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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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she left after 17 years *DELETED*
#18849528 - 09/16/13 02:56 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: She is looking
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
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memes
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I read it. I hope these coming days/weeks are bearable for you, old friend. Life will be tough, but it will get easier.
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Rewindicus
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Re: she left after 17 years [Re: memes]
#18849642 - 09/16/13 03:21 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Dint get caught up in coulda, shoulda, woulda scenarios. Whats done is done. Its time to move forward. The only constant in life is change man.
-------------------- “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”- Dr. Seuss "Too much of a good thing, can be wonderful!" - Mae West "If you have nothing nice to say about anyone, come sit next to me." - Alice Roosevelt Longworth
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Re: she left after 17 years *DELETED* [Re: Rewindicus]
#18849666 - 09/16/13 03:26 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: Peeking from behind
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19161913
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Re: she left after 17 years *DELETED* [Re: brianstequila]
#18851502 - 09/16/13 09:49 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: Looking around the corner
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19161913
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koraks
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Re: she left after 17 years [Re: Rewindicus]
#18851910 - 09/16/13 11:33 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rewindicus said: Dint get caught up in coulda, shoulda, woulda scenarios. Whats done is done. Its time to move forward. The only constant in life is change man.
Wise words.
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MystiqueMushroom

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Re: she left after 17 years [Re: koraks]
#18851996 - 09/17/13 12:01 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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All I can tell you is EVERYTHING happens for a reason. Lessons to be learned. Growth to be had!
Evolution
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JacksonMetaller
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The way you talk at the end sounds like a little space is helping. Perhaps it's not so hopeless. I mean, don't get caught up in hopes of anything happening. Just do your thing and be you and accept life as it comes... But it seems like you've still got something to work with. Best of luck bud.
edit: btw I think you should take her up on the couples counseling. I think this is absolutely necessary for a lot of people. I come out of counseling feeling like I'm on an MDMA roll. It just does so much good to talk shit out, and I imagine talking it out together with a guiding median would be even better. tl;dr counseling is actually the highlight of my week, not something to be offput by
Edited by JacksonMetaller (09/17/13 09:51 AM)
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memes
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brianstequila said: I asked him last night to be a man and give me a chance, he did it and told her he didnt want to see her again. Why do I feel bad because she cried for someone else, I feel like I just ruined a little bit more of the chance of us
I hear ya. That's gotta be tough.
Are you being open and honest with her about how you feel regarding all this? Are you guys communicating about it? How does she feel? Does she see your desire to be different now as just another "I swear i'll change" attempt?
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Re: she left after 17 years *DELETED* [Re: memes]
#18853154 - 09/17/13 11:07 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: Looking like nothings going on
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19161913
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Re: she left after 17 years *DELETED* [Re: brianstequila]
#18854356 - 09/17/13 04:37 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: Over my shoulder
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19161913
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memes
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I hear ya on that. GL. Let us know how things play out
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memes
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Re: she left after 17 years [Re: memes]
#18854946 - 09/17/13 06:54 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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also: take the meds!
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TwinEclipse
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Re: she left after 17 years [Re: memes]
#18856825 - 09/18/13 06:06 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I say take the best moments of your 17 year experience and move forward finding a suitable companion.
Everything must come to an end, whether it be on earth, or when the universe eventually cools down enough. It's inevitable.
Look forward....that's the only advice I can give. Break ups made me feel like poo poo and kept me in a regressed mental state, only thinking about her. But that part goes away with time, I promise you.
You have an exciting future ahead of you. So don't feel so bad. We are here
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Re: she left after 17 years *DELETED* [Re: TwinEclipse]
#18857195 - 09/18/13 09:28 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: Who gives a fuck it is gone
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19161913
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Re: she left after 17 years *DELETED* [Re: brianstequila]
#18858224 - 09/18/13 01:58 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: Fucken gone
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19161913
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Re: she left after 17 years *DELETED* [Re: brianstequila]
#18858412 - 09/18/13 02:32 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: Again
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/19161913
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amilibertine
It’s good to be back!



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If you're skipping your appointments (and she is the one that wants you to go) it's not helping your chances. Women like to test men like this. You going with her is fine, but I'm betting she wants you to go alone. She surely was disappointed.
If you want to fix this relationship you are going to have to do things you don't feel like doing, anxiety or no. You're going to have to make the effort and it would help for her to see that you WANT to do these things for yourself and not just for her (if you are, I dunno).
Just my opinion.
Edit: spelling
Edited by amilibertine (09/18/13 02:58 PM)
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CounterCulturest
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Re: she left after 17 years [Re: Rewindicus]
#18860455 - 09/18/13 09:27 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Rewindicus said: Dint get caught up in coulda, shoulda, woulda scenarios. Whats done is done. Its time to move forward. The only constant in life is change man.
This is the only advice you will get that actually matters.
That is heavy stuff man. Spend the next couple months just eating ice cream, watching your favorite shows and have a ton of friends over. This will require a lot of grieving, just get it over with now. Don't string yourself along. After you get a lot of that shit out start getting out and talking to some ladies man. That will help immensely.
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brianstequila
Sir John Falstaff



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Post deleted by brianstequilaReason for deletion: AAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!
-------------------- Every citizen should be a soldier. This was the case with the Greeks and Romans, and must be that of every free state. Thomas Jefferson Not My trade list i aint got shit anymore
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