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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18933958 - 10/04/13 11:45 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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also,
www.yourbrainonporn.com
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porn and masturbation is probably in the top 3 biggest addiction men face in this world, its also the most unnoticed since its truly personal.. thats just my 2 cents. most likely your boyfriend jacks off everyday, alot more then you know, and even the same days you two have sex or give orgasm's to eachother. i haven't read your whole post, but usually the story leads to the outcome/later discussion of 'Masturbation and porn addiction'
help your boyfriend, and realize its not him, its the culture we grow up in that Misinforms many people, it truly is forced into young minds who aren't able to think for themselves and then they find themselves in Your situation when there older..
people buy into things, like how its good to do that frequently, that' masturbating is superhealthy.. Its the exact opposite when your a chronic masturbater who cannot control himself.
Another example, many/we get told this will help us/you lose 15 pounds and we instantly look into 'what to do with this diet', rather then checking to see if the diet is even healthy for us to begin with... usually people also gain the weight back and even more, so again the exact opposite of losing weight becomes the outcome (possibly) regardless its just terribly unhealthy.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
#18934038 - 10/05/13 12:05 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Please...
Masturbation is normal and healthy. Did OP say her BF was a "chronic masturbator" masturbating 15 times a day? No? Ok then.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18934254 - 10/05/13 01:19 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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15 times really? way to just throw in there a bulshit number to 'live by' Moving on, lets just look at this from a different angle, on a small but seemingly 'grand scale of masturbating' in two weeks
Does masturbating 14 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (1timeaday) Does masturbating 28 times in 2 weeks sound right to you? (2times) Does masturbating 42 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (3timesaday) Does masturbating 70 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (5timesaday) OR does masturbating 4 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you (2timesaweek)
Moving on again, He watches Porn everyday. Sounds like its part of the schedule, sounds like a habit, sounds like addiction, sounds like its effecting his interpersonal relationships.. am I right or wrong? who the fuck watches porn everyday? is that normal to you?
jacking off and porn are so in-tact with eachother you will rarely find someone watching porn without masturbating... Like i said previously Masturbating is a deeply personal thing, can be super embarrassing for many, and is most likely kept very hidden from his girlfriend.
when they regard masturbating is healthy, They should clarify twice a week is already more then enough. Therefore should only apply to people who are NOT addicted and those who will not feel different without masturbating/porn. also your body will release your semen naturally. im assuming you know this.
Regardless, he's watching porn and not jacking off, it happens sure, but in general its not Really often nor realistic that many can do this, when was the last time you chose to look at porn without wanking it? moving on he's formed a habbit of looking at porn - i posted two informative links on the topic.
she's posting about it - sounds like its a problem.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18934318 - 10/05/13 01:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Does masturbating 14 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (1timeaday) Does masturbating 28 times in 2 weeks sound right to you? (2times) Does masturbating 42 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (3timesaday) Does masturbating 70 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you? (5timesaday) OR does masturbating 4 times in 2 weeks sounds right to you (2timesaweek)
What the fuck does it matter either way?
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Moving on again, He watches Porn everyday. Sounds like its part of the schedule, sounds like a habit, sounds like addiction, sounds like its effecting his interpersonal relationships.. am I right or wrong?
You are wrong.
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when they regard masturbating is healthy, They should clarify twice a week is already more then enough. Therefore should only apply to people who are NOT addicted and those who will not feel different without masturbating/porn. also your body will release your semen naturally. im assuming you know this.
Yes I know this. Your body releases it because YOU aren't. It builds up so much that it happens in your sleep.
Also who the hell says 2 times a week is more than enough and any more than that is too much? Where do you pull these completely arbitrary numbers from?
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she's posting about it - sounds like its a problem.
Sounds to me like she's creating the problem in her own head.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18934443 - 10/05/13 02:23 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I barely read what she said if I had, I did jump to conclusions, but I'm still correct with what I preach. I just posted informative links and my experience,.
