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Finally talking to a girl!
#18797024 - 09/03/13 10:34 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Its pretty lame that this is basically the first girl I'v really talked to besides when some one asks me something, but its a start. On my first day of school in calculus class. To tell the truth I was tripping pretty hard that morning on accident ( I wanted an ever so slight psychedelic glow to the day, but I could barely see around me). So I took 1.5mg of clonazepam and when I got to calculus I talked to a good looking girl and asked if she wanted to trade numbers since were in the same class. She used lots of smiley faces and stuff when I texted her to give her my number later. Iv been trying to talk to her every day of class but so far iv only talked to her half of the days. I really want to keep things flowing and have it build up momentum, any tips? So far Iv only talked to her a couple times about the class and texted her once when I gave her my number. Also does anyone know how fast I should progress with things like talking longer when to ask if she wants to hang out or something.
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"Hey are you doing anything later?"
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: Lynnch]
#18797049 - 09/03/13 10:39 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks, generally when would you say that. After having talked to her for only 30 seconds 5 times? or when you have talked to her like 5 times for a whole minute? Im completely serious, I'm trying to work up how long I talk to her.
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SteelPanther said: Thanks, generally when would you say that. After having talked to her for only 30 seconds 5 times? or when you have talked to her like 5 times for a whole minute? Im completely serious, I'm trying to work up how long I talk to her.
One time, two times, five times, go for it.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: mylfgur]
#18797098 - 09/03/13 10:50 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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But if I go for it before she has ever gotten comfortable with talking to me it seems like she wouldn't want to hook up
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I wouldn't think of it in terms of a number of minutes. How far have your conversations progressed? Do you know anything about her beyond whether or not she did her homework last night?
There's a girl (actually two, similar situations) that I met and had a pleasant conversation with the last time I was at the gym. We chatted for long enough for me to get an idea of who she was; where she was from, where she works, what her major is etc -more than just 'hey hows it goin'- and she seemed interested enough in me. But we left it at that, and she left before it progressed any further. So, the next time I see her, if she recognizes me and wants to talk more, I'll probably ask if she wants to grab a drink...
Don't be so focused on hooking up. Actually try to get to know this chick and the rest will follow.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: Lynnch]
#18797146 - 09/03/13 11:02 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Ok thanks
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Dont think just feel....whatever feels right. Every guy or girl has different tips. Different strokes for different folks hehe.. Never cut any bridges in life- socially or professionally- they intertwine and if you and her don't connect on a sexual level she might have a perfect friend to introduce you to...
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Is it better to be casual about it and say something like "wana grab lunch" or be more direct about it and say "wana go out with me?"
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: kakashi68]
#18798548 - 09/04/13 09:55 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Maybe ask her if she's had breakfast/ lunch yet (whatever time of day it is) just after discussing each others calculators.
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You could ask her to lunch or something, that's pretty standard. If you want to be bold though, ask her to do whatever it is you do as a hobby. If you ride a bike, ask her if she wants to go on a bike ride. If you play board games, ask her if she wants to do that. Etc. If she shares the hobby, she should be psyched. If she thinks it's a fucking lame idea and you're lame by extension, well, she probably would never have been much fun anyway.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: TheWiz]
#18800107 - 09/04/13 05:04 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Thanks for the advice, I was stupid though today, I didn't say a word to her. I know its not odd to talk about the class your in with a girl, but would a girl find it odd if you talked to her about stuff unrelated to the class? From what people have said it seems like the answer is no, but it still feels a bit odd since we don't know each other. My hobbies are drugs and chemistry (but I only know gen chem 1 and 2), so I'm not going to talk about either one.
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Just remember K.I.S.S. -Keep it simple stupid. It's perfectly fine to ask her something like what else she is taking or what she did over the weekend. You should be asking yourself this: What do you actually want to find out about her?
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: Lynnch]
#18803276 - 09/05/13 12:59 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Better to act sooner than later
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How could you go your whole life never talking to girls, like all throughout school years you never be-friended any female classmates or had any girl neighbors growing up or anything? I dunno i guess its a common thing but it just strikes me as odd but thats beside the point
Maybe try going to class tripping balls again if that put you in a good flow lol
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: Sheekle]
#18804297 - 09/05/13 05:32 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I have talked to girls, but just to ask a question once in a while such as what the teacher just said. I have talked to my sisters friends but not much. This is simply the only girl Iv made an effort to talk to. Sadly I didn't talk to her today either so I need to tomorrow. When I was little I talked to girls at school but I don't count that. I actually think its the benzo's that help and now that I think about it I have talked to one other girl when I happened to only sleep a couple hours for a couple days so I took a couple milligrams of clonazepam. I got her number but that was a long time ago and it never went anywhere.
