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Lynnch
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: yogabunny] 1
#18930384 - 10/04/13 09:43 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: yogabunny] 2
#18930432 - 10/04/13 09:52 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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He doesn't get to tell you what you are and aren't "allowed" to do. Take as many nude pics as you want, post them all over the world.
Same goes for you though. He gets to jerk it to as much filthy porn as his heart desires.
Since you two obviously don't seem comfortable with this, you can: A. Keep nagging each other into miserable, boring, resentful submission. B. Lose each other. C. Stop giving a shit.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
#18930451 - 10/04/13 09:57 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
I don't know if it's a double standard, but it is ironic.
In order for guys to jerk it to pictures of women on the internet, there has to be women posting pictures on the internet.
If every girl has some domineering asshole telling them what they can and can't do with their bodies, there would be no pictures of naked women on the internet.
By behaving that way en masse, men establish that as normalcy.
As a consequence there are less images of naked women on the internet.
He's fighting against his own interests.
Fortunately, there are enough cool babes that don't give a shit about what dudes like that think. The world could always use more though.
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Edited by TheWiz (10/04/13 10:01 AM)
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18930498 - 10/04/13 10:07 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18930523 - 10/04/13 10:15 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so usually every morning (i know this bc i look at his browser history) my bf either looks at porn or is looking at naked pics of anon chicks on reddit. it bothers the fuck out of me. we have sex every day/every other day and have a good relationship otherwise. it really makes me feel shitty about myself. he thinks its ok but to me thats him rubbing his dick to another chick... regardless if its on the internet. it makes me feel so spiteful. ugh shroomery should i let this get to me??
I'm sorry, but your boyfriend sounds lame!
There is something wrong with a guy that would prefer masturbating to digital media, when he has the real thing right in front of him!
I don't care what anybody else says; if his chick is available to him, and he still chooses to masturbate to porn, there is something wrong.
YOU are supposed to be what turns him on.
YOU are supposed to be his pornography.
Don't be fooled; unless you're incredibly hideous, your boyfriend has a problem. Not you.
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Anonymous said: so im just supposed to take the blind approach and out of sight out of mind? he can watch all this porn but im not allowed to do any sort of nude cam modeling/ photos that would make me profit? but its ok for him to rub his dick to girls on the internet.
Goddamn! Guys like this piss me the fuck off!
Why doesn't he watch you make these videos?
Why isn't he behind the camera?
I mean he's into porn right?
Why... you know what? Nevermind.
This guy is lame. Chances are, he isn't fucking you right either.
You should just cheat on him OP.
Maybe one day he'll masturbate to one of your images on the internet and realize what he lost.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
#18930535 - 10/04/13 10:20 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
You ASSume.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18930539 - 10/04/13 10:22 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
How?
Unless he's secretly gay - what could she possibly find out that would betray his trust?
I mean if they're living together, who gives a shit if she's checking the browser history?
I mean for all we know, he could be living at her place - using her computer!
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18930558 - 10/04/13 10:27 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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i know that my man masturbates, and i don't care. but if he was masturbating to r/gonewild, i'd be kind of pissed.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: yogabunny]
#18930597 - 10/04/13 10:38 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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yogabunny said: i know that my man masturbates, and i don't care. but if he was masturbating to r/gonewild, i'd be kind of pissed.

Just looking at what r/gonewild is now - it's pretty much girls taking nude photos and posting them - if so then it definitely is a double standard that her BF won't let her take nude photos. Guys are going to masturbate and OP shouldn't have an issue with it - it's not the same as having sex and doesn't have the same emotional commitment. That said the double standard is kind of lame.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material] 1
#18930692 - 10/04/13 11:03 AM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mistermateriel said:
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EdibleStereos said: I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
How?
Unless he's secretly gay - what could she possibly find out that would betray his trust?
I mean if they're living together, who gives a shit if she's checking the browser history?
I mean for all we know, he could be living at her place - using her computer! 
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mistermateriel said:
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EdibleStereos said: I dont know the details, but from the ones you have provided.
YOU are the problem OP. You check his browser history? Huge breach of trust.
How?
Unless he's secretly gay - what could she possibly find out that would betray his trust?
I mean if they're living together, who gives a shit if she's checking the browser history?
I mean for all we know, he could be living at her place - using her computer! 
The trust is broken by HER not trusting him and snooping.
Instead of her snooping and then coming here. She should have talked to him as soon as she first suspected.
