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Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later
#18891334 - 09/25/13 09:37 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Not particularly sure why I'm posting this, but anyways.
Last Friday after class, I went to the campus pub with some friends from class. Got drunk, played pool, had a good time; This girl named M started flirting with me, and being drunk I started flirting back with her. One thing led to another, and I ended up asking her where she lived and she said at the residence on campus.
I responded to this with "Well, would you want to go back to your place?" We get there, and end up fucking. As soon as I came, I felt guilty and left. The gf came over later that night and I ended up having sex with her.
I spent the next few days feeling guilty as fuck, wondering what to do, whether or not I should tell her. I played out a scenario in my mind of not telling her for the rest of my life because I didn't want things to end.
The guilt became too much, to the point where I couldn't even get hard with her touching my penis or trying to turn me on. So last night I fessed up and told her. Her initial reaction was well, surprisingly good. However when we woke up, her reaction became progressively worse throughout the day, to the point where I wasn't sure if she would want to continue dating me.
I met up with her today before her last class of the day to chit chat, and we talked things over and are going to continue to date.
I feel like absolute shit because of what I did, and although I've lied to her in the past for doing coke twice and not telling her about it, I couldn't contain this. It sucked admitting to what I had to do, but it was something necessary.
She has trust issues with me from before, and probably worse trust issues. But I've assured her I won't do this again, and I won't lie to her again. It's ironic because I've said I wouldn't lie to her again but never meant it until today.
Honestly, I'm fucking confused she's still with me. I love her to hell and back, and she says she loves me more than I love her, which must be true given the fact that she's still with me.
Why did I do it? I can't really pin point that... I've been a little unsatisfied with our sex life for a bit, and I wondered how much I really loved her. I guess this was a really terrible self test.
I fucked up hard I'm beyond thankful she's taken me back though.. Before we met up, I was coming down off a dexedrine dose, depressed as fuck because of what I did and thinking that everything was over, but hearing that she wants things to continue brought me back up and made me happier than ever.
Thanks for listening even if you don't respond.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18891365 - 09/25/13 09:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Be careful bro. She may forgive, but forgetting is a different story. I've been where you are. And I think if she takes you back, she's got her own issues that may in time be difficult to deal with. Kudos to you for being honest. If you get the urge to fuck another broad, break up with your girl first. Hope all goes as you want it to.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: azur]
#18891375 - 09/25/13 09:47 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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azur said: Be careful bro. She may forgive, but forgetting is a different story. I've been where you are. And I think if she takes you back, she's got her own issues that may in time be difficult to deal with. Kudos to you for being honest. If you get the urge to fuck another broad, break up with your girl first. Hope all goes as you want it to.
I don't thinks she'll ever forget. I sort of agree with you, I went about my entire day expecting to meet up with her and get dumped, and when I found out I Wasn't I was incredibly shocked.
I guess I get honesty points.. But it'll be 6 months we've started dating, and I just started being honest with her.. Seems like too little too late which is why I'm shocked we're still together.
I doubt I'll ever get the urge to fuck another chick..
I also told her she gets a freebie fuck with anyone at any point down the line she wants. Just once though
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18891411 - 09/25/13 09:54 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Don't do that man. Two broken hearts don't fix one. Unless you really don't care about her. I've been faithful and I've been a cheater. Nowadays I'm just single and that suits me best.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18891420 - 09/25/13 09:56 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, I've been in your situation before too.. Except I handled it way worse than you did.. I kept lying and lying and lying and the situation got worse and worse. She basically lost all trust in me, and we broke up. The relationship needed to end either way, because I fell in love with another girl (my current gf), but I probably handled the situation in the worst way possible... Made a complete dick of myself, and hurt a few people really bad in the process. I envy your push for honesty here, props to you!
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: azur]
#18891433 - 09/25/13 09:57 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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azur said: Don't do that man. Two broken hearts don't fix one. Unless you really don't care about her. I've been faithful and I've been a cheater. Nowadays I'm just single and that suits me best.
I wouldn't be happy if she did, I would be really hurt, but to be honest I just wanted her back and said that as I thought it might've helped.
But honestly, she can do it if she wants. I did it, so why can't she?
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18891448 - 09/25/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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How about flowers and a pussy chomping instead of letting some other guy ram his cock in your girl bro. Two wrongs don't make a right.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18891454 - 09/25/13 10:01 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Maybe she took it so cool cause she is out banging other dudes?
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: azur]
#18891465 - 09/25/13 10:03 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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azur said: How about flowers and a pussy chomping instead of letting some other guy ram his cock in your girl bro. Two wrongs don't make a right.
Well I'm taking her out for dinner saturday, and she saw this like ice cream pizza thang at DQ today, so I'm going to get her that.
I'd chomp her pussy, but fresh tongue ring means no oral sex for another two weeks 
edit: She didn't accept nor reject the offer when I presented it to her I should probably mention. I don't think she's too down.
funny enough she brought up us being swingers or having an open relationship, and when I said I couldn't do that she said "good, because all I want is you."

I still don't know why she's still with me.
Edited by Anonymous (09/25/13 10:05 PM)
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18891469 - 09/25/13 10:04 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: Maybe she took it so cool cause she is out banging other dudes?
I doubt it, if she was she would've fessed up as well and not gotten as hurt as she did IMO.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18891487 - 09/25/13 10:07 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Sounds to me like she either is, has, or wants to bang another dude.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18891513 - 09/25/13 10:10 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dq is not a dinner dude. And I would never chomp pussy that belongs to a girl that eats fast food. Too close to the shit factory. Just be all in or all out.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: azur] 1
#18891528 - 09/25/13 10:12 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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azur said: Dq is not a dinner dude. And I would never chomp pussy that belongs to a girl that eats fast food. Too close to the shit factory. Just be all in or all out.

