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empty space
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Confessing
#18893954 - 09/26/13 01:10 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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You cheated on your boy/girlfriend. Nobody ever found out and you are a year in the clear. You know you would never get caught, but there's that little itch inside that tells you that you are a shitty partner (you are) and the itch gets itchier every day. Finally, it gets to the point where you are tired of living your life in a lie. What do you do and why?
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azur
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A year has gone by. Bury that shit in the closet. No point in hurting anyone. Just be right from this day forward
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Anonymous #1
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Re: Confessing [Re: azur]
#18894170 - 09/26/13 02:02 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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When I did, it felt good to come clean... Although it destroyed us and he left, the load was off and there was a sense of minor relief.
Edited by Anonymous (09/26/13 02:11 PM)
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azur
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They say the truth will set you free....if it's heavy on you, maybe you should tell. But it may do more damage than good. Only you know your situation and how to handle it. I wish you the best either way.
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azur
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Re: Confessing [Re: azur]
#18894251 - 09/26/13 02:17 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just reread your 2nd post. So you confessed?
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Re: Confessing [Re: azur]
#18894256 - 09/26/13 02:19 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sometimes things are best left in the past.
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Re: Confessing [Re: koods]
#18894269 - 09/26/13 02:21 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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no sense in feeding the thoughts about your past with emotion just acknowledge your mistakes and grow from them
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Patlal
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go to church, tell the priest or whatever, you'll feel better telling someone.
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Re: Confessing [Re: Patlal]
#18894294 - 09/26/13 02:29 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Patlal said: go to church, tell the priest or whatever, you'll feel better telling someone.
The morality of religion: You can be a total monster with no regard for anyone but yourself, but if you tell a priest what you did, you are good to go.
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empty space
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Re: Confessing [Re: azur]
#18894471 - 09/26/13 03:09 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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azur said: Just reread your 2nd post. So you confessed?
I am not Anon #1
This particular qualm isn't in regards to anything in my current life. I've been in this situation before but that is long in the past and is not the focus of the thread. This query is because I see many people get themselves into this situation and come to this forum to ask for advice. I've seen a variety of solutions to the situation and I used to think I knew the answer but life has been confusing as of late and I find myself questioning my morals and standards.
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Re: Confessing [Re: azur]
#18895813 - 09/26/13 08:24 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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azur said: A year has gone by. Bury that shit in the closet. No point in hurting anyone. Just be right from this day forward
That's the damn truth right there - why make others suffer to clear your conscience? If you didn't put anyone's health at risk, then carry your own mistakes.
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Re: Confessing [Re: Yippie]
#18895920 - 09/26/13 08:43 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well, morals and standards are two different things. Life is strange, that is true. I don't know why people ask for that type of advice here.
Myself, I just stay single and tell girls from the get that I'm a very busy man with businesses and children, so you'll never be my girlfriend. They say they are cool with it, but they are not.
I have a 3 week rule. After that, if they don't move on, they may get hurt. I don't feel bad though because during those 3 weeks I repeatedly tell them I'll never be their boyfriend.
I don't want to hurt anyone and I like to have sex with lots of girls, so I'm just upfront with them.
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Re: Confessing [Re: azur]
#18897209 - 09/27/13 02:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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where was the itch specifically located
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itchmynipple
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Quote:
empty space said: You cheated on your boy/girlfriend. Nobody ever found out and you are a year in the clear. You know you would never get caught, but there's that little itch inside that tells you that you are a shitty partner (you are) and the itch gets itchier every day. Finally, it gets to the point where you are tired of living your life in a lie. What do you do and why?
you can't just bury something, it will always be in your memory, connected to your gut.
your gut is telling you to release your guts and tell her that a long time ago, you cheated. of course expect the worse, literally.
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The guilt you feel now wont ever go away even if you confess. you cant change what you did, therefor you will always feel bad about it.
If you confess now you will not only feel the guilt you already feel, but you will feel additional guilt for hurting your partner. Twice the guilt and twice the number of people to remind you about what you did and make you feel bad about it.
Do the math.
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koods
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Quote:
itchmynipple said: where was the itch specifically located
Your nipple?
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Re: Confessing [Re: koods]
#18910145 - 09/30/13 06:51 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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koods said:
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Patlal said: go to church, tell the priest or whatever, you'll feel better telling someone.
The morality of religion: You can be a total monster with no regard for anyone but yourself, but if you tell a priest what you did, you are good to go.
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