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How long do you need to talk to her?
Anywhere between a minute to several days.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: Lynnch]
#18804610 - 09/05/13 06:52 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lynnch said: "Hey are you doing anything later?"
That's how you "build momentum" in classroom settings. There are lots of good places to eat around colleges anywho
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: TwinEclipse]
#18820527 - 09/09/13 08:07 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Its sorta sad but we took a small test in the class today... she was very sad looking at her paper and I bet she got an D by the look on her face. She looked over at me a couple times.. I was on a little amphetamine (7.5mg after a summer break) so I was speeding though the test like it was nothing while bouncing my leg. I including the bouncing leg because it seemed kinda funny to be doing that while speeding though a test. So Im thinking I may ask her if she wants some help with math. Does anyone have a reason why this is a good idea or a bad idea? Hopefully the look on her face reflects accurately how she did on her test.
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How fast we're you tapping your leg? that happens to me when I get real anxious. Sometimes I get triple multiplier taps if I focus on it.
tests are usually very quiet, and my prof gets when someone says bless you to a sneeze.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: TwinEclipse]
#18820700 - 09/09/13 08:39 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Pretty fast, on amph I think I tap it according to how fast Im writing my stuff on my paper. It sure feels nice to finish a test according to how fast you can write the answers. It doesn't happen too often for me but its cool when it does.
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I did that on my last quiz and I got 13/20. And a cute girl next to me got 19/20. I got her amswers to study from I used oxygen instead of hydrogen for molar mass..messed EVERYTHING UP!. silly mistakes get me annoyed!!
Lol ima take it slow next time...either that or I got to stop blazing in my car before class
I have my first exam on Wednesday. I will compensate by passing with flying colors.
Best of luck to your romantic endeavors. I recommend asking her what she got on the test and maybe compare answers to help her study? Consistent Proximity is important if you really want to get to know this girl
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: TwinEclipse]
#18854485 - 09/17/13 05:11 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Due to persistence I'v gotten to the point where we now converse in class! not just a quick word or two but actual conversations. It really is strange the way things work out, I never would have talked to her if I hadn't accidentally taken too much 25c-nbome (I know its a shitty psychedelic but I wasn't taking it to expand my mind that day), and now she tells me she is going to drop the class she's in with me. I hope she goes to class tomorrow but If she doesn't I can probably walk around campus and find her. The way I see it is that I need to make a move tomorrow if I can, so I'm going to ask her out! A couple people on here have already made suggestions on how to ask a girl out but to be honest I don't know if I would like to eat lunch with her because I don't like to eat any restaurant food since its unhealthy or expensive. What do you guys think is a good first "date" thing to do, if you say lunch can you explain why. The even harder thing I think will be persistence after this first "date" since she wont be in my class, do you think girls like to text guys a lot to keep in contact, or how should I stay in touch with her? Thanks for all the help, I actually feel happy after talking to her in class so its pretty exciting to think I might be able to have a girlfriend and be happy with her.
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SteelPanther said: On my first day of school in calculus class. To tell the truth I was tripping pretty hard that morning on accident.
I wanna hear more about this! btw I'm in calc also.  What's the derivative of sec(x)?
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: gref]
#18856813 - 09/18/13 05:58 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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gref said:
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SteelPanther said: On my first day of school in calculus class. To tell the truth I was tripping pretty hard that morning on accident.
I wanna hear more about this! btw I'm in calc also.  What's the derivative of sec(x)?
I want to know the answer too! I'm in precalc 
Hmm...is the derivative of (x^2) + 3x..... 2x + 3. ? I remember my friend showing me a trick in high school.
I wonder how it works for trig functions? trig is my favorite math. It's like triangle puzzles almost as fun as naming simple organic compounds.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: TwinEclipse]
#18856864 - 09/18/13 06:29 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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First, you've taken way too long (not always a bad thing, but since she's dropping the class, she's probably one of those people who prefer to move quickly or not at all)
Second, if you do see her around campus, don't just run up to her like a grade schooler with a crush, that'll probably just look lame. (unless she's particularly interested in you, and she likes a fraction of cute in her men)
Third, seeing as you don't do restaraunts, i'm guessing you are at least semi-good at coooking. Offer to show off your gourmet skills, even if you don't have any, she'll find it a little funny, and if you pull through, she'll like you even more. (all women like a good cook)
These are all guesses, but from the information you've given, these are the only tips I can give... If it doesn't work out with this girl, just try and remember what went wrong, so you know better next time.