You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Cyclohexylamine]
#18931119 - 10/04/13 12:58 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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hai!

i agree with you.
OP I think you need to have a heart to heart with your man about this. Hopefully y'all can come up with a compromise that works for you both.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931216 - 10/04/13 01:23 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
No, I'm sorry but I don't.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material] 1
#18931262 - 10/04/13 01:34 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mistermateriel said:
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EdibleStereos said: You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
No, I'm sorry but I don't.
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mistermateriel said:
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EdibleStereos said: You honestly dont see how looking through someones internet history is a breach of trust?
No, I'm sorry but I don't.
I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18931269 - 10/04/13 01:37 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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put a gps and watch her every movement, what? you're just watching where she's been throughout the day, not creepy at all. (i shouldn't have to say this, but yes that is sarcasm)
how does letting other guys see you naked, and get off to it, compare to someone watching arousing photos to get off? i doubt he told her she can't watch porn, and i doubt she would let him post his pics on the net. that's the only double standard here.
OP is probably some controlling mess who flirts with other guys and goes on dates with them, then turns around and bitches at him for finding an actress attractive
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931284 - 10/04/13 01:41 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
To answer your question no.
I really wouldn't give a shit if she looked through my browser history.
I don't hide the fact I watch porn. In fact, I've watched porn with chicks I've dated before. I don't see what the big deal is.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Mr. Material]
#18931309 - 10/04/13 01:49 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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mistermateriel said:
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EdibleStereos said: I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
To answer your question no.
I really wouldn't give a shit if she looked through my browser history.
I don't hide the fact I watch porn. In fact, I've watched porn with chicks I've dated before. I don't see what the big deal is. 
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EdibleStereos said: I feel bad for anyone you end up in a relationship with. You just going to snoop through all their shit?
To answer your question no.
I really wouldn't give a shit if she looked through my browser history.
I don't hide the fact I watch porn. In fact, I've watched porn with chicks I've dated before. I don't see what the big deal is. 
ugh. small minds.
It isnt just about porn, since that seems all you can focus on. It is the act of tracking someones internet history for whatever twisted little emotional gain the OP is finding in it.
You dont read emails, texts, diaries, web history, call logs, etc unless you are a mistrusting little shit.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931335 - 10/04/13 01:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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OP I think your best move here would be take those pictures & videos, and post them here.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18931347 - 10/04/13 01:59 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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I R Crankey said: put a gps and watch her every movement, what? you're just watching where she's been throughout the day, not creepy at all. (i shouldn't have to say this, but yes that is sarcasm)
how does letting other guys see you naked, and get off to it, compare to someone watching arousing photos to get off? i doubt he told her she can't watch porn, and i doubt she would let him post his pics on the net. that's the only double standard here.
OP is probably some controlling mess who flirts with other guys and goes on dates with them, then turns around and bitches at him for finding an actress attractive
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EdibleStereos said: ugh. small minds.
It isn't just about porn, since that seems all you can focus on. It is the act of tracking someones internet history for whatever twisted little emotional gain the OP is finding in it.
You dont read emails, texts, diaries, web history, call logs, etc unless you are a mistrusting little shit.
I think it's funny that these responses are mainly directed at the OP because she looked through the browser history.
What about her boyfriend? She's probably wondering why he has the energy to masturbate to r/gonewild, but can't seem to find the energy to fuck her right.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Lynnch]
#18931614 - 10/04/13 02:57 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: That is not a double standard. He is looking at pictures of random chicks who are, for all he knows, dead now. She is getting naked in front of other live real people, chatting with them... He has no interaction with them, she does. It's 90% fantasy in his head, whereas she's pretty much acting out the fantasies of other guys. Totally different.
omg thank you.
How is this even a double standard? He is not filming himself wackin off, hes not putting pictures of himself.
What you are wanting to do is a totally different situation. How can you relate you putting yourself out there on camera and web chats vs him masturbating, NOT showing himself, remaining anonymous, etc.
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Re: should i care that my boyfriend looks at porn daily? [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18931628 - 10/04/13 03:00 PM (10 years, 3 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: so im just supposed to take the blind approach and out of sight out of mind? he can watch all this porn but im not allowed to do any sort of nude cam modeling/ photos that would make me profit? but its ok for him to rub his dick to girls on the internet.
'Scuse me, there's no profit to beating your dick.
If you're going to be a camwhore, he should get free access; otherwise, your relationship will surely fail.
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