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can an open relationship work?
    #18813665 - 09/08/13 12:45 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18813749 - 09/08/13 01:26 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I wish some of you viewers would comment on this!!


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18813912 - 09/08/13 02:45 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I believe open relationships can work and if you are honestly THAT close to both of them then you won't lose either as friends. But if you do this it will end up in some serious drama with these guys. It won't last forever and it probably wont have a happy ending. There will be a shit storm. If you think it's worth it, then do. Personally I would consider this. If they already made the choice then she is going to fuck another guy. Why not just do it ? just keep a distance and have a good time fucking her. Of course you will fall in love with her and that will suck. You will have to deal with that no matter what. I guess some sex is better than none. Fuck, I dunno man..


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18813944 - 09/08/13 03:04 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

What, you're all 21? Odds are that the open relationship thing is not going to work for at least 3 out of 4 of the people involved - and quite likely all 4. Why? (1) because they don't work for most people anyway and (2) because you're, well, kids, really.

Then again, only experience will teach you (all of you) what will and what won't work. Since there's a kid involved, make sure his/her well being is guaranteed from the start. Make sure he/she will be able to spend time with both the father and the mother, even after (if...) they separate. Things haven't completely gone sour yet, so this is the time to plan ahead. It'll be a lot tougher when your amorous experiment has started to take its toll.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18814163 - 09/08/13 07:18 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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Anonymous said:
I wish some of you viewers would comment on this!!




You've got to be kidding. This is a total recipe for disaster. :haha:


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Icelander]
    #18814798 - 09/08/13 11:27 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

It sounds bad. But I've met a swinger couple and they seemed really happy. So I'd say it could be one of the best things, or it could be a total shit storm.

Its too hard for me to say, I don't know them, nor you. :shrug:


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Uzziel]
    #18815533 - 09/08/13 02:57 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Thanks everyone other than Icelander for the advice to ponder...

I guess maybe ill never know what the right path to take is, Ill just have to hope for the best no matter what choice i make.

Im not doing this for me i just want to see them both happy... I think im going to continue but tread lightly, and at the first sign of anything going wrong or him not approving of it i will politely decline to continue.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18815588 - 09/08/13 03:17 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I feel like a couple where both people are okay with having a fling now and then could work; something totally casual that they don't bring home.
But both of them picking a steady lover to have on the side? Sounds like trouble. Bringing in someone they consider as a friend? Disaster waiting to happen. Are you really going to be able to look him in the eye and say "yea, I tapped that last night"  I dunno man... Not even considering any of the possible problems, that is going to completely change the dynamic of your friendly relationship.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #18815608 - 09/08/13 03:23 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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Im not doing this for me




:canthelpbutlaugh:

Don't bullshit a bullshitter bud. :tongue:  A horny, attractive woman is trying to coax your dick inside her...it's fucking irresistable almost.

You are doing this for your dick and no one else. :lol:

And I say go for it.  I have met some long term swinger couples/open relationships that seem to be very healthy.  I'd totally sex her up if I was you


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18816238 - 09/08/13 06:26 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I don't think so OP. Not in the way you say. I think the only sex worth having is sex with someone you love. I think you can love and have sex with many people, but to be in love with only one and have sex with many sounds just weird? :shrug:


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Dawks]
    #18816415 - 09/08/13 07:21 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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but to be in love with only one and have sex with many sounds just weird




weird, therefor, must be bad

:douchewink:

I'm just going to automatically assume you prefaced your post with "in my opinion".

Works for a lot of people out there.  And I don't think it's weird at all.  Monogamy is weird if anything :tongue:


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Masked]
    #18816484 - 09/08/13 07:44 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

My friend insists hes ok with it. So yeah im gana fuck her hard tomorrow.

And about having to love somebody to have sex with them, Yeah its alot nicer but think about it.. The only real wrong in the act of sex is breaking the morals that people place on top of it. So if there are no morals standing in the way i see no reason why you cant just have sex with whoever you feel like at the time if it sounds good. :shrug:


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1] * 1
    #18816501 - 09/08/13 07:50 PM (10 years, 5 months ago)

like yeah obvi every1 should just fuq

it'd be good to not fuck someone else if ur in like a monogamous relationship

but toerhwsie every1 should just fuq


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Anonymous #1]
    #18817956 - 09/09/13 06:44 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

Quote:

Anonymous said:
Thanks everyone other than Icelander for the advice to ponder...

