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Repertoire89
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Would you be cool with it? 1
#18830002 - 09/11/13 09:17 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Heard this come up a few times the past few months so here's a poll, would you be cool with your significant other living with a peer of the opposite sex?
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Yeah, but not until after I dumped her
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Alpha and Betas , You either one ore dah other .
Me ? I'd rather cut a bitch for doing that . *jk*
Seriously though , it came to a point recently where my girl needed to move out a.s.a.p .
I didn't really have the funds to support myself fully but I make enough scratch to pay 40% of the bills , and that was ok with my lady .
She'd rather move back in with her folks and wait for me to have some capital then even move in with an individual of the same sex .
Your significant other basically is a low life peace of shit if they choose to do move in with a member of the opposite sex if their goals are a successful long term relationship .
Maybe thats an extreme way of putting it. However if such a situation arose , it would be clear to me that at the very least this person doesn't see a positive long term thing for themselves or anyone .
Edit: My girlfiend and I moved in together two months ago , she pays most of the bills but loves me so god damn much it doesn't matter . She even bought me a truck to get to work .
My advice , Dump the bitch
Edited by HeroMike (09/11/13 09:56 PM)
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: HeroMike]
#18830269 - 09/11/13 10:02 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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eh, hard to say If my girl wanted to move in with another guy(she doesnt) the only way I'd be ok with it is if they guy didnt even register on my ego scale I wouldn't say I have a big ego but my emotions can get pretty primal sometimes.
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: kinkaku] 1
#18830396 - 09/11/13 10:29 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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kinkaku said: eh, hard to say If my girl wanted to move in with another guy(she doesnt) the only way I'd be ok with it is if they guy didnt even register on my emo scale I wouldn't say I have a big emo but my emotions can get pretty primal sometimes.
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kinkaku said: eh, hard to say If my girl wanted to move in with another guy(she doesnt) the only way I'd be ok with it is if they guy didnt even register on my emo scale I wouldn't say I have a big emo but my emotions can get pretty primal sometimes.
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haha emo? as in emotional? or one of those weird guys that wear girl pants?
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: kinkaku]
#18830737 - 09/12/13 12:01 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I'd rather she move in with two dudes than just one... But other than that, it doesn't matter what I'm cool with. If that's the place where she finds the cheapest rent in the best location, more power to her. It would be extremely insulting to insinuate, or flat out say, that I didn't think she could live with another guy without banging him.
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: Lynnch]
#18831080 - 09/12/13 02:53 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I would be cool with it, but I wouldn't be cool with it. I mean, I wouldn't start up any shit about it, but I would like her to get her own place or move in with some other skirts ASAP.
It's also a HUGE difference between her moving in with ONE guy or a couple of guys/mixed group. If that one guy has a relationship it would make things a little bit better, if he's gay it's fine. If she already lived with the guy when I met her I'd be cool with it to.
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: Repertoire89] 1
#18831561 - 09/12/13 08:26 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Yeah why not? If she is going to cheat on me, she is going to cheat on me. Living with someone of the opposite sex isn't going to make her suddenly want to cheat. In fact, it would just make things really awkward if she cheated with her room mate, so she wouldn't do it, and I would find out easily. And if that happened, it would be better that I found out early that she was going to cheat then later... Fun fact: My GF (of over 3 years now) lived with a guy room mate for a year.
Another thing to consider is its way easier cheating with someone you don't live with - considering you can "hit it and quit it" and not have to live with the awkwardness afterwards, especially when your bf/gf came over.
Trust is essential to a relationship. Without trust relationships slowly crumble into hurt and breakup, or misery. If you don't trust your partner, then why are you with them? What kind of relationship is it if you have to be constantly worried about your partner cheating on you and the mental anguish that causes? That sounds like the definition of misery.
Years and years ago I was in a very possessive relationship, and had trust issues. Seeing the damage it did to both of us, and how it destroyed the relationship showed me how important trust is and how detrimental jealousy is to a healthy mind and relationship.
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I wouldn't care at all.
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: Patlal]
#18832142 - 09/12/13 11:39 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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I wouldn't be cool with it, and don't consider it a trust issue. Its a perfectly reasonable expectation IMO not to have your significant other living with a potential sexual partner instead of you.
