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Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety(Updated)
#18860341 - 09/18/13 09:08 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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In order to keep this short and readable im going to be direct.
Im in a fraternity. Not one of the most popular ones and not one of the largest ones. (We have 18 men, largest has 30 someodd). Fraternitys do things called mixers: a sorority and fraternity get together to do an exclusive party.
My frat has a mixer planned this weekend with the hottest (and snobbiest) sorority on campus. Not at all the kind of girls I typically talk to. Not to mention I have a girlfriend.
I have been fearing this event for a week because: A. The girls and guys all have to attend or we are fined by our organization. B. I dont want a bunch of snobby girls forced to hang out with guys that they wouldnt normally party with. C. I fear both awkward situations and talking to hot women. D. Im a pretty attractive (somewhat social) guy but my frat has a stigma of being "the nice, nerdy guys". Not to mention the fact that only 8-10 brothers will be there drinking and actually socializing.
Is me fearing this some sort of diagnosable social anxiety or is it entirely warranted?
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18860356 - 09/18/13 09:10 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I can't give out dosage advice, but they make drugs for these kinds of situations. Drugs for you, not the girls' drink, that is.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Mush4Brains] 1
#18860359 - 09/18/13 09:11 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Why would you join a fraternity if you have social anxiety?
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse] 10
#18860363 - 09/18/13 09:11 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: In order to keep this short and readable im going to be direct.
Im in a fraternity. Not one of the most popular ones and not one of the largest ones. (We have 18 men, largest has 30 someodd). Fraternitys do things called mixers: a sorority and fraternity get together to do an exclusive party.
My frat has a mixer planned this weekend with the hottest (and snobbiest) sorority on campus. Not at all the kind of girls I typically talk to. Not to mention I have a girlfriend.
I have been fearing this event for a week because: A. The girls and guys all have to attend or we are fined by our organization. B. I dont want a bunch of snobby girls forced to hang out with guys that they wouldnt normally party with. C. I fear both awkward situations and talking to hot women. D. Im a pretty attractive (somewhat social) guy but my frat has a stigma of being "the nice, nerdy guys". Not to mention the fact that only 8-10 brothers will be there drinking and actually socializing.
Is me fearing this some sort of diagnosable social anxiety or is it entirely warranted?
Just quit, frat's are fucking lame.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse] 6
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Mush4Brains]
#18860365 - 09/18/13 09:12 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Idk leave a place that makes you pay money if you don't do what you're told....
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse] 1
#18860369 - 09/18/13 09:12 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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just get wasted prior
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Gilgamesh18]
#18860372 - 09/18/13 09:13 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Because this is not something that normally effects me much but this situation just seems tough for me to handle.
I know, I want benzos. Too bad I am not diagnosed.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18860378 - 09/18/13 09:14 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: Because this is not something that normally effects me much but this situation just seems tough for me to handle.
I know, I want benzos. Too bad I am not diagnosed.
Na man forget the benzos take some amps youll happily socialize away!
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse] 6
#18860379 - 09/18/13 09:14 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I wouldn't say having a bit of completely understandable nervousness is diagnosable SAD. You're young, in new situations, around hot girls with a bunch of possible dorks. Certainly you'd be nervous. Try to think rationally about the situation rather than dreading potential bad outcomes will do more than you think to keep things going smooth.
What is a little concerning is you express fear of awkward situations and talking to attractive girls. In other words, a fear of embarrasment. Why? You'll have to ask yourself questions like that to reach any sort of conclusion or revelation, but of you can't get anywhere with it, then maybe you should go talk to a doctor. It's not healthy to live in fear of certain unavoidable situations.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Micawber]
#18860385 - 09/18/13 09:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Micawber said: just get wasted prior 
Thats the plan.
You can knock fraternitys. But ive had awesome times so far. To each his own
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Micawber]
#18860386 - 09/18/13 09:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Micawber said: just get wasted prior 
This works well, too. For awhile, anyway. You can't dread talking to women or embarassment your entire life. But yeah, get drunk and get everyone else drunk and you'll be having a grand ol' time.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Micawber]
#18860389 - 09/18/13 09:16 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Micawber said: just get wasted prior 
This
I wasn't in a frat, but I went to a ton of frat parties in college. If I wasn't wasted it was really fucking weird for me. When I got wasted beforehand, I could kinda enjoy the frat atmosphere
Some people just enjoy different environments...nothing wrong with that. Just go and try to have some fun. If it sucks then you could always bail
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse] 1
#18860404 - 09/18/13 09:18 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Why the fuck would you opt into something you knows gonna put you in situations you dont care for.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18860416 - 09/18/13 09:20 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said:
Is me fearing this some sort of diagnosable social anxiety or is it entirely warranted?
Both.
