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trip352
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Ex GF advice?
#18788260 - 09/02/13 04:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So my ex who hasn't talked to me in over a year now messages me in my birth day... I tell her how I miss her and she tells me how depressed and traps she feels cause her current bf lives with her and her mom :/
Dunno what to do...
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352] 1
#18788337 - 09/02/13 05:13 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Ummmm...why the fuck doesn't she just dump his ass and boot him out? Seems pretty easy to me.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: Niffla]
#18788343 - 09/02/13 05:18 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Another option: If you miss her(=want her back), then you go kick that fuckers ass to the curb, maybe you'll get her back
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: rulesq]
#18788347 - 09/02/13 05:21 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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rulesq said:
Another option: If you miss her(=want her back), then you go kick that fuckers ass to the curb, maybe you'll get her back 
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: Niffla]
#18788348 - 09/02/13 05:22 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dr Phil approves huh? 
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: rulesq]
#18788351 - 09/02/13 05:24 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Lol
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: Niffla] 3
#18788373 - 09/02/13 05:38 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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nah shes a ex you'l remember why you didn't get along things dont change.. she pushes people away and thats what shes doing with this boyfriend
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352] 3
#18788546 - 09/02/13 07:10 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Seems like a lot of women do this, they won't end their current relationship unless they have something else lined up. Kinda sneaky if you ask me.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18788636 - 09/02/13 07:57 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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You should have sex with her. That's mostly what exes are good for.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: psi] 3
#18788647 - 09/02/13 08:01 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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It's a faulty logic that stems from a need for security and feeling that they require a significant other to be happy. Perhaps because we (societal pressures) condition them to only ever seek the external for completion, rather than facing themselves and their own problems. Ofc this does not fit every female's profile.
My last girlfriend did that for years before becoming so depressed she did something about it.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: ClockCode] 2
#18788675 - 09/02/13 08:17 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah I don't mean to generalize too much, obviously a lot of women don't think that way and there are probably also some men who do. It does seem to stem from insecurity for sure.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: psi]
#18788704 - 09/02/13 08:34 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I say let her go OP. why is she so put off with her bf living with her? If he's a mooch or clingy I get it, but sounds like she just doesn't know what she wants and those types of women are to be avoided.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18788921 - 09/02/13 09:51 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Quote:
trip352 said: So my ex who hasn't talked to me in over a year now
lol
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: Uzziel]
#18788929 - 09/02/13 09:53 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Ask her to come n smoke with you.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18788960 - 09/02/13 10:03 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Don't do it, sounds like a silly game to me, you broke up for a reason right?
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: Haxx]
#18788983 - 09/02/13 10:09 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Leavening now will save alot of head aches, but I understand how hard it is.
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trip352
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Good call SARA I didn't even now that forum existed... I thought I'd get flamed a lot harder here in the boards
And yeah we'll I was moving away is why we split... And the new BF is abusive emotionally if not physically... Both my girl and her mom are afraid of him I think...
(He lives with them cause he punched his own grandfather in the face....has no where else to go)
I could beat the shit out of him but I don't wana go to jail... I'm already on bond for some other shit
How do I arrange a circumstance where some self defense can be used :p
Edited by trip352 (09/02/13 11:39 AM)
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352] 1
#18789344 - 09/02/13 11:41 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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if he is that short tempered just show your face more often and he will come after you.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: rackem]
#18789417 - 09/02/13 12:04 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I loved my ex so much but all she did was use me and lie to me
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18789423 - 09/02/13 12:06 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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I dont know why u two broke up, but you state she 'hasnt messaged you in a year' leads me to believe she ended it, and who knows on what terms.
leave that shit in the past where it belongs. there are lots of fuckable options out there that dont include what sounds like a trunk full of baggage. Personally, id rather fuck my hand than get involved with ANY of my exes.
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trip352 said:
I could beat the shit out of him but I don't wana go to jail... I'm already on bond for some other shit
How do I arrange a circumstance where some self defense can be used :p
dont even try and reason with this logic. wipe your hands clean of the situation she put herself into. go find a nice new girl with no baggage, and no history.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18789429 - 09/02/13 12:07 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Dry smash
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trip352
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: rackem]
#18789483 - 09/02/13 12:15 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Yeah apparently I still get brought up some... I asked, and yeah every time my name is even mentioned by anyone he flips shit
Just dunno how to show my face...
It was a kinda mutual thing to split up... I spent the next 6 months homeless working 2/3 jobs and going to school... Pride is a terrible thing lol
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18789506 - 09/02/13 12:20 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Every girl I have ever dated has cheated on me. Every.
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ShiVersblood said: I loved my ex so much but all she did was use me and lie to me
Yeah man, it's sooo hard when you're madly in love with your girl, but she is mistreating you. I had to leave my last girlfriend because she was too wrapped up in herself. I was giving her my heart, and she wasn't reciprocating in any form or fashion.
To the OP; Don't fuck with your ex. If she leaves her boyfriend, then go ahead and fuck her; but don't fall back into a relationship with her. Like everyone else has said: You guys broke up for a reason. Remind yourself of those reasons.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18789638 - 09/02/13 12:32 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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trip352 said: Both my girl and her mom are afraid of him I think...
If the mom wants him gone and her name is on the lease or whatever, she should be able to just call the cops and get him out I would think. No need for you to risk jail or injury when the police are paid to handle this stuff.
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rackem



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shivers, change your ways a little bit..
take your ex to lunch man.. if you really want him to flip shit.. just lunch man.
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: rackem]
#18789687 - 09/02/13 12:40 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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Are you calling me gay? Wtf? I'm straight.
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Quote:
ShiVersblood said: Are you calling me gay? Wtf? I'm straight.
dont fight it
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psi
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Quote:
ShiVersblood said: Are you calling me gay? Wtf? I'm straight.
How did you get "You're gay" from "change your ways a little bit?"
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ShiVersblood
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I rated him for that. Sexual discrimination .
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rackem



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dont know how you got gay out of just changing your ways man..
but maybe being a little bit more self confident will get the chicks to stop sleeping around on ya.
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ShiVersblood said: Are you calling me gay? Wtf? I'm straight.
If you just let things happen to you and continue to play the victim then people will continue to use them. Have a spine and don't take shit from anybody, women included. If you realize that your happiness isn't dependent on some dumb bitch then you won't even care if they fuck around, just dump her.
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trip352
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^^^^ true shit...
It's why assholes get good girls.... They commonly have such attributes...
In theory...
But yea apparently she's not allowed out of the house with out him makes lunch hard... Other ideas? Think out the box here
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Re: Ex GF advice? [Re: trip352]
#18793007 - 09/03/13 02:32 AM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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trip352 said: Good call SARA I didn't even now that forum existed... I thought I'd get flamed a lot harder here in the boards
And yeah we'll I was moving away is why we split... And the new BF is abusive emotionally if not physically... Both my girl and her mom are afraid of him I think...
(He lives with them cause he punched his own grandfather in the face....has no where else to go)
I could beat the shit out of him but I don't wana go to jail... I'm already on bond for some other shit
How do I arrange a circumstance where some self defense can be used :p
Provoke him without being explicitly threatening and be willing to take a punch. Then you can hit him back. It also helps if you have a witness.
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nicechrisman said: You should have sex with her. That's mostly what exes are good for.
^^ This. It's one of the reasons i always make break ups not unpleasant. (The other next best benefit, is if you remain on good terms, her friends remain open to sexual activity from you as well.)
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