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GF is... different
#18781392 - 08/31/13 01:36 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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So I was dating this girl, shes real chill, meeting her really made me happy, and being in a relationship put me on top of the world, which was really nice because I was depressed beforehand. We are both in high school and the last day of school we were in love [its high school I realize]. So whatever summer comes round and I didn't see her once because she went to Denmark for family vacation for a month and then July and August I didn't see her at all because her parents are Afghan and don't like me. She talked on the phone with me all the time though and we were getting ready for the next level.
So school starts and we are really excited to finally see each other but for some reason things just weren't right. It felt different... its only been a week but she isn't talking to me as much as she was, she doesn't really want to make out, she doesn't even give the same hug. You can tell the difference; I can at least between a friendly "I'm hugging you because I'm supposed to" and a "I'm hugging you because I love you."
What is the correct course of action, I want to save this because she is my first gf, I do love and care about her (I think maybe she was feeling infatuation... shes a sophomore I'm a senior), I don't want to be all depressed again as I already feel that feeling starting to gnaw at me, and of course I want to get laid 
The best analogy I have is driving stick. We started up again and the ride is really jerky. Do I open up the throttle and try to get it going or do I put in the clutch and try to start from an earlier point? Or should I just let the shit stall and see if she wants to start it up again when she realizes I am disinterested. I heard that shit works with women
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automan
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Registered: 09/18/03
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Just ask her straight up.
"Do you still want to date me?"
Then shut the fuck up for a while and let her answer. Most people can't handle silence. If you be quiet until she asks you a question, she will give an awkward answer, then silence, just keep looking at her, she won't be able to take the silence and will tell you all her true feelings. Then you have to decide on what you want to do based on her answer.
-------------------- No, no, you're not thinking, you're just being logical. ~ Niels Bohr
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qman
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Re: GF is... different [Re: automan]
#18781631 - 08/31/13 03:02 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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A 18 year old can't fuck a 14 year old, it's a serious crime.
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Anonymous #1
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Re: GF is... different [Re: qman]
#18781756 - 08/31/13 03:42 PM (10 years, 4 months ago) |
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we have a 3 year and 1 month difference, which is perfectly legal in Pennsylvania 
in all seriousness though its really tearing me up right now... I finally found someone who I can be myself around and my social anxiety disappears and for some reason the feeling is... off 
I'm going to do what the first poster said I think
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Lynnch
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Registered: 04/29/09
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It sounds like you two just grew apart, which isn't surprising considering that you're in highschool. It's pretty hard to 'be in love' when you've only been dating a few months, and for half that time you didn't even see each other.
Ya think maybe you were infatuated? Did you really think the first gf you ever had was going to be the perfect one and last forever?
I think automan is right, just ask her what's up. But whatever the answer, you should be focusing on school, and trying to get into an awesome college that you'll ditch this girl for without a second thought. There are a million other girls out there that would totally love to meet you; don't get stuck on one that isn't interested anymore just because she's your first.
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