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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: SARAtonin]
#18810275 - 09/07/13 02:03 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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SARAtonin said: it's the fact that after he left there were two of my panties missing. (Cute ones at that.)
My GF has had a guys steal her panties and its funny because she also complains that they always went for the best ones.
Also lived with a girl who did that online thing. She put pics of her body out there (ex stripper) and yes guys would pay her to send them the worn panties from the photo.
Sorry to hear, this it is sticky Have a serious conversation with him, firm but sensitive you don't want to hurt the guy. Hes clearly going through some stuff, it will be embarrassing and awkward. Let him know he is valued, but that this will not be the dynamic. Sounds like he is acting out i also agree, being such a long term friend your in a uneek position to be understanding and help him or scar him badly. If it is to much and to sticky walking away without saying much and putting distance might be the least emotionally messy approach. Set boundaries.
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this a another good example of why guys get a bad rap as a whole. yeh its true some of do some sick shit like this.
i myself wouldnt. but hey im not a user and sure as fuck am not your every day joe blow. still though i kinda get sick of hearing about twisted shit and asshole behavior like this from friends or the news or whatever.
sorry to go off topic OP but its no wonder theres so much duality of the sexes or a hiiden war between some men and some women. if thats too complex a term. my last ex literally hated the world because of all the shit she went through from past loves. so maybe its just because we are a infantile species in ways of evolving to true equality. maybe a lot of us are just instinctually and inherently evil. after all love is a relatively unique to being human and big part of why we became more civil. clearly we have a lot to to improve on still.
by the way op. you seem pretty naive. and i dont wanna freak you out but this guy probably has wanted to get with you since he met you. and now he just might be obsessed. and if hes bi-polar or schizo to boot that could be trouble. i would be wary and maybe stay away if thats close to the truth. i would definitely let some people you trust know like another friend or your family and get their opinion first.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: SARAtonin]
#18810594 - 09/07/13 05:50 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I think everybody already confirmed it for ya Sara but yeah, pretty damn creepy. Dude appears to have swiped your underwear, took a photo of you in your swimsuit, and masturbated to them. I don't know about you but if I were yourself I would probably have a hard time looking at this person with a straight face while having a normal conversation with them in the future.
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#18811894 - 09/07/13 03:03 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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why is everybody labeling stealing panties as creepy? is great! he's a great friend, mind you, he'll mastubate smelling your panties, possibly licking them, and i ask, where was the harm done?
c'mon panties can't be that expensive unless they're from victoria secret...
smelling panties is great
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Was he plastered? Sounds like plastered behavior. If he wasn't plastered I'd say let him down gently. Maybe ask him to buy you new ones. plasteredlol
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: Yage]
#18814726 - 09/08/13 11:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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OR...maybe he's just stealing said panties and then gifting them to some disadvantaged, panty-less hobo girl downtown. You know, like a Robin Hood kind of thing. Sounds like a pretty selfless and altruistic kind of guy to me (I tend to give the benefit of the doubt to people I've never met before).
He does sound purty creeps furrealz tho.
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Anonymous said: by the way op. you seem pretty naive. and i dont wanna freak you out but this guy probably has wanted to get with you since he met you. and now he just might be obsessed. and if hes bi-polar or schizo to boot that could be trouble. i would be wary and maybe stay away if thats close to the truth. i would definitely let some people you trust know like another friend or your family and get their opinion first.
Lol where did that come from ?
How did it go from " maybe he just likes you " to " be careful he's probably a schizo and he's obsessed with you " ?
Okay, it's pretty weird, but chill the fuck out, it doesn't mean he's gonna rape her.
Trust me, there's weirder shit than that out there.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: Yage]
#18815114 - 09/08/13 12:48 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Pretty weird but not much harm done IMO... Just do this (ask him to buy you new ones )
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Yage said: Was he plastered? Sounds like plastered behavior. If he wasn't plastered I'd say let him down gently. Maybe ask him to buy you new ones. plasteredlol
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: SARAtonin]
#18816217 - 09/08/13 06:22 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah man stealing from you is not cool, I'd confront him about that and tell him
NO MORE PANTIES!
unless he pays for them 
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bangpowboomers said: Its called being awkward. This man just wants some affection and the world has shown him none hes acting out.
I'd keep this in mind OP. The poor guy is probably massively attracted to you but knows he can't get any so he gets goes full on pantysniffer and shit 
If you want to be a friend to him you could try and help him get laid, take him out clubbing and shit. Having a gay, female "wingman" can be really, really helpful. Once he starts getting laid more frequently his unwanted sexual tension toward you will dry up faster than a mushroom in the sun. And he'll probably be a happier person and better friend to boot
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: Dawks]
#18816855 - 09/08/13 09:29 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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call him on his psycho-sicko shit. that whole day seems like it was just a big violation of you for him.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: funegi]
#18817672 - 09/09/13 02:15 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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This thread just got weirder and weirder the more I read on
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: Constantine]
#18817685 - 09/09/13 02:30 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Constantine said:
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Anonymous said: by the way op. you seem pretty naive. and i dont wanna freak you out but this guy probably has wanted to get with you since he met you. and now he just might be obsessed. and if hes bi-polar or schizo to boot that could be trouble. i would be wary and maybe stay away if thats close to the truth. i would definitely let some people you trust know like another friend or your family and get their opinion first.
