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LackToast
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I need to vent.
#18887001 - 09/24/13 10:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Hey everyone so heres the deal. Im very depressed and i know the reasons why but i dont and havent tried to change any of them, and i dont know who to tell.
So i live with my mom and dad and all day i do nothing. I wake up in the afternoon and play games all day. I dont have a job/career and im going nowhere in life. I cant seem to ever leave my house (as in i can go months without stepping out the front door, this has gone on for about 3 years) and im afraid to drive, it gives me anxiety if i possibly have to, And im afraid to tell other of my fear of driving. It makes me feel pathetic.
Thens theres the problem with my social life. I have no close friends. I Have no girlfriend, On the few occasions i do go out I dont approach people and feel like i have nothing to offer anyone so i stick to myself. Im lonely and frustrated.
Any words of advice or anything at all would be great. thanks.
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dirty
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Re: I need to vent. [Re: LackToast] 1
#18887065 - 09/24/13 10:30 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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You aren't pathetic. You seem to be in a bit of a rough spot. Jobs seem to be scarce as of late. Specially career oriented without some sort of training. I went through a phase similar to you. Was gaming 24/7 didn't talk to anyone always by myself. This may sound silly, but the best thing I did was stop gaming. I found all of a sudden that I didn't just wish I had other shit to do but I wanted it bad. I basically took all that time I used to spend gaming looking for a job, exercising, finding new things to pick up as hobbies (mycology ) And that feeling of pathetic subsided a lot. Just getting outside to go for a walk felt great. It wont fix everything at once, but trust me, sitting around gaming will only make it worse. If you need find a temp agency close they will find you temp jobs, or your unemployment agency can help you. Having a job and some money is a HUGE step towards building your confidence. hang in there!!!
-------------------- "In a completely sane world, madness is the only freedom" -J.G. Ballard "Why isn't there a strain yet called Rubix Cubensis?" -Fraggin
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Re: I need to vent. [Re: dirty]
#18887142 - 09/24/13 10:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I was similar in my late teen years. I wouldn't go out, I had terrible social anxiety and didn't get my drivers licsense until I was 22. I essentially just had to just force myself to go out, get my license, drive etc. The one thing that helped me socially was drinking. Not getting sloppy drunk, but just enough to get a buzz and kill the anxiety.
Other than that you could try and find a hobby that forces you into social situations and gets you out of the house. Maybe try talking to someone about your issues. Having someone to help push you is always a benefit.
Anyway hope you make shit work for yourself. It's not as impossible as it may seem to you currently.
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LackToast
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Re: I need to vent. [Re: dirty]
#18887163 - 09/24/13 10:48 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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To Dirty:
Thank you man. I know I need To stop gaming. Its the cause of my problems. I Sometimes think to myself while playing "wtf am i doing, I'll never get anywhere just doing this" but then even if i do turn it off i have nothing else to do. so i just end up playing more. As for hobbies I dont have any and im looking for some, but then the fact that i have nobody to share them with, and the fear that i wont talk to anyone if i do find people who share my intrests makes me not even attempt to go out and get any. its a stupid cycle. And ive been thinking about learning new languages in attempt to move to a different country and find a job somewhere else, but for now maybe job corp wouldnt be bad.
Edited by LackToast (09/24/13 10:49 PM)
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LackToast
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Re: I need to vent. [Re: Othyem]
#18887210 - 09/24/13 10:57 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Othyem said: I was similar in my late teen years. I wouldn't go out, I had terrible social anxiety and didn't get my drivers licsense until I was 22. I essentially just had to just force myself to go out, get my license, drive etc. The one thing that helped me socially was drinking. Not getting sloppy drunk, but just enough to get a buzz and kill the anxiety.
Other than that you could try and find a hobby that forces you into social situations and gets you out of the house. Maybe try talking to someone about your issues. Having someone to help push you is always a benefit.
Anyway hope you make shit work for yourself. It's not as impossible as it may seem to you currently.
You know its funny if I drink a beer or two i actually do want to drive just to prove to myself im not actually afraid of it, but i dont because i feel thats irresponsible so i continue to do nothing about it.
As for finding a hobby thats what i want to do but i never am enthusiastic about anything enough to get out of the house.
And like i said my ego gets in my way i cant tell anyone my problems and ive been like that my whole life. Its hard to talk about how i feel because then i feel like a child and not a man. stupid i know
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