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Psilosopherr
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maybe it'll just take time. Eventually, hopefully, you'll fully realize that there's no point in dwelling on that stuff forever.
consult a therapist yo
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It's not even dwelling. It's that the thoughts pop up randomly without warning or reason. The thoughts just jar me and make me out of it.
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Spacerific
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You may be doing it wrong in some of the following areas (in no particular order)
- no ayahuasca ceremony lately - no peyote sweat lodge lately - not mushrooming enough, or doing it in a bad context or with shitty people - not enough psy festivals, or festivals in general - not getting laid enough with awesome or at least decent nice girl(s) - not maintaining enough awesome hobbies, pets, outdoors activities - you job (or current studies or whatever) may not align well with your core values & beliefs
My advice would be to get out there get in shape, mentally and physically, hit some self improvement audiobooks and videos to get your mind right, maybe hit some PUA material if you feel your skills suck, then look for some new (or old, but quality) friends. Especially friends that are open to tripping. Then trip more (with friends, not alone), fuck more, go out more, do whatever fills you with energy, be all that you can be. Go to festivals. The rules are different there.
Winter months are coming along, and if you think you're feeling shitty now, just wait until you take the sunshine away, and everything's grey and dull for several months. Don't wait for this shit to hit you, because your head won't simply fix itself, if you just do more of the same. Get out there, make shit happen. Stay away from the Xanax, booze, porn and nigger ... sorry, junk food  MOST of depression and overthinking happens indoors while alone. I bet you're not depressed when you have  in your face, then magically you're fine. Be indoors only when sleeping, playing with naked girls and that's about it. GTFO and be out among the people. DO NOT stay indoors, at your computer, alone and with no purpose in life. Take that food from the fridge and instead of eating it alone again, pack it and take it to the park. To the fucking sidewalk if you need to, anywhere but indoors by your miserable self. Just simply get out and follow the tits  Oh and this.
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Quote:
Anonymous said: Every awkward moment. Every single mistake and dumb decision I've ever made constantly plagues my mind and won't leave me alone. I can't stop thinking about every single dumb little mistake. Every dumb think I've ever said.
I think I've said more than most people have. I've made an ass of myself so many times.
We all make mistakes
What about learning from those mistakes?
Stop doing what makes you unhappy, if something makes you unhappy it's a mistake
Do what you know makes you happy always
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Psilosopherr
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Anonymous said: It's not even dwelling. It's that the thoughts pop up randomly without warning or reason. The thoughts just jar me and make me out of it.
I get it dude.
To me you're really splitting hairs there
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Spacerific
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Oh also, I'm listening to this audiobook called The Now Habit. It's about procrastination as its main stated target, but I've found it to be very very useful for things like self-acceptance, taking it easy on myself, the very kind of trouble you seem to be struggling with.
Perfectionism, self-criticism, feeling like a complete failure when minor interactions go wrong, that's the stuff disease and misery are made of, and unfortunately some of us do this. Disproportionate amounts of negative thoughts, compared to the real consequences of our actions or mistakes.
This book has a fine way of helping you take it easy on yourself and getting back to healthier patterns, so recommended if you're the reading or listening type.
-------------------- Blessed are your eyes because they see, and your ears because they hear.
For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it. - Matthew 13:16
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Re: I'm fucking miserable [Re: Spacerific]
#18793668 - 09/03/13 10:03 AM (10 years, 5 months ago) |
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No doubt, no worries, no frustration, no fear only acceptance and appreciation in the moment :-)
it's true, OP should try it doubt,worries,frustration,fear never does us any good, observe it(observe thoughts), let it pass see how pointless it is... it does you or noone any good, it's not who you are
live in the moment instead, appreciate what you have realize you don't need anything to be happy, happiness is only from being oneself
you can do anything you want, most things that bring happiness are mostly free
notice the miracles of nature everyday, try walking in nature/sitting in nature/having pets/houseplants or running/cycling in nature, gives good mood for the rest of the day but either of those brings happiness
I love my pet birds, can't be without them , I once had my mom keep them for me while I was very sick, missed them everyday for months even though they make a lot of noise :-) , they surprise me everyday, they are like little children and I notice that I am happy when I wake up, when they are
the best way to be happy is to make others happy, or your pets happy
Edited by Anonymous (09/03/13 10:14 AM)
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pcplease
Salame

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Sunshine and excercise (excercising outside is best for me) has been a quicker and easier cure for me than any drug has been (prescribed or illicit).
Even just walking for a half hour once a day (but twice would be better!) helps with everything from my happiness to getting good sleep at night.

P.S.
If you get depressed about nothing (existential depression) at night like I do (& these days its mostly in the past ), having night-time habits helps me a lot too.
I shower about 2 hours before I'm gonna go to bed, then put on The Office or Seinfeld (I like that I don't even have to be watching to overhear something funny) while I surf the web. Having the TV in the background helps keep me distracted and before I know it, its already been ~90 minutes and I'm starting to yawn and rub my eyes.
My private messages are enabled too by the way
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