Arbitrary? I'm looking for balance, moderation. You pulled that 15 out of your ass though, I'm not sure if you get the point of the scale- its suppose to give you an idea of how ridiculous you sound when you say lower sounding numbers like once or twice a day can't cause changes in your brain over extended periods. You will go from a male seeking a real life partner to a male conditioned to his hand with limited drive for real life experiences, limited drive for real human touch.
If you think everyday is a balance then I disagree. Some people.can handle it, I'm willing to bet that too much self stimulation, which to me n others is once a day, leaves you vulnerable to twice a day. Twice a day already turns jacking off in two weeks to 28 times. Most likely you will be more tired then someone who abstains entirely.
If your living alone on a space ship, I understand jacking off two times a day sounds logical. But if your not save your efforts for real encounters. And don't listen to Mr shroomery over her
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
#18934454 - 10/05/13 02:25 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Actually I jerk it pretty much every day and have vigorous sex with my woman every day as well, and we have a great healthy relationship. Not that it's any of your concern. But thanks for caring.
I only pulled an arbitrary number out of my ass because you said this:
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itchmynipple said: Its the exact opposite when your a chronic masturbater who cannot control himself.
In no area of her post was it stated or implied that he was a chronic masturbator who cannot control himself. And who is to decide what is too much? You? She said herself their relationship and sex life is great other than her snooping on his browsing history.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18934612 - 10/05/13 03:30 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
yah you try having a low libido in a partner and see how that works and get back with us
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: CosmicJoke]
#18934701 - 10/05/13 04:18 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Honestly seems like your just insecure about yourself regardless whether it has to do with him beating off to porn! If you weren't you wouldn't care he has his own sexual fantasys as well as you do because clearly you have fantasies of getting off infront of a webcam and a bunch of guys!! I think your the one setting double standards but your trying to put him to be the bad guy in the situation, just because he likes to beat off and have something to help doesn't make him a bad guy.. it makes him man enough not to cheat on you!! If your so insecure about yourself that you have to show millions of guys your body and moaning face then you need to change something! I think your using the ole " to make a little profit" line just so you can try justifying your fantasies and not feel bad for doing it!! Imho atleast he isn't justifying his sexual fantasies anf you both would get more on the same page if you told him how you feel instead of snooping around and even talking to others before him.. if you guys had that great of a relationship you would talk to HIM first!! Also seems like some sort of trust issue in there!! I believe if you can do the webcam thing an also go behind his back to kinda be little him for doin somethin natural then you would probably be little him to another guy about more serious things to justify the other guy caving your hips in!! Just imho
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18934762 - 10/05/13 04:54 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Shroomism said: Actually I jerk it pretty much every day and have vigorous sex with my woman every day as well, and we have a great healthy relationship. Not that it's any of your concern. But thanks for caring.
I only pulled an arbitrary number out of my ass because you said this:
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itchmynipple said: Its the exact opposite when your a chronic masturbater who cannot control himself.
In no area of her post was it stated or implied that he was a chronic masturbator who cannot control himself. And who is to decide what is too much? You? She said herself their relationship and sex life is great other than her snooping on his browsing history.
yes, you responded by literally pulling a number out of your butcheeks and making it the rule of thumb. i mention numbers that are common in porn/masturbation addiction as i have talked to many. moderation isn't a number pulled out your ass, or mine, but its a concept many of us seem to understand but you. everyday - is habit forming. i bet going 3 days without masturbating for you would probably be a struggle. i already assumed you jacked off everyday, you think you are literally the rule of thumb.
 i dont think a habit or in this case your habit is necessarily terrible, but its certainly not 'good' if thats what your getting at. You just know though for sure your addicted when your continuing to do repetitive behaviors against your will, and its affecting those around you/yourself. also, i don't see why you feel the need to masturbate everyday if your having sex everyday it's rather pointless, you must really need that alone-sexy time everyday im goingto assume the average GF doesnt know if her bf masturbates everyday , im goingto also assume they wouldn't be very happy.