DQ is after, we're going out for sushi first.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18891551 - 09/25/13 10:14 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Haha. Cool. Thought you said a ice cream pizza thing. On the ice topic, I once put a condom on three freeze pops and fucked an ex with it. Ha
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: EdibleStereos]
#18891559 - 09/25/13 10:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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EdibleStereos said: Sounds to me like she either is, has, or wants to bang another dude.

Where are you possibly getting that from?
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1] 1
#18891571 - 09/25/13 10:16 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't think she's out fucking other dudes. It seems like she really really likes you and doesn't want to lose you. If you really love her, don't fuck it up and try your best to make this up to her. No matter how she acted, this was really really hard for her to hear, and I'm sure whenever you go out to a bar now, or even to a friends house, she's going to be suspicious. Do everything you can in your power to gain her trust back, even if that means making a lot of sacrifices. If you really want to stay with her, you're gonna have to work your ass off for her to be happy again.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: MrHill] 2
#18891581 - 09/25/13 10:17 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Parrott said it right.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: azur] 1
#18891597 - 09/25/13 10:20 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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azur said: Parrott said it right.
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Parrott said: I don't think she's out fucking other dudes. It seems like she really really likes you and doesn't want to lose you. If you really love her, don't fuck it up and try your best to make this up to her. No matter how she acted, this was really really hard for her to hear, and I'm sure whenever you go out to a bar now, or even to a friends house, she's going to be suspicious. Do everything you can in your power to gain her trust back, even if that means making a lot of sacrifices. If you really want to stay with her, you're gonna have to work your ass off for her to be happy again.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18893737 - 09/26/13 12:06 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Do not give her any reason to ever doubt you again. Lack of trust can be a killer. My ex fooled around and lied about it, and I found out. He never managed to earn the trust back, was still acting sketchy, and I ended up hurting him back further down the line. We broke up because neither of us could trust the other.
In my current relationship, I (still being screwed up from previous relationship) got horrendously horrendously drunk and cheated on my boyfriend about 2 months into our relationship. I kept quiet, feeling so guilty for ages. I think I actually blacked it out for a while I felt so bad. I finally couldn't take it anymore and fessed up 2 years into our relationship. He forgave me, although I'm sure he hasn't forgotten. Our relationship has worked because I have never ever given him a reason to doubt me. I am not the same person I was back then and I think he can see that.
So yeah, just do whatever you can to earn that trust back. It can work, but you have to make it work.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18894348 - 09/26/13 02:41 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I love her to hell and back
No you don't. Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated on her.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: llama_police]
#18895115 - 09/26/13 05:47 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I love her to hell and back
No you don't. Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated on her.
Everyone has moments of weakness. If a recovering drug addict slips up, and shoots heroin one time. Does he not want to stop using because of that one slip up?
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18895164 - 09/26/13 06:00 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18895203 - 09/26/13 06:08 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I love her to hell and back
No you don't. Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated on her.
Everyone has moments of weakness. If a recovering drug addict slips up, and shoots heroin one time. Does he not want to stop using because of that one slip up?
Clearly he doesn't want to stop enough.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18895340 - 09/26/13 06:35 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Anonymous said: I love her to hell and back
No you don't. Otherwise you wouldn't have cheated on her.
Everyone has moments of weakness. If a recovering drug addict slips up, and shoots heroin one time. Does he not want to stop using because of that one slip up?
No he doesn't want to stop if he goes back using. It's not good to rationalize mistakes made, it will lead to worse things down the road.
Lol DQ? Is there not a mom and pop ice cream or smoothie place around you???
God I need to start dating girls with shit expectations and not fancy dimes, I'd prob have 12k more in my bank account from just the past 2 years 
Good luck OP, you're 6 months in and seem relatively young. This won't be your last relationship no matter what you do/think.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: unknown1123]
#18895636 - 09/26/13 07:50 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I like sex but I'm not sure I'd compare the desire to have sex with someone who isn't my girlfriend to a heroin addiction. I don't really see why you'd do that to her if you loved her.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: jellyfish]
#18895801 - 09/26/13 08:22 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm not taking her to DQ for a date. We're going for sushi, and then we're going over to DQ for a pizza ice cream.
People are allowed to make mistakes, if one keeps repeating the mistake that's not right. But for someone to make a mistake, and then never be given another chance is unfair IMO.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18896392 - 09/26/13 10:26 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah, you mistakenly slipped and luckily your dick broke your fall by entering a wet vagina, saving the rest of your body from pain.
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: unknown1123]
#18898190 - 09/27/13 11:12 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Obvious troll is obvious
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Re: Cheated on my girlfriend, told her 5 days later [Re: Anonymous #1]
#18898480 - 09/27/13 12:29 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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He's not trolling you. At least man up on an anonymous internet forum and admit that you wanted to get laid and didn't really give a shit about the consequences at the time. It was no "mistake".
Do you regret it? Sounds like it. But it was no "mistake". A mistake is something like putting the sugar in the fridge and the milk in the pantry after making your coffee. You made a conscious decision, and a poor one at that.
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