend feeling good about her body and sexy = better sexy time for both people involved IMO. Plus as a guy, wouldn't it feel good knowing other guys find your girlfriend desirable, but that at the end of the day, you are the only one who gets to enjoy all the perks of being with her?


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium] * 3
    #18937226 - 10/05/13 06:04 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

The bigger concern in your relationship appears to be that you have trust issues - snooping around through his browser history, are you his girl or his mother?


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
    #18937479 - 10/05/13 07:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I think you're still confusing the issue by equating the two acts, when in fact they are direct opposites. Looking at porn and fantasizing is one thing. She is free to fantasize about guys thinking she's attractive all she wants. But when she starts posting pics, that is a different thing entirely; that is not fantasy, that is bringing it to reality.  This deserves two separate conversations.

It has been noted that, pretty much all guys do this. I think it ought to be said too though that when a guy is looking at porn, there really isn't that much investment on his part. I can say personally that I'm really just lookin at pussy and tits and imaging sex- not fantasizing about having sex with THAT particular girl. Just sex in general. I'm saying that when a girl gets angry that her guy is 'lusting over other women' when he looks at porn, that isn't entirely accurate. It's more like lusting after lust, in a place where a guy can be selfish, and just enjoy the pleasure for what it is. It's a sexual act, but it doesn't replace sex, it's really rather different.

I had a gf who posted pics online, nothing sexual, but skimpy enough. No big deal. If she had, say, gotten a suicide girls shoot, I might have felt weird for a moment, but she is free to do as she pleases, and I might just take the ego boost of thinking 'yea, I'm dating a pornstar.' If that had launched a porn career, well, that's where the line gets fuzzy right? How would you feel telling your grandparents the girl your brought home makes her living doing adult films?  I really want to say 'yay sexual freedom' but to be perfectly honest, I would think less of my partner if she paid the rent by stripping. I would have a problem believing the intimacy of someone who sold their intimacy over the internet.  So it's not entirely clear. I think if my girl had a voyieristic streak and wants to post some pics, fuck it, have some fun. When it starts turning to monetary gain, tread carefully. When some other dude is telling her 'Yea, now lick the dildo's balls' ...that gives me the creeps.

I leave you with this: OPs friends are pretty unlikely to say 'Hey, I saw your bf looking at porn last night, he's into some weird stuff'; But how do you think OPs boyfriend is gonna feel when one of his friends or better yet his dad says 'Hey, I saw your girl on redtube last night, she fiiine.'  See the difference now?


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
    #18937773 - 10/05/13 08:25 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I think you're still confusing the issue by equating the two acts, when in fact they are direct opposites. Looking at porn and fantasizing is one thing. She is free to fantasize about guys thinking she's attractive all she wants. But when she starts posting pics, that is a different thing entirely; that is not fantasy, that is bringing it to reality.  This deserves two separate conversations.




Yeah, and I'm still having a hard time not equating them. I get that they are literally not the same thing. One person is posting pictures of their body and the other one is not. But at the same time, one is doing something TO their body while looking at the pictures and getting physical pleasure from it, and the other person is simply basking in all the nice comments that they are receiving about their pictures, while not necessarily getting any kind of physical release from it. But I'm not going to press the issue anymore because at this point I feel like I'm just beating a dead horse. :lol:

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It has been noted that, pretty much all guys do this. I think it ought to be said too though that when a guy is looking at porn, there really isn't that much investment on his part. I can say personally that I'm really just lookin at pussy and tits and imaging sex- not fantasizing about having sex with THAT particular girl. Just sex in general. I'm saying that when a girl gets angry that her guy is 'lusting over other women' when he looks at porn, that isn't entirely accurate. It's more like lusting after lust, in a place where a guy can be selfish, and just enjoy the pleasure for what it is. It's a sexual act, but it doesn't replace sex, it's really rather different.