 why do you keep implying that i keep implying things after i have now repeatedly said i have not applied any of what the OP says to what i have said, n i came to my conclusion and im backing up my conclusion so take the OP out of the story, and were talking about habits. you clearly have a habit if your doing it everyday, everyday is a habit you do not agree?
go ahead, say you eat cereal every fucking day i dare you. im raady
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: mrbossman24]
#18934805 - 10/05/13 05:20 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mrbossman24 said: Honestly seems like your just insecure about yourself regardless whether it has to do with him beating off to porn! If you weren't you wouldn't care he has his own sexual fantasys as well as you do because clearly you have fantasies of getting off infront of a webcam and a bunch of guys!! I think your the one setting double standards but your trying to put him to be the bad guy in the situation, just because he likes to beat off and have something to help doesn't make him a bad guy.. it makes him man enough not to cheat on you!! If your so insecure about yourself that you have to show millions of guys your body and moaning face then you need to change something! I think your using the ole " to make a little profit" line just so you can try justifying your fantasies and not feel bad for doing it!! Imho atleast he isn't justifying his sexual fantasies anf you both would get more on the same page if you told him how you feel instead of snooping around and even talking to others before him.. if you guys had that great of a relationship you would talk to HIM first!! Also seems like some sort of trust issue in there!! I believe if you can do the webcam thing an also go behind his back to kinda be little him for doin somethin natural then you would probably be little him to another guy about more serious things to justify the other guy caving your hips in!! Just imho
OP has not specified anywhere in the thread that she wants to do live webcam shows. All she said was "nude modeling/nude photos". That is not the same thing as getting up in front of a bunch of guys and moaning for them.
What I want to know is does OP's boyfriend's issue lie with the idea of her talking and interacting with a bunch if guys, or does he have a problem with her simply showing her body to other guys period? Because he does not own her body, and simply showing it to others does not constitute cheating, so why does he have such a problem with it? Anybody else who feels the same as OP's boyfriend, please feel free to chime in. Maybe I'm just not seeing what the big deal is because I'm not a guy.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: itchmynipple]
#18934885 - 10/05/13 06:11 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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You sure do assume a lot of bullshit. Here let me clear that up for you:
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itchmynipple said: i bet going 3 days without masturbating for you would probably be a struggle.
And you would be wrong. Just because I usually do, does not mean I have to. I can and do go for 3+ days or even a week or two between.
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i don't see why you feel the need to masturbate everyday if your having sex everyday it's rather pointless, you must really need that alone-sexy time everyday
And who the fuck are you exactly, to define what is pointless or needed, in MY life? I'm a grown ass man, I can make my own decisions thank you very much.
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im goingto assume the average GF doesnt know if her bf masturbates everyday , im goingto also assume they wouldn't be very happy.
My GF knows. I can't speak for others. And it doesn't make her sad or happy. She's neutral on it. Because I still have plenty of sexy time with her and she is a mature adult and knows that it is totally natural for men. We've lived together for about 4 years now.
You know what they say about ASSumptions.. it makes an ass out of you.
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you clearly have a habit if your doing it everyday, everyday is a habit you do not agree?
I also brush my teeth, shit, eat, sleep, smoke weed, go to work, exercise and play video games every day. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a habit if it is not negatively affecting your life. What about masturbation in moderation is unhealthy? Please fucking explain that shit to me.
Your excessive use of graemlins does not make your points any more valid or mind-blowing. Also, please learn proper grammar.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18935061 - 10/05/13 08:07 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Shroomism makes some great points. Let me add a few others. The whole "your brain on porn" is pseudo-science bullshit. People can get addicted to porn like any other dopamine releasing activity but it's not the propaganda pseudo-science bs that website shits out.