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Repertoire89 said: I wouldn't be cool with it, and don't consider it a trust issue. Its a perfectly reasonable expectation IMO not to have your significant other living with a potential sexual partner instead of you.
You can't just claim that something is a "reasonable expectation". What reason do you have? It isn't a "reasonable expectation" to anyone other than you just because you say so. You must have some justification.
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tymoteusz3 said: Yeah why not? If she is going to cheat on me, she is going to cheat on me. Living with someone of the opposite sex isn't going to make her suddenly want to cheat. In fact, it would just make things really awkward if she cheated with her room mate, so she wouldn't do it, and I would find out easily. And if that happened, it would be better that I found out early that she was going to cheat then later... Fun fact: My GF (of over 3 years now) lived with a guy room mate for a year.
Another thing to consider is its way easier cheating with someone you don't live with - considering you can "hit it and quit it" and not have to live with the awkwardness afterwards, especially when your bf/gf came over.
Trust is essential to a relationship. Without trust relationships slowly crumble into hurt and breakup, or misery. If you don't trust your partner, then why are you with them? What kind of relationship is it if you have to be constantly worried about your partner cheating on you and the mental anguish that causes? That sounds like the definition of misery.
Years and years ago I was in a very possessive relationship, and had trust issues. Seeing the damage it did to both of us, and how it destroyed the relationship showed me how important trust is and how detrimental jealousy is to a healthy mind and relationship.
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18833958 - 09/12/13 07:42 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Repertoire89 said: I wouldn't be cool with it, and don't consider it a trust issue. Its a perfectly reasonable expectation IMO not to have your significant other living with a potential sexual partner instead of you.
You can't just claim that something is a "reasonable expectation". What reason do you have? It isn't a "reasonable expectation" to anyone other than you just because you say so. You must have some justification.
Instead of living with you, you're significant other is living with another potential mate. They could live with someone of the same gender, with parents, with you, but instead its with someone they can sleep with. Knowing full well what that entails and what you'll think of it.
Practically cheating already
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Repertoire89 said: I wouldn't be cool with it, and don't consider it a trust issue. Its a perfectly reasonable expectation IMO not to have your significant other living with a potential sexual partner instead of you.
You can't just claim that something is a "reasonable expectation". What reason do you have? It isn't a "reasonable expectation" to anyone other than you just because you say so. You must have some justification.
Instead of living with you, you're significant other is living with another potential mate. They could live with someone of the same gender, with parents, with you, but instead its with someone they can sleep with. Knowing full well what that entails and what you'll think of it.
Practically cheating already
not to mention there is a chemical/hormonal aspect to it. so if you think about it there is actually a reasonable expectation to it
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: kinkaku]
#18834229 - 09/12/13 08:32 PM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18848575 - 09/16/13 11:12 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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it's reasonable to expect a man to be a man and to come onto an attractive woman who chooses to live in his house.
if she wasn't in the home with another man, then said man wouldn't try and get his fuck on with your bitch.
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Its kind of like handing over your dominance. you know, alpha male blah blah blah...
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Re: Would you be cool with it? [Re: omegafaust]
#18848608 - 09/16/13 11:20 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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omegafaust said: Its kind of like handing over your dominance. you know, alpha male blah blah blah...
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omegafaust said: Its kind of like handing over your dominance. you know, alpha male blah blah blah...

Do you have any reason to think humans don't work on that basis? I can start to list studies which suggest that humans who are social animals, behave along a hierarchy which includes alpha/beta male behavior.
One true love doesn't exist in humans because we're animals and think like animals, a more convenient mate can easily become the alpha. Statistically speaking mates are chosen by convenience not by interests.
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omegafaust said: Its kind of like handing over your dominance. you know, alpha male blah blah blah...

Do you have any reason to think humans don't work on that basis? I can start to list studies which suggest that humans who are social animals, behave along a hierarchy which includes alpha/beta male behavior.
One true love doesn't exist in humans because we're animals and think like animals, a more convenient mate can easily become the alpha. Statistically speaking mates are chosen by convenience not by interests.
Agreed.
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