As long as it doesn't replace sex then I don't think that it is detrimental to the relationship. But at the same time, if I see or discover that my boyfriend is masturbating to other women or porn, I can't help but wonder what is wrong with me? Why can't he just come to me and have sex with me if he is in the mood? If I'm not in the mood then I can understand if he still needs to get off anyway, but even then why can't he look at MY pictures and get off, if he just needs a pair of tits and a pussy to look at? Why does it have to be some other woman? And if the answer is because a guy needs variety, then well, is he really just fantasizing about sex in general then? Because why else would he need a different body to masturbate to if its just a body and is about sex in general?


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I had a gf who posted pics online, nothing sexual, but skimpy enough. No big deal. If she had, say, gotten a suicide girls shoot, I might have felt weird for a moment, but she is free to do as she pleases, and I might just take the ego boost of thinking 'yea, I'm dating a pornstar.' If that had launched a porn career, well, that's where the line gets fuzzy right? How would you feel telling your grandparents the girl your brought home makes her living doing adult films?  I really want to say 'yay sexual freedom' but to be perfectly honest, I would think less of my partner if she paid the rent by stripping. I would have a problem believing the intimacy of someone who sold their intimacy over the internet.  So it's not entirely clear. I think if my girl had a voyieristic streak and wants to post some pics, fuck it, have some fun. When it starts turning to monetary gain, tread carefully. When some other dude is telling her 'Yea, now lick the dildo's balls' ...that gives me the creeps.




I can see how it doesn't exactly present a wholesome image to your grandparents or whoever you are trying to give a good impression of about your girlfriend. But at the end of the day, what business of theirs is it anyway? People do plenty of things all the time that would make grandparents would roll over in their grave if they knew about, and porn is just one of them. But I do realize that people care about what their family thinks so I can understand not wanting to create any awkwardness or bad feelings by telling them that your girlfriend makes a living by being a pornstar.

And I can understand how some guy telling your girl to do weird stuff over a live nude webcam session would be creepy, but that is only one option for making money. There have been times where I thought, "Hey, I'm already posting practically nude photos of myself on the internet, for free, for people to see. Maybe I should try to get some kind of monetary benefit from it, since I am already doing it anyway and I enjoy it." But I don't think that highly of myself and I honestly would like to be in way better shape before I even considered doing something like that. But even if I ever did, live webcam or any kind of video would not be the way that I would go about it. I like nude/scantily clad/pinup type modeling which is what I already do to a degree, and it is a way for me to express myself. And just like any other modeling, it DOES take some skill to be able pose attractively and to conjure up facial expressions that portray the look/idea that you are trying to achieve. So for me personally, even though it is all pornography, nude modeling is not in the same category as say, gangbang porn. One is modeling and one is being fucked on camera. And if one were to take nude photos and post them to their own website, or another website that hosted them or whatever, then they don't even necessarily have to interact with any customers at all, so that removes a large chunk of creep factor right there IMO.

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I leave you with this: OPs friends are pretty unlikely to say 'Hey, I saw your bf looking at porn last night, he's into some weird stuff'; But how do you think OPs boyfriend is gonna feel when one of his friends or better yet his dad says 'Hey, I saw your girl on redtube last night, she fiiine.'  See the difference now?




You're right, it is different, especially when you put it like that. :lol:


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
    #18939349 - 10/06/13 09:16 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I see where you both are coming from. So in your eyes, Jamesdnh, someone like me for instance, would not be worthy of girlfriend status to you, simply because I go and post my pictures in the sexy ladies of the shroomery thread. This is interesting stuff. I wonder how many other guys feel this way.



I can tell you what I think would happen but tonsay she's not "worthy" is kind of strange. I think the difference here is that we're here on the shroomery as more of an open crowd anyways. R/girlsgonewild (fuck reddit BTW) is the equivalent of a drunk girl flashing everything on spring break and letting everyone take pictures. So again they are separate but equal. I've never had this type of problem though. When I'm in a relationship, without being clingy, I let the girl know that she is and always will be my main focus and I chose her because she is sexy to me. But yeah I'm 19.