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mrbossman24 said: Honestly seems like your just insecure about yourself regardless whether it has to do with him beating off to porn! If you weren't you wouldn't care he has his own sexual fantasys as well as you do because clearly you have fantasies of getting off infront of a webcam and a bunch of guys!! I think your the one setting double standards but your trying to put him to be the bad guy in the situation, just because he likes to beat off and have something to help doesn't make him a bad guy.. it makes him man enough not to cheat on you!! If your so insecure about yourself that you have to show millions of guys your body and moaning face then you need to change something! I think your using the ole " to make a little profit" line just so you can try justifying your fantasies and not feel bad for doing it!! Imho atleast he isn't justifying his sexual fantasies anf you both would get more on the same page if you told him how you feel instead of snooping around and even talking to others before him.. if you guys had that great of a relationship you would talk to HIM first!! Also seems like some sort of trust issue in there!! I believe if you can do the webcam thing an also go behind his back to kinda be little him for doin somethin natural then you would probably be little him to another guy about more serious things to justify the other guy caving your hips in!! Just imho
OP has not specified anywhere in the thread that she wants to do live webcam shows. All she said was "nude modeling/nude photos". That is not the same thing as getting up in front of a bunch of guys and moaning for them.
What I want to know is does OP's boyfriend's issue lie with the idea of her talking and interacting with a bunch if guys, or does he have a problem with her simply showing her body to other guys period? Because he does not own her body, and simply showing it to others does not constitute cheating, so why does he have such a problem with it? Anybody else who feels the same as OP's boyfriend, please feel free to chime in. Maybe I'm just not seeing what the big deal is because I'm not a guy.
A lot of guys have insecurities and double standards. They usually disappear as they grow older but sometimes not. It's stupid that these double standards exists. I am posting this anonymously for the following reason. My girlfriend does nude pictures. I think it's sexy and hot and most importantly she should be able to do what she wants in our relationship without feeling cornered and trapped. Why would I be insecure about it? She is with me - not them. Gah jealousy is so unattractive.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #7]
#18935414 - 10/05/13 09:49 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Since when is everything that someone days daily considered an addiction?
I used to jerk one off every morning. even when I had a gf. it just seemed to put me in a clear head state. Not thinking about women all day at work.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18935649 - 10/05/13 11:05 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Here's a summary that would have ended this thread with the first reply:
"If you don't like your guy jerking off, then don't date a guy"
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18935862 - 10/05/13 12:21 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Ballerium said: Okay, I see what you are saying now. I can understand that he may not necessarily want her doing it just because some other girls are doing it. His girlfriend is not equal to them in terms of how he regards them. One is his girlfriend, the others are not. I get that. But what makes him getting off to other women any different from other guys getting off to his girlfriend?
For me personally, if I were to choose between my boyfriend looking at and possibly getting off to other women, versus him taking pictures of his dick and posting it online for people to see, I would choose the latter. Maybe I see it differently because I am a female, but if he is lusting after someone else and looking at and jacking off to their pictures, that raises more concern to me than if there were a bunch of women masturbating to naked pictures of him.
And then as I thought about that for a second, I realized that there aren't going to be as many women masturbating to pics of guys as there are going to be men masturbating to pics of women. Because men are more visual creatures, and women don't necessarily need a picture of a guy to get off, like someone else said. So I guess in that regard, they aren't equal at all. If you looked at it in terms of which situation would be better conditions for each partner to cheat, it would be more likely for his girlfriend to cheat if she were to post her own pictures because she would likely have a lot of men responding and trying to interact with her. But it would be more likely for her boyfriend to cheat if he interacted with another girl who posts her photos, but even then he would probably be competing with all the other guys who also tried to interact with her, and even then it would all depend on whether or not she was single or if she didn't cheat.
So I guess I just dug myself into a hole.
My other point still remains though, that a person can post their nude or semi-nude pictures online and still remain faithful to their partner. I have a feeling that maybe that is where OP's boyfriends' insecurities lie as far as her posting her own nude photos are concerned, but I could be wrong since she hasn't specified. Maybe he feels like her body is something that should be reserved for him only to see? I don't know, but I wish OP would provide more information.
I am also high right now, and this probably isn't even going to make sense to anybody anwyay. 
Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
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#18936149 - 10/05/13 01:42 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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"If you don't like your guy jerking off, then don't date a guy"
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Atrium]
#18936364 - 10/05/13 02:33 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jamesdnh said: Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
Got it. 