Lol where did that come from ?
How did it go from " maybe he just likes you " to " be careful he's probably a schizo and he's obsessed with you " ?
Okay, it's pretty weird, but chill the fuck out, it doesn't mean he's gonna rape her.
Trust me, there's weirder shit than that out there.
i just thought h sounded like a creepo stalker kinda. or at least one in the making considering hes probably a kid. plus shes probably told him shes not into guys but i bet hes hitting on her or patheticaly tryn to from the way she descibed it.
seems kinda like douchebag move right there but the other stuff is what makes it creeper status i think. and if he is a schizo or mental then that would make it even more likely the dudes a creeper.
also i know theres tons of scumbagsi in the world thats what my post was about also. and also why i and others get tired of dealing with the bullshit that it entwines into every day life. glad you got the point though.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: Soularize]
#18818346 - 09/09/13 09:58 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dawks said: Yeah man stealing from you is not cool, I'd confront him about that and tell him
NO MORE PANTIES!
unless he pays for them 
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bangpowboomers said: Its called being awkward. This man just wants some affection and the world has shown him none hes acting out.
I'd keep this in mind OP. The poor guy is probably massively attracted to you but knows he can't get any so he gets goes full on pantysniffer and shit 
If you want to be a friend to him you could try and help him get laid, take him out clubbing and shit. Having a gay, female "wingman" can be really, really helpful. Once he starts getting laid more frequently his unwanted sexual tension toward you will dry up faster than a mushroom in the sun. And he'll probably be a happier person and better friend to boot
This is good advice if the dude's willing to own up to what he did. If he denies it and keeps pulling stunts, then he can't be trusted, sad to say.
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Soularize said: OR...maybe he's just stealing said panties and then gifting them to some disadvantaged, panty-less hobo girl downtown. You know, like a Robin Hood kind of thing. Sounds like a pretty selfless and altruistic kind of guy to me (I tend to give the benefit of the doubt to people I've never met before).
He does sound purty creeps furrealz tho.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: TheWiz]
#18822014 - 09/10/13 04:19 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Explain how you feel and address that he's crossed the line, men will keep pushing until something happens good or bad
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: Ilift]
#18823980 - 09/10/13 03:42 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thank you everyone who has contributed their opinion and advice to this thread. I took all of your thoughts into consideration when having my talk with him. Sorry it has taken me a while to reply to this thread, but it took me a while to get around to confronting him. But today, before I went to Denver to go see my girlfriend I finally stopped by his place.
The conversation was about as awkward as I thought it would be. I let him know first and for most that I valued him very much as a friend and that nothing I was going to say was going to change that. But I let him know that what happened last time he was over was completely over the line. He denied nothing which I appreciated, and he offered to erase the photo, but I said I don't really care. The point is I'm pretty sure that now he has the message.
I'll give it a week so it will not be awkward and then I'll hit him up again and see if he wants to chill.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: SARAtonin]
#18824314 - 09/10/13 05:09 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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SARAtonin said: Thank you everyone who has contributed their opinion and advice to this thread. I took all of your thoughts into consideration when having my talk with him. Sorry it has taken me a while to reply to this thread, but it took me a while to get around to confronting him. But today, before I went to Denver to go see my girlfriend I finally stopped by his place.
The conversation was about as awkward as I thought it would be. I let him know first and for most that I valued him very much as a friend and that nothing I was going to say was going to change that. But I let him know that what happened last time he was over was completely over the line. He denied nothing which I appreciated, and he offered to erase the photo, but I said I don't really care. The point is I'm pretty sure that now he has the message.
I'll give it a week so it will not be awkward and then I'll hit him up again and see if he wants to chill.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: Sheekle]
#18824888 - 09/10/13 07:25 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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You handled that pretty well.
I've stolen panties before, it happens. It's rude, but not that weird. He'll probably ease off now that you confronted him about it.
On a side note, I am now married to the girl I stole panties from. I eventually washed the panties and gave them back, now she wears them. Hot.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: shaggyp]
#18824963 - 09/10/13 07:44 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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That is pretty hot LOL
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I was gonna say you should throw the guy a blowjob, but your idea probably worked better.
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Re: Friend crossing the line? [Re: SARAtonin]
#18841276 - 09/14/13 02:34 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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SARAtonin said: I'll give it a week so it will not be awkward and then I'll hit him up again and see if he wants to chill.
Maybe a week until it's not awkward for you, but dont be surprised if homedude doesn't run to the phone when you call to hang out.
Odds are he was keeping his face locked while you were there, but I'd imagine he feels pretty fucking dumb as shit right now - with residual awkwardness hanging around for a good long while.
lets hope not
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