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sVs said: I wouldn't say having a bit of completely understandable nervousness is diagnosable SAD. You're young, in new situations, around hot girls with a bunch of possible dorks. Certainly you'd be nervous. Try to think rationally about the situation rather than dreading potential bad outcomes will do more than you think to keep things going smooth.
What is a little concerning is you express fear of awkward situations and talking to attractive girls. In other words, a fear of embarrasment. Why? You'll have to ask yourself questions like that to reach any sort of conclusion or revelation, but of you can't get anywhere with it, then maybe you should go talk to a doctor. It's not healthy to live in fear of certain unavoidable situations.

And while its not healthy, its PERFECTLY normal. Especially since you're so young. IME the best way to treat this problem is by just doing it. I bet your 100x less nervous at the next party. Also bet that by next semester you'll feel silly for being nervous in the first place!
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I appreciate the advice. I think your first paragraph hit the nail on the head for me.
Im starting to think that my fear is normal and me worrying about my fear is an overreaction. @Bodhi Like I said, 90% of what we do is a ton of fun. I love these guys. Also sometimes its good to put yourself out of your comfort zone. Thats what I need to do, im just dreading doing it.
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sVs said: I wouldn't say having a bit of completely understandable nervousness is diagnosable SAD. You're young, in new situations, around hot girls with a bunch of possible dorks. Certainly you'd be nervous. Try to think rationally about the situation rather than dreading potential bad outcomes will do more than you think to keep things going smooth.
What is a little concerning is you express fear of awkward situations and talking to attractive girls. In other words, a fear of embarrasment. Why? You'll have to ask yourself questions like that to reach any sort of conclusion or revelation, but of you can't get anywhere with it, then maybe you should go talk to a doctor. It's not healthy to live in fear of certain unavoidable situations.

A sVs post that isn't just something that equates to a "Fuck you"

@OP Get drunk, usually does the trick for me 
Although being part of a frat doesn't sound like all the fun its made out to be.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
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Just put yourself out there, if things seem wierd and it's getting lame then make it fun. It's good to put yourself in these situations but it can go two ways, you can pussy out and make it a shitty night for yourself, or you can embrace the situation and learn important, useful lessons that will make your time spent in college much more enjoyable.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Lizard Eyes]
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sVs said: I wouldn't say having a bit of completely understandable nervousness is diagnosable SAD. You're young, in new situations, around hot girls with a bunch of possible dorks. Certainly you'd be nervous. Try to think rationally about the situation rather than dreading potential bad outcomes will do more than you think to keep things going smooth.
What is a little concerning is you express fear of awkward situations and talking to attractive girls. In other words, a fear of embarrasment. Why? You'll have to ask yourself questions like that to reach any sort of conclusion or revelation, but of you can't get anywhere with it, then maybe you should go talk to a doctor. It's not healthy to live in fear of certain unavoidable situations.

A sVs post that isn't just something that equates to a "Fuck you"

@OP Get drunk, usually does the trick for me 
Although being part of a frat doesn't sound like all the fun its made out to be.
sVs is a good dude, just because he's opinionated and honest doesn't mean he's an asshole.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: volcomstoner] 1
#18860483 - 09/18/13 09:32 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Well, I am an asshole, but sometimes a "fuck you" isn't deserved. Unfortunately some people aren't really capable of understanding this, but generally those aren't the kind of dipshits I'd like to associate with anyway.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18860485 - 09/18/13 09:32 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: I appreciate the advice. I think your first paragraph hit the nail on the head for me.
Im starting to think that my fear is normal and me worrying about my fear is an overreaction. @Bodhi Like I said, 90% of what we do is a ton of fun. I love these guys. Also sometimes its good to put yourself out of your comfort zone. Thats what I need to do, im just dreading doing it.
You're normal man. I was nervous as hell the first part I went to where the women were out of my range.
One came home with me. She was completely sober and said it was cute that I was nervous. She was crazy in bed too.
Not that I condone cheating. I do not. Just telling my experience.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: volcomstoner]
#18860487 - 09/18/13 09:33 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So I just signed up to run door. Meaning I wont be drinking and il be outside letting people in and keeping everyone else out.
This might be a good thing. I get off of door around 11 o clock and by that time eveyone will be settled in and id feel perfectly comfortable socializing then. Even if I was sober. Its just the awkward first couple of hours that I really fear.
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sVs said: Well, I am an asshole, but sometimes a "fuck you" isn't deserved. Unfortunately some people aren't really capable of understanding this, but generally those aren't the kind of dipshits I'd like to associate with anyway.

Totally agree with you.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: volcomstoner]
#18860489 - 09/18/13 09:33 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I actually really enjoy sVs pots. Especially his asshole ones. Was just honestly surprised I've literally never seen one like this thats all.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18860507 - 09/18/13 09:37 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: I appreciate the advice. I think your first paragraph hit the nail on the head for me.
