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sanchothestoner
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Girl troubles
#18806739 - 09/06/13 09:43 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So a while back I started seeing this girl, soon after a few dates and what not she became my girlfriend. We were really happy together and we both seemed to have mutual feelings for each other that we'd never felt before. Everything was going great, until a few days ago. I got this weird feeling that something was wrong with her. Then 2 days ago we're hanging out and I know something is up because she's not being as playful and cuddley as she usually is. She started talking, and she told me what was up.
She said that she's been getting this weird feeling that we were going too fast, and that she feels confused about us. She kept saying that she still really likes me but was feeling strange about our relationship, like it'll get in the way of her other stuff. I've told her before that if she thinks we're going too fast, to let me know. I've also told her that if anything is ever troubling her about our relationship, to let me know. She said that she had been trying to ignore those feelings she's been having because she likes me so much, but it got too much for her and she wanted to talk about it before it got worse.
What I got out of that talk is that she still likes me, but her body/mind are telling her that this is wrong... I've been really stressed and bummed since she told me all this. We haven't even been together for too long, but I have such strong feelings for her... I'm all confused and sad and stressed about this! I told her that if she wants to chill for bit and just be friends that's fine, and she seemed really happy to hear what I had to say back. Thing is, I didn't really tell her how I felt about it. I was thinking about talking to her and letting her know how I feel about all this.
This is actually the 2nd time she's done this. The first time was after a few dates and when we tripped together. Apparently she got turned off by how high on acid I was..... and I was damn high Anyway, after hanging out as friends a few times she realized that she didn't just want to be friends. It bothered me, but not too much cause we'd only gone out a few times.
This time hit me hard because my feelings for her have really grown and I don't want her to leave..... This is the best relationship I've been in and I've never felt this way towards anyone. I told her to take her time with this whole thing, but should I still talk to her and tell her how I'm feeling about this?
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Psilosopherr
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Thats a tough one dude, I feel for you. Its almost like there is no real problem though, so maybe she can just spend some more time with you (not too much) and eventually feel more comfortable with the relationships existence.
She has to have some reason for feeling that way though. Like what's her problem with you? why is she feeling badly for dating you?
THAT, you must find out IMO
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sanchothestoner
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I asked her if she had a problem with me or I was doing anything she didn't like, and she said no. She might not necessarily be feeling bad about dating me, she just says she feels confused... She said she was sorry that she couldn't explain things well, so it seems like she might not even know what's going on with her... I'm just gonna talk to her when I see her next, on Tuesday.
We did start college about 3 weeks ago, so it could be that she's stressed about that and other stuff. That's all we could come up with
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Is this one of the first relationships she's been in? Sounds like you're both 17-18 and it's all a little new and freaky to her. I don't think there's anything you can do other than tell her how happy you are with her and the relationship..
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sanchothestoner
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Re: Girl troubles [Re: Lynnch]
#18807276 - 09/06/13 12:21 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: Is this one of the first relationships she's been in? Sounds like you're both 17-18 and it's all a little new and freaky to her. I don't think there's anything you can do other than tell her how happy you are with her and the relationship..
No! She says that she's been in a lot of relationships, but she says she's never felt the way I make her feel... I'm 19, and she's 20. I'm going to talk to her about some stuff that I think might be making her feel confused, as well as tell her how I feel. Hopefully everything works out! This whole thing is pretty much all I've been thinking of since she told me... With the way she looks at me and how she acts around me, I never would have guessed she'd feel this way
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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Yeah, it sounds like something a little deeper is going on here.
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I get the impression that you can be demanding. Would you say this is true? How much does each of you have going on onin your life beyond your relationship?
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Re: Girl troubles [Re: fiddle]
#18807896 - 09/06/13 03:48 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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she just wants to roll around with you. she thinks you talk too much and have weird values.
girls pretend to be sensitive because society tells them they gotta.
dudes tend to be much more touchy with their feelings. how many guys do you know who can turn on the waterworks at will? girls practice that shit from an early age, god bless em!
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fiddle said: I get the impression that you can be demanding. Would you say this is true? How much does each of you have going on onin your life beyond your relationship?
Not at all... She definitely has more going on in her life than me. I pretty much just go to school, jam with my band, and chill. She has like school, her job, dancing, and other stuff.
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Herbologist said: Yeah, it sounds like something a little deeper is going on here.
