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Anonymous #1
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Ladies, just... ladies.
#18851012 - 09/16/13 08:11 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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What do you do when you just can't tell if they want you or they're subtly pushing you away?
I just can't figure it out.
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Anonymous #2
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It sucks but just ride it out and let it go where it goes.
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Anonymous #1
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Logically, I know. But I don't, can't think logically. Haven't liked this girl any any other, ever. And the thing is, I just can't tell if she likes me back. Mixed signals
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Anonymous #1
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Ah fuck I know I'm overthinking it all but I can't help it
See, I visit pretty often to where she's at, but wont be there for 2 weeks
I don't know if I should chat her up on facebook, or would that be annoyingly smothering her and pushing her away?
Just a few days ago she seemed pretty sweet on me, but I can't figure her out
So I should not initiate conversation over the next 2 weeks and wait til I see her again in person right? Or would that make her think I'm ignoring her?
Fucking circular thinking, I just can't focus
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Anonymous #3
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Well coming from a guy sometimes I find myself giving off the impression I'm pushing people away despite me liking them, I've done this quite the number of times I think.
It doesn't mean anything significant when I do, it's mainly caused by anxiety and it's very situational, I have an unusual way of going about doing things at times. I just get stupid sometimes.
People sometimes get upset or confused by it but I try to make up for it and remind them I care about them in whatever ways possible afterwards, which I actually do. I typically successfully salvage the relationship before it fully dies off. Then in the future I make sure not to do it again. It's like a little mental hiccup of mine that I find myself doing at times. It takes a little time to re-gain their trust but I usually pull it off well.
Then everything typically works out well in the end, and we're both stronger for getting past my stupid little anxiety shit.
Dude, if you like some chick what's the point in just being all like "yeah man should I not talk to her for 2 weeks"? If you want to talk to her then talk to her. Just be civil and not like way over the top, you know? Just feel the vibes man.
Maybe she's just insecure like me. Just roll with whatever and do whatever.
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Anonymous #1
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Maybe, but maybe not. And yeah, I mean on facebook, I don't live near her but will move there in a couple months.
I dunno, I cant figure out for the life of me what she means dude. You know, I look at two sentences, and I just sit there and analyze it, so does this mean she likes me but is sorta embarrassed to admit it, or that she doesn't like me so much any more and doesn't want me to think our moments mattered.
I don't want to just forget her
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MollyChambers
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Registered: 09/16/13
Posts: 7
Last seen: 10 years, 4 months
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Can you describe the history between you two so far? Do you talk to her a lot at the coffee shop where she works? If you really think she was sweet on you I wouldn't wait two weeks to talk to her again, I'd msg he on fb. But maybe don't just say hi, ask her out. Wait maybe one week after the last time you see her, casually suggest going for drinks or whatever when you get back in town. It would be weird if you messaged her two days after you saw her last to setup a date in 12 days, so waiting a week to setup a date in a week would be good.
Edited by MollyChambers (09/17/13 06:27 AM)
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