Im starting to think that my fear is normal and me worrying about my fear is an overreaction. @Bodhi Like I said, 90% of what we do is a ton of fun. I love these guys. Also sometimes its good to put yourself out of your comfort zone. Thats what I need to do, im just dreading doing it.
Ahh, dont dread it then just roll with it. Everytime you start thinking about bad outcomes turn your focus to the best that could happen. It really helps with the anxiety, also, pre-drinks. That'll calm you more then anything.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Bodhi of Ankou]
#18860644 - 09/18/13 10:05 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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First of all fuck frats. But i've had problems with social anxiety but what helped me was finding a good group of friends that im really close with which took me a while though.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Fuckspice]
#18860658 - 09/18/13 10:09 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: MystiqueMushroom]
#18860689 - 09/18/13 10:16 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I joined a frat because im not a fan of dull moments. There is never a dull moment here, I dont even have to try... there's just always something social to do. Which I really appreciate. I also like the fact that we give back to the community. $1000 raised this week for our philanthropy.
Man just reading this thread and thinking good vibes makes me actually a bit excited for Saturday. Thats why this fear is weird for me. It only happens when I allow myself to let thoughts fester for too long.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18860899 - 09/18/13 11:02 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: A. The girls and guys all have to attend or we are fined by our organization
lol wtf
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Sheekle]
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ModestMouse said: A. The girls and guys all have to attend or we are fined by our organization
lol wtf
The whole thing
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18860922 - 09/18/13 11:06 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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First off, I doubt D is true. Secondly, man up you fucking pussy.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: The Phleg]
#18860944 - 09/18/13 11:11 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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pyrate999 said: Fratboy 
That said, if you have a gf, what are you worrying about? You dont have to pay anyone attention. Sit somewhere with a drink and just chill.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18861131 - 09/19/13 12:11 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I lived with a fraternity that sounds like it may have been pretty similar to yours. I would say maybe one or two of the members (it was also very small and I went Ohio State which is huge but doesn't have a big greek scene relative to the student body) seemed like they belonged in the stereotypical frat.
TGs were an absolute fucking blast. We did them with Ag frats, AEPhi (Jewish sorority), stereotypical fratboy type frats, stuck up snotty bitch sororities, the fat ugly girl sorority, whatever. Didn't matter who we got paired up with, everyone always had a good time. People are there to have fun. Part of the whole appeal of TGs is interacting with people who are different than you. Different fraternities and sororities have different vibes, and while you might not jive with the people that make up other greek houses on a regular basis you can still get together for a night and have a great fucking time.
I really wouldn't sweat it. Go out, have fun, get blitzed, dress up for whatever the theme is. And at the end of the day if it sucks you can always leave.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18861167 - 09/19/13 12:26 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: I have been fearing this event for a week because: A. The girls and guys all have to attend or we are fined by our organization.
you don't seem particularly bright when you're a member of an "organization" that charges you for not attending some fake social event.
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ModestMouse said: C. I fear both awkward situations and talking to hot women.
Talk to ugly women then, you'll obviously have a higher chance.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: mellowparty] 2
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if you like your frat or being there.. dont opt out because of social anxiety. i did this last year. hid myself in my own hole and now im paying for it still a year later. DONT HIDE! its a blessing in disguise. i lost all my friends and everything. take it from the person that already tried this so called solution. i ruined my life..
or if you dont like the frats.. quit and find something better. not gonna lie, ive never been too a frat and i know i wouldnt want too because i can barely stand putting up with ppl at bars. gym, sports, anything besides shit that involves alcohol. alcohol is nothing but trouble in the term of "bars".
dont hide! dont do it..
get a job in retail. youll never even think twice of social anxiety ever again. im dead serious too. i got a retail job on purpose so i could get out of the hole im stuck in and it worked with social anxiety. i just havent got a clue as to where to look for some decent friends or a girlfriend.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: tripp23]
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Not sure you made the right choice with the door duty if you have issues with social anxiety . Most people that suffer from it try to avoid confrontation which could arise if some dickheads decide to crash your frat party . Not trying to make your situation worse just pointing it out .
Once your door duty is over just hang out with some of your frat's and have a good laugh at the ones who had to much to drink and think they can dance . Your making the right choice just by going , If I had to op out of all the things I would prefer to avoid I would not have a job .
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: mandrax360]
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Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Everlong]
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did not read thread.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: NWlight]
#18861710 - 09/19/13 06:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Hey dude bring a big bag of cocaine. My friend is in a frat and it always works. Everyone loves mama white.
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It's not too late to drop a large amount of acid and have a radical shift in your values where this 'mixer' you're worried about will become absolutely fucking irrelevant to your life...
