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Patlal
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Do you suffer from a clingy ex?
#18848869 - 09/16/13 12:21 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Or worse, suffer from your partner's clingy ex...
Unwanted phone calls, texts, facebooks stalking etc?
Does it affect your current relationship? Do you like the attention?
Tell me your story
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Herbologist
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal]
#18848926 - 09/16/13 12:29 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have serious history with an ex that just moved back in town.. She wants to chill and smoke... Well she hates my current girlfriend and vice versa.
Yes it causes some issues for sure... Although my current girlfriend doesn't know she has been trying to get in contact with me, just that she is back in town.
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Patlal
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Herbologist]
#18849703 - 09/16/13 03:34 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Herbologist said: I have serious history with an ex that just moved back in town.. She wants to chill and smoke... Well she hates my current girlfriend and vice versa.
Yes it causes some issues for sure... Although my current girlfriend doesn't know she has been trying to get in contact with me, just that she is back in town.
How have you been dealing with this issue?
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal] 1
#18849990 - 09/16/13 04:26 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I've had it where an ex was into me sexually still but felt that there was an emotional bond as well. But like every other relationship I have been in, there comes the realization that people break up for a reason; and that reason is still there if you get back together. Exes can be seen as things of familiarity and comfort, which appeals in times of loneliness and low self-esteem. But low/no risk = stale reward eventually.
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal]
#18850843 - 09/16/13 07:26 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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i had a clingy ex and gave into for a while and we would hang out but that just made it so much worse. eventually i just had to completely cut ties and ignore their calls, which some nights were nonstop. he was apparently suicidal because of me, it was a difficult time.
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Some people go suicidal to get attention and concern from others but, never intend to go through. The people who do need to be counseled.
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: naturesrevolt]
#18851149 - 09/16/13 08:39 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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 Crazy ex is more like it.
She kept hope alive I guess in her head until the day she saw my new lady and I together. She went apeshit. Long story, too long to type. I feel really bad for her, but she made her own bed. She needs more help than any one person can give her. I tried so hard and it took sooooo much out of me, but I am finally happy now. I have countless anon thread about the mess we had as a relationship.
I am so glad I separated myself from that mess. I found the perfect woman for me and it's returned me to whom I am supposed to be. Happy, loving, receiving affection, great sex (and a ton of it ), and not having to worry about who I mention, who I hang with, or what I did today that she may get mad about.
Blah, I'm rambling.....
My ex keyed my truck Saturday night while my lady and I were together. So.... She's still around, but even that didn't even piss me off. The irony is that when we saw it in the morning my girl felt bad for me and wasn't even sketched out about my ex still being around and all crazy. She's had a crazy ex, too... So, idk...
Best advice I can give is just to ignore it. Be happy, live your life and block every channel of communication she has. I've never been happier, even with less paint on my truck
(I'm mildly drunk, so forgive the meandering diatribe.)
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal]
#18853085 - 09/17/13 10:43 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
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Herbologist said: I have serious history with an ex that just moved back in town.. She wants to chill and smoke... Well she hates my current girlfriend and vice versa.
Yes it causes some issues for sure... Although my current girlfriend doesn't know she has been trying to get in contact with me, just that she is back in town.
How have you been dealing with this issue?
It sucks, I handle it by just ignoring my ex, I'd really like to see her. But it would devastate my current GF and most likely be a deal breaker.
Im sure it hurts my ex's feelings as well because she wont be staying in town for long, only until spring or sooner.
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal]
#18853122 - 09/17/13 10:56 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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My ex still calls me every week, its been like 4 months since we broke up and I haven't picked up once and still calls and leaves me creepy voice messages. I can only imagine what she would be like if I actually picked up or met up with her.
Weird thing is, is she the only who cheated on me. Like what the fuck? If you really wanted to be with me, you wouldn't bring back guys to MY place and fuck them there. 
Crazy bitches...
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Uzziel]
#18853379 - 09/17/13 12:32 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Fuck em
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Salnugs]
#18853403 - 09/17/13 12:40 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I will admit, though... It takes some getting used to going from codependent to very independent. At least with the former you know where you stand.
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Patlal
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: shLong]
#18853471 - 09/17/13 01:03 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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shLong said: I will admit, though... It takes some getting used to going from codependent to very independent. At least with the former you know where you stand. 
IMO you know where you stand way better when your independent. You don't depend on someone else, you're in full control of your life.
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal]
#18853478 - 09/17/13 01:04 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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No, the woman being independent or codependent.
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Uzziel]
#18853488 - 09/17/13 01:08 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Uzziel said: My ex still calls me every week, its been like 4 months since we broke up and I haven't picked up once and still calls and leaves me creepy voice messages. I can only imagine what she would be like if I actually picked up or met up with her.
Weird thing is, is she the only who cheated on me. Like what the fuck? If you really wanted to be with me, you wouldn't bring back guys to MY place and fuck them there. 
Crazy bitches...
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Magenta]
#18854670 - 09/17/13 05:56 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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A clingy stalker whose feelings I hurt...
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal]
#18855563 - 09/17/13 09:19 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Patlal said: Or worse, suffer from your partner's clingy ex...
Unwanted phone calls, texts, facebooks stalking etc?
Does it affect your current relationship? Do you like the attention?
Tell me your story
No, I think a better question for this website would be
"does someone suffer from your clinginess?"
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Patlal
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18856915 - 09/18/13 07:19 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Repertoire89 said:
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Patlal said: Or worse, suffer from your partner's clingy ex...
Unwanted phone calls, texts, facebooks stalking etc?
Does it affect your current relationship? Do you like the attention?
Tell me your story
No, I think a better question for this website would be
"does someone suffer from your clinginess?"
What do you have against me?
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Patlal]
#18857388 - 09/18/13 10:39 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Patlal said:
What do you have against me?
Nothing, I just mean there's a lot of clingy people on this website. Wasn't directed at anyone in particular
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: Repertoire89]
#18857639 - 09/18/13 11:49 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I don't have any clingy Ex's but I like this thread so yeah, cool stuff
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Re: Do you suffer from a clingy ex? [Re: The5thElement]
#18861869 - 09/19/13 07:51 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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My ex from about 7 years ago just started showing up. I caught him peering up at the window to see if I was there and running off to hide when I moved.
I thought I was done with this shit... It was bad enough when it was just phone calls but those had stopped years ago.
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