I guess maybe ill never know what the right path to take is, Ill just have to hope for the best no matter what choice i make.

Im not doing this for me i just want to see them both happy... I think im going to continue but tread lightly, and at the first sign of anything going wrong or him not approving of it i will politely decline to continue.




Well, he's kinda right. There are so many ways this can go bad, but the one that stands out is that your primary relationship is with your friend. Don't you think for a second he won't have moments of jealousy - and it's your face and not some stranger that will be the focus of his insecurity.

They are too young to deal with the minefield ahead. They should raise their kid together, but move on as friends.

and good luck controlling your feelings about her. it don't work that way.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: koods]
    #18818079 - 09/09/13 07:52 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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koods said:
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Anonymous said:
Thanks everyone other than Icelander for the advice to ponder...

I guess maybe ill never know what the right path to take is, Ill just have to hope for the best no matter what choice i make.

Im not doing this for me i just want to see them both happy... I think im going to continue but tread lightly, and at the first sign of anything going wrong or him not approving of it i will politely decline to continue.




Well, he's kinda right. There are so many ways this can go bad, but the one that stands out is that your primary relationship is with your friend. Don't you think for a second he won't have moments of jealousy - and it's your face and not some stranger that will be the focus of his insecurity.

They are too young to deal with the minefield ahead. They should raise their kid together, but move on as friends.

and good luck controlling your feelings about her. it don't work that way.




I disagree koods.  I'm on my phone so it's difficult to reply how I want to.  But bottom line....it doesn't work that way for YOU.  The way you would feel in said situation isn't the way everyone feels.  What works for some doesn't work for others.  Just because you would feel insecure, doesn't mean his friend will.  I find it unfair and somewhat close minded for you to say "don't you bet for one second he won't be jealous".  Quite an absolute.  How do you know this with certainty?  Based on what you've seen or how YOU would feel?


I know a happily married couple with 2 children who are hitting the 8 year mark.  They have had an open relationship from the beginning.  They have a great relationship, but both get a little extra nookie from time to time :wink:  they are both good friends of mine and I have a good grasp of the intricacies of their relationship.  They are very happy.

Its not for everyone though.

I think you rock koods and your one of my favourite posters, so i'm not trying to be disrespectful or anything.  Just trying to show you both sides of the coin.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Masked]
    #18818107 - 09/09/13 08:04 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I think there is a big difference between having an one relationship from the beginning, and having one in an attempt to save the marriage. Your right that, maybe some people wouldn't feel any jealousy, but I think that is pretty rare.

Regardless, this couple is experimenting and the nature of OP's relationship with both of them complicates things greatly. If the shit hits the fan, he's going to have to make nasty choices.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: koods]
    #18818156 - 09/09/13 08:30 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I don't think it's as rare as you think.

But you do bring up a valid point.  Experimenting with it to "save" a marriage probably = a mess.

I can see what you are saying and will agree now...in this case, it has a high probability of ending messy


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Masked]
    #18818254 - 09/09/13 09:21 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

I would say that both partners in a relationship being completely comfortable in an open relationship and never feeling any jealousy is extremely rare.  Yes, it exists, but it is not common by any means.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: Masked] * 1
    #18818289 - 09/09/13 09:36 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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Masked said:Experimenting with it to "save" a marriage probably = a mess.




I agree with that statement.

As for my experience on the matter in general: I live with a girl whom I love very much.  We fuck other people quite often, sometimes friends, sometimes strangers, sometimes separate, sometimes together(group sex is the greatest thing on earth, bar none).  I wouldn't have it any other way.


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Re: can an open relationship work? [Re: TheWiz]
    #18818316 - 09/09/13 09:48 AM (10 years, 5 months ago)

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TheWiz said:
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Masked said:Experimenting with it to "save" a marriage probably = a mess.




I agree with that statement.

As for my experience on the matter in general: I live with a girl whom I love very much.  We fuck other people quite often, sometimes friends, sometimes strangers, sometimes separate, sometimes together(group sex is the greatest thing on earth, bar none).  I wouldn't have it any other way.




Does jealousy ever creep into these situations?


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