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Kissing
#18806105 - 09/06/13 02:33 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Let me preface this by saying im too embarrassed to even use my internet alias to post this yes it feels like that lame of a problem.... So i have never had any problems talking to/hitting on/ asking out/fucking girls. however i get incredibly nervous when it comes time to kiss the girl. Basically every kiss ive had has either been initiated by teh girl, lame as fuck i know, or makes me so nervous it feels like im having heart palpitations.
Personal info:
Tonight i had the perfect opportunity to get laid, spit perfect game and teh girl was all over me, all i had to do was seal it with a passionate kiss. When the time came i sissied teh fuck out like i normally do and just ended up giving her a hug and going home.......
The thing is i dont care if i dont fuck well, a girl thinks my junk is small, or whatever. For some reason i am incredibly self conscious about kissing. I think its because my first girlfriend used to give me shit for not knowing how to kiss well and it has stuck with me ever since. When i go to kiss a girl all i think about is how i suck at it and she will be disappointed. Which is wild because i do not have that anxiety about sex or anything else concerning sexuality. I have literally missed out on so many girls because of this fear.
Can anyone else relate??
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TLDR Anyone thats less autistic wanna break down kissing for me?
this girl is still into me, we've both established we are not virgins and i just dont wanna look like a complete pussy next time i go out with her.
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stanski
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Keep in mind that kissing is nearly completely up to personal preferences. Yes, there are some basics (don't slobber on them, don't maul their face, and don't have bad breath) but besides that, each person is going to be different. I cannot stand having tongue involved in the kissing at all really, and really like having juicy soft lips that linger. This doesn't mean that someone who is firm and knows a million tricks with their tongue is going to suck at kissing me, I just have to be open and communicate with them after the first few kisses about what I like better and what I don't. I think most people take it for granted that the first few times are sort of a "feeling out period" and just plain exciting because its new no matter what.
Just keep in mind the other person has the same doubts/anxieties you do.
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Are you my twin brother? I have the exact problem for fuck sake. Yesterday,I was hanging out with my crush and she was hitting on me,all I had to do was to kiss her,she even kissed me on the cheek,I really need some help about this.Only alcohol helped me sometimes.
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Re: Kissing [Re: Grigore]
#18806254 - 09/06/13 05:27 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I hate kissing, just saying
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koods
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When you think about it, kissing is just a totally bizarre activity. It's pretty hot, though.
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Re: Kissing [Re: koods]
#18806554 - 09/06/13 08:40 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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koods said: When you think about it, kissing is just a totally bizarre activity. It's pretty hot, though.
It is hot. I don't understand why some people don't enjoy it  It's pretty hot to watch too.. But yeah, quite bizarre.
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tymoteusz3 said:
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koods said: When you think about it, kissing is just a totally bizarre activity. It's pretty hot, though.
It is hot. I don't understand why some people don't enjoy it 
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Re: Kissing [Re: koods] 1
#18806600 - 09/06/13 08:54 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Kissing is _tha bomb_. Like, almost as good as having sex. Really? Yeah, I think so. There's nothing (NOTHING, I tell you!) that compares to the first time you kiss someone you've never kissed before and things build up with groping, squirming and whatnot. Consequently, one of the biggest turn-offs is a bad kisser.
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Re: Kissing [Re: koraks]
#18806621 - 09/06/13 09:02 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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koraks said: Kissing is _tha bomb_. Like, almost as good as having sex. Really? Yeah, I think so. There's nothing (NOTHING, I tell you!) that compares to the first time you kiss someone you've never kissed before and things build up with groping, squirming and whatnot. Consequently, one of the biggest turn-offs is a bad kisser.
I wholeheartedly agree.
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We should all make out.
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Re: Kissing [Re: koods]
#18806638 - 09/06/13 09:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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koods said: We should all make out. 
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OP needs to ask one of his friends to help him practice. It's not gay when chicks do it.
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Re: Kissing [Re: koods]
#18806909 - 09/06/13 10:39 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Ahhh...Personally, I thing kissing is absolutely amazing. My gal and I can spend hours tenderly kissing before we even use any tongue. That is where people tend to fuck everything up....Try lip to lip...kissing her nose...ears. That is where the passion builds from. The tongue should be reserved for the part right before you get naked. Way too many young people get this wrong. This is a dance...not a biology class
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Re: Kissing [Re: koods]
#18807561 - 09/06/13 01:57 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Grigore said: Are you my twin brother? I have the exact problem for fuck sake. Yesterday,I was hanging out with my crush and she was hitting on me,all I had to do was to kiss her,she even kissed me on the cheek,I really need some help about this.Only alcohol helped me sometimes.