Is the idea of your (and I mean you in general, anyone who wants to reply) girlfriend getting turned on at the thought of a bunch of guys lusting over her somehow worse than the idea of her getting off to pictures of another guy? Why is one of these scenarios okay yet the other one is not okay? To me its all fantasizing. He's fantasizing about someone else and she's fantasizing about someone else being turned on by her, so they're both getting off to the idea of someone else, so what makes the two situations so different in the end?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Shroomism]
#18936375 - 10/05/13 02:36 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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@itchmynipple
you seem to not understand the concept of other people having differing levels of sex drive. You asked why Shroomerism would want to masturbate every day while still getting sex everyday. Uh... maybe because, you know... HE'S FUCKING HORNY. You must not have a high sex drive. Me for instance, currently i'm in a long distance relationship so i'm not getting sex. i'll masturbate on average twice a day because i have a very high libido. Regardless of whether or not i watch porn. And when i am getting sex with my girlfriend, i'm dont ever masturbate because she makes me cum 2-3 times a day through sex and other activities. Now if i only came once when we were together then i'd have to masturbate as well. But i bet now your going to say i'm excessive because apparently your the standard for every male on earth
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
#18936388 - 10/05/13 02:39 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Jamesdnh said: Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
Got it. 
Is the idea of your (and I mean you in general, anyone who wants to reply) girlfriend getting turned on at the thought of a bunch of guys lusting over her somehow worse than the idea of her getting off to pictures of another guy? Why is one of these scenarios okay yet the other one is not okay? To me its all fantasizing. He's fantasizing about someone else and she's fantasizing about someone else being turned on by her, so they're both getting off to the idea of someone else, so what makes the two situations so different in the end?
Because in your scenario everything is just fantasy. I could care less what my girlfriend fantasizes about, but acting out fantasy is a different story. Its like saying well she's into rape fantasy porn, so whats wrong with him going out and raping a girl if that turns him on? Now obviously this is a very extreme example. But i think it proves my point that just imagining something is VERY different than following through. She can get turned on at the thought of posting nudes all day. But actually exposing herself to other people is completely different.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Ballerium]
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Jamesdnh said: Because the equivalent is her getting off to other guys through masturbation. If he somehow were to get mass amounts of women to get off through him, then the two videos or pictures would be comparable. To only be jerking off, or her touching herself to images of the opposite sex, compared to actively placing oneself as the object of desire is entirely different.
Like I said, if she were to have done this in the past and have already posted them, he would be laying a double standard. If, however, she is trying to justify "cam-whoring" because he masturbates to women who do, those are two entirely different acts in both brain chemistry and physically speaking.
Edit: And just to clarify, I consider doing any form of sexual gratification for another through photography or video in reciprocation of payment. Remove the payment, then she's just putting herself up nude, which isn't really better or worse.
Got it. 
Is the idea of your (and I mean you in general, anyone who wants to reply) girlfriend getting turned on at the thought of a bunch of guys lusting over her somehow worse than the idea of her getting off to pictures of another guy? Why is one of these scenarios okay yet the other one is not okay? To me its all fantasizing. He's fantasizing about someone else and she's fantasizing about someone else being turned on by her, so they're both getting off to the idea of someone else, so what makes the two situations so different in the end?
Yes and no. If I have a girlfriend besides Palmela Handerson who is lusted for than that means she is attractive. It'd also mean she has many opportunities to cheat. If it's pure attraction and stated tastefully and no action is made toward my girlfriend, I wouldn't feel pain. In fact, it'd be awesome to me. Psychologically we're all different so remember that. But if I ever found out she was actively showing herself off for guys to ogle at her then that would be the end of the relationship right there. But again I also come from the perspective of no porn and my only release should be my girlfriend or wife (which would be damn-near 2 times a day) so I find it weird that this guy is looking at porn constantly when he has a willing woman in front of him.
So to end the discussion, I think this particular question should be answered as,"if it bothers you and he won't change then leave" because everything else is personal opinions on what they would do.
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