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: CosmicJoke] 1
#18861735 - 09/19/13 06:27 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Easy solution... You have a girlfriend. If you feel uncomfortable socializing with hot women there's your excuse. The sorostitutes are looking for dicks, not friends
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: JacksonMetaller] 2
#18861791 - 09/19/13 07:14 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Mixers? Is this the mid 1950s? Do you have panty raids?
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: koods]
#18861797 - 09/19/13 07:18 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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damn that sucks. forcing you to hang out? you get fined if you dont?
i would rather hit my hand with a hammer than join any college fraternity LOL
i live life by my own rules, not some drunk college losers
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Envix] 1
#18862090 - 09/19/13 09:13 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Some skewed views here... thats okay. The moden fraternity is concerned with building better men. Their are some logical fallacys in the idea of a frat, but thats human nature. If we only acted on logic ww would all think ourselves in circles. If I cant nut up and do this then im not learning and growing. I think the system is doing its job.
2 days til the event. Il post an update sunday morning.
To the people insulting me as a person with nothing to back it up: The fact is I am living an amazing life right now. I have everything ive wanted and my future looks great. My acute social anxiety is just my one weakness. Im sorry youre jealous.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18862108 - 09/19/13 09:18 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Its a club and its an experience, but it doesn't make you a better man. Thinking that is just retarded.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: fapjack]
#18862130 - 09/19/13 09:23 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So you want to take the argument towards a philosophical discussion? Lets not do that here.
Rather than derailing this thread, feel free to pm me.
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fapjack
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse] 1
#18862218 - 09/19/13 09:47 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Mods blocked my ability to PM people for randomly sending members pictures of my penis with the caption "Single and ready to mingle"
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: fapjack]
#18862235 - 09/19/13 09:50 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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lawlz. I say if they believe they will become better men, they will!
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: berdinwall]
#18862237 - 09/19/13 09:50 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I can believe my penis will grow if I yell at it enough, doesn't make it so.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: fapjack]
#18862244 - 09/19/13 09:52 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'm sorry to hear about your penis. I'm guessing no one was ready to mingle?
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: berdinwall]
#18862250 - 09/19/13 09:54 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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No, I actually got a few dick pics back. I never knew it, but everyone on this forum is actually male.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: fapjack]
#18862277 - 09/19/13 09:57 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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good for you! that's good for you right? sorry about your thread mouse lol
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: berdinwall] 1
#18862664 - 09/19/13 11:38 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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you know what can make you the best kind of man? traveling to the congo and hunting tigers/crocodiles with a machete will make you pretty manly
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: tarponio]
#18862722 - 09/19/13 11:56 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
tarponio said: Hey dude bring a big bag of cocaine. My friend is in a frat and it always works. Everyone loves mama white.
This could actually work. you'd be that awesome guy that everyone wants to be friend with .
I dont generally advocate cocaine (in fact I'am strongly against it and try to avoid it all cost). but for that kind of setting , you could pull it off.
(although it's not the best option.)
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: Vsnares.Zappa]
#18862756 - 09/19/13 12:04 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Uh, have five drinks and this issue will be decimated. I highly recommend bourbon.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18862774 - 09/19/13 12:08 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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ModestMouse said: In order to keep this short and readable im going to be direct.
Im in a fraternity. Not one of the most popular ones and not one of the largest ones. (We have 18 men, largest has 30 someodd). Fraternitys do things called mixers: a sorority and fraternity get together to do an exclusive party.
My frat has a mixer planned this weekend with the hottest (and snobbiest) sorority on campus. Not at all the kind of girls I typically talk to. Not to mention I have a girlfriend.
I have been fearing this event for a week because: A. The girls and guys all have to attend or we are fined by our organization. B. I dont want a bunch of snobby girls forced to hang out with guys that they wouldnt normally party with. C. I fear both awkward situations and talking to hot women. D. Im a pretty attractive (somewhat social) guy but my frat has a stigma of being "the nice, nerdy guys". Not to mention the fact that only 8-10 brothers will be there drinking and actually socializing.
Is me fearing this some sort of diagnosable social anxiety or is it entirely warranted?
Just calm down. Go to the party have a good time, it'll all be okay.
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: The Vapor]
#18874949 - 09/22/13 07:36 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So it went down last night. 20 or so of their girls showed up and a surprising number of our brothers were socializing. I managed to smoke with and talk to a ton of the ladies and the general impression was that they were having a blast.
Also they were ALL hot as fuck
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18874962 - 09/22/13 07:40 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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a W for the books!
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Re: Opting out of potentialy fun social experiences due to social anxiety [Re: ModestMouse]
#18874966 - 09/22/13 07:41 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Social interactions are important. Don't opt out OP.
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