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wakenbake
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GF moved in with a guy roommate.
#18826584 - 09/11/13 05:37 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So how should i feel about this situation? It has been tearing me apart inside
Me and my girl have been dating for about a year and a half now. We work together as well as this guy. Me moving out right now isnt an option.
I mean i know this is a relief on her end here are the reasons she moved.
-She lived kind of far from our job with no rides ( the apartments are right behind our job ) -Closer to my place=gas saved
Now I just cant get over the fact of her living with this guy...Its not so much that i dont trust her, i just cant stop these thoughts from running through my head when im not near her. like what is she doing, who is over, etc.
He constantly has groups of friends over ( which are all guys also ) to smoke and get fucked up. I feel like letting her moving into that environment is just setting myself up for something to happen, even though she told me not to think of it like that and that its for "us".
I dont know shroomery, help me out. its tearing me up inside right now. Im going to see her later on today, i dont know what to say.
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: wakenbake] 1
#18826703 - 09/11/13 06:54 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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she's going to get drunk one night when like 4 or 5 guys are over, once she's drunk they'll offer her pot. After that, her pussy is forfeit. I'd be paranoid as fuck too man.. I've been with my lady for 6 years and I still get edgy when she goes to the bar with her single friends because even though I trust HER, I don't trust booze and men in general.
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pwnasaurus
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: PEROXIDE]
#18826720 - 09/11/13 07:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think you have trust issues. If you actually trusted her you wouldn't have a problem with it.
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memes
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18826867 - 09/11/13 08:17 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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first two posters have trust issues and should probably break up with their girlfriends to save themselves heartache. lack of trust will cause her to resent you, her resenting you will cause her to seek out others, seeking out others will cause her to cheat on you, and then we'll be here on the shroomery 18 months down the line consoling you for your loss.
or something like that.
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Patlal
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: memes] 5
#18826975 - 09/11/13 08:54 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kill guy roommate
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ClockCode
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: Patlal] 1
#18827005 - 09/11/13 09:07 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Patlal said: Kill guy roommate
ASSERT YOUR DOMINANCE.
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wakenbake
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: ClockCode]
#18827244 - 09/11/13 10:54 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Maybe i should chill about it.
Im about to go over there in a few, ill have to show some alpha status and let them know whats up
Edited by wakenbake (09/11/13 10:54 AM)
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aw11driver



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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: wakenbake]
#18827573 - 09/11/13 12:29 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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wakenbake said: Maybe i should chill about it.
Im about to go over there in a few, ill have to show some alpha status and let them know whats up
Make sure you pee all over. Once on the outside of her room, inside her room and maybe somewhere in thr living room too... Im jk man. Just try not to think of all the bad stuff that could happen and focus on what's going on now.
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underfliptown
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: aw11driver]
#18827626 - 09/11/13 12:39 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Your GF will probably end up hating the dude real quick.
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Herbologist
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: underfliptown] 4
#18827651 - 09/11/13 12:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'd never be okay with it, honestly.
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llama_police
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18828140 - 09/11/13 02:48 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus said: I think you have trust issues. If you actually trusted her you wouldn't have a problem with it.
QFT. And usually this stems from one's own inability to trust themselves in the same situation. If you'd cheat on her if you were living in a house of girls that was just the same, then you guys shouldn't be together.
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18829781 - 09/11/13 08:30 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus said: I think you have trust issues. If you actually trusted her you wouldn't have a problem with it.
Would you let your GF or wife live with another man? What if this man was better looking, had more money, and more charisma?
I don't care how much a man trust his female partner, temptation sometimes makes good people do the wrong thing.
So why create the temptation in the first place? All it does is potentially open up a can of worms.
Trust is one thing, but creating an environment full of temptation is just going against basic commonsense.
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Repertoire89
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: wakenbake]
#18829984 - 09/11/13 09:14 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Wouldn't be cool with it, its not a trust issue I doubt very many people would be naive enough to be cool with it. If its an open relationship than sure but not monogamous.
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pwnasaurus
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: qman]
#18830005 - 09/11/13 09:17 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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qman said:
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pwnasaurus said: I think you have trust issues. If you actually trusted her you wouldn't have a problem with it.
Would you let your GF or wife live with another man? What if this man was better looking, had more money, and more charisma?
I don't care how much a man trust his female partner, temptation sometimes makes good people do the wrong thing.
So why create the temptation in the first place? All it does is potentially open up a can of worms.
Trust is one thing, but creating an environment full of temptation is just going against basic commonsense.
Absolutely comfortable because I trust her. If I didn't trust her the relationship would already be all but over. I could live with a 10/10 model and I wouldn't be unfaithful to my partner, and I trust her to do the same.
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Repertoire89
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18830012 - 09/11/13 09:18 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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memes
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: Repertoire89]
#18831372 - 09/12/13 07:20 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
Repertoire89 said: Here's a poll on subject
http://www.shroomery.org/forums/showflat.php/Number/18830002
how sad those results are
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Cyclohexylamine
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: pwnasaurus]
#18831539 - 09/12/13 08:16 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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pwnasaurus said: I think you have trust issues. If you actually trusted her you wouldn't have a problem with it.
Yup. Trust issues. And it's something you really should look into / get counselling for because jealousy / trust issues destroy relationships.
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Trust her. If she cheats, it's on HER. If she ignores the other dude, then that's the NORMAL reaction. But if you want the fastest way to piss her off, call you out on your level of trust, and lose wicked amounts of cool points (possibly ending your relationship then and there); then by all means assert your status and belittle her judgment and trust.
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VivaLaMushie
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: naturesrevolt]
#18850237 - 09/16/13 05:14 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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OP wont you be over there all the time anyway? You'll feel it if shits going on behind your back.
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Re: GF moved in with a guy roommate. [Re: VivaLaMushie]
#18863394 - 09/19/13 02:58 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Look at it like this, you either start to trust her (shes with u for a reason) and let it go or continue to hold onto the trust issues and it will eat away at you until it causes totally unnecessary problems for you both.
Here's the catch... If she lives with you or not (I understand she doesn't) and isn't going to be monogamous then it doesn't matter where or who she lives with. If this is something she does or is willing to do then she's going to find a way to do it without you knowing regardless. I know this statement doesn't help the paranoia however I've been in your shoes and well you're going to go fuck nuts crazy if you hold onto this thought.
There's no point in stressing over something like that because you can't control it. Thing about that though is with dishonestly like that in a relationship there are obvious signs of change, whether it be big or small, in the relationship itself. People don't just change the way they do something all of a sudden for shits and giggles... You'll see other signs far before you actually find out that this might be something happening.
Have faith and make the best out of what you have. Trusting that shes doing the right thing will in turn provide you with a more confident persona and well, woman like a man that's confident Questioning her or coming off as insecure ends up being a huge turn off and well shes likely to do what you dreading.
Best of luck! Mosey
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