If I found out that before we officially dated, not even before we met, there is no problem with her having been a damn escort for all I care. If the "problem" (pictures or escorting) continued then a few tralks would take place then, if something didn't change then she wouldn't be worthy of dating. But I've found like 99% of women won't date me because of my psychedelic use so there's always other problems not implicitly sexual that we keep from each other to not hurt one another. If she asked me to never trip again, I'd easily quit.

I still say this guy shouldn't be slapping his dick silly every chance he gets. I'm just saying, me personally, I enjoy a more chaste girlfriend who seldom if ever dresses to turn heads and is modest. I know, doesn't exist. But because they are usually the strange version of extroverted or just very introverted, i reach a compromise of a girl who will let me be their gratification while we are together.

And that's just me. I don't look down upon a woman of the streets any more than a virgin in high school. We've all been on our own paths and I like having my stories interconnect with there's as friends or shines of light either on their behalf or mine. I'm saying cé la vi.


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Atrium]
    #18941270 - 10/06/13 05:01 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

I would sometimes knock one out when my girlfriend was asleep or away just to make the damn boner go away. Often, one of those reasons were the only reason to masturbate in my relationships. Porn was just the visual trigger for making it faster to finish so I could get back to doing other things. That thing throbs after half an hour or so. Sometimes it's just annoying to sit/walk/be out in public with.


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18943418 - 10/07/13 04:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??





Coming to a forum where the main demographic is 18-25 yr old guys and asking this question is kind of laughable. You had to have known the answer you would receive here.

If it's causing problems in your relationship then you need to discuss it. If the relationship is worth continuing for both of you then there should be some understanding and compromises on both parts.

And stop looking at his history. It's not healthy for YOU, let alone the relationship. Just let it go...just walk away and do something else when you feel the urge to look.


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: SillyMe]
    #18944087 - 10/07/13 10:33 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

If this guy is having sex once a day and still masturbating every day too,  He must have a sex drive from hell.  Or he's in his early twenties.

I'd say that he's just really horny and needs to be left to his devices.  If his girlfriend got him to stop looking daily, he might start cheating immediately.

Telling a girl not to look at porn when you do would be a double standard.

Telling a girl not to post pictures of herself or run a pornographic cam show while you look at porn is not a double standard.


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #8]
    #18944330 - 10/07/13 11:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago)

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I can tell you what I think would happen but tonsay she's not "worthy" is kind of strange. I think the difference here is that we're here on the shroomery as more of an open crowd anyways. R/girlsgonewild (fuck reddit BTW) is the equivalent of a drunk girl flashing everything on spring break and letting everyone take pictures. So again they are separate but equal. I've never had this type of problem though. When I'm in a relationship, without being clingy, I let the girl know that she is and always will be my main focus and I chose her because she is sexy to me. But yeah I'm 19.




Yeah, I feel like more open-minded people congregate here too. And like you said, they are separate but equal, but I don't know, the way you worded it makes me wonder if you feel like reddit is somehow worse than here? Are the pictures here more tasteful than the ones there, in your opinion? Or is it something else that makes it worse? Or maybe I'm just reading too much into what you said.

Admittedly I had never went to r/gonewild before until just now. I decided to go look and see for myself what it was like, since I had only heard from other people and from reading about it here. I haven't looked at too many threads/pictures yet but the ones I've been clicking on for the past couple minutes don't seem that different to me than what is posted here, but maybe I just haven't gotten far enough. :shrug:


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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
    #18945211 - 10/07/13 02:52 PM (10 years, 3 months ago)

No haha cus I used to go on 4chan /b or /soc all the time. That's why I say fuck reddit.

BTW I just checked out the /gonewild subreddit too. It really is quite a sight I'll tell you that! Saw a girl spread her pussy pretty wide from behind and created a pants tent pretty quick. I'm dedicated to the no faption life style though!


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