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Magicman69
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What do you think about marriage?
#18838171 - 09/13/13 06:49 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Whats a 'normal' amount of time to date a girl before you start to think about marriage? I'm curious how many members are currently married? I'm not in any rush, especially because I won't graduate from college for another year.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69]
#18838177 - 09/13/13 06:52 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Don't do it. Your life will start degrading 3 months after marriage.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69]
#18838180 - 09/13/13 06:52 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Total horseshit.
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VivaLaMushie
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Been w my guy for many, many years. Not married but he put a ring on it already.
I don't feel the need or urge to get married right now.
That's a lot of money that id rather spend on.....weeed.
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Magicman69
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Quote:
Bodhi of Ankou said: Total horseshit.
Could you elaborate?
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#18838190 - 09/13/13 06:54 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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VivaLaMushie said:
That's a lot of money that id rather spend on.....weeed.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69]
#18838195 - 09/13/13 06:55 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Magicman69 said:
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Bodhi of Ankou said: Total horseshit.
Could you elaborate?
No.
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Magicman69
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Sheekle]
#18838200 - 09/13/13 06:56 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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How much does getting married cost? I'd go to Vegas and do it the quick and fun way. If shes not down, then shes not the right one for me
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69] 1
#18838206 - 09/13/13 06:56 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'm married and coming up on our 10 year anniversary. I'm not sure how long a normal time is. We got engaged after just a couple of days (was the only way she could stay, long story) and were together for 11 months before we split up. Then a couple years later we got back together and were married within a month.
I'm glad we made it and I can't imagine being with anyone else, I've tried to think of how weird it'd be without her in my life and I just can't even picture it. The first few years were pretty damn hard, we were constantly at each other's throats and shit lol.. But we stuck it out and made it through, we had our hiccups like any married couple.
I like the stability. The kind you can really only get after being with someone for years. Surprises are pretty rare, she knows what to expect of me and I know what to expect from her.
Oh and getting married doesn't have to be expensive, either.. We just got married in a court house with one of her friends as a witness. I really wouldn't have wanted a big wedding anyways.. I kinda doubt even she would've. I'm the 'money waster' of us.. She's the one that wants to pinch every penny possible.
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All of our friends who have gotten married at like 20 or 21, the majority of them had kids and then got divorced. They now hate their lives.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#18838227 - 09/13/13 06:59 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Which is exactly why I dont care for it. Its a love contract, and love is something you can never force out of someone.
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Magicman69
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#18838230 - 09/13/13 06:59 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah I'm 26 and hope to to be married with kids by the time I'm 30. I put to many expectations on things. I need to stop doing that and just go with the flow
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69]
#18838286 - 09/13/13 07:13 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I met my wife in may '11 ... knocked her up in Dec '11 ... got married 10-11-12
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69]
#18838307 - 09/13/13 07:18 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Marriage is a scam, its nothing but a legal agreement.
I can love a girl the same or even more without marriage.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69]
#18838347 - 09/13/13 07:26 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Magicman69 said: Whats a 'normal' amount of time to date a girl before you start to think about marriage? I'm curious how many members are currently married? I'm not in any rush, especially because I won't graduate from college for another year.
Most men I know think that a "normal" amount of dating before marriage should be at least 2 years, maybe even 3.
You shouldn't even be thinking about marriage until you are 3-4 years out of college, even then it's still a highly speculative arrangement.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: SunnyD]
#18838353 - 09/13/13 07:27 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Daddyzomed said: Marriage is a scam, its nothing but a legal agreement.
I can love a girl the same or even more without marriage.
WELL FUCKING SAID
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: qman]
#18838365 - 09/13/13 07:30 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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qman said:
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Magicman69 said: Whats a 'normal' amount of time to date a girl before you start to think about marriage? I'm curious how many members are currently married? I'm not in any rush, especially because I won't graduate from college for another year.
Most men I know think that a "normal" amount of dating before marriage should be at least 2 years, maybe even 3.
You shouldn't even be thinking about marriage until you are 3-4 years out of college, even then it's still a highly speculative arrangement.
There are 40 year olds in college, should they not be thinking about marriage? I'm 26, not every college student is young anymore
Edited by Magicman69 (09/13/13 07:31 PM)
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: Magicman69]
#18838378 - 09/13/13 07:33 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Quote:
Magicman69 said:
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qman said:
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Magicman69 said: Whats a 'normal' amount of time to date a girl before you start to think about marriage? I'm curious how many members are currently married? I'm not in any rush, especially because I won't graduate from college for another year.
Most men I know think that a "normal" amount of dating before marriage should be at least 2 years, maybe even 3.
You shouldn't even be thinking about marriage until you are 3-4 years out of college, even then it's still a highly speculative arrangement.
There are 40 year olds in college, should they not be thinking about marriage? I'm 26, not every college student is young anymore
If it is truly something you want to do then do it but be careful I was with a chick for 7 years and when we married she tried to kill me 3 times.
You do not truly know someone till you live with them for a year.
At least that is how I feel.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: SattvaBodhi]
#18838396 - 09/13/13 07:39 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Other than tax benefits, I see no reason for marriage.. If you love each other, what's the point of marriage? It's always baffled me when gays wanna get married... WHY? Married people are some of the most unhappy people I've ever seen. Especially when you've been married for 20 years, start to hate either other, then realize you're locked inside a contract that will fuck you for half your possessions in the case of a divorce.
Unless you're a religious person, that's the only time I can ever see marriage making any sort of sense..
Sorry to be dark when you're contemplating marriage, but you asked what we thought about it.
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Re: What do you think about marriage? [Re: SattvaBodhi]
#18838417 - 09/13/13 07:43 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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It's going depend on the people involved and the circumstances, and how mature and committed those people may or may not be.
No one else can give you an answer based on their experiences or opinions, nor should you base your decision on any one persons advice. There are too many variables here, if you feel like you truly want to marry somebody....you will know.
Don't rush, take your time. Think things through, and make sure you're doing it for the right reasons. After all, it is only a legal title. Your life will definitely change...in a good way or a bad way no one could say.
I was engaged for a year, and backed out when I realized it wasn't what I wanted or needed. It was a nightmare for a long time, BUT that's because I didn't have the right person....and wasn't the right time. No kind of financial stability, and the girl I was with would've given me a stroke within another year. It was stressful to say the least. (Just my story, not intended for advice)
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