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InvisibleZippoZM
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how do i let this gay dude down?
    #1891680 - 09/07/03 08:31 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

    i am a very happy person, who dosent care about peoples religous or sexual orientation. the only thing i will not stand is if someone joins the armed forces.
recently i rolled up to a party with my friend b. b is gay or bi or whatever, he dosent know. but this other gay dude, a great dj and a nice guy took this, and some other of my oddites, and formed the position that i like guys. i dont.
every time i run into this guy he's a little too close for comfort, and i dont know how to let him know that i dont swing that way.
can anyone help me out. i dont want to hurt his feelings or ruin the friendship that we have formed, even though it is a small one. :wtf: 


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: ZippoZ]
    #1891704 - 09/07/03 08:44 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

Bring a girl along with you. You don't have to get a girlfriend but some chick you're cool with, tell her your situation and next time you hang out with dude, bring her and let it go from there. He'll get the picture.


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: ZippoZ]
    #1892109 - 09/07/03 10:47 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

I think being direct is the best way to go about it, but I understand why that would be too uncomfortable. Just bring up past or present relationships with girls when you're talking to him, or talk about how hot [insert hot girl's name] is. He'll catch on.


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: ZippoZ]
    #1892123 - 09/07/03 10:54 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

tell him you arent gay.

just tell him straight up. 'i'm not gay, dude.'

just like that.


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: ]
    #1892446 - 09/08/03 12:35 AM (14 years, 3 months ago)

:lol: :grin: ^^^^^^^^^^^^^ what he said is a lot simpler


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: ZippoZ]
    #1893449 - 09/08/03 10:57 AM (14 years, 3 months ago)

"the only thing i will not stand is if someone joins the armed forces. "


Hey man, i know this is off topic.. but Making blanket statements like that can be fairly hurtful.. Most people don't join the military because they think 'killing is fun' or 'war is cool'.. I was in the military because i needed an option to go to college, and to get some discipline in my up to then 'out of control' lifestyle. and it worked, and yet, if you were to meet me, based on my current interests, style, etc.. would NEVER EVER guess that. But let me tell you, the 3 years i spend in Uncle sams army, was better than my life before that which was living on a bench, and then in jail, and a 'trashcan junkie'..


And many of the guys i knew while in were thje same way and most of them would say 'FUCK WAR' if you asked themm..

don't believe the meatheads and the media..



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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: Fractals]
    #1893703 - 09/08/03 12:25 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

if you feel special need to be sensitive about it but you just want him to know so he isn't persuing you, just tell him when he's "too close for comfort" that you would like him to give you your personal space. say it in a sincere but respectful way an i'm sure he'll get the idea.

if you'd like to be direct about it, do like above and just tell him flat out, but also in a respectful way.


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: canid]
    #1894021 - 09/08/03 02:01 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

I certainly meant no disrespect, everyone has thier own opinions, and I don't feel i was disrespectful in the way i said it. I didn't make any sort of personal attack, simply trying to make aware that people on this board come from all walks of life and generalizing ANYONE IS disprespectful.


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: Fractals]
    #1896427 - 09/09/03 12:59 AM (14 years, 3 months ago)

He wasn't making the comment about your reply.

Anyways, just tell him that you feel a bit uncomfortable when he's that close. Explain to him why, and don't oversimplify it. Kinda like "I don't want this to sound like I'm being an asshole, but I feel a bit uncomfortable when you do (insert whatever it is here)"


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: Sheepish]
    #1897521 - 09/09/03 10:37 AM (14 years, 3 months ago)

oh duh.. haha i just saw the name in the reply.. i thought it was a bit weird..


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: ZippoZ]
    #1898936 - 09/09/03 06:18 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

Don't worry about it. Tell him your not gay and he will understand. If not, he isn't your friend anyway.


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Re: how do i let this gay dude down? [Re: shakta]
    #1907598 - 09/11/03 11:50 PM (14 years, 3 months ago)

If you were hitting on a chick and she was like "sorry im a lesbian" would you get offended or hurt? Probably not.

I would much rather know the sexual orientation of the person im after. Let him know you are not gay. You may be a sensetive person, and some straight guys put out signals unwillingly. You need to let him know. He will not get mad, or think hes being rejected. He will completely understand, and not make you as uncomfortable. Its better to tell him and have a gay friend you can chill with then avoid him and lose a friend.

Let him know before he falls too in love with you ;]


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