Good luck
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: TripinAK]
#18857328 - 09/18/13 10:20 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Calculus class, very nice OP.
Definitely ask her about math bro, see if she has any problems in that shit and offer to tutor her. 1-1 study sesh = blow job. I know a girl who is all into nerdy dudes and shit (not saying you are or aren't) she was telling me she loves it when dudes are all shy and shit. Don't even trip dude, you got it if she is still talking to you and texting you.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: elax420]
#18857377 - 09/18/13 10:36 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Just ask her out for sure, no big deal.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: gref]
#18859705 - 09/18/13 06:42 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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gref said:
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SteelPanther said: On my first day of school in calculus class. To tell the truth I was tripping pretty hard that morning on accident.
I wanna hear more about this! btw I'm in calc also.  What's the derivative of sec(x)?
I think its sec x tan x. You can actually look up a good deal of calculus problems on youtube or yahoo answers, thats what I do when I don't know how to do something. By the time I got to math my clonazepam was kicking in and i would call it a level 2 trip. However a couple hours before that in biology I couldn't see the professor or really anything that your supposed to look at. We had to turn in a paper... and there was multiple stacks of paper! I got up close to them and stared at them really hard but I could not tell which stack was for the paper I was supposed to turn in. At a point the teacher said something about being able to see the bored and I was about to say something when I realized a millisecond later that I would seem like a complete retard since everyone with ok eyesight could probably see the board. By the end of that class I could actually read papers and stuff so I went back up and I still couldn't tell which pile to turn it in to! I asked the professor where to turn it in, since seeming retarded is better than not turning in a paper. The professor did think I was retarded when she pointed down at the pile. It was really interesting seeing all the people going to school and stuff and it felt very different. I do think it helped me because while I was tripping (and I went to school with the intention of talking to girls) I would look at girls and it would be all romantic feeling. I bumped into my fair share of people, literally and made sure to say sorry to them. I had a ton of anxiety also, I felt like I might not be able to take it and would have to just bolt out of there and run, but I delt with it and got through it. I didn't really talk to the girl much on that day, I just turned around and said "do you want to trade numbers, for the class" and she said ok so I waited a second for her to tell it to me but she then asked for my phone put it in and that was that. I learned to never mix psychedelics and school, a friend of mine was planning on trying it a couple days after I did but I convinced him not to. Incase your wondering about what my teacher thinks of me, I said I was really sick the next day.
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She said she will probably stay this whole week so I think Im going to ask her if she wants to hang out at the park on friday or sunday.
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Have we established if she smokes weed or not? Could be a good angle if you can handle your shit (I can't)
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: smack]
#18859784 - 09/18/13 06:58 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Nope I have no clue, but I do know what she wants to sort of do with her life. I have a feeling she doesn't smoke weed but I could be completely wrong. I have been around lots and lots of people who use drugs and she does not strike me as a drug user one bit. I may not even tell her I use drugs since I need to get the experience of having a relationship with a girl.
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Well its all over now, she came into class today and said something to the professor then left. I walked around for 20 minutes after class then found where she was. I walked around a bit more since there were a couple girls with her, so I waited for them to stand up and move so I could talk to her easier. When they got up and started walking I walked over and asked if shes out of the class for good and she said yes, then I said, just wandering if you want to hang out at _____ park this weekend. She said no I think Im going to be at my boyfriends house, I said ok and walked away. Obviously theres no way to actually know if she has a boyfriend but one thing is for certain, that she is not into me. On the positive side now I have asked 2 girls out and Il probably get the hang of it soon.
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Good for you for taking the initiative though.
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smack
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Just keep going at it man. Keep trying, but don't overthink, as that leads to anxiety.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: smack]
#18865010 - 09/19/13 08:31 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Good on you for manning up, but you gotta cut out the creepiness factor.
When you see her either go talk to her or don't, don't linger around then go. I bet she saw you creeping, which just makes it seem awkward when you finally did approach her.
Its like anything else though, the more exposure and practice you get the more comfortable and good you will be.
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Re: Finally talking to a girl! [Re: elax420]
#18866310 - 09/20/13 06:11 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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No regrets!
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