Yeah.... I'm gonna talk to her about this.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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fiddle



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It could be that this girl does like you, but she is having a hard time managing her time. This could be especially true if she is very committed to whatever it is she does and if this is her first relationship (I believe you said it was).
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Re: Girl troubles [Re: fiddle]
#18826986 - 09/11/13 08:59 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So, yesterday at school I noticed she was being flirty with me and I guess I was being kinda flirty back... Anyway, I get out of one of my classes and I was gonna go home cause I was tired and didn't feel like waiting a few more hours to go to class and then go home. But to my surprise, I see her waiting for me outside my class. I told her I was gonna go home, but she really wanted me to stay and chill with her at our schools garden.
We're chillen their and everything was really cool. I wasn't even thinking about what she said about just being friends, I was just being myself and enjoying the time I spent with her. We were being quite playful and what not. She left to go to the bathroom, so I decided to lay down for a little and close my cause I was just so tired. When I open my eyes, I noticed her standing above me and then she gets on top of me and we start making out. It was really nice, cause I had really been missing her.
I'm not too sure what that meant, but I know things are getting better. We spent the rest of the time laying their and cuddling. We didn't talk about us or anything, but I'm still thinking maybe we should? Anyway, just wanted to update you guys
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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don't talk about it. girls just like to make out and she probably thinks you're cute. she probably makes out with tons of dudes, but as long as she smells okay
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sanchothestoner said: So, yesterday at school I noticed she was being flirty with me and I guess I was being kinda flirty back... Anyway, I get out of one of my classes and I was gonna go home cause I was tired and didn't feel like waiting a few more hours to go to class and then go home. But to my surprise, I see her waiting for me outside my class. I told her I was gonna go home, but she really wanted me to stay and chill with her at our schools garden.
We're chillen their and everything was really cool. I wasn't even thinking about what she said about just being friends, I was just being myself and enjoying the time I spent with her. We were being quite playful and what not. She left to go to the bathroom, so I decided to lay down for a little and close my cause I was just so tired. When I open my eyes, I noticed her standing above me and then she gets on top of me and we start making out. It was really nice, cause I had really been missing her.
I'm not too sure what that meant, but I know things are getting better. We spent the rest of the time laying their and cuddling. We didn't talk about us or anything, but I'm still thinking maybe we should? Anyway, just wanted to update you guys 
That is cool as shit!...good story. My advice....keep your relationship mouth closed and just let this thing take its natural course...sounds to me like a very very nice beginning.Don't fuck it up with too many uncomfortable words.
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baltimark said:
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sanchothestoner said: So, yesterday at school I noticed she was being flirty with me and I guess I was being kinda flirty back... Anyway, I get out of one of my classes and I was gonna go home cause I was tired and didn't feel like waiting a few more hours to go to class and then go home. But to my surprise, I see her waiting for me outside my class. I told her I was gonna go home, but she really wanted me to stay and chill with her at our schools garden.
We're chillen their and everything was really cool. I wasn't even thinking about what she said about just being friends, I was just being myself and enjoying the time I spent with her. We were being quite playful and what not. She left to go to the bathroom, so I decided to lay down for a little and close my cause I was just so tired. When I open my eyes, I noticed her standing above me and then she gets on top of me and we start making out. It was really nice, cause I had really been missing her.
I'm not too sure what that meant, but I know things are getting better. We spent the rest of the time laying their and cuddling. We didn't talk about us or anything, but I'm still thinking maybe we should? Anyway, just wanted to update you guys 
That is cool as shit!...good story. My advice....keep your relationship mouth closed and just let this thing take its natural course...sounds to me like a very very nice beginning.Don't fuck it up with too many uncomfortable words.
Alright, I think I'll do that. Thanks.
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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De nada
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sanchothestoner said: She says that she's been in a lot of relationships,..
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sanchothestoner said: she's 20.
danger, will robinson, danger danger...
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leon trout said:
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sanchothestoner said: She says that she's been in a lot of relationships,..
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sanchothestoner said: she's 20.
danger, will robinson, danger danger...
lol
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sanchothestoner
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Everything is back to normal. We're dating again, but decided to take things a little slower. It feels so good to hold her again
-------------------- I fucking hate you... God damn, I love you... But we both know if we stick together, we'll just tear ourselves apart You are my sunshine, my only sunshine, you make me happy, when skies are grey You are my heroin, but there's an abscess... God damn, I miss the vein!
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