Its horrible huh? Alcohol just makes me not give a fuck which can be good or bad with women. good to know im not the only one with this problem. On the positive side, once we learn to overcome this we'll be getting some serious ass.
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koraks said: Kissing is _tha bomb_. Like, almost as good as having sex. Really? Yeah, I think so. There's nothing (NOTHING, I tell you!) that compares to the first time you kiss someone you've never kissed before and things build up with groping, squirming and whatnot. Consequently, one of the biggest turn-offs is a bad kisser.
I totally disagree. Maybe it comes back the fact that deep down im a clean freak and a private person. I hate PDA, and I hate Saliva Plus it just doesn't feel good to me, it feels like anxiety where as sex is bonding and release. (which i guess some of you more kiss happy folks think about kissing)
Last year i totally conquered my fear. My school does this thing on homecoming (college) where you stand up on a podium and kiss your girl in front of the whole quad. l and i pulled it off with 2 chicks in one night But that fear came back with a vengeance man i think its due to hearing this all the time "Consequently, one of the biggest turn-offs is a bad kisser" and having more than one girl tell me my kisses suck.
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I eat girls out like a fuckin champ though, so there is that 
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koods said: OP needs to ask one of his friends to help him practice. It's not gay when chicks do it.
im not going to kiss my guy friends, if you're into that good for you bros. You are doing all us straight guys a major solid, less competition yo.
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Yeah, I have this problem. Mine is due to the right half of my lips (entire face actually) being paralysed. A "friend" in pre-school once told me that you can't kiss with half a mouth and that sort of stuck with me. I guess in a similar way to your negative feedback.
What has helped me is just tell them you want to kiss them, somehow it takes away the anxiety and if you have game like you say you do, a lot of girls will think it's cute and let you go for it.
At least this has helped me. Then built up some positive feedback, that also helps.
Good luck dude.
Edited by GoldenEye (09/07/13 07:43 AM)
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I had this problem until I noticed that girls will literally stare at you and lean forward slightly (like in the movie hitch, girl=10% guy=90%). Just lean forward and say fuck it man. What's the worst that could happen?
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Re: Kissing [Re: DeeBee]
#18811505 - 09/07/13 12:52 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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[Ladies' room, Monday morning] K: "Hey, Lisa, tell us, how did your date go with Mr. Exciting?" <giggles> Lisa: "I dunno, he seemed really perfect, but that guy creeps me out big time." K: "What do you mean, did you fuck it up...again?" <more giggles> L: "Look, he's really a weirdo. I mean, seriously. Like, we were sitting there, and nothing much happened; I guess we had run out of things to say. So I sat staring at the floor, when I noticed my shoelace was untied. So I started to lean forward, and then so-called Mr. Perfect places his face right in front of mine and says, really clearly, 'fuck it, man.' Who the fuck reacts that way to a pair of untied shoe laces? Needless to say, I upped and left immediately!"
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Re: Kissing [Re: DeeBee]
#18811513 - 09/07/13 12:55 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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DeeBee said: I had this problem until I noticed that girls will literally stare at you and lean forward slightly (like in the movie hitch, girl=10% guy=90%). Just lean forward and say fuck it man. What's the worst that could happen? 
Face herpes. Cannibalism. Petit Interoralemesis.
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NotSheekle said “if I believed she was 16 I would become unattracted to her”
Edited by koods (09/07/13 12:58 PM)
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Re: Kissing [Re: koraks]
#18811582 - 09/07/13 01:19 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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koraks said: [Ladies' room, Monday morning] K: "Hey, Lisa, tell us, how did your date go with Mr. Exciting?" <giggles> Lisa: "I dunno, he seemed really perfect, but that guy creeps me out big time." K: "What do you mean, did you fuck it up...again?" <more giggles> L: "Look, he's really a weirdo. I mean, seriously. Like, we were sitting there, and nothing much happened; I guess we had run out of things to say. So I sat staring at the floor, when I noticed my shoelace was untied. So I started to lean forward, and then so-called Mr. Perfect places his face right in front of mine and says, really clearly, 'fuck it, man.' Who the fuck reacts that way to a pair of untied shoe laces? Needless to say, I upped and left immediately!" 
You win.
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Re: Kissing [Re: DeeBee]
#18850256 - 09/16/13 05:21 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I'd recommend snuggling up with whatever person(s) you got your heart set on, and explaining to them that you haven't had a lot of kissing experience and that they would be doing a solid by teaching you to kiss better. You can even offer up some eating out as compensation . Most women would jump at the chance to train a guy the way they want to be kissed. Bonus would be that you can learn more without being in a harsh and judgmental environment that you had at the beginning.
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I just manned the fuck up and did it 
I think it was just the initial fear